Tag Archives: love

Negative, Cynical, and Critical

it takes courage to be positive and happy when you’re hurting

sometimes we all need a little quiet contemplation

Reading back through my blog I’ve realised that so many of my posts are negative, critical of others, and quite cynical.  My only excuse is that in recent years my heart has been hurting and my head has been confused.  There is no cure for that unless one wants to change.  You can’t stop being negative until you realise that there is another way of looking at life.

Well, there is going to be no more of that.  It’s way past time that I looked on the bright side of life.

The world is a wonderful place, filled with dreamy clouds and blue skies if you have the will to search for them.  Most people are good, interesting, and kind; and if you come across the other sort, someone truly toxic, then walk away from them, and don’t look back.

Be crazy, be weird, be stupid, be creative, be whatever ~ life is to short to be anything but happy.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk,net

I’ll get by with a little help from my friend.

 

Marmaduke is always happy

 

Monochrome Monday ~ Cougars

some women, like some wines, age very well

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

mature women can be daring

in a a very elegant way

Music ~ Lorena McKennitt

music can free your soul from the dungeon of your mind

Quite a few of my friends aren’t doing so well right now.  If it comes to that, neither England nor America are doing well ~ both our nations are in the doldrums and suffering deeply.  Perhaps this healing music from Lorena McKennitt can sooth all our troubled souls and hurting bodies.

Please listen peacefully, and know that someone cares deeply about you.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the ocean is mystical

I hope it will soothe your soul

sad sweet goodbye

you never lose someone you have truly loved

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let the rains fall

and wash away her tears

let me be strong

and take away her fears

let me be kind enough

to wish her well

now she loves another

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

walking away from everything

What Turns You On?

real love is confidence, acceptance, and understanding

what women want

You will not be surprised to learn that I still have no real idea what women want, other than security and steadfastness.  I sort-of know that women want, need, and desire things like trust, respect, acceptance, understanding, and somebody with enough money to look after them.  And that some people have kinks that we wouldn’t want to imagine.  But, what do women really want?

So, obviously I checked a website, and came up with dross.  It seems that women want, need, and desire; confidence, trustworthiness, integrity, compassion, emotional honesty, respect, and a sense of humour.  Jeez, the woman who wrote that must have been dating the slob next door lookalikes or guys in their twenties.  Apart from the emotional honesty thing.

Almost no men are emotionally honest, not even with themselves.  Asking for emotional honesty from a man is like asking for him to hold a conversation and walk up a flight of stairs at one in the same time.

I checked some other sites and the women writing them came up with things like;  vulnerability, stability, equality, awareness, emotional presence, interestedness, protectiveness, acceptance, and assertiveness.  Some slightly iffy and slightly contradictory stuff there.

I’m a man, and from bitter experience I will tell you exactly what women want when it comes to men.

  • Looks, Presence, Physicality, Command Ability.  In general women do not get turned on by a Forrest Gump played by a Danny Devito type, but they do get turned on by Bond played by Connery.  A big dick helps.
  • Money.  I don’t give a shit what any woman says, while some woman might fuck a hot-looking pauper, it’s not what they really want need and desire.  They want a man who pays for dinner, sends flowers, dresses nicely, has a cool car, and can afford to take them on expensive vacations.
  • Power.  Power is the greatest aphrodisiac there is, according to Plato.  Why else would any woman sleep with some notable politicians?
  • Intellect.  Unless she is a bimbo, women want a man who can hold a conversation, knows where Canada is, and can discuss anything, anytime, with anybody.
  • Talent.  Women do not like talent-less men, and whatever talent he has better be masculine.  Not many women are turned-on by a guy who is good at quilting.  Women prefer men who can fix their car at two in the morning, in the pouring rain.
  • Listening.  Women like to talk, and they prefer it when the man they are dating actually listens instead of constantly talking over them or being bored.  Listening to a woman, any woman, is a learned skill for men.
  • Steadfastness.  Women like men who are there for them 24/7 365, no matter what.

Of course this is based on an unscientific straw-poll, and the answers depended on how much the women I polled had to drink.  And, there is more, and not all women are the same, and some men have hidden depths.  But I know, from being able to listen, that a woman who lets go a man who ticks all the boxes I’ve listed above regrets it forever.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

looks and being able to ride a motorcycle are enough for one woman I’ve known

Is This Country?

an English Gentleman is someone who doesn’t know how to play the banjo

I have a friend who drove across country to the Ozarks last weekend.  Even with my extensive and eclectic knowledge of geography I have only the vaguest knowledge of where the Ozarks are, let alone WTF you get when you arrive.  I have the vaguest suspicion that it’s the kind of area where brothers and sisters date and cousins get married.  If you tell me so I will accept that I’m utterly wrong.  But and here’s the thing, is that where this kind of music comes from?  And, is this country?

The Staggerwing was fabulous, but a Vincent is a legend.

Please listen knowledgeably.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk

better looking than some

sexier than most

Unwise Friendships

true friends always bring out the best in you
and will always stand by you

beware of women drinking beer in bars

The people I have become ‘friends’ with in the past have had both positive and negative effects on my life.  My friends have improved me and brought me down.  I have spent too much time with toxic people and some of their habits have rubbed off on me.  Things that should have been utterly acceptable to me became almost acceptable for a time.  Of course the ideal is for my friends to bring out the best in me, to help me to grow, to stand by me in times of trouble ~ that hasn’t always happened.  In fact sometimes it has been the reverse.

In life you will realise there is a purpose in everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you.  But most importantly…..  some will bring out the best in you.  ~  C.S. Lewis

Just recently I have come to accept that a supposedly very close friend used me badly, and brought out the very worst in me.

I actually believe that everyone we meet, we meet for a reason.  Sadly, at the time, we seldom know the reasons.  Just because I met someone didn’t and shouldn’t have meant that she became and stayed my friend.  Perhaps I should be more ready and willing to lose friends and acquaintances who repeatedly caused me pain and distress, took up a great deal of my time and money, offering me little in return.

I do not have to justify why I am moving away from toxic and uncaring friends.  I am and was willing to share my concerns and worries with them, but I should never expect anyone to change on my behalf.  People are often blind to their own weaknesses and faults, may refuse to accept that they can be in the wrong, and blame me when the friendship got into rocky waters and sank.

Being utterly honest with those around me is important.

It is sad when friendships break up due to time, circumstances, and different wants, needs, and desires.  But it’s inevitable that some friendships and love affairs fail.  Often it was those sad times that showed me who my true friends are.

Those true and real friendships are the ones I should treasure.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

some people have caused me pain

and I have been guilty too

 

 

her eyes spoke to his soul

behind her beautiful eyes lay secrets darker and deeper than the sea

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it took me years to realise

that much to my surprise

I could find paradise in her eyes

 

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

her beautiful blue eyes enraptured his heart

Random Jottings ~ Vampyres

loving a vampire usually ends quite badly

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never kiss a vampire in the pale moonlight

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when vampires go flying and bats are seen

the moon laughs and whispers

’tis near Halloween

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she told me it was love at first bite

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vampires embrace the moonlight shadows

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‘I have a bloodthirsty mind, and you’re on it Darling’

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loving a vampire ~ a short life full of draining incidents

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every good vampyre deserves a chance to bite a virgin’s neck

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she’s the only vampire I know who takes her phone into her coffin

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

oral sex with a vampire is interesting

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Rod Stewart

when you’re really hurting a Mowtown Song can sometimes help a little

I like this track, but I’ve never seen this video before.  I think it’s cool and fun.  I hope you do to.

Something about this music resonates with the big-city-dweller in me.

Please listen carefully.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I’ve always liked the flatiron building

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