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Monochrome Monday ~ Utah Landscapes

sometimes we have to go back to seeing the world in black and white

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

It’s a long road to my recovery

Bitterness and Resentments

let today be the day I stop being haunted by the ghosts of the past

black lonely desolate

There are some thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and people that I no longer want to be part of my life ~ especially not this different life I am living today, the different and better life I have known since The Full Wolf Moon.  I look in the mirror and the eyes that look back at me are far to hard and brittle, too guarded, too untrusting for the man I wish to become.  Some of that is the product of my whole life, and some of it comes from what was a dysfunctional relationship, where I felt that I was giving far more than I received in return.

Truth be told, relationships are not supposed to be like that, if it’s going to work well a relationship between a man and a woman should have balance and harmony, what we are pleased to call ‘give and take’.  And, truth be told my bitterness and resentments are my own, they don’t belong to anyone else, and nobody else could have created them in me.  Like each and every single thing that happens to us, my negative feelings are things that I did to myself.  Nothing happens to us unless we allow it, up to and including being the victim of a natural disaster.  Nobody forced you to live in an earthquake zone, or where there are wildfires, and nobody forced the passengers to get on the Titanic.

Specifically my bitterness and resentments were created by some relationships I chose to enter into, and then I stayed in those relationships long past the time I should have just walked away without looking back.  Some people are toxic, and while people may change, the memory of that toxicity will live on…..

I do not want any of that in my life, so how do I change it?  And I have no fucking idea about how to turn that around, to lose the bitterness and resentments, to lose the memories of toxic and dysfunctional relationships, to begin to innocently trust again.  I’m trying to find a way, and there’s nothing there.

All I can do is tell my conscious mind that I want a lighter and more innocent set of thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.  I want to only ever remember the good things about relationships past and present, I want to regain my sense of trust, my feeling of fun, my joy in the people I know.  I want to be in a place where I truly accept, understand, nurture, and cherish those I profess to care for.  I want my unconscious mind to pay attention and change my own hard-wired feelings and beliefs for something far better.

Some say, once bitten twice shy.  And fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.  All I know is that I would rather be an innocent fool than a guy with very hard eyes.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

a new dawn

a new hope

 

Why I’m Still Alive

when all that’s left are the empty promises

the sun was going down on my life

Christmas had come and gone.  I couldn’t remember the New Years’s at all, time had slipped from 2019 to 2020 completely unnoticed by me.  It was January 7th 2020 and I had been smashed and broken to another low rock bottom.  My life was a slow-motion freight train wreck at the end of the line in a place called Hell.  My mind was numb and empty, my soul was tortured by demons of my own making, my body was suffering from a lack of food and too much booze.  Part of me wanted to die, part of me hoped I would die, and a small part of me entertained dark thoughts of painless suicide.  Walking into the cold North Sea would kill me, but that would mean I had to get out of bed, leave the garret, and walk the hundred or so yards to the beach.  That was never going to happen.

But something happened.  Call it sheer bloody mindedness, call it being protected by a guardian angel, call it the universal unconscious helping me, but I did something positive.  It took a while.

First I got myself out of bed, went to the kitchen counter and poured a half-full bottle of vodka down the drain.  Thought about coffee, but I knew I’d throw up.  Drank some water, threw up.

Bathroom and alcoholic constipation hurts.  Stood under the shower in my filthy clothes and stripped naked there, soaped up some.  No chance of my risking a wet shave.

Got dry and left the wet towels in the middle of the garret, on the floor, discarded at random.

Combed my hair, got dressed in clean clothes, even clean socks.  Looked at the clock, it was just on half-past-six, and I didn’t know if it was morning or evening, nor did I know what day it was.

Collapsed into my armchair, exhausted and shaking.  Sat there for a long time staring at the wall, my mind empty, my soul in pain.  I could see scuttling things out of the corner of my eye I knew weren’t real, weren’t there at all.  Electric shave.

After a long long while I made myself a coffee, felt like throwing up but didn’t.  I knew that somewhere out there someone or something was sending me all good wishes.

My thoughts and feelings were being led by demons down a dark road that only led to bad things, so I picked up my tablet as a distraction.  Tried to play solitaire, not enough concentration.  Instead I read some posts by the very special people I follow.  I read a post by Rhapsody Boheme about The Wolf Moon, and the special things that could happen then ~ transformation, renewal, rebirth…..  And here, The Wolf Moon was at 19:21 hrs on January 10th, 2020.  I resolved to stay sober until then.  Before then I would clean the garret, only demons will enter a place that looks like a pig-sty.

At around 19:15 on January 10th I darkened the garret, lit some scented candles, and put some soothing music on the record player.

19:21 on Friday January 20th, 2020 a sense of peace I had not known ever before in my tortured existence, the music playing was The Memory Of Trees by Enya; the simple vocal refrain on that instrumental track is Be Yourself.  It was a profound message, and I knew exactly what it meant.

My life hasn’t been the same since.  My life is different and better, and improving day by day, hour by hour, and something or someone is still guiding me.  If you are suffering as I was, I know that you can have that too.  Nobody with even an ounce of goodness in their soul is abandoned forever.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

infinity came for me and lifted me up

The Guiding Light Shines

set your course by your bright guiding light

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My ship was sinking

I was lost and alone

on the savage seas

inside my own mind

I could be very blind

and viciously unkind

dishonest and drinking

feeling fear and dread

then your bright light

pierced fog and gloom

shining far out to me

guiding me home

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Storm wave

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

my guiding light shines

Card of the Day ~ Death

endings and beginnings, birth and rebirth, change and transformation

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It’s been a while since I touched the tarot, and yet today I was moved to take out the deck and draw a card ~ my card for today.  I was expecting something from the minor arcana.  Completely at random, from 78 cards I drew Death.

The Death card heralds the ending of one phase of life to make way for a new one.  It represents major change and transformation.  The Death card can release me from people, places, things, thoughts, and beliefs that are no longer useful in my life, but which I have been hanging on to because I feared change, I feared the unknown.  Another symbol which goes alongside the Death card is The Phoenix.

Given everything that’s happened to me already in 2020, and in years past, I’m now more than ready to be honest, open, sincere, and caring of myself and others.  I am looking forward to taking a new path towards a new distant horizon.

I have been given the opportunity for major growth and learning.  I intend to grasp that opportunity with both hands, and all of my heart and soul.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Dawn, the end of night, a new beginning

Wolf Moon Revelation

and one man in his time plays many parts

The most profound truths sometimes come in a very simple message, and the message I had at the exact time of the Full Wolf Moon last evening was; Be Yourself.  And the strange thing is I know exactly what that means to me.

I have had a lot of practice at being half a hundred other people, of wearing a mask, of fitting-in, playing the role I was expected to play ~ but I can’t ever remember being myself.  It’s always been too dangerous.

However, from this time on I will no longer be the Man people expect me to be, I will no longer play the role I am expected to play.  This is a new road, towards a new horizon, walked by a man different to the man I was before, and the man I was before was never me.

For the past few days I have been struggling with who I used to be, and the knowledge that I both wanted and needed to be a different man living a different life.  But I didn’t know what, why, when, how, nor where, nor who.  I had the need, the desire, I wanted to be both different and better, but I didn’t have a direction, nor did I have a plan.  For some reason I knew things were going to change soon.

Then yesterday I learned that there was going to be a Wolf Moon, and that it was going to mean things to me ~ I wrote about that.

Last evening I darkened the garret save for some appropriately scented candles, put on some atmospheric music, and sat myself down to wait, my mind open, my heart and brain in harmony.  And at just about 19:21 hrs, the exact time of the full moon, I received the strongest possible message, and I knew it was right and I knew exactly what it meant.

Do you know there is a vocal refrain in the opening track from the Enya album The Memory of Trees?  Do you know what that repeated refrain is?  It’s Be Yourself.

I heard that and I understood.

I will not be the man in the mirror anymore.  I will not be a different guy with different people in different situations.  I will no longer be a people-pleaser, nor will I be a macho-man, nor devil-may-care, or the life and soul of the party, or a boyfriend, good citizen…..  All of the dozens of roles we play day by day, and all of the different acts we put on, will be left behind.  For playing all of those roles was making me very sick, because I believed them and they were all false.  From now on I shall be myself, and only myself.

Some say they have lost their sense of identity.  And that their career has taken over their lives.  All I know is I will stand alone and I will be myself.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

today there is a new horizon

Wolf Moon

I was a wolf, and she was my moon.

Here in England the first full moon of 2020 occurs at 19:21 hrs on January 10th, and the January full moon is known as The Wolf Moon.  There will also be a full lunar eclipse.  Leaving aside the astronomy; at this time I need to be communicative, expressive, honourable, objective, and resourceful.  I need to consider my options and opportunities in life.  This is the end of a journey that began years ago, a time to release something that up until now I was not ready to let go of, so I also need to look deeply inward..

This full moon I will release any energy, attachments, thoughts, emotions, and relationships that no longer serve my best interests.  People, places, and things that have been toxic for me will no longer be part of my life.  In time I will set new intentions and develop a different life from that which has gone before.

I release all the things from my past that have caused my negative attachments.  I prepare and welcome new changes, new lessons, and new adventures.  I welcome new opportunities to grow physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Some say there are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls.  And that only a true wolf will fall in love with the moon.  All I know is that just because I’m on a different path, it doesn’t mean I’m lost.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

it’s time for me to take a hard look at relationships

(Funny how things work out.  Until I read Rhapsody Boheme’s blog today I didn’t even know there was a full moon tonight.  And yet, if you have been reading my blog over the past few days you will know that the spiritual significance of this Wolf Moon is exactly where I am in my life’s journey.)

My Demons and Darkness

let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around us in mindfulness 

The dawn of a new life

Now that I am recovering from the illness which I suffered over the Holidays my mind is beginning to work again.  That is both a good and a bad thing.  It’s good because existing in a depressive semi-vegetative state is not living at all.  It’s bad because my demons are coming out of the darkness deep inside my mind to torment me again.

I’m not going to let that happen.  This the the dawn of a different life for me, not the beginning of another dark night.

I am not going to dwell on the past, nor regret anything that happened there.  I am not going to think much about the future, nor be afraid of anything that might happen in that far-off country.  Rather I will be mindful of today.  I will use today to begin to discover my own inner nature.

A spiritual journey is to uncover my own inner nature.  It’s already there.  ~  Billy Corgan.

I have realised that I need to discover who I really am, and what I can do to become the better man.  The only person I need to measure myself against is who I am today, and then be a better man tomorrow.

It’s a new dawn.  Please be optimistic for me.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

A new dawn for me

Christmas Fun ~ Wham

we accept best the love we think we deserve

Christmas is a time for love, but sometimes love doesn’t run smoothly.  Even for the truest of true loves there are sometimes bumps in the road.

I’m going to be alone this Christmas, but there are still some people I love.

Don’t you just love the hair?

Please listen responsibly.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

jealousy can end up costing you the one you love the most

Generosity and Kindnss

the value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he receives

Christmas is a time for giving, for being generous and kind, without expectation of anything in return.  Yet, who among us even understands the meaning of true generosity?

I used to believe that I was generous, but my generosity usually involved money; always paying the bill in bars and restaurants for example.  But, as I would usually go to bars and restaurants with a woman, my behaviour was only to be expected, real men always pick up the tab.  And many guys would expect sex in return anyway.  That is not being generous, that’s being a jerk.

Generosity shouldn’t only involve hard cash, real generosity means being accepting, charitable, compassionate, understanding ~ being kind in thought, word, and commonplace deeds.  Real generosity does not expect or seek repayment.  Real generosity isn’t just giving a couple of coins to a homeless person; it’s stopping to talk with him, asking how he is and trying to understand his situation, maybe giving him a hot drink, or help him in some other practical way.  The truly generous give their time to others.

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.  ~  Churchill

Generosity and Kindness aren’t all about money any time either, it’s about being thoughtful and caring, without seeking or having any expectation of repayment.  Remembering to thank people, doing something tangible and practical for people; for example feeding the cat for your neighbour, without ever asking for anything in return ~ that is being kind and generous.

You have not lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.  ~  John Bunyan.

Generosity and kindness don’t involve putting in the extra hours at work so that you will receive a glowing report, and maybe a raise in pay.  Generosity would be putting in the extra hours at work helping your coworker who is struggling to finish their work on time.  Or perhaps telling their boss how hard they’re working, being complementary and kind when you don’t need to.

Real success in life is being the person who gives and helps others, without thinking about yourself.  By that measure there are not many successful people in this world.  Most think of themselves first, last, and always.  Most people are kind and polite only to those who can do them some good in return, and most people suck up to their boss while stabbing their colleagues in the back.  Back in the day I lived in the very cut-throat world of international banking, yet even then I was perhaps generous and kind; for example I would tell clients that I couldn’t do what they wanted, but I know another bank who can.  Not many would sent a client to another provider who could do a better job.

At this time of year it behoves us to be generous and kind, and that isn’t measured in the value of the gifts we give.  Be accepting, charitable, compassionate, kind, thoughtful, understanding ~ then you’re being generous.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

give a single rose you have picked from your own garden

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