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delicious desires

sometimes you don’t need explanations, desire is what it is

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lust

lovers

sexuality

hot fantasies

secret encounters

steamy conversations

clandestine motel meetings

marriage commitments limitations

willfully ignoring their sexual sameness

enjoying stolen illicit moments of total bliss

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

she was the girl she dreamed of

when was just a little girl

Homosexuality

mental health has nothing to do with being gay

If anyone in Western Europe or North America has a problem with homosexuality then it most likely comes down to their own fears and prejudices.  The plain fact is that in most civilised societies homosexuality is now a perfectly acceptable practice, as is lesbianism, bisexuality, or being transsexual.  Some draw the line at men being very camp and wearing makeup, but that’s more a question of taste rather than being bigoted against gay men.  But there are some places where it would be very risky to be openly gay.

In the 50s and 60s the life of a gay man was a secret, in fact homosexuality was illegal in England until 1967 ~ you could go to prison for being actively gay.  The situation was much more complicated in the USA with sodomy being illegal throughout the USA until 1962.  After that various states became more liberal at various times up until 2006 when Missouri repealed it’s. law against homosexual conduct.  Virginia had laws against lewd and lascivious cohabitation until 2013.

But, if you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transsexual there are still whole swathes of the world where to openly show it will get you thrown into jail for a long time; Saudi Arabia, Russia, most of Africa…..

The plain fact is that if you’re not straight keep it strictly in private unless you positively KNOW that where you are fully accepts homosexuality and all the other LGBT / LGBTIQA practices ~ and even then you’re sometimes going to come across the occasional bigot who just likes gay bashing.

Personally, I fully accept homosexuality and bisexuality, but I would prefer that gay men didn’t kiss while I was around.  That doesn’t mean I’d say anything to them, but I’d probably get up and leave wherever I was.  Most straight men, myself included, are more accepting and understanding of lesbianism, but that’s because we tend to bracket it with soft porn.  Reprehensible I know, but most men are hard-wired a certain way, and there’s not much anyone is going to do about that for the rest of this century.

The plain fact is, in civilised societies homosexuality, lesbianism, and bisexuality, are mostly acceptable ~ just don’t frighten the horses.

I’m not gay, I’m mentally ill ~ and that carries an even greater negative stigma than homosexuality.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.

Sex Differences In The Brain

MEN ARE NOT THE SAME AS WOMEN

Subconscious-MindPsychologists, psychiatrists, and people in white coats from many branches of science are usually prepared to admit that there is a difference between the brain of the average manly man, from that of the average womanly woman.  However, these same smart people will also often admit that they have no real idea about what causes one person to develop behaviour patterns largely associated with one sex and not the other.  Scientists can even measure the differences between the brains of men and women, and there are a lot, but knowing how big the differences are doesn’t say much about how they come about.

As one glaringly obvious example, females handle language in a different and more specialised part of their brain than do males.  In general women are far more naturally articulate than men, and use a greater number of ways to communicate.  But why?  It could be that it’s genetic and down to the obvious biological differences between men and women which makes our brains work differently.  It could be that men and women have totally different race memories.  Or, it could be that it’s mostly down to different nurturing, conditioning, education and experience.  With no apologies to Feminists or the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender, (LGBT), it turns out that it’s all three.  Some differences between the sexes are hard-wired and immutable.  Some differences between the manner in which the sexes behave are down to basic biology.

hugsThe genetic bias is intense enough to cause a substantial division of labour between women and men, even in the most egalitarian of societies.  Even if the sexes receive identical education and equal access to all professions, men are likely to have a disproportionate role in politics, business, engineering and science.  Women have a disproportionately greater role in child-minding, and in nurturing professions such as medicine.  Sociobiologists believe women are genetically programmed for maternal feelings, for superior verbal abilities, and for performing repetitive tasks not requiring deep thought.  In contrast, men are genetically suited to more logical and analytical thinking and have superior spacial awareness.

Men and women are so different that we may as well be different species.

Men need to solve problems, and women need to talk.

ladyboyThere are large behavioural overlaps between the sexes.  It is possible for a person with a woman’s biology to think they are really a guy, (gender identity), yet still behave in a feminine way.  Some women have more masculine traits than other women.  Some women can even throw a ball, or use a wrench correctly, or tell left from right.  Some men have more feminine traits than other men.  Some men can do multitasking, hold a conversation, or even choose clothes in matching colours.  Nonetheless, the standard, comical, caricatures of men and woman are mostly correct in that men are inarticulate insensitive brutes, and women are chatty emotional and nurturing creatures.

SlappingWhat this means that men and women react very differently to situations.  Women tend to feel things more deeply, and with a far greater range of emotions than do men.  Women keep score, and never forget.  Within seconds, most men will have forgotten something insensitive they said to their significant other, thinking it didn’t matter anyhow, and that they were right all along.  In contrast, women will feel that hurt to the core of their being, try and assign a wider meaning to the insensitive comment, think about their relationship with their guy, look for hidden meanings, add the hurt to the list of other ‘bad’ things their guy has done, and usually forgive him.  Eventually.

slobWomen are always forgiving men for something we have done.  Often guys do very dumb stuff, but often guys have no idea why what they did was so bad.  That’s because men and women look at the world differently, and women tend to care far more than men.  Most men could care less about other people, especially about people who mean little to them in practical terms ~ which is basically 99.9% of the entire world.  Most women are genetically programmed to care about people, and when their guy is disparaging toward someone they care about, then women tend tend to become very upset.  The problem for most guys is that most women care about most people, in one way or another.

In general, it takes a real effort for a man to think about, care about, understand, or even acknowledge the existence of anyone outside of his immediate family and small circle of friends.  In general, women want to know everything about everyone they meet.  In general woman have a much wider circle of friends than most men, care about them, remember names and faces.  Women even remember and care about birthdays, anniversaries, special dates…

schoolgirlmodelMostly, what a manly man wants to know about people are things like; is this person a threat, useful, someone he wants to / can have sex with…?

These gender differences can cause real problems in relationships between men and women.  Often men are very unthinking and unfeeling creatures, and there isn’t much a guy can do to change his underlying genetic programming / race memories / conditioning.  So men tend to upset women.

Because all men have some feminine traits, the things that guys do which so upset women will sometimes also upset men.

And, so what?  As behavioural scientists know, most men could care less about the feelings of others.  Most of the time, most men have such a shallow and narrow range of emotions, that they themselves don’t feel much more than the most basic things.  Some say that all human behaviour can be reduced to four, (possibly six) basic emotions.  these are; happiness, sadness, fear / surprise, anger / disgust.  Well, that ‘research’ had to have been undertaken by a bunch of guys because even I know that the emotions of womanly women are much more complicated and complex than that.  Men see things in straight lines and in terms of black and white.  Women see the whole of the world in all of it’s colours and complexities.

The_Thinker_Auguste_RodinBecause men are naturally insensitive, we need to apply more conscious thought to what we say and do.

The bottom line is;  Men should think twice before they say or do anything.  If a guy can’t think of anything nice to say, he shouldn’t say anything at all.  If you really want to hurt a woman, then just be an average guy for a while.

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