Burgled
Lying, cheating, and stealing are next door neighbours.
Sometime earlier this week someone got into the garret and stole some of my stuff.
There was no damage to my door, so at first I thought I’d just lost my wallet and cash. That prompted me to spend a whole day searching for wallet / cash…..
But, I’d been robbed of my wallet with a couple of credit cards, my drivers licence, some other identity cards, and about £100 in cash. I also lost my cell phone, a couple of hundred US Dollars, about 5,000 Turkish Lire, a watch, and some other bits and pieces
I’ve spent all morning on the ‘phone sorting out my banks and reporting the theft to the police.
Even then I’m not finished restoring my life ~ for example I need a new cell phone.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
I feel sorry for Marmaduke, who was alone in the garret at the time of the robbery
Planter
The glory of gardening is having your hands in the dirt and your head in the sun.
I built a planter for my friend in California.
I hope that it gives her many years of pleasure.
jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
there’s a handful of dirt from Red Rock country in there
I hope it gives her many years of pleasure
Cool Put Downs
Lifting the blinders is always dangerous.
There is a history among men and women of the short put-down, to be said when the bad guy bites the metaphorical dust ~ or when the good guy dumps the bitch.
There is a long, long collection of these, from; beware the ides of march to; look into the eyes of the dragon and despair. I like;
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
and if you’re dumping a particular kind of an older woman,
there’s always; cooo cooo ca choo
The Reality of Belief
The great task in life is to find reality.
We make most mistakes, we suffer the most, and we do the most harm when our thoughts and beliefs differ from reality. It’s when we create stories and assumptions in our own mind which are untrue that we begin on a journey of falsehoods. And, those falsehoods lead to; alcohol abuse, drugs, eating disorders, gambling, heavy smoking, self-harm, casual sex ~ just to find temporary comfort and the illusion that our falsehoods are true. When our beliefs are untrue we can suffer from anxiety and depression, together with a host of other serious mental illnesses such as; Schizophrenia, Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. The stress of having beliefs which differ from reality causes a raft of physical illnesses, including cardiovascular problems, cancers, diabetes, dementia, and early death.
Yet, there is no such thing as reality.
Reality is an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~ Albert Einstein
It seems that in quantum physics and interpersonal relationships there is no such thing as cause and effect ~ no straight line between the past, through the present, and into the future. Even in very close relationships there are often merely shared perceptions of the world ~ and two people may both share perceptions, thoughts, and beliefs which are untrue. If alcohol, drugs, or mental illness is added into the mix then we get dangerous situations such as physical, verbal, mental abuse and co-dependency.
If your life is going down the shitter, if you are prey to addictions, if you suffer from a mental illness ~ then the chances are that your thoughts and beliefs have seriously differed from reality.
Einstein and other serious thinkers may tell us that reality is merely an illusion, BUT on a day to day basis we have to live in whatever reality surrounds us. That means seeing and accepting reality as it is, and not as we wish it to be. Reality is neutral and impersonal. Reality has no expectations and no beliefs. Reality is the true state of things. There is only one past, present, and future reality ~ it is our own perceptions and beliefs which create an infinity of different versions of the past, the present, and the possible futures.
To find true reality is both very easy and very difficult;
- be totally honest with yourself and others ~ reality is truth
- never take things personally ~ reality is impersonal
- do not make assumptions nor create expectations
Some say that reality is an illusion. And that we are all just simulations living in a matrix. All I know is that when my beliefs differed from reality I got myself into some serious trouble.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
to discover your ultimate reality requires a lot of deep thought
Do Your Best
The Ocean lifts the heart, stirs the imagination, and inspires the soul.
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be the better man
don’t judge, be cool
be kind, don’t be cruel
don’t assume, it’s a rule
be calm, don’t act the fool
cold jealous anger’s a bad tool
and the better man does it all well
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
I must go down to the sea again
to the lonely sea and the sky
Tunes on Tuesday ~ The Question
I’m not looking for an answer, I’m looking for a miracle.
Since I wrote a post; Questions and Answers this morning, this tune has been running through my head.
It’s the Moody Blues.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
this picture is about as Moody and Blue as I could find in my library
Questions and Answers
If you don’t want the answer, then don’t ask the question.
you will never find the answer at the bottom of a glass
There are always more questions than answers, and each new answer raises more, and more difficult questions. Sometimes we don’t want to hear the answer that we get. Sometimes we shouldn’t have asked the question in the first place. And, sometimes the answer we get isn’t the truth.
Life is as simple as these three questions: What do I want? Why do I want it? And, how will I achieve it. ~ Shannon L. Adler
All of those simple questions are very difficult to answer, because either we don’t really know what we want, or if we actually get what we think we wanted, then we realise that we didn’t truly want it at all. More often than not this is the great truth of Love.
The two great questions of love are in the simple phrase; ‘She loves me ~ She loves me not…..’ As if plucking petals from a daisy could possibly answer the question of if she loves you or not. One may as well resolve one’s doubts by tossing a coin and saying; ‘heads I dump her, tails I stay with her.’ Actually, tossing a coin and asking that question does work ~ because while the coin is in the air we will decide which way we truly want the coin to fall.
Being something of a mechanic when it comes to games of chance, that tossing of a coin to get an answer doesn’t truly work for me. I can make a coin fall whichever way I like. I cheat, which isn’t truly getting an answer. My doubts about interpersonal relationships, sex, desire, and love can never be resolved by random chance.
All people have doubts, mostly everyone has the same doubts, and more often than not these doubts are troubling. Often these doubts are created in our own minds because we make assumptions based on incomplete evidence, and we take these assumptions very personally. If we stubbornly wish to be unhappy we look for evidence to prove our worst assumptions, and if we can’t find the evidence and answers to back up our assumptions, then we just create negative answers in our own mind.
My own personal doubts are created because I have an almost perfect memory, so anything anyone says to me stays in my mind, and I can build cloud castles of negative answers based on a single phrase said in passing.
Some say that if we don’t want to know the answer then we shouldn’t ask the question. And that every answer creates more, and more difficult questions. All I know is that we only ask questions when we think we already know the answers.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
booze is never the answer
but it will make you forget the question
Monochrome Monday ~ Guys
It astounds me that women like soft pornography ~ M. Scott Peck
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
there is nothing like a cute ass
to encourage casual sex
Why Does Love Make Us Stupid?
Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength. ~ Freud
Love’s Long Lonely Road to Nowhere
We are never so vulnerable as when we believe that we are in love. We never suffer so much torment and pain as when we believe that we love someone. We are never as confused and uncertain as when our love seems to be unrequited. And, for many of us, we never do so much stupid and irrational stuff as when we are in love ~ or when we believe that we are in love, (which isn’t quite the same thing as true love at all).
Sigmund Freud built a whole series of complex psychoanalitical theories around the whole gamut of interpersonal relationships, from the Oedipus and Electra complexes to the idea of us all having an Id, Ego, and Superego. If you wish you could try to make sense of your feelings by reading lots of Freud and his modern counterparts such as M. Scott Peck, but I wouldn’t bother. The more you know the less sense it’s going to make.
Chances are that much of what Freud says is right, and also that some of it is utterly wrong. However, I firmly believe that when Freud says that our interpersonal actions and reactions come from our subconscious mind he is absolutely correct. And, especially so when our emotions and hormones are in control, such as when lust, desire, and love are in the frame. That is when we are likely to think, feel, believe, and do some very stupid and irrational stuff ~ and when we are most likely to think, feel, believe, and do things that are completely opposite to anything that might make sense in the real world.
This is all down to the primitive defence mechanisms inherent in our body, mind, emotions, feelings….. These defence mechanism include denial, repression, sublimation, and projection, and taken together these defence mechanisms make us believe things that either aren’t true, or never happened, or don’t matter anyway. We unconsciously lie to ourselves, and that makes us lie to others, and that makes us often do the complete opposite of anything that makes sense.
How many times have I desired, cared for, loved someone…… and instead of cherishing them have done everything I could to push that person away from me? And, how many times have you done that too? If you have even the slightest tough of Borderline Personality Disorder, then the answer is; all the time.
Some say that they are in love, when it’s actually lust and desire. And that love and hate are but two sides of the same coin. All I know is that you can’t love anyone unless you first love yourself.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
booze, drugs, cigarettes, and casual sex never solve anything
the angry goodbye
Some arguments are the angry end of a relationship.
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All Right! All Right!
you’re bloody well right,
you know there’s no point,
so Goodbye and Goodnight.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
loneliness is a long angry road to nowhere
