Tag Archives: Spirituality

habits, routines, and rituals

you never change your life until you step outside of your comfort zone

We all of us have safe routines and habits that almost never change.  Most small teddy bears are afraid of the sea.  Most people are a little afraid of the new, the strange, and the different.

Every day we go to work, we dress in the same clothes in the same style, we eat the same food.  Our circle of friends pretty much never changes.  We visit our parents at the weekend, and we spend the rest of each weekend doing almost the same things we did last weekend.  We have our favourite seat at the bar in our usual pub, and our favourite type of booze to drink at home.

That picture is intensified if we have a partner, because not only do we live within our own comfort zone, we also feel that we have to live within theirs.  Actually, some people do have to live well within their partner’s comfort zone, because to do otherwise would invite dire consequences.

Mostly we do not invite new and different experiences into our lives.  Often we judge others harshly for sometimes doing things differently, and for stepping outside what we think is their role in our lives.  Often we resent that people we know, our family and friends, for seeking to expand their own horizons, find new opportunities, seek out new experiences, and try to find new friends and lovers.

It’s sort of OK for you to resent it if people you know are trying to find something new in their lives ~ something that doesn’t necessarily involve you.  All of us suffer from a fear of abandonment to one extent or another, and resenting someone close to you if they try to find new horizons is merely an unconscious expression of that fear of abandonment.  But get over it.  Just because your friend is looking for new friends doesn’t mean they are going to leave you behind ~ unless you’ve really pissed them off.  Who knows?  Your friend’s new friends may become your friends too.

You know what?  It’s all about you.  Welcome new experiences, visit new places, make new friends, try dressing differently, do something crazy once in a while.

Some say that it’s better to build walls around themselves than to risk getting hurt again.  And, that the tried and trusted is safer than looking for something different.  All I know is that this month I will do at least one new, different, and crazy thing.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

for me,

getting in the sea with her would be truly outside of my comfort zone.

Scenes on Sunday ~ Memories

sometimes, the good memories are all we have left

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

don’t run away into the desert

but enjoy your desert adventures

grasp your own future

Dreams do not have deadlines nor commitments…..

Hardly anyone is really in control of their own life.  This is doubly true if you happen to be an ‘average person’, who has a job, mortgage, and normal financial commitments ~ face it you have to turn up for work every day, whether you like it or not.  Add in a family, who undoubtedly will have expectations of you, and your time is not hardly ever your own.  (And, I wasn’t even thinking about the ‘average person’ who is married with children.)

The ‘average person’ can’t really have dreams and desires, unless their dreams and desires happen to fit in with what others expect of you.

Just supposing you want to take a year off, buy an old school bus, turn into a camper van, and see as much of backroads America / Europe, as you possibly can in that year.  What do you think your partner / family / friends / employer / neighbours are going to say about that?

I’ll tell you that the likelihood is that their views and words will range from incredulity to negativity, to downright hostility.  That is if you are an ‘average person’ living a ‘normal life’.  Ergo, to protect yourself you would probably not ever have that kind of empowering dream and desire.

Instead your mind will be filled with things such as; ‘what can I do about my partner / sister / brother…..?’ or ‘how can I afford to pay my bills’, or ‘how can I get a better job?’ or ‘what can I have for lunch / dinner / supper?’

None of us can do anything about our past, except reframe the way we think about it.

Most ‘normal’ and ‘average’ people can do very little about what’s happening to them in the present.  The chances are that, for them, today will be pretty much like yesterday.  If they have to work for a living the chances are that any working day will be exactly like the working day before.  Even their thoughts and conversations will have a mind-numbing repetitious banality.

However, and this is fucking damned important, we can all do something about our futures.

NOBODY has to settle for the status quo.  If there is something or someone in your life that’s sucking the life out of you, then get rid of it / them.  If your marriage is crap / abusive / boring, then get out of it.  If your job is horrible and badly paid, then leave and get another job ~ there’s nothing like being out of work to put a real edge on job hunting.

There is only one problem ~ most people will never leave their ‘comfort zone’.  If that’s you, then it’s time you grew up and grasped your own future with both hands ~ carpe diem.

As for me?  I’m a really cool guy, living a great life.  I can do just about whatever I want, just about whenever I want ~ within my own pretty rigid code of ethics, and the fact that I don’t ever want to get arrested again.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

That van was in Palm Springs

Blogging Success?

It is only through our losses, failures, and hardships that we learn true growth and enlightenment.

How does one measure success in blogging?

Some would say that success on this platform can only be measured by how much money you have been able to make from your blog.  As I don’t actually need any more money than I already have, then monetizing this thing has never appealed to me.

There are some very raw statistics that might tell me that the blog is a success;

  • Number of followers;         2003
  • Number of posts;               1024  (but that does not include the posts I’ve published and subsequently trashed)
  • Number of views;          138,600
  • Number of comments;      5,658  (not including the half-dozen comments I’ve received and trashed ~ for the benefit of whoever had sent a perhaps unsuitable few words)

Although I prefer to think that true success is measured by quality, and not quantity.

However it must be true that I am writing things that people want to read ~ else how would this ordinary English guy have had followers who stuck with me over the 4 years I’ve been writing this thing.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

A very big thank you to you all

to have loved and lost

Only when it’s almost gone will you know what a gift love is.

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the world carries on without me

but nothing remains the same

yet I’ll go on without you

until the end of days

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

dance until the end of love

Scenes on Sunday 2018

How many miles must a man travel, before he finds himself?

This year I’ve been to some interesting places, for example;

starting with California

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Oludeniz in Turkey

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Llandudno in Wales

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Crete

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York

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Albuquerque in New Mexico

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Lanzerote

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and more California

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

and was I happy with all that travelling?

you bet I was

Merry Christmas to Everyone

Marmaduke and I Wish You Very Merry Christmas

one with lots of love to share

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

 

a Christmas Rose for you

Scenes on Sunday ~ Favourite Pictures 2018

These are among my pictures I like most of all.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

taken by the girl riding shotgun

Going Home

“Too much of anything is bad, but too much of a good time is barely enough.”

I had my flight back home to England confirmed last evening.  I leave this pretty, (and pretty weird), island at 15:55 tomorrow, arriving back in my local airport at 20:10.  So, I should be back in the garret at about half-past-nine tomorrow evening.

I enjoy being a solitary tourist, Lanzerote is cool, and the group of fellow solitary travellers I’m with are friendly, but something has gone a little bit wrong on this vacation. Perhaps I’ve had too much time to think, or too much sun, or I’ve had too many vacations this year…..  Whatever it is I am going to be leaving here feeling uneasy, dissatisfied, and anxious.  Which is not the point of a sunshine vacation at all.

Some say that you can get too much of a good thing.  And, that wherever you go you take yourself with you.  All I know is that I’m going to be glad to be home again.

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Jack Collier

Ijackcollier7@talktalk.net

Lust for Life

Change your life today, act now without delay.

It seems to me that most people spend most of their time just piddlefucking around without having a clear idea of what it is they want to achieve, and without having any real plan to get wherever it is that they want to go in Life.  I’m pretty certain this is not because they don’t have wants, needs, dreams and desires, but perhaps it’s because their wants, needs, dreams, and desires are not well thought out in their own mind.

Consciously we may have an idea of what we want out of Life, but unless our conscious plans are totally backed by subconscious conviction we may as well just be whistling in the wind.

Recently I ‘decided’ that I am a really cool and charismatic guy, living a really great life ~ and so what?

Well, to begin with it means developing and maintaining some habits and rituals that support the conviction that I’m a cool guy living a great life, such as always looking sharp with bright eyes, clear skin, and a good haircut that suits my slightly preppy English style.  Getting to bed at a decent time every night, sleeping well, eating well, taking the right vitamin supplements, getting plenty of fresh air and exercise, and avoiding unnecessary stress.  Every day I make certain that I read something challenging and inspirational, rest and meditate, and just take some time out for myself.

I have a ritual that each day I try to write something interesting, insightful, and perhaps controversial on this blog.  And, every day I take the time to stay in contact with some people that I care for, even if it’s just by email.  (I don’t use Facebook, twitter, or texts.)

And every second of every day, the conviction I have planted in my subconscious that; ‘Hey, I’m a cool and charismatic guy, living a really great life…..’ monitors my conscious thought, feelings, and actions, and every so often will let me know that I’m being a jerk.

Nobody is perfect, but now I fucking damn well know when I’m being a jerk, and I suddenly have a choice ~ go on being a jerk, or instead act like the cool and charismatic guy I know I am.  If I have to, I follow that old mantra;’fake it to make it’, and my natural exuberance spills out all over the place.

Tomorrow I’m taking another sunshine vacation, a week in the Spanish Canary Islands, and that’s because my idea of being a cool guy doesn’t involve hibernating in my garret through the English winter.  Instead I’m up for some fresh air and exercise in sub-tropical sunshine.

Some say that we should avoid strong emotions and deep feelings.  And, that it’s a sin to have our own personal desires and dreams.  All I know is that I have a real lust for life.

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jack collier

jackcollier@talktalk.net

 

show up on time for life

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