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Liar, Liar

Never lie, never cheat, never steal.

Everybody lies.

Mostly that doesn’t matter one little bit.  Deep down we know when we are being lied to and we act accordingly.  Little lies are what makes the world go around.  Little lies are the lubrication in relationships.  Little lies are what keeps us sane.

I firmly believe that lying is wrong, but I also believe that, in the big scheme of things, little lies may not matter so much.

Big dark lies are destructive, damaging, and dangerous.

Big Lies Matter.

But everybody lies, and that matters when the liars are scientists, doctors, bankers, lawyers, judges, charities, the police, the military, the security services, politicians, prime ministers, and presidents.  Big dark lies by the ‘Fat Cats’, and ‘Important People’ ruin lives, affect interest rates, cause financial crashes, get people hurt, and start wars.

This is a nation that has lost the ability to be self-critical, and that makes a lie out of the freedoms.  ~  Joni Mitchell

Big dark lies reported in just one newspaper today, (Tuesday April 11th 2017), involve airlinesbankers, more bankers, politicians, more politicians and generals, presidents… And now, we are but a short step and a few lies from WWIII.  Take your choice of the spark that starts WWIII, the Middle East, or North Korea?

Clinton lied.  A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is.  ~  Barbara Bush

You would really think that a President would follow the example of George Washington and be unable to tell a lie.

Big dark lies by the people you care for ruin relationships, imperil your health, imperil your mental health, cost you a fortune, and lead to nasty things like alcoholism, drug addiction, infidelity, domestic violence…  A big dark lie by someone you love can kill you.  And, thinking your loved one will ever change and stop lying to you is nothing but wishful thinking.

Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.  ~  Patti Callahan Henry

If you catch someone out in a lie, what can you do about it?  Almost nothing.

The chances are that if you have caught someone telling a big dark lie it’s because you’ve been investigating them, for example by following their twitter feed, hacking their emails, listening in on their conversations….  and do you want to admit to that?  Spying on liars is almost as bad as lying ~ almost.

The only thing you can do about being lied to is know that you are dealing with a liar, and take everything they say with a very large pinch of salt.  In other words, when you know someone is a liar, believe nothing they say until you have got yourself some independent proof.  All lies, and all liars, get found out eventually.

Besides, leopards never change their spots, and liars don’t ever stop lying.  Catch a liar in a lie and they’ll just strive to become better liars in future.

Lying is addictive.  And, once a liar, always a liar.

Some liars are so expert they deceive themselves.  ~  Austin O’Malley

But you know what?  Once you stop believing the lie, it loses all power over you.  Once you know someone is a liar, everything they say is just pointless noise.

I’m sorry, what language are you speaking?  It sounds like bullshit.

Have a nice day.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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Money ~ Responsibility and Self-Reliance

A Fool And His Money Are Soon Parted

?????????????????????In 2001, an ordinary man called Paul Walton had a small pension fund.  Paul listened to a financial adviser salesman from one of Britain’s top wealth management companies, St. James’s Place, and entrusted them with his money.  Lo and behold, 15 years later, when Paul checked on his pension it hadn’t grown into a nice nest egg ~ it had all vanished.  St James’s Place had taken so much in fees and charges that there was nothing at all left of Paul’s pension, in fact Paul owed £37.32 ($60) in unpaid fees.  George Bailey would be horrified.

People often ask me how to make the most of their money, thinking I’ll give them advice on savings accounts, or the stock market, or property investments…  Usually there isn’t much point in that.  What most people really need is sage advice on how to stop throwing their money down the drain.  Most people don’t need more money, what most people need to do is stop wasting the money they’ve got, each and every single day of the year.

No one’s ever achieved financial fitness with a January resolution that’s abandoned by February.  ~  Suze Orman

Paul threw his money away because he didn’t take responsibility for his own financial well-being.  Practically nobody I know is willing to really take full responsibility for their finances, or anything else in their lives if it comes right down to it.  And, it isn’t rocket science, your grandmother knew all the right stuff.

The more you are willing to depend on your own ability to think and act, the less you will rely on experts, consultants, doctors, contractors, and advisers salesmen.  These days everyone has a vast library of knowledge at their fingertips, it’s called the internet.

For example;

  • Formulate your own ideas for a sound retirement plan before speaking to a financial consultant, and do not take their word as Holy Writ ~ they may will have more of an eye on their own commission, fees, and bonuses than they do on your financial future.
  • If you have a really bad headache, make a list of the possible and probable causes of your headaches, and then visit your doctor.
  • Workp1020966 out exactly how much the used car you’re thinking of buying is actually worth, what’s likely to be wrong with it, how much that will cost to repair, and how much it’s going to cost to run ~ and only then visit the lot and speak to a used car salesman.  Some all car salesmen will not tell you anything like the whole truth, and they will rip you off, especially if you are a woman.
  • If you’re thinking of moving home, fully research the market, property values, taxes, location, crime rates, amenities, how long it will take you to get to work, & etc., before ever speaking to an estate agent / realtor.  Realtors are mostly interested in selling property, not whether the home they’re talking up is a good place for you to live.
  • If you have to employ a contractor, never leave them alone in your home, or you may come back and find it’s flooded.  Never employ a contractor without getting, at least, a couple of quotes and personal references.
  • When you need a loan, thoroughly prepare before you talk with your bank.  Work out exactly how much you really need, what a reasonable rate of interest would be, how much you can afford to repay each month, (and if you can save that amount for a few months before you ask for the loan, so much the better).

Practically everyone, (including me in the past), throws thousands of $ £ € away every year just because they are irresponsible, lazy, intimidated by ‘professionals’, trusting, naive, weak, and overly dependent on others.  Too many people take the first offer instead of looking the gift horse in the mouth.  Too many people think the answer is in programmes, courses, workshops, seminars, and motivational speakers/ authors.  It isn’t.

Workshops and seminars are basically financial speed dating for clueless people.  ~  Douglas Coupland

If you want to have more money for the good things in life, do yourself a favour, and do the hard work up front, during, and after you make a deal.  Whatever happens, it’s always your responsibility.

Financial freedom is available to those who learn about it and then work for it.  ~  Robert Kiyosaki

Don’t trust anyone because everybody lies, and never, ever, pay anyone for advice, financial or otherwise.  If you want to have more ready cash, take responsibility and stop throwing good money after bad.

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Wall Streetthese views are mine and mine alone.

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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dedication to the truth

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Truth, Honour, Honesty ~ In the future I shall live according to these precepts, they are my stairway to serenity and spirituality.

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.  ~  Buddah

  • do not lie to myself ~ face up to the facts
  • do not run away from unpleasant truths and negative feelings
  • do not set out to deceive
  • seek out the truth and the whole truth
  • know the whole truth, do not make assumptions or interpretations
  • speak and write the truth
  • but, do not always tell all of the truth ~ sometimes the whole truth is hurtful
  • do not lie by omission
  • trust those you trust completely ~ do not half-trust people
  • avoid the company of liars

Everybody lies…. every day, every hour, awake, asleep, in his dreams, in his joy, in his mourning.  If he keeps his tongue still, his hands, his feet, his eyes, his attitude will convey deception.  ~  Mark Twain

Dedication to the truth may be a hard road, but it is the road I must follow to the end.

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secrets and little white lies

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back behind your fortress wall

I wonder how it could be

you still have secrets from me

and why you always flee

at the first touch of intimacy

you will never be free

of a past you should have left behind

and of those little white lies

until you let me be your true friend

love will wither until it dies

there’s no more, I have given my all

you decide, you can give me a call

~

P1030699words and pictures by jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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Make Your Own Truth

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Everybody lies.

Everybody lies all the time.  Lies of commission, lies of omission, white lies, black lies, lies to assuage your feelings, lies to deceive you, lies that will hurt you.  The people you care for the most lie to you, your lover lies to you, people in positions of power lie to you, people you don’t even know lie to you, you lie to yourself.

Above all don’t lie to yourself.  The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others.  And having no respect he ceases to love.  ~  Fyodor Dostoyevsky

The lies that bind the tightest are those you tell yourself.

It doesn’t matter.  Being lied to does not matter.  If you truly want to know the truth, then just look inside yourself, the truth is in your soul.  You can look though the tangled webs of dark deceit, the traps set by others, and see the things you always knew to be honest, real, and true.

Needing and wanting the brutal and unpolished truth is a rare thing indeed.  All of us always know the real truth, but we do not want to listen to the truth, acknowledge it, accept it, or understand it.  It is human to want to believe the lie, if the lie is a warmer, kinder, less dangerous thing than brutal honesty.

The truth hurts.

Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.  ~  Khaled Hosseini

Life can be cruel.  Your heart will be broken over and over again.  Feelings of crushing disappointment and loss over someone you love and care for will happen.  You will be betrayed.  People will lie, cheat, and steal from you.  The ones you once loved will try to destroy you.  It does not matter.  Nobody can make you feel anything.  Your feelings are your own feelings.

What practical use is all this?

In practical terms, remember this; Information does not have to be true to be useful.

The lies people tell reveal their innermost selves.  Stop listening to the lies, instead take a good look at the liar.  Liars reveal Everything of themselves in their lies.  Everything you could ever want or need to know is just below the surface of the lie.  You don’t even have to look very hard.  To know the real truth, just accept the things you already know.

You already know the truth, all you need to do is to accept the truth.

But, be very careful, this is a great revelation and a great power.  To use it wisely we must first make the utmost effort to stop lying to ourselves.  How do we do that difficult thing?

Allow your innermost self the gift of honest love for your own self, for without true self-love we are all liars.

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Ten Vile Lies

Your intellect may be very confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.  ~  Robert Ebert

After thirty years looking after very large amounts of other people’s’ money, I can usually tell when someone is lying to me ~ or not telling the whole and honest truth, which is just as bad.

Nine times out of ten, anyone saying any of the following is a damn liar:

  1. I love you.
  2. I really care for you.
  3. Since I met you I haven’t slept with anybody else.
  4. I’m not married / I’ve never been married / I don’t have any children
  5. I haven’t been smoking / drinking / using / gambling / stealing / sleeping around.
  6. I have never hit her / him / them.
  7. I’m telling you the truth, honestly, trust me.
  8. I will pay you back [the money].
  9. I wasn’t even there.
  10. I am taking my medication.

Of course there are other heinous lies such as: I never really loved him / her, it didn’t mean anything, your past doesn’t bother me, I will miss you, I can’t stay long because I have to meet my sister / brother, it wasn’t my fault, it wasn’t me, it was an accident, I forgot, I don’t remember, I don’t care what you do for a living / how much money you have, I’ve never had an STD, I’m not seeing anyone else, you look nice, I’ll do it in a minute….

The more someone asserts that they are telling the truth, the more likely it is they are lying.  If you know your partner / friend has told one or all of the above lies, then get as far away from them as you possibly can, as fast as you can, and never once look back.

If you ever come across someone who can say these things truthfully and sincerely, then you have discovered a very rare thing indeed, almost an urban myth, you have found an honourable and honest person.

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Woman-taking-off-weddingjackcollier7@talktalk.net

Complete Honesty

The truth is rarely pure and never simple.  Oscar Wilde, The Importance of being Earnest

liarShould one always tell the truth?  Do you always tell the truth to your partner?  The whole truth, without hesitation, deviation or prevarication?  Or, like most of the people on this planet are you sometimes guilty of little white lies, lies of omission, and outright bare-faced lies?

It isn’t the truth unless it’s the whole truth, and a secret is the next thing to an outright lie.

Some say that it’s easier to tell the truth to a complete stranger than it is to your partner.  And, that what they don’t know can’t hurt them.  All I know is that all lies are discovered eventually, and every discovered lie takes away trust.  Doing things in the dark doesn’t hide them forever.

I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Telling the truth isn’t easy.  Telling the entire, and completely honest truth needs trust and commitment.

Never tell the truth to people who are not worthy of it. ~ Mark Twain

Telling the ‘Honest to God’ truth is akin to opening a Pandora’s box.  One never knows what we are going to discover once the box is open.  There may be things in your past that you would rather not admit to.  There may be things in your past you think your partner would never understand.  Whatever is in your past will come to light eventually, so why not be truthful?   Yeah right, never in a million years.

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My girl wants to know about me.  She has asked to know my secrets and innermost thoughts.  She wants to know what drives me, makes me tick, makes me who I am…

I can’t tell her any of that without telling her the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.  This requires a huge leap of faith on both our parts.  But, because this is something she really needs and wants from me I have to take that leap of faith without asking anything in return.  Her trust and happiness will be reward enough.

regretOr, the things I may tell her could drive us apart.  Yet I will tell her the truth, without hesitation, deviation or prevarication.  They say confession is good for the soul.  She will have my complete honesty.  So, help me God.

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jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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