out of the strong came forth sweetness
Unless you are English or a bible scholar you may be unfamiliar with the above quotation, which is derived from the story of Samson and the Lion and a woman from Timnah. It’s a narrative and an allegory. Psychologically, the interesting thing is the difference between masculine and feminine strength.
Typically, masculine strength is brute force and aggression that can be measured in foot-pounds, whereas feminine strength is far more elusive and mysterious. In the biblical story the lion is an expression of male energy and sexual potency. The sweet honey is an expression of female patience, sensitivity, and complexity. Without both the story has no point at all. So, some strong warrior guy goes out and kills a lion ~ that happens all the time in the bible. That story would have little point to it.
However, if you add the feminine sweetness, and throw in the woman from Timnah for good measure, then what we have is an allegory which seeks to illustrate that unbridled strength and aggression without control is both pointless and dangerous. An out of control bulldozer isn’t anything anyone wants to have to deal with.
Many men fail to grasp that point. A lot of guys think that what it takes to be a real man is the ability to sink copious quantities of beer and then beat down on the little guy. Or drink copious quantities of beer, drive home from the pub, and treat his wife / girlfriend like a piece of meat. That type of guy tends to be unsuccessful, or an alcoholic, or a workshy petty criminal ~ or all three.
More successful men realise that feminine qualities like; acceptance, diplomacy, patience, perseverance, understanding, and the ability to communicate effectively are just as important, (if not more important), than qualities such as physical courage and endurance. Some men eschew these feminine strengths as being beneath them, or unmanly, or associated with the rainbow community. Reality says that a hell of a lot of men just find things like diplomacy, understanding, and talking, far too difficult for them to cope with.
I had to learn the feminine strengths and skills as part of my career in International Finance ~ if I wanted to make more money than my trophy wife could spend. More recently, I learned those feminine strengths courtesy of a self-confessed black widow.
Really strong men control their masculine qualities with the feminine qualities they are willing to learn and use.
out of the eater, something to eat
out of the strong, something sweet
If you do what you always did, then you’ll get what you always got.
As I don’t need to earn a living these days, some may say that my whole life is just one long vacation. Actually it doesn’t quite work like that ~ when I’m at home in the garret my time seems to be filled with lots of ordinary and everyday stuff. Whereas, now I’m here holidaying on Lanzerote I seem to have much more time to just sit in the sunshine and let my thoughts drift where they will.
It seems that I needed to resolve some issues, to reject the things that have blocked me in the past; the people, the choices, the mistakes, the material possessions I thought were so important….. It seems that I need to move away from the material world towards spiritual and emotional growth, and that I need to place less importance on relationships that do not, and perhaps never will, provide what I need and desire.
I need to awaken the strength within me, the spiritual self, the masculinity, ready to fight back against all the negative influences, the misleading promises, the illusions and delusions about what real happiness looks like for me.
There are some dreams and personal ambitions I want to fulfil, particularly in terms of interpersonal relationships, and particularly sexually. I need to fully assert myself to reconnect with my own internal courage, fortitude, and drive.
This vacation has allowed me to see that I need to progress, for the physical desires I have allowed to be unfilled to really come to fruition, that it’s time to leave behind negative people and influences, even if those people have been very close to me in the past.
It’s time I told people exactly what is on my mind, and it’s time for me to take charge and stop shying away from speaking the truth of my innermost wants, needs, desires, and dreams.
Some say that you can get 80% of what you want for just 20% of the efforts you’ve been putting into a relationship. And that if you give some people an inch they will take a mile. All I know is that if people don’t like the truth they can live their lives without my help.
Lanzerote is pretty nice