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Lockdown Day 300

the end of civilisation as we know it?

Here in England it’s the 300th day of lockdown, quarantine, and self-isolation.  The economy has tanked, officially there are 1.9 million unemployed, and about 5.5 million are on unproductive furlough.  About half the UK workforce, some 14 million people, are ‘working from home’.  You can’t get a non-coronavirus doctor’s appointment for love nor money, some 4.6 million people are waiting for ‘non-emergency’ surgical procedures, 600,000 cervical smears have been cancelled, and our National Health Service is said to be close to meltdown.

I have no faith in any of these numbers, just as I have no faith in the ability of the British Government to act sensibly in the face of the ‘COVID-19 pandemic’.

If you’re interested, I’ve been feeling like crap for weeks.

Mind how you go.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk,net

immunisation, the great hope for freedom?

Songs on Saturday ~ Umbrella

prayer is asking for rain, and faith is carrying an umbrella

Many thanks to Paula Light for the inspiration for this post.  https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/74951/posts/3126787418

Some say that am English Gentleman should always carry a tightly rolled umbrella.

And that sharing an umbrella with the one you love makes the sun shine on the rainiest of days.

All I know is that umbrellas are a damn nuisance on a crowded London street.

Please don’t do the hand jive to this cool song.

BTW I’m too sick to dance to this.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a market’s sunshades on Crete

Unrealistic Expectations

toxic and malignant relationships are dangerous

doesn’t happen as often as some might desire

Why do so many good people find themselves in a toxic relationship?  Is it because we expect people to live up to our own standards?  If that’s true then a lot of us are going to be very disappointed a lot of the time.  It’s worse than that, some women put themselves in danger by dating / having a relationship with / marrying abusive men.  What some women never seem to learn is that men don’t change, what he’s like when you first meet him is what he is always going to be like.

The warning signs that people are not who they say they are include;

  • being unreliable, frequently turning up late or not showing up at all
  • being evasive about themselves, what they do, where they live, what kind of family they have
  • being evasive about their past
  • lying, and especially lying by omission
  • never being the first to pick up the check in a restaurant or bar
  • having a regular bar where they know all the other patrons, talking to everyone in a bar except you
  • drinking too much, turning up stoned, being far too interested in sports
  • being broke, owing money, trying to borrow money from you
  • liking much older / younger friends and potential / actual sexual partners
  • being too rough when you have sex, being too interested in porn, being more than just a little kinky, wanting to share you with someone else

The thing is, even if your date / partner / spouse is displaying some or all of these warning signs many men and women close their eyes to these negatives and only see their paramour through rose tinted spectacles.  Or worse, some people are very aware of their date’s faults but go on seeing them anyway, with the unrealistic expectation that they will change, if only they are given a chance.  Remember that a leopard never changes its spots.

If your gut is telling you that your date’s affection and protestations of love are false, then 99.9% of the time your gut is right, and you are being used and manipulated,  Some toxic people will only pretend to love you as much as they can use you,  and their fake love will end when the benefits stop.

The biggest signs that you have totally unrealistic expectations of your date / partner / spouse are that they stop being interested in sex with you, and instead get interested in sex with everyone and anyone else.  If someone cheats on you then they don’t give a shit about you.

Some say that inside every bad person there is a good person trying to get out.  And that if we just give someone a chance they will change for the better.  All I know is that all of our expectations of another person are most likely unrealistic.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

if your partner becomes amorous at parties, then it’s time for you to walk away

Sex, Money, and Power

if you don’t feed your dog
don’t be surprised if he’s scrabbling through the trash

younger man with an older women

Forget Maslow’s hierarchy of needs because in this day and age shelter, warmth, water, and food are available to every person living in a western civilisation.  What most men want most, what drives almost every man, is the desire for sex, money, and power.  Love is something else, and anyone actually searching for love probably has unrealistic expectations of life.

For the average man, the triumvirate of sex, money, and power almost always begins with money.  Not that many women want to date / have a fling with / sleep with an average guy who is also flat broke.  And, if you’re flat broke it might also mean that you don’t dress well, can’t really afford to hang out in upscale bars, and your car is a junker.  Not many women want to have sex in a wreck of a car.  So the average guy is caught in a Catch-22 situation, what he really wants to do is hang out in bars and find an inebriated woman to have casual sex with, but before he can do that he needs some significant folding stuff.  More than that, power flows from money like water flows downstream, and many women find power an aphrodisiac.

There are but a few ways to get money.  One could try gambling, but all gamblers end up dead broke.  Stealing it in one way or another is very dangerous ~ all thieves come to a bad end, eventually.  More unlikely ways of acquiring a bank-roll are inheriting it, marrying it, becoming a drug dealer, and winning the lottery.  Do not hold your breath.  The most reliable way to get cash is to work for it ~ that means being very successful in your chosen career, and that means working hard, putting in the hours, and that will keep you out of the bars where you hope to meet an easy lay.   The upside to being very successful in your chosen career is that you will also become powerful.

Sex, Money, and Power form a stable equilateral triangle.  The average man can’t get a lot of one without also acquiring an abundance of the other two.  Or, for the extremely unethical bastard, you could find a plain older woman who happens to have money, marry her, and then entertain yourself by cheating on her, gaslighting her, and stealing from her.

Personally, I happen to know a very cool American woman I can’t meet because of a raft of insurmountable obstacles.  But that’s Life for you, and 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.

Of course, 90% of the above also applies to women, (maybe 90%, I’m not a woman so I can’t be certain).

Some say that commitment to just one person is am unachievable dream.  And that  relationships shouldn’t have rules.  All I know is that some people are utterly honest, open, and ethical ~ but most aren’t

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

a woman sitting at the bar

and drinking alone

is only there for one reason

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Hollywood Nights

nobody is perfect, but driving a Mustang is a start

Not everyone likes the Ford Mustang, and to be honest most of them drive like a barge.  But, when I get to California I like to rent a Mustang convertible, just for the look of it.  Believe it or not I actually like Bob Seger and the Silver Bullet Band.

And believe it or not I’ve never been to Hollywood.

Maybe my next trip, if I can find a cool girl to ride shotgun.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the last Mustang I drove

Monochrome Monday ~ Movie Stars

how many coffins have you got?

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

one day Hilts will make it over the wire into Switzerland

 

Scenes on Sunday ~ Mustang

great things never come out of comfort zones

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

long straight roads out there

Good, Bad, or Indifferent?

being consistently bad is hard work

Boris and Carrie Symonds ~ evil or just bad?

There’s an urban myth that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile.  Turns out it only needs 11 muscles to frown and 12 are used when we smile.  Who knew?  What I do know is that it’s hard work to be a really and truly jealous, judgmental, resentful, unhappy, and angry liar.  It is actually much easier to be accepting, understanding, honest, and open.  My empirical evidence for this is that I am suffering from some horrible unnamed illness that has me weary, exhausted, and brain-fogged.  Being so tired means that I just do not have the energy for being jealous, judgmental, resentful, unhappy, and angry.  Instead of being a negative jerk I’m feeling, thinking, and acting with honest positivity.  And that’s nice for me and everyone I come into contact with.

My prayer for today is to ask for help being a good, kind, honourable, accepting and understanding English Gentleman.

Being a bad guy is much harder work than you would think.

Being barred from Twitter for life helps a lot.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Marmaduke never uses Twitter

and he is always a good bear

Two Thousand Miles from Christmas

’tis the season of peace on Earth and goodwill to all men
not any more it isn’t

Do you remember Christmases past?  The happy anticipation of family visits.  The simple pleasure of meeting a few friends in your favourite pub.  You can forget all that.  Anyone who has any fun this year is going against official government guidelines.

Still, this isn’t a negative song at all.

If you take the lyrics in a Christmas Spirit.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

nobody is going anywhere this Christmas

Random Jottings ~ Covid Christmas

in England it’s always winter now, but never Christmas

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Christmas is a special day of meaning and traditions

spent in the warm circle of family and friends

unless you’re a Londoner in lockdown

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and, one by one, all our freedoms were taken away

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whatever draconian laws governments pass

the virus will always have the last word

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The singing of Christmas carols is verboten

and all the churches are closed

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have yourself a merry little Christmas

and I do mean little

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silent nights have come to stay

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

and on Christmas Eve, the clock struck thirteen

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