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trust begins and ends with the truth

dedication to the truth


Truth, Honour, Honesty ~ In the future I shall live according to these precepts, they are my stairway to serenity and spirituality.

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.  ~  Buddah

  • do not lie to myself ~ face up to the facts
  • do not run away from unpleasant truths and negative feelings
  • do not set out to deceive
  • seek out the truth and the whole truth
  • know the whole truth, do not make assumptions or interpretations
  • speak and write the truth
  • but, do not always tell all of the truth ~ sometimes the whole truth is hurtful
  • do not lie by omission
  • trust those you trust completely ~ do not half-trust people
  • avoid the company of liars

Everybody lies…. every day, every hour, awake, asleep, in his dreams, in his joy, in his mourning.  If he keeps his tongue still, his hands, his feet, his eyes, his attitude will convey deception.  ~  Mark Twain

Dedication to the truth may be a hard road, but it is the road I must follow to the end.






Complete Honesty

The truth is rarely pure and never simple.  Oscar Wilde, The Importance of being Earnest

liarShould one always tell the truth?  Do you always tell the truth to your partner?  The whole truth, without hesitation, deviation or prevarication?  Or, like most of the people on this planet are you sometimes guilty of little white lies, lies of omission, and outright bare-faced lies?

It isn’t the truth unless it’s the whole truth, and a secret is the next thing to an outright lie.

Some say that it’s easier to tell the truth to a complete stranger than it is to your partner.  And, that what they don’t know can’t hurt them.  All I know is that all lies are discovered eventually, and every discovered lie takes away trust.  Doing things in the dark doesn’t hide them forever.

I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Telling the truth isn’t easy.  Telling the entire, and completely honest truth needs trust and commitment.

Never tell the truth to people who are not worthy of it. ~ Mark Twain

Telling the ‘Honest to God’ truth is akin to opening a Pandora’s box.  One never knows what we are going to discover once the box is open.  There may be things in your past that you would rather not admit to.  There may be things in your past you think your partner would never understand.  Whatever is in your past will come to light eventually, so why not be truthful?   Yeah right, never in a million years.


My girl wants to know about me.  She has asked to know my secrets and innermost thoughts.  She wants to know what drives me, makes me tick, makes me who I am…

I can’t tell her any of that without telling her the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.  This requires a huge leap of faith on both our parts.  But, because this is something she really needs and wants from me I have to take that leap of faith without asking anything in return.  Her trust and happiness will be reward enough.

regretOr, the things I may tell her could drive us apart.  Yet I will tell her the truth, without hesitation, deviation or prevarication.  They say confession is good for the soul.  She will have my complete honesty.  So, help me God.



Uncontrolled Truth Is Dangerous


Charles poking bearA storm is brewing in the teacup of British ~ Russian diplomatic relations, after Prince Charles, (The Prince of Wales and heir to the throne), allegedly likened Vladimir Putin to Adolf Hitler.  Angry Russian diplomats are demanding urgent face-to-face talks with the Foreign Office.  All this is over the Russian President’s actions in seizing parts of Ukraine, and the similarity with Hitler’s seizure of territory in Eastern Europe in the 1930s.  This has left the leaders of Britain’s political parties flailing around to find a line which both supports the second most senior royal after the Queen, while also trying to placate a country which lost at least 30 million souls in playing a major part in the defeat of Hitler in WWII.

It seems that Prince Charles’ offending remark was an off-the-cuff comment to a Canadian lady, Marianne Ferguson, who fled the then city of Danzig, (Gdansk in Poland), in the face of annexation by Hitler’s armies.  Danzig turned out to be a good place to have left.  The Prince is alleged to have said, ‘And now Putin is doing just about the same as Hitler.’

Oh dear, not quite true and not very diplomatic Sir.

LugerIn some ways the remark from Prince Charles is fairly correct.  There are parallels between the way the Russian Bear is acting today and the way Nazi Germany acted in the 1930s.  However, saying it out loud, when you know your every remark will be picked-up by the media, may not be the smartest play in the book.  The comparison may be true, (on some levels), but is it useful?  There is an axiom; Those who don’t study history are doomed to repeat it.  Events in Eastern Europe today have some disturbing echoes of what happened before both the First and Second World Wars.  Just because something is true doesn’t mean it’s a good idea to say it aloud.

churchillThere is another axiom; It’s always best not to poke the bear.  A hibernating bear is in a non-violent state, but poke it with a sharp stick and it’s going to wake-up unhappy. There isn’t much to be gained by telling a bully that they are a bully, unless you are prepared to do something forceful.  Most serious people in the West think that Russia is being a bully at the present, but then most of the West does not understand Russia, never has and possibly never will.  Comparing Putin to Hitler is possibly one of the greatest insults one could throw at the leader of Russia.  The Great Patriotic War was brutal beyond the understanding of the rest of the allied armies, cost Russia 30 million lives, and laid waste the land between Berlin and Moscow.  At the time, even Churchill had to swallow his thoughts about Stalin’s Russia, and Churchill was not known for keeping his peace in the face of self-evident truths.

Churchill had already been a lone voice in the wilderness when he warned Britain of the dangers of Hitler’s Nazi Germany in the 1930s.  Churchill knew what kind of a Russia Stalin ruled.  However Churchill did not coin the phrase; The Iron Curtain to describe Stalin’s annexation of Eastern Europe until 1946, after WWII had already been won.  There is a time so tell the unpleasant truth, and there is a time to stand mute.

guy-fawkes-maskThere is a third axiom to apply here; The truth is rarely pure and never simple.  The truth can be stated in a myriad of different ways, and each one can be true.  But the most dangerous truths are those said thoughtlessly ~ in wine, in anger, in jest, in haste…,  Most of all, truths said needlessly can be dangerous.  Your significant woman may have some very annoying friends, people you may hate and despise, but it is usually better not to keep telling her that.  It’s usually better if you don’t point out to her friend that he is a scruffy dirt-bag sleaze with a poor command of English.  It may be true, but is it useful to point it out?  Probably not.  The guy isn’t going to change, your woman isn’t going to dump an old friend just because you think he’s an idiot, and you are not going to make her think any better of you for being correct but cruel and tactless.

SDC11767As an example, one of the worst things a man can tell his woman is that he’s been using a hooker, (especially if it’s the same hooker several times over).  Most women feel betrayed, belittled, inadequate, angry and ashamed if their guy informs them that he has needed to satisfy himself elsewhere.  So, even if you have been meeting with a prostitute, why would you need to tell your woman that?  Being hurtful, even by telling the absolute truth, is not necessarily a good idea.  So why poke that particular bear?  Who are you telling this particular tale for?  If it’s just to hurt your woman, in the midst of an argument, then that is not the action of a manly Renaissance Man.  Behavioural scientists will tell you that arguments are not only pointless, they are also dangerous.  Dragging up something nasty in an argument is a sure sign that you have sunk to the level of dirt-bag sleaze.

There are some occasions that you would have to admit to having sex with a hooker.  If you have contacted a Sexually Transmitted Infection, (STI), from said lady of the evening, then you may need to inform your significant other that she should see her own doctor, and why.  However, even if your using the services of a sex worker is a sign that your significant relationship is over, there is no need to shame your ex-Lady by bringing it up in the goodbyes.  Be compassionate, let her walk away with pride and dignity.  Be a man.

SlappingThe reason a guy would hit his significant other with the prostitute cautionary tale is that it’s going to hurt her, and there will be no adverse consequences for him.  His significant other is now well on the way to being an ex, and all he wants to do is make her pay, and that’s not the action of a good guy.  Prince Charles will be stoutly defended by most of the British Establishment, there are few adverse consequences for him in making that particular Hitler / Putin remark, but perhaps it was not a wise action from the heir to the throne.

The hard truth is;  Sometimes nothing but the truth will do.  But a strong manly man knows when to stand mute and keep his thoughts to himself.


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