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Scenes on Sunday ~ Sara

a real man should build his own sports car

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

there’s always a woman involved somewhere

Songs on Saturday ~ Harry Chapin

you’ve never seen dark until you’ve seen dark in a coal mine

I come from a blue-collar, coal-mining, working-class background.  My father worked down the pit.  When I was old enough I got just as far away from that as I possibly could, and I never wanted to go back there.  Hence, apart from this song I never wanted to go to Scranton Pennsylvania, the centre of what was an anthracite mining area.  I think this is funny.

Scranton is on my bucket list ~ now that all the coal mines are closed.  I suppose it doesn’t stink of mashed bananas any more.

Please listen with a GSOH.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

quite the old truck wreck

Admitting to Being Wrong

failure consists of redoubling your efforts when you have completely forgotten your goal

The most pernicious word in modern English is denier  ~  as in climate change denier, coronavirus denier, BAME denier, God denier, and worst of all Holocaust denier.  I know all about denial, having lied to myself for years about being socially inadequate and denied having a drinking problem.  But I could never have accused anyone of being an alcoholism denier.  That does just not make sense.  Calling someone else a denier is merely to show up the fact that you yourself are closed-minded, have no logical basis for whatever opinions you have, and are totally unwilling to listen to arguments that run counter to your own dogma.

Basically, you are not prepared to ever admit that there is the slightest possibility that you could ever be wrong.  In that case, who the fuck do you think you are?  God?

Everybody human is wrong some of the time.  Sometimes we are mistaken, sometimes we are ill-informed or misinformed, sometimes our own inner programming is flawed, and sometimes we believe in something just because we want to.  Notice that I said believe in and not believe.  Those who use the word denier believe in things rather than believe the arguments and proofs that support a given position.  They will never, ever admit that they are wrong.

Surely it’s time for climate-change deniers to have their opinions forcibly tattooed on their bodies.  ~  Richard Glover

I learned that really listening to other people was an essential part of being a better man ~ sometimes other people’s opinions and beliefs are better than my own.  I learned that there is probably no such thing as absolute truth.  I learned that when I was wrong, promptly admitting it was essential for my mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

There is no better test of a man’s integrity than his behavior when he is wrong.  ~  Marvin Williams

There is a principle in 12 step recovery programmes; ‘Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it…..’  Really that does not go far enough, perhaps it should go on to say;  ‘…..and changed our behaviour accordingly…..’

No person who ever calls another man a denier will ever admit that it is they who are wrong.

Some say that to deny that total lockdown is the only way to deal with the coronavirus is to risk the disease running rampant, causing megadeaths.  And that any opinion other than their own is emphatically false.  All I know is that I have been wrong in the past, and no doubt I will be wrong again in the future.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

so busy fighting off the alligators you’ve forgotten you are supposed to be draining the swamp

Random Jottings ~ Vampyres

loving a vampire usually ends quite badly

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never kiss a vampire in the pale moonlight

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when vampires go flying and bats are seen

the moon laughs and whispers

’tis near Halloween

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she told me it was love at first bite

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vampires embrace the moonlight shadows

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‘I have a bloodthirsty mind, and you’re on it Darling’

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loving a vampire ~ a short life full of draining incidents

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every good vampyre deserves a chance to bite a virgin’s neck

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she’s the only vampire I know who takes her phone into her coffin

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

oral sex with a vampire is interesting

Being Popular

being known by a lot of people is not the same as being liked

very well known, and very unpopular with some

Little did I think that eventually this blog would have had 200,000 hits.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think that’s a lot for a blog written by a bloke.  Especially considering the eclectic mix of stuff I write about, and how controversial / opinionated / difficult the topics I choose can be.  It would appear that I can be prone to lecture at times.

Looking around at WordPress it seems to me that blogs written by women attract a far wider readership than my efforts, and that they receive far more comments than my posts do.  It could be that’s just my perception, but I don’t think so.  And, I can think of several good reasons why both women and men comment more on a blog written by a female than they would on a blog written by someone who is an obvious guy.

But, just because this blog has now had 200,000 hits doesn’t necessarily mean that either it or I am popular.  Maybe it only means that I’ve been around a long time.  The oldest post still on here is dated 17 November 2013 ~ since then there have been another 1,924 posts that still exist, and 10,311 comments.  (Along the way a fair amount of crap posts have been trashed.)  So I may neither be popular, nor well-liked ~ just old.

I could court popularity, or write a blog specifically designed to attract the greatest number of followers, the highest number of hits, the most likes, and a constant stream of comments ~ but I’d have to decide why the fuck I was doing that.  Getting lots of attention would flatter my ego, but not necessarily in a good way.  To me, courting popularity is one short step away from promiscuity, and I have very mixed feelings about that.  I’d far rather be true to myself, think and believe what feels right and proper, write what I want to write, say what I need to say honourably, honestly, and openly.

Anyway, sorry if I disabuse you, but mostly I write this blog for myself.

In real life, in the past, I have courted popularity, because back then my self-esteem was lower than a snake’s belly.  I firmly believed I needed the positive affirmation of others to feel worth anything.  How sad was that?

Some say that popular people are better people.  And that if you’re not popular then you’re nobody.  All I know is that popularity is not the same as quality.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Marmaduke is very popular

he’s a very cool bear

 

The Snake In My Head

you cannot fix something if you don’t know it’s broken

Each and every one of us is programmed ~ what we think, what we believe, how we behave, what we like and what we dislike are automatic responses, programmed reactions and actions buried deep in our subconscious.  Our conscious minds only govern what we do about 10% of the time, and most of the time what our conscious minds do, think, and feel is based on all that stuff way down in our unconsciousness.  So, if you are scared of snakes, it isn’t a conscious thing, it’s actually a primeval race-memory so far down in your subconscious you don’t even know it’s there until the first time you come across a serpent.

If you have problems in your life, if you can’t handle certain situations, if you keep lurching from one disastrous relationship to another, then you are not consciously doing that on purpose.  A string of dysfunctional relationships in your past, and the likelihood that you will repeat the same mistakes over and over again in the future, means that there is something dysfunctional with the tapes in your unconscious mind.

The scary thing is that all that programming, all of your beliefs, behaviors, and opinions were put there before you were seven years old.  The adults in your life; your parents, your wider family, older siblings, teachers impressed their thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, habits, and prejudices upon your unformed mind while you were still a child.  And there was nothing whatsoever you could do about it.  Ergo, if you are a borderline alcoholic, drug addict, a heavy smoker, or obese ~ it’s not all your own fault.  If you’re promiscuous, dishonest, and continually finding yourself in toxic relationships, then that’s not completely your fault either.  It’s because you were taught all those things when you didn’t know any better.

Before I was five years old I was taught that women are lying bitches, and that men who have anything to do with women are bad.  I was taught that sex is nasty, dirty, and wrong.  I was taught that love is meaningless, that interpersonal relationships are always toxic, and that sex outside of marriage is a sin that will send me to hell.  I know who did that to me.

It took me right up until a few days ago to realise this, to truly know what was broken in me.  Right up until a few days ago my life was dysfunctional, I was unable to have a stable relationship, I couldn’t ever be truly open, honest, trusting, or loving.  My life was toxic.  I drank to much to escape the way I always acted and reacted.

If that is anything like you, then look deep within to find out what is broken in you.  Then, when you know what’s broken you might have some chance of fixing it.  Be like me and kill the snake in your mind.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

it wasn’t all her own fault that Red Riding Hood liked wolves just a little too much

COVID-19 Conspiracy

just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you

this man is not running the country

After an initial period of believing everything the government said about the alleged coronavirus pandemic I became suspicious because nothing seemed to really make sense.  The numbers just didn’t add up ~ and the official story just goes on being a classic model for black propaganda.  In historical terms this virus is not that serious ~ if you don’t believe me the just look up the Spanish Flu epidemic.

Life went on as normal during the Spanish Flu ~ something the government is determined will not happen during the months and years that COVID-19 can be used as an excuse to grab draconian powers over the general population.  But why?

The answer is in the people concerned and became obvious when, out of the blue, Boris Johnson announced that wind farms could power every home by 2030.  So why the sudden ambition to make the UK the world leader in green energy?  And, why his sudden pledge at the UN biodiversity summit to protect 30% of UK land for nature as a ‘boost for biodiversity?

The main suspects are;

  • Professor Neil Ferguson, the government scientist who’s deeply flawed computer model predicted megadeaths if the UK and the USA didn’t go into immediate lockdown.  The philandering adulterer has a lot of previous when it comes to destroying society due to his erroneous predictions on the spread of infectious diseases.
  • Antonia Staats is Neil Ferguson’s adulteress mistress and a rabid green campaigner on such issues as catastrophic anthropogenic climate change.
  • Boris Johnson, the UK Prime Minister has no previous when it comes to climate change, (previous record in speeches), in fact his previous statements on the subject are all over the place.  Historically the position of the Conservative Party on man-made global warming is that it’s a load of bull crap.  So why the sudden change?
  • Carrie Symonds, is Boris Johnson’s girlfriend.  She is a staunch campaigner on green issues, most specifically for Oceana, a non-profit group focused on influencing governments’ policy decisions aimed at preserving and restoring the world’s oceans.  Oceana specifically promotes offshore wind farms, exactly as Boris Johnson has just committed the UK to make massive investment in.
  • Matt Hancock, is the Secretary of State for Health and Social Care.  He knows bugger all about health and social care, having read Philosophy, Politics, and Economics at Oxford.  From 2014 to 2015 Hancock was a Minister of State for Energy, supporting the Secretary of State for Energy and Climate Change on such issues as carbon capture and renewable energy deployment.  He is very much in favour of green energy and reducing the UK’s carbon footprint.
  • Zac Goldsmith, Minister of State for Pacific and the Environment, and his connections pull all of the above together.  He previously worked for The Ecologist magazine.  Amazingly, (not), he is a huge fan of green energy.  Zac is the son of billionaire Sir James GoldsmithThe Goldsmith Foundation focuses on such issues as climate change and the rainforests.

The more we stay at home the lower England’s carbon footprint will become.  Is this just a coincidence?  BTW, there is no such thing as a coincidence.

Some say that we should all stay at home to Protect the NHS and reduce the spread of COVID-19.  And that we should avoid all but essential international travel.  All I know is that the government’s regulations have little to do with the coronavirus, and a hell of a lot to do with the extreme green agenda.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the real reason behind coronavirus lockdowns

Random Jottings ~ Desire

always desire to learn how to love

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if you desire a dragon, remember things could get heated

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some say that desiring a dragon isn’t quite normal

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he said it was her faults that made him desire her

he was lying of course

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all that real men desire, real men will attain

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when men achieve their dreams and desires

they can still be dissatisfied

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when most men say; ‘I love you…..’

they really mean; ‘I desire you…..’

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when most men say; ‘I desire you…..’

they really mean; ‘I want to fuck you…..’

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never give up on your desires

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

he desired a virgin princess

what he got was an angry dragon

Better Sleep

true happiness means getting enough good sleep

insomnia is subtle torture

Sleeping well is vitally important to our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.  Conversely, insomnia is stressful and will eventually make you ill.

Scientific surveys tell us that most people require between 6 and 8 hours of good sleep every night.

You can’t store sleep up in advance, but you can make up for lost sleep afterwards.

For good sleep you should go to bed at the same time every evening, and get up at the same time every morning.

Sleep medication only works for a little while.  One should never take sleep aids for longer than a couple of weeks.

Smokers will never get a settled night’s sleep until months after they quit.

Booze may send you to sleep, but thereafter it ruins your night’s rest.  Drinkers will never get a settled night’s sleep until they have had a little sobriety.

Drinkers will tend to have vivid and sometimes disturbing dreams.

Caffine in coffee or tea has very little effect on sleep.

Eating late at night will prevent you from getting a good night’s sleep.  Don’t eat within two hours of going to bed.

The blue light from your phone or tablet will stop you from falling into deep REM sleep, the kind of sleep we all need.

Watching TV in your bedroom late into the night will prevent you from getting a good night’s sleep.

A lack of real daylight during waking hours will prevent you from getting a good night’s sleep.

Plenty of fresh air and exercise during the day promotes good sleep.

Bedrooms should be cool, dark, and quiet.

Your subconscious mind should associate your bedroom with only two things; sleep and sex.

Some say they can get by on 2 or 3 hours sleep a night.  And that the only time they have problems is when they are trying to sleep.  All I know is that early to bed and early to rise make one healthy, wealthy, and wise.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

don’t spend too long gazing at the moon

that’s for lunatics

Knowing Me

a man’s main task in life is to know who he is
and then to know who he can become

For most of our lives we were who other people told us to be.  ‘Be a good boy…..’ my parents told me.  ‘You will have to work harder than this…..’  my teachers said.  ‘You need to put in more hours…..’ my bosses ordered.  ‘You should dress differently….. my ‘friends’ advised.   And unconsciously I made the choices to do what I was told.  Eventually, some of us were unlucky enough to make the unconscious choice to go along with whatever we thought our girl / significant other / partner wanted.  In becoming what other people wanted us to be we stopped making our own decisions, our whole reality became skewed, and we lost ourselves.

In my life I’ve made a lot of bad choices because I didn’t know who was, didn’t know what I wanted, and didn’t know who and what I wanted to become.  The good choices I made were all logical, dispassionate, intellectual ~ if I could weigh it, measure it, or count it, then it would work for me.  The bad choices were all emotional, based on desires, gratification, wants, and lusts.  All of those choices turned to dross.

A while ago I made the conscious decision to be myself, and that meant throwing away a lot of crap, in fact it meant throwing away almost everything of who and what I used to be.  That’s OK because it’s easier to build something from the beginning than it is to modify something to try and make it work.

Dare to be what your best self knows you ought to be; dare to be a bigger human being than you have ever been.  ~  Norman Vincent Peale

Some say that when people change promises are broken.  And, that if you insist on going your own way, then you will go alone.  All  I know is that I will be myself, no matter what.  I will decide for myself just who I am and who and what I want to become.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

this was part of who I truly was and am, and other people didn’t like it

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