sexual desire is real, genuine, and powerful
you may desire her
but you can’t miss what you’ve never had
although all she desired was casual sex
she decided that she may as well fall in love
man is a creation of desire, not a creation of need
sexual desire and fucking are just biology in action
desire can be bitter, sweet, savoury, salty, and sassy
but never tasteless and boring
desire is a hunger in men, but just an appetite in women
there is but a small distance between the desire to fuck and the need to hurt
the best moments in her life are the desires she can’t ever share with her husband
toxic and malignant relationships are dangerous
doesn’t happen as often as some might desire
Why do so many good people find themselves in a toxic relationship? Is it because we expect people to live up to our own standards? If that’s true then a lot of us are going to be very disappointed a lot of the time. It’s worse than that, some women put themselves in danger by dating / having a relationship with / marrying abusive men. What some women never seem to learn is that men don’t change, what he’s like when you first meet him is what he is always going to be like.
The warning signs that people are not who they say they are include;
- being unreliable, frequently turning up late or not showing up at all
- being evasive about themselves, what they do, where they live, what kind of family they have
- being evasive about their past
- lying, and especially lying by omission
- never being the first to pick up the check in a restaurant or bar
- having a regular bar where they know all the other patrons, talking to everyone in a bar except you
- drinking too much, turning up stoned, being far too interested in sports
- being broke, owing money, trying to borrow money from you
- liking much older / younger friends and potential / actual sexual partners
- being too rough when you have sex, being too interested in porn, being more than just a little kinky, wanting to share you with someone else
The thing is, even if your date / partner / spouse is displaying some or all of these warning signs many men and women close their eyes to these negatives and only see their paramour through rose tinted spectacles. Or worse, some people are very aware of their date’s faults but go on seeing them anyway, with the unrealistic expectation that they will change, if only they are given a chance. Remember that a leopard never changes its spots.
If your gut is telling you that your date’s affection and protestations of love are false, then 99.9% of the time your gut is right, and you are being used and manipulated, Some toxic people will only pretend to love you as much as they can use you, and their fake love will end when the benefits stop.
The biggest signs that you have totally unrealistic expectations of your date / partner / spouse are that they stop being interested in sex with you, and instead get interested in sex with everyone and anyone else. If someone cheats on you then they don’t give a shit about you.
Some say that inside every bad person there is a good person trying to get out. And that if we just give someone a chance they will change for the better. All I know is that all of our expectations of another person are most likely unrealistic.
if your partner becomes amorous at parties, then it’s time for you to walk away
if you don’t feed your dog
don’t be surprised if he’s scrabbling through the trash
younger man with an older women
Forget Maslow’s hierarchy of needs because in this day and age shelter, warmth, water, and food are available to every person living in a western civilisation. What most men want most, what drives almost every man, is the desire for sex, money, and power. Love is something else, and anyone actually searching for love probably has unrealistic expectations of life.
For the average man, the triumvirate of sex, money, and power almost always begins with money. Not that many women want to date / have a fling with / sleep with an average guy who is also flat broke. And, if you’re flat broke it might also mean that you don’t dress well, can’t really afford to hang out in upscale bars, and your car is a junker. Not many women want to have sex in a wreck of a car. So the average guy is caught in a Catch-22 situation, what he really wants to do is hang out in bars and find an inebriated woman to have casual sex with, but before he can do that he needs some significant folding stuff. More than that, power flows from money like water flows downstream, and many women find power an aphrodisiac.
There are but a few ways to get money. One could try gambling, but all gamblers end up dead broke. Stealing it in one way or another is very dangerous ~ all thieves come to a bad end, eventually. More unlikely ways of acquiring a bank-roll are inheriting it, marrying it, becoming a drug dealer, and winning the lottery. Do not hold your breath. The most reliable way to get cash is to work for it ~ that means being very successful in your chosen career, and that means working hard, putting in the hours, and that will keep you out of the bars where you hope to meet an easy lay. The upside to being very successful in your chosen career is that you will also become powerful.
Sex, Money, and Power form a stable equilateral triangle. The average man can’t get a lot of one without also acquiring an abundance of the other two. Or, for the extremely unethical bastard, you could find a plain older woman who happens to have money, marry her, and then entertain yourself by cheating on her, gaslighting her, and stealing from her.
Personally, I happen to know a very cool American woman I can’t meet because of a raft of insurmountable obstacles. But that’s Life for you, and 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.
Of course, 90% of the above also applies to women, (maybe 90%, I’m not a woman so I can’t be certain).
Some say that commitment to just one person is am unachievable dream. And that relationships shouldn’t have rules. All I know is that some people are utterly honest, open, and ethical ~ but most aren’t
a woman sitting at the bar
and drinking alone
is only there for one reason
maybe she was that way because she was sad and lonely
leaving a carnal, sexual, woman
one battle over, one victory won
the long struggle that will end
one day in honesty and freedom
not for her, not for years to come
heading to her favorite bar
to look for a much younger man
you say ‘witch’ like it’s a bad thing…..
Some very sexually confident women are as close to being a witch, an enchantress, as most men are ever likely to meet. It tends to make for a very one-sided relationship. I should know, I’ve been exactly where Annie Lennox is singing about. After a while it stops being fun.
If you fall in love with a witch you are in for an interesting, tortured time.
for all a man knows
a which may be lying right next to him
if you want to prove your love, then give her your credit card
a women who wears a see through dress without lingerie has got balls
a real woman is her man’s personal porn star
‘be mine…..’ he said, ‘your what…..’ she asked
love is whatever you think it is at the time
but first date sex is always just sex
‘OK, let’s go and fully explore my sexuality…..’ she said
he made his excuses and left the bar right after that
there is something about a really sexual woman that frightens most men
some women fake orgasms, but all men fake finances
if you want to prove your love
then give her your car keys
some say it’s a woman’s erotic little death
A ‘friend’ of mine sent me this song a long time ago. You will not be surprised to learn that this is the only Cars track I know. You might be surprised to know that girl and I have lost contact with each other. So, I don’t know if Tonight She Comes.
This is for a far better friend of mine.
It is quite good fun, so please listen with a smile.
naughty or nice?
noisy or not?
now the party’s over he’s beginning to wonder what went wrong
a hero is good
a heroine is brilliant
a villain is essential
but a bad woman is erotic
‘hold me….’ he said
‘hold your what? she asked
eventually she decided he meant his billfold
he would do anything for her
the trouble was so would a lot of other men
he would try to forget her
he would spend the rest of his life trying
he liked women who looked as though they killed men for a living
she thought of herself as a black widow
and that some younger men liked to be caught
real love is confidence, acceptance, and understanding
what women want
You will not be surprised to learn that I still have no real idea what women want, other than security and steadfastness. I sort-of know that women want, need, and desire things like trust, respect, acceptance, understanding, and somebody with enough money to look after them. And that some people have kinks that we wouldn’t want to imagine. But, what do women really want?
So, obviously I checked a website, and came up with dross. It seems that women want, need, and desire; confidence, trustworthiness, integrity, compassion, emotional honesty, respect, and a sense of humour. Jeez, the woman who wrote that must have been dating the slob next door lookalikes or guys in their twenties. Apart from the emotional honesty thing.
Almost no men are emotionally honest, not even with themselves. Asking for emotional honesty from a man is like asking for him to hold a conversation and walk up a flight of stairs at one in the same time.
I checked some other sites and the women writing them came up with things like; vulnerability, stability, equality, awareness, emotional presence, interestedness, protectiveness, acceptance, and assertiveness. Some slightly iffy and slightly contradictory stuff there.
I’m a man, and from bitter experience I will tell you exactly what women want when it comes to men.
- Looks, Presence, Physicality, Command Ability. In general women do not get turned on by a Forrest Gump played by a Danny Devito type, but they do get turned on by Bond played by Connery.
A big dick helps.
- Money. I don’t give a shit what any woman says, while some woman might fuck a hot-looking pauper, it’s not what they really want need and desire. They want a man who pays for dinner, sends flowers, dresses nicely, has a cool car, and can afford to take them on expensive vacations.
- Power. Power is the greatest aphrodisiac there is, according to Plato. Why else would any woman sleep with some notable politicians?
- Intellect. Unless she is a bimbo, women want a man who can hold a conversation, knows where Canada is, and can discuss anything, anytime, with anybody.
- Talent. Women do not like talent-less men, and whatever talent he has better be masculine. Not many women are turned-on by a guy who is good at quilting. Women prefer men who can fix their car at two in the morning, in the pouring rain.
- Listening. Women like to talk, and they prefer it when the man they are dating actually listens instead of constantly talking over them or being bored. Listening to a woman, any woman, is a learned skill for men.
- Steadfastness. Women like men who are there for them 24/7 365, no matter what.
Of course this is based on an unscientific straw-poll, and the answers depended on how much the women I polled had to drink. And, there is more, and not all women are the same, and some men have hidden depths. But I know, from being able to listen, that a woman who lets go a man who ticks all the boxes I’ve listed above regrets it forever.
looks and being able to ride a motorcycle are enough for one woman I’ve known
there’s nothing more irresistible to a man than a woman who says she loves him
it’s just a crying shame that she’s so often lying
This hot Robert Palmer track may be a bit gratuitously
erotic sexual sexist, but it illustrates my point very well. Some women are almost irresistible.
A woman can be sexy at twenty, gorgeous at thirty, charming at forty, and simply irresistible for the rest of her life.
A man should follow his heart, but remember to take his brain along with him.
Please listen with a sense of humour.
almost as irresistible as a woman