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Tunes on Tuesday ~ Hollywood Nights

nobody is perfect, but driving a Mustang is a start

Not everyone likes the Ford Mustang, and to be honest most of them drive like a barge.  But, when I get to California I like to rent a Mustang convertible, just for the look of it.  Believe it or not I actually like Bob Seger and the Silver Bullet Band.

And believe it or not I’ve never been to Hollywood.

Maybe my next trip, if I can find a cool girl to ride shotgun.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the last Mustang I drove

Scenes on Sunday ~ Take the Long Road

what can be better than a great road
with a cool girl riding shotgun?

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

where all great road trips come to an end

 

Baring My Soul

to let go of the past, we first have to accept it

just one of the cars, just one of the hotels

For more than five years I was in a dysfunctional relationship with a woman I believed I cared for very deeply.  Just about everything you can imagine being wrong, was wrong with that friendship ~ if that was what it was.  And I was too willfully blind to see it.  Call it lying to myself, or ignoring the obvious facts, or just call it denial.  The plain truth was that because of my own unrealistic expectations, I was on a down-bound train to some very personal hell, and my conscious mind did not want to know.

My subconscious mind, my inner child knew all right.  I spent years being miserable, torturing myself, and looking for some easy escape from my pain.  I started to write this blog….  No that is not true, she found me through this blog, in March 2014, (or maybe earlier).  What happened was that the things I started to write here changed.  My posts became darker, filled with pain and angst as I tried to find some relief from my feelings.  I went back to drinking, and every time my feelings got the better of me I would get the better of a few bottles of booze.  I even tried therapy ~  although I never told my therapist the truth of it.

The worst thing I did was to invest more and more of myself in that one-sided relationship.  I visited California often, and took my friend on great road trips, including to Wyoming to see the total eclipse of the sun.  We went to some very expensive new-age seminars in Sedona AZ and Albuquerque NM.  We found some great restaurants in Orange County, and breakfasted on the Queen Mary in Long Beach.  I would send flowers and gifts on every possible occasion.  And. I couldn’t see that everything I did made it worse.

Perhaps because I was going crazy during the coronavirus lockdown, but a couple of weeks ago I admitted to myself and others that I was in deep, deep trouble.  Then I finally admitted why, and found the sense to tell my Californian friend that we needed to say goodbye.

I know that she is still in my mind, and will be for a while.  But I have an Angel at my shoulder, and as long as she is watching over me I will stay free of the chains that once bound me.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

alone again, naturally

Tunes on Tuesday ~ The B52’s

before I talk, I should read a book

You know what?  I never really understood that quotation ~ unless it’s about casual sex.  If it comes right down to it, I never really understood why the trash culture B52’s were so popular in the 70s and 80s, especially here in England.  Unless you happen to like Big Ugly Fat Fuckers. Anyhow, I liked Love Shack back then, and I still do.  Perhaps I just like shacks.

Please listen remembering back-roads America.

I also like long road trips.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I wonder if Biden will have much use for the BUFFs

Travelling Companion

a mind that encompasses new experiences can know the universe

Einstein could be enigmatic.  And it’s not Barbados.

Cancun if you want to know.  Barbados is shut.

Travel broadens the mind.

Now I need a girl.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk,net

or a woman

What Turns You On?

real love is confidence, acceptance, and understanding

what women want

You will not be surprised to learn that I still have no real idea what women want, other than security and steadfastness.  I sort-of know that women want, need, and desire things like trust, respect, acceptance, understanding, and somebody with enough money to look after them.  And that some people have kinks that we wouldn’t want to imagine.  But, what do women really want?

So, obviously I checked a website, and came up with dross.  It seems that women want, need, and desire; confidence, trustworthiness, integrity, compassion, emotional honesty, respect, and a sense of humour.  Jeez, the woman who wrote that must have been dating the slob next door lookalikes or guys in their twenties.  Apart from the emotional honesty thing.

Almost no men are emotionally honest, not even with themselves.  Asking for emotional honesty from a man is like asking for him to hold a conversation and walk up a flight of stairs at one in the same time.

I checked some other sites and the women writing them came up with things like;  vulnerability, stability, equality, awareness, emotional presence, interestedness, protectiveness, acceptance, and assertiveness.  Some slightly iffy and slightly contradictory stuff there.

I’m a man, and from bitter experience I will tell you exactly what women want when it comes to men.

  • Looks, Presence, Physicality, Command Ability.  In general women do not get turned on by a Forrest Gump played by a Danny Devito type, but they do get turned on by Bond played by Connery.  A big dick helps.
  • Money.  I don’t give a shit what any woman says, while some woman might fuck a hot-looking pauper, it’s not what they really want need and desire.  They want a man who pays for dinner, sends flowers, dresses nicely, has a cool car, and can afford to take them on expensive vacations.
  • Power.  Power is the greatest aphrodisiac there is, according to Plato.  Why else would any woman sleep with some notable politicians?
  • Intellect.  Unless she is a bimbo, women want a man who can hold a conversation, knows where Canada is, and can discuss anything, anytime, with anybody.
  • Talent.  Women do not like talent-less men, and whatever talent he has better be masculine.  Not many women are turned-on by a guy who is good at quilting.  Women prefer men who can fix their car at two in the morning, in the pouring rain.
  • Listening.  Women like to talk, and they prefer it when the man they are dating actually listens instead of constantly talking over them or being bored.  Listening to a woman, any woman, is a learned skill for men.
  • Steadfastness.  Women like men who are there for them 24/7 365, no matter what.

Of course this is based on an unscientific straw-poll, and the answers depended on how much the women I polled had to drink.  And, there is more, and not all women are the same, and some men have hidden depths.  But I know, from being able to listen, that a woman who lets go a man who ticks all the boxes I’ve listed above regrets it forever.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

looks and being able to ride a motorcycle are enough for one woman I’ve known

The End Of A Friendship

in life your true friends show themselves, and the others disappear

all things come to an end, even dreams of summer

It’s always sad when a friendship comes to an end, but some friendships last far too long, way past the time that they should been over.  I just ended a friendship that had gone on for years beyond it’s natural life.  I ended it by email, because she didn’t answer my call, perhaps that was bad of me.  But, it needed to be over.

Some things are just not acceptable from a friend, and it is up to us to decide what we will live with, understand, and forgive, and what we won’t.  I decided that a long-term friend had just told me something I just wasn’t prepared to tolerate and accept.  She’s gone back to her old habits and haunts, and I can’t even begin to cope with that.  It was a toxic friendship, ruining my mental health and well-being.

I was getting drunk in an effort to make things OK, and that was never going to be a solution.  Booze just makes things worse, although she will never accept that as far as she is concerned.  So, it’s the end of that friendship ~ and although I’m a little bit sad, it’s better that she’s never going to make me desperately unhappy again.

I’ll try hard to completely forget her, but I won’t spend the rest of my life trying.

It won’t take that long to move on.

I far have better friends now.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies by omission

 

Scenes on Sunday ~ Sara

a real man should build his own sports car

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

there’s always a woman involved somewhere

Songs on Saturday ~ Harry Chapin

you’ve never seen dark until you’ve seen dark in a coal mine

I come from a blue-collar, coal-mining, working-class background.  My father worked down the pit.  When I was old enough I got just as far away from that as I possibly could, and I never wanted to go back there.  Hence, apart from this song I never wanted to go to Scranton Pennsylvania, the centre of what was an anthracite mining area.  I think this is funny.

Scranton is on my bucket list ~ now that all the coal mines are closed.  I suppose it doesn’t stink of mashed bananas any more.

Please listen with a GSOH.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

quite the old truck wreck

Monochrome Monday ~ Girls

the world seems better in black and white

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

sometimes a bikini should stay dry

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