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Admitting to Being Wrong

failure consists of redoubling your efforts when you have completely forgotten your goal

The most pernicious word in modern English is denier  ~  as in climate change denier, coronavirus denier, BAME denier, God denier, and worst of all Holocaust denier.  I know all about denial, having lied to myself for years about being socially inadequate and denied having a drinking problem.  But I could never have accused anyone of being an alcoholism denier.  That does just not make sense.  Calling someone else a denier is merely to show up the fact that you yourself are closed-minded, have no logical basis for whatever opinions you have, and are totally unwilling to listen to arguments that run counter to your own dogma.

Basically, you are not prepared to ever admit that there is the slightest possibility that you could ever be wrong.  In that case, who the fuck do you think you are?  God?

Everybody human is wrong some of the time.  Sometimes we are mistaken, sometimes we are ill-informed or misinformed, sometimes our own inner programming is flawed, and sometimes we believe in something just because we want to.  Notice that I said believe in and not believe.  Those who use the word denier believe in things rather than believe the arguments and proofs that support a given position.  They will never, ever admit that they are wrong.

Surely it’s time for climate-change deniers to have their opinions forcibly tattooed on their bodies.  ~  Richard Glover

I learned that really listening to other people was an essential part of being a better man ~ sometimes other people’s opinions and beliefs are better than my own.  I learned that there is probably no such thing as absolute truth.  I learned that when I was wrong, promptly admitting it was essential for my mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

There is no better test of a man’s integrity than his behavior when he is wrong.  ~  Marvin Williams

There is a principle in 12 step recovery programmes; ‘Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it…..’  Really that does not go far enough, perhaps it should go on to say;  ‘…..and changed our behaviour accordingly…..’

No person who ever calls another man a denier will ever admit that it is they who are wrong.

Some say that to deny that total lockdown is the only way to deal with the coronavirus is to risk the disease running rampant, causing megadeaths.  And that any opinion other than their own is emphatically false.  All I know is that I have been wrong in the past, and no doubt I will be wrong again in the future.


jack collier


so busy fighting off the alligators you’ve forgotten you are supposed to be draining the swamp

trust tainted debased degraded



like a child I once believed all that I was told

but power corrupts the moral cowards

bold with freedom from consequences

unfeeling uncaring and ethically degraded

their lies drip like poison infecting truth rejected

carefully selected words and facts unconnected

questions deflected and honesty corrected

damnable untruths suggested and perfected

demented avarice desire and lust accepted

in time Rhadamanthus’ justice dispensed

loneliness, the ultimate fate of amoral liars

stares wolf-like from behind intense red eyes


like a child, I wish to believe all I am told

but trust, once broken, is forever soiled

and daylight will never see me crying


P1010720words and pictures by jack collier



Ten Vile Lies

Your intellect may be very confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.  ~  Robert Ebert

After thirty years looking after very large amounts of other people’s’ money, I can usually tell when someone is lying to me ~ or not telling the whole and honest truth, which is just as bad.

Nine times out of ten, anyone saying any of the following is a damn liar:

  1. I love you.
  2. I really care for you.
  3. Since I met you I haven’t slept with anybody else.
  4. I’m not married / I’ve never been married / I don’t have any children
  5. I haven’t been smoking / drinking / using / gambling / stealing / sleeping around.
  6. I have never hit her / him / them.
  7. I’m telling you the truth, honestly, trust me.
  8. I will pay you back [the money].
  9. I wasn’t even there.
  10. I am taking my medication.

Of course there are other heinous lies such as: I never really loved him / her, it didn’t mean anything, your past doesn’t bother me, I will miss you, I can’t stay long because I have to meet my sister / brother, it wasn’t my fault, it wasn’t me, it was an accident, I forgot, I don’t remember, I don’t care what you do for a living / how much money you have, I’ve never had an STD, I’m not seeing anyone else, you look nice, I’ll do it in a minute….

The more someone asserts that they are telling the truth, the more likely it is they are lying.  If you know your partner / friend has told one or all of the above lies, then get as far away from them as you possibly can, as fast as you can, and never once look back.

If you ever come across someone who can say these things truthfully and sincerely, then you have discovered a very rare thing indeed, almost an urban myth, you have found an honourable and honest person.



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