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Planter

The glory of gardening is having your hands in the dirt and your head in the sun.

I built a planter for my friend in California.

I hope that it gives her many years of pleasure.

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

there’s a handful of dirt from Red Rock country in there

I hope it gives her many years of pleasure

Questions and Answers

If you don’t want the answer, then don’t ask the question.

you will never find the answer at the bottom of a glass

There are always more questions than answers, and each new answer raises more, and more difficult questions.  Sometimes we don’t want to hear the answer that we get.  Sometimes we shouldn’t have asked the question in the first place.  And, sometimes the answer we get isn’t the truth.

Life is as simple as these three questions:  What do I want?  Why do I want it?  And, how will I achieve it. ~  Shannon L. Adler

All of those simple questions are very difficult to answer, because either we don’t really know what we want, or if we actually get what we think we wanted, then we realise that we didn’t truly want it at all.  More often than not this is the great truth of Love.

The two great questions of love are in the simple phrase; ‘She loves me ~ She loves me not…..’  As if plucking petals from a daisy could possibly answer the question of if she loves you or not.  One may as well resolve one’s doubts by tossing a coin and saying; ‘heads I dump her, tails I stay with her.’  Actually, tossing a coin and asking that question does work ~ because while the coin is in the air we will decide which way we truly want the coin to fall.

Being something of a mechanic when it comes to games of chance, that tossing of a coin to get an answer doesn’t truly work for me.  I can make a coin fall whichever way I like.  I cheat, which isn’t truly getting an answer.  My doubts about interpersonal relationships, sex, desire, and love can never be resolved by random chance.

All people have doubts, mostly everyone has the same doubts, and more often than not these doubts are troubling.  Often these doubts are created in our own minds because we make assumptions based on incomplete evidence, and we take these assumptions very personally.  If we stubbornly wish to be unhappy we look for evidence to prove our worst assumptions, and if we can’t find the evidence and answers to back up our assumptions, then we just create negative answers in our own mind.

My own personal doubts are created because I have an almost perfect memory, so anything anyone says to me stays in my mind, and I can build cloud castles of negative answers based on a single phrase said in passing.

Some say that if we don’t want to know the answer then we shouldn’t ask the question.  And that every answer creates more, and more difficult questions.  All I know is that we only ask questions when we think we already know the answers.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

booze is never the answer

but it will make you forget the question

Why Does Love Make Us Stupid?

Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength.  ~  Freud

Love’s Long Lonely Road to Nowhere

We are never so vulnerable as when we believe that we are in love.  We never suffer so much torment and pain as when we believe that we love someone.   We are never as confused and uncertain as when our love seems to be unrequited.  And, for many of us, we never do so much stupid and irrational stuff as when we are in love ~ or when we believe that we are in love, (which isn’t quite the same thing as true love at all).

Sigmund Freud built a whole series of complex psychoanalitical theories around the whole gamut of interpersonal relationships, from the Oedipus and Electra complexes to the idea of us all having an Id, Ego, and Superego.  If you wish you could try to make sense of your feelings by reading lots of Freud and his modern counterparts such as M. Scott Peck, but I wouldn’t bother.  The more you know the less sense it’s going to make.

Chances are that much of what Freud says is right, and also that some of it is utterly wrong.  However, I firmly believe that when Freud says that our interpersonal actions and reactions come from our subconscious mind he is absolutely correct.  And, especially so when our emotions and hormones are in control, such as when lust, desire, and love are in the frame.  That is when we are likely to think, feel, believe, and do some very stupid and irrational stuff ~ and when we are most likely to think, feel, believe, and do things that are completely opposite to anything that might make sense in the real world.

This is all down to the primitive defence mechanisms inherent in our body, mind, emotions, feelings…..  These defence mechanism include denial, repression, sublimation, and projection, and taken together these defence mechanisms make us believe things that either aren’t true, or never happened, or don’t matter anyway.  We unconsciously lie to ourselves, and that makes us lie to others, and that makes us often do the complete opposite of anything that makes sense.

How many times have I desired, cared for, loved someone…… and instead of cherishing them have done everything I could to push that person away from me?  And, how many times have you done that too?  If you have even the slightest tough of Borderline Personality Disorder, then the answer is; all the time.

Some say that they are in love, when it’s actually lust and desire.  And that love and hate are but two sides of the same coin.  All I know is that you can’t love anyone unless you first love yourself.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

booze, drugs, cigarettes, and casual sex never solve anything

Dissilusionment Defined

What becomes of the broken-hearted man.

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land of confusion

desire’s lost illusions

an inevitable conclusion

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

hit the road Jack,

and don’t look back

Times Like This

if there’s something I can’t do for you

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dispair’s stygian midnight darkness

the lost  bloom of rose’s red dark abyss

my spirit told me there’d be times like this

my dreams told me there’d be days like these

and my heart warned me there’d be love like this

but nothing told me that there could be hurt like this

ending this painful bliss with our one last farewell kiss

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

just some far away blue horizon.

Embracing Bliss

follow your bliss and the cosmos will open doors where there were only walls

The view from my hotel balcony

Over the weekend, and for the next few days I will be attending a conference ~ retreat called Embracing Bliss in Sedona AZ.  It’s spiritual / self-improvement, and I’m expecting great things as far as balancing my life is concerned.

Sadly this means that I won’t be online as much as usual.  But normal service will be resumed as soon as possible.

Take care in the meantime.

 

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Sedona is a beautiful town, and this is a cool hotel

Here’s looking at you

The art of seduction is knowing what she really wants.

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I don’t belong here

I can’t get near her

loved her for years

and there is no cure

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

It’s the same old story,

a fight for love and glory.

 

 

Scenes on Sunday ~ Beaches

The sea rewards those men who have love in their heart.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Marmaduke likes the beach too

Songs on Saturday ~ Bruno Mars

A strong woman builds her own world, for she is amazing.

This is a cool song from a cool-looking young guy.

The lyrics remind me of a woman I know.

Please listen responsibly.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a very amazingly undressed woman

they’re coloured mirrors

The Long Goodbye

I try not to miss her, but in the end I still do.

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in the early morning hail

big 747 on the stand

I got your letter in the mail

now it’s crumpled in my hand

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

trains, planes, and automobiles

all long goodbyes

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