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So, now I need counselling.

Never look to another to tell you who you really are.

A friend of mine has said that I need some form of mental health / spiritual counselling ~ suggesting to me that she thinks there’s something seriously wrong with the way I feel, think, act, and react to events and people.  I guess she believes that I don’t feel, think, act, or react in ways that she likes when it comes to my friendship with her.

I thought about this a lot and very seriously.  I am fully aware that I don’t follow normal rules of behaviour, especially when it comes to interpersonal relationships, and I also know there are, (at least), a couple of reasons for this.

Something happened to me deep in my early childhood, so far back that I don’t know exactly what happened to me when I was maybe 3 years old.  But whatever happened had a very profound effect on me, sufficient to change my personality for my whole life.  It’s complicated, but various mental-health types have said a couple of things; #1 I don’t have bipolar disorder, and #2 I may have had borderline personality disorder, but if I had I’ve recovered.  Well, that’s helpful….. or not. The practical upshot of whatever happened when I was a young child is that I will not willingly accept advice, criticism, or chastisement.  So what?  That just puts me in line with 99% of the rest of the crazy people on this planet.

The second reason I don’t follow normal rules of behaviour is because I’m better than that. I’m enlightened, truthful, open, ethical, grounded, and fucking smart.  And to be honest, with the exception of the people who follow me on this blog, that makes me a better man than anyone any of us is likely to meet in an average day.

So, I thought about this very carefully when it came to finding a therapist / counsellor / spiritual adviser….. and decided that wasn’t going to happen.

I’ve spent the greater part of the past 2, 3, or maybe 4 years trying to walk the warrior’s path.  Trying to find out who I am, who I was, and who I wish to be.  And now, after years of effort, I’m finally beginning to see some light.

It may just be a candle in a hurricane of hellish darkness, but that small light is me.

The little boy may have become a broken man, with a broken spirit and broken dreams, but today I can hold on and today I’m feeling strong.  I know who I am, and I’m not a shadow or the man in the mirror anymore.

No over-qualified, well-intentioned, mental health wazzock is going to be given my permission to dip their dirty fingers into my soul.  There is no chance of me attending therapy / counselling / psychotherapy.  Not now, not next year, not ever.

It turns out that I know who I am, and I like who I am.  And, those that don’t can fuck off.  Don’t let the door hit you on the way out, and please don’t keep in touch.

Some say that humility is the true key to success.  And, that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.  All I know is that I’ve tried humility and therapy, and all I got was insanity.

I have a new plan of action concerning my supposed need for counselling.  I am happy to take no action whatsoever.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Marmaduke is as sick of misplaced and unwanted advice as I am.

Food on Friday ~ Vegetables and Salads

Cooking and eating outdoors, in the open air, is far more relaxed and mindful than exactly the same meal prepared and eaten indoors.

It really is high summer, a time for long evenings, barbecues, and alfresco dining.  Chill the wine and the beer, and prepare to be relaxed and happy.  This week we are going to concentrate on salads and vegetables to go along with whatever meat or fish you have on the grill.  Unless you’re vegetarian or vegan, or just like vegetables, in which case a lot of these recipes will make a complete meal for you.

Personally, I just love salads.

From San Diego cook Averie Sunshine we have this dish of grilled vegetables with smoky honey mustard dipping sauce ~ looks fabulous.  Averie says this recipe is easy ~ ready in 5 minutes ~ healthy and there’s zero cleanup. Grilling vegetables is so very good.

Grilled Vegetables with Smoky Honey Mustard Dipping Sauce

The Bojon Gourmet has a very elegant looking dish, a summer vegan green goddess salad ~ avocado, crispy lettuce, tomatoes, cucumber, seeds and a cashew herb dressing.  I think this salad looks interesting, different, tasty, and refreshing. I also think that most of us could add our own little interesting twist to this recipe.

Summer Vegan Green Goddess Salad

The cool and together Jessica at How Sweet Eats has published a recipe for a 20 minute Thai avocado salad, and you have to admit this looks fantastic, filled with taste and texture.  I guess it’s 20 minutes if you can use a chef’s knife.

20 Minute Thai Avocado Salad

Elise Bauer at Simply Recipes has found for us this dish by Summer Miller; lentil salad with summer vegetables.  This should take you 35 minutes to make, and is a brilliant side dish, or as a light lunch.  Make a lot and take some to work the following day.

Lentil Salad with Summer Vegetables

Heather Christo has a different kind of recipe for a warm summer afternoon, this tomato peach and avocado salad with cilantro vinaigrette.  Heather says that this is a beautifully simple 30 minute salad that will totally blow your socks off.  I tend to agree. Nice to take to work for lunch too.

Tomato Peach and Avocado Salad with Cilantro Vinaigrette

I very much like the recipes from Cookie + Kate, and this one is no exception.  Anyway, what’s not to like about colourful strawberry arugula salad with balsamic vinaigrette?

Colourful Strawberry Arugula Salad with Balsamic Vinaigrette.

Lastly for this week, from Chungah at Damn Delicious we have 15 quick and easy vegetable side dishes.  This cool collection includes this 25 minute recipe for baked Parmesan mushrooms ~ I love baked mushrooms.  Actually I often like side dishes and appetisers better than the entrée.

Baked Parmesan Mushrooms

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Marmaduke also likes salads

Inspired and Motivated

Life has many ways of testing a man’s will and inner strength.

Yesterday I joined a different gym here in my little seaside town.  I had not been regularly using the ‘old gym’, and they had increased their prices.  Often the walk there, around the marina, was so interesting and distracting that I never made the gym at all.

I’m pretty surprised that I just went ahead and joined a new gym, without hesitation, procrastination, or much thinking about it.  But then, since my recent vacation in Turkey, I’m a changed man.  In Turkey I had a bit of an epiphany.

I know that I’m now venturing on yet another important evolutionary step on the warrior’s path to discover what I am truly capable of, and I have come to know that I have an immense inner strength.  Part of my journey along the warrior’s path is knowing what this inner strength and power is, and how I can use it, for the greater good, in my daily existence.

You have power over your mind ~ not outside events.  Realise this, and you will find strength.  ~  Marcus Aurelius

My goal is to unearth and understand this power and strength from the depths of my subconscious mind, my heart, and my soul.  I have something to say and I need to learn how to say it.  Perhaps I need to break away from traditional approaches and practices and accept that I am now a unique individual that deserves to receive more recognition and respect for who I have worked so hard to become.

As I was taking my leave from the new friends I had made on vacation, a very together lady said to me that; ‘You are a very different kind of man from most…..’  She said that and more in a very caring way.

However, right now I still do not feel as fully in charge of my own destiny as I could be.  I know that I need a clearer vision of what lies ahead of me.  I need to work towards more balance, acceptance, understanding.  I need courage.  I need to use my new-found self-awareness, self-confidence, inspiration and motivation.  And, I need to eliminate negative energies and negative people from my life.

I know, trust, and believe that I am capable of forging my own path, that I have a manifest destiny to reach, a destiny that is not intended for anyone else, at least for no one who cannot share my vision, needs, wants, dreams, and desires.

It is time to explore my dreams and to experiment with the strength and power I suddenly possess.  I need to become connected with who I really am, and I need to better connect with those I care for.  I want and need to become the real Renaissance Man that some have thought I have always been.  Until now I believe that I have always fallen short of that ideal.

Some say that we take for granted those things that are most deserving of our attention.  And, that most people never show up for their Appointment with Life.  All I know is that Real Life is what happens to you while you are busy making pointless plans.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Marmaduke likes to sunbathe on one of the historic ships moored in the marina

 

You’d think a man would know…

’tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all  ~  Alfred Lord Tennyson

There seems to be a problem with a relationship I’m having with a woman who is very important to me.

In the end it has come down to those two perennial issues; money and sex.

But, this relationship was always about just how much money I was prepared to spend ~ and just how little I was prepared to accept in return.  Now it’s about a $25,000 car…..

You’d think a mature man such as I would have seen this from the start ~ truth be told I did, but perhaps I just wasn’t prepared to accept the painful reality it.

You Think A Man Would Know

Perhaps things will turn out well after all.

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jack collier

jackcollier@talktalk.net

 

or maybe Marmaduke and I will hit the road again

Being Mindful and Forgiving

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the lunatic prisoner was you.  ~  Louis B. Smedes.

There has never been much forgiveness in my life, and mostly I have been very unforgiving of myself.  I expect to cope, whatever happens, and be a high achiever.  At times I can act like a lunatic.

This has led me into a very disruptive pattern in my life.  A pattern which others can often recognise better than I can.  These words of advice were sent to me a couple of days ago, by a very good friend.  This is how she describes my life.

  1. High on Life …… very optimistic….. on top of the world.
  2. Sexual buzz is strong.
  3. I forget all the things that were said when I tried to confront past problems and issues
  4. Minor irritation sets in when I don’t feel appreciated.  I become resentful and mistrustful.
  5. I start looking for the hidden dark meaning in things said, or not said.  Become more distrustful, and often angry ~ often very angry with myself.
  6. Get totally pissed-off when feelings, emotions, and thoughts that have no basis in truth fill my mind.  Start to apply twisted logic to situations and conversations.
  7. Voices in my mind tell me to escape, say ‘Fuck It All’, and then I will have a drink or 10.
  8. Go missing from the world for days at a time, during which something very bad will happen.

That’s been the pattern of my life for a very long time.  I need to recognise it, and cut it off at the neck when the darker, depressive thoughts begin.

I agree with my friend that I need to try to live with inner peace, mindfulness, and serenity.

Escaping into booze is no solution.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Marmaduke lives very peacefully

Marmaduke

Everything in Life I share with her,
except of course my teddy bear.

He’s my best friend ~ apart from a girl.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Food on Friday ~ Mother’s Day

All that I am I owe to my mother…….

This Sunday is Mother’s Day in the USA, so I guess today’s recipes have a slightly ‘Mothering Sunday feel’ about them ~ maybe.

Mother’s Day in America goes back to the 19th Century, and it’s always had a  commercial angle to it ~ the early Mother’s Days n the USA were backed by Wannemaker’s Retail stores.  And here I thought Mother’s Day was the invention of Hallmark.

Bur remember, these recipes and recipe collections aren’t just for Mother’s Day, they’re great for any day of the year.

I can cook, but for some reason I can’t bake, (I blame my single-guy oven).  But it might be nice to bake a cake for Mother’s Day, and Averie Sunshine has this recipe for the best pineapple upside down cake.  OK, it may take you an hour and a half to make, but doesn’t it look worth it!

The Best Pineapple Upside Down Cake

Most mothers like to use up leftovers, so here’s a Korean based recipe from Andrea at Cooking with a Wallflower to use up leftover rice; mushroom kimchi fried rice.  This great dish should take you only about 30 minutes to make.

Mushroom Kimchi Fried Rice

Tieghan Gerard at Half Baked Harvest has a very special, very easy, and mess free recipe for parchment baked lemon salmon and potatoes with dill yogurt, that would be great for a busy mother, or a busy anyone if it comes right down to it.  This great looking dish will be ready in just 30 minutes.

Parchment Baked Lemon Salmon and Potatoes with Dill Yogurt

From Elise Bauer at Simply Recipes we have 10 best recipes for Mother’s Day brunch.  From this collection I especially like the look of this smoked salmon potato leek torta.  Fabulous!

Smoked Salmon Potato Leek Torta

Chungah Rhee at Damn Delicious has 10 quick and easy baked chicken recipes for us ~ whatever you’re doing this Mother’s Day, you don’t want to be spending all of it in the kitchen.  From this collection I particularly like the look of this oven fried chicken with honey mustard glaze.

Oven Fried Chicken with Honey Mustard Glaze

And now, celebrating whole foods, Cookie + kate have a bumper collection of 25 cheerful Mother’s Day recipes (plus last minute gifts), Nifty!  There are so many fabulous dishes in this collection, but I especially like the spinach pasta with roasted broccoli & bell pepper.  This is vegetarian, and very easily vegan and gluten free.  Cool!

Spinach Pasta with Roasted Broccoli & Bell Pepper

And finally for this week’s food on Friday, and with Mother’s Day coming up, let’s look at this collection of cocktails made from ‘Mother’s Ruin’ ~ gin.  (If you don’t call gin mother’s ruin in your country ~ well maybe it’s a very English expression).  So from Olive Magazine we have the best gin cocktail recipes.  I have a friend who doesn’t necessarily like gin, but she may like this very pretty gentian white lady cocktail ~ the pansies look so cool.

Gentian White Lady Cocktail

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

this picture is specially chosen by my teddy bear, Marmaduke, for his mommy this Mother’s Day

you don’t have to be alone

Life is out there waiting for you, so show up.

empowering

better, smarter, stronger

collaborate, persevere, longer

wanting, needing, dreaming, deeper

close friend, partner, motivator, supporter

purpose, planning, decisions, actions, deliver

balance, harmony, confidence, calm, peace, living

so lonely and alone no longer

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jack collier

email:   jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

just a solitary traveller, meditating

Vacation Time

It’s very nice to be able to afford to go travelling.

I’m just about ready and prepared for my next long vacation, which starts on this coming Thursday.

Today I booked a car to collect me at the garret, for 06:00 on Thursday March 15th, as my flight leaves from Newcastle upon Tyne airport at 09:30.  I then have layovers in London Heathrow, and San Jose International in Santa Clara County, before I eventually arrive at John Wayne airport in Orange County California at 20.32.

I’m renting a Toyota Rav4 at John Wayne, and then I have a shortish drive, so I expect to get to get to my accommodation sometime around 22:00.

If you add in the 8 hour time difference between England and California, that makes the journey exactly 24 hours.  Why does air travel always take so long?  Even if everything goes to plan?

Poor Marmaduke isn’t coming along on this trip ~ because when I looked at the layovers I decided I’d just take one carry-on bag.

Poor Marmaduke has been in tears since he found out.

I expect to be back in the garret on Wednesday April 18th ~ after another 24 hours of travelling.

I will be in touch while I’m away.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Hole in the Ground

Don’t dig there, dig it elsewhere.

Life is fairly tedious here in the garret today.   I still have a head cold and nasty cough, so I’m feeling pretty miserable.

The weather is miserable too.  Things are supposed to be brightening up, but it’s snowing again, so I don’t much feel like taking a walk today.  Anyway, getting in and of the building means negotiating an obstacle course.  Talk about urban survival skills.

There are a bunch of blokes digging up the footpath right outside my ‘personal’ door.  And, they don’t just make a lot of noise and mess, they dig through telephone cables, broadband cables, water mains, sewage pipes….  eewwww.

Anyhow, I can’t go anywhere because I have no idea where my wallet has got too since I bought a friend a couple of pairs of spectacles on Monday.  No money and no cards.  I need to sort that out today.

On the bright front, I have water again.  Living without water doesn’t just mean no tea, it also means no laundry, and no bathroom.  eewwww again.

And I have phone and internet, so life isn’t all bad.

And Marmaduke gives me a hug at night.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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