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Ethics, Manners, and Morals

love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies

Everybody lies.  Everybody lies all the time.  Everybody lies to oil the wheels of business, friendship, politics, relationships, and society in general.  If everyone told the brutal truth all the time then this world would be filled with aggression, discord, mistrust, and violence ~ and that’s just about the state of the world anyway.  In most relationships, if both partners were absolutely truthful all of the time, then most relationships would last for about a New York second.

Most lies in most relationships are lies of omission, it’s sometimes impolite to tell our partner the complete truth.  Many would not say that their partner’s brother disgusts them, or that they go to the bar on the way home from work because coming home is the last thing they want to do at the end of a busy day.  Hardly anyone would say that they had sex with someone they picked up in that bar, and they don’t even know his / her name.  The first of those lies of omission is perhaps acceptable, for a while.  The last of those lies is immoral and unethical.

Sometimes lies are created by we what we believe are good manners.  We might say that our wife / husband looks nice, when in fact they look like a slut / skank / bum.  If you think about it that kind of a lie is actually very cruel.  Another unthinking lie is when we tell someone that we love them, and in reality we don’t much care for them at all, we only talk about love to get what we want from them ~ usually either money or sex.

Lies are perhaps the least of the unethical, ill-mannered, and immoral things that people do.  Begin with things such as alcoholism, casual sex, drug abuse, gambling, gaslighting, promiscuity, road-rage, stalking, stealing…..  All of those hurt someone, not least the person doing those immoral and unethical things.  You may think that being an alcoholic or a drug user, or promiscuous, or whatever is an illness and the unfortunate is not to blame.  Let me tell you that this is untrue, no matter what alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, or whatever anonymous may say.

And I know, because I have been there.  Everyone has an ethical and moral duty to be the best version of themselves they can possibly be, and if you drink, take drugs, fuck around you are debasing yourself and need to find help and treatment.  Nobody is ever going to think you are smart or clever for doing those things.  And afterwards, you will lie about it for the rest of your miserable dishonest life.

If you want to be a better person, then the place to begin is with good manners.  Respect yourself, respect others, and respect the world around you.  And, if you don’t know what having good manners really means, then maybe it’s time to learn.

Some say that they wouldn’t trust their partner out of their sight for a second.  And that they are sick of being ignored / talked over / abused.  All I know is that if I can turn my life around, anyone can.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

picking up young guys for sex is pushing morality a bit

Gentleman or Slob? Lady or Skank?

Manners Maketh the Man, (and Woman).

b5tr9uvigaaduqgWith Christmas festivities in full swing, some of us are going to have to go out and about to meet a lot of people we don’t normally mix with.  This is not always a pleasure.  Not everyone we meet is civilised and well mannered.  There are some real animals out there.

A mature Englishman is allowed to have an opinion of what constitutes civilised behaviour, and what marks people out as heading in the general direction of the low IQ knuckle-draggers and sleazy slatterns.  I will admit to having some pet hates, and that my opinions and tastes are a trifle old-fashioned, preppy, conventional, proper, and, well, English.  However, some of the douchebags out there could do with some good, old-fashioned, English manners.

Among the things that I really hate to see and be near are;

  • People walking along the street, or in the mall, who aren’t looking where they’re going, usually because they’re engrossed in their smart phone / cell.  These idiots are a danger to themselves and others.  These same people probably browse social media while they’re driving.
  • ‘Friends’ sitting together and looking at their smart-phone / cell / tablet rather than engaging in some intelligent and lively conversation.  That’s just about as ill-mannered as it gets.
  • People who smoke without asking if it’s OK with everyone else present.  Thank you, I don’t want your disgusting and unhealthy habit in my personal space.
  • Smokers who throw their cigarette butts onto the street / out of the car window / into a potted plant / into their coffee cup.
  • People who drop litter in the street when there is a litter-bin, (trash can), just feet / yards away.  How stupid and lazy is that?
  • Dog owners who don’t clean up the disgusting mess their pooch makes.  Oh, and dog owners who assume that everyone will just love their nasty animal.  As it goes, I’m a cat person anyway.
  • Parents who don’t control their screaming, badly behaved children in stores / restaurants / on public transport / in airports….
  • Opinionated people who not only assume that you are remotely interested in their political views, but that you also agree with them.  Three things a polite Englishman will never willingly discuss; politics, money, and women.
  • Slobs who drink beer straight out of the bottle.  Have you any idea where beer bottles are stored and how many cockroaches / mice / rats have scuttled across those bottles?  For goodness sake, have some style and get a glass.
  • People who eat with their mouth open while they are walking along the street / around the mall / waiting in queues.  That is gross.
  • And then there are those people who will tell all and sundry about their unpleasant medical problem.  To be honest, I don’t want to know about flatulence, hemorrhoids, varicose veins, or any other issue that anyone has with their body.  Please keep these things between you and your doctor.

The type of scuzzy people who do some or all of the ill-mannered things above have one thing in common above all else, (apart from the fact that they are irredeemably common).  These people care nothing for anyone else’s finer feelings, and very little for themselves.

The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any.  ~  Fred Astaire

Good manners cost nothing.  I firmly believe that before you can truly respect yourself you have to respect others too.  If you want to be a slob, skank, slut… then please do it in the privacy of your own home, rather than inflicting yourself upon decent people.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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