Tag Archives: interpersonal relationships

Tunes on Tuesday ~ OMC

you might think your family is strange, but are they BIZARRE?

Some dead-pan songs reveal a greater truth.

Nice car, if you like a ’59 Chevey.  Cute dancers, if you like blondes.

Please listen thoughtfully.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

bizarre, mais très érotique

Random Jottings ~ Acceptance

grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change

accept that it’s better to be alone than to be unhappy with someone else

~

some people just will not accept that they’re in the wrong

they buy an assault rife instead

~

the older and wiser I get,

the more I believe that the greatest gift is acceptance of others

~

compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness

they are a sign of strength

~

whatever life brings to you, accept it and learn to live with it

~

a real man learns to accept his own faults

~

I’m not OK, but that’s OK

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

never accept that you cannot change what you are

Random Jottings ~ Werewolf

some werewolves are women, they’re the most frightening

~

she wore black, shame it was her fur

~

in the silvery moonlight, the werewolf’s eyes gleamed a yellow gleam

~

he’d tamed the werewolf, but what was he going to do with her?

the hair and teeth weren’t a problem

but her growls in bed upset the people in the next apartment

~

when the moon rose, so did the werewolf

~

he had the silver collar, he had the silk sheets, he was bloody stupid

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

he was her true love

shame he was a werewolf

but he was great at fetching sticks

Monochrome Monday ~ Girls

the world seems better in black and white

~

~

~

~

~

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

sometimes a bikini should stay dry

You Can Go Your Own Way

 a lion can lead sheep, but sheep cannot lead a lion

stand up for what you believe is right

Even here in England one cannot go very far before one encounters somebody wearing a mask, and probably surgical-type gloves too.  Here it’s mandatory to wear a ‘face covering’ on public transport; trains, bus, planes, taxicabs ~ and the Health Nazis want everyone to wear a mask anytime they’re out of doors.  In fact the doom-mongers want everyone to stay in lockdown ~ probably forever.

I am afraid they are going to be disappointed in me, but then disappointing people is part of finding your own way in life.  There is never going to be a shortage of right-thinking, officious, supposedly well-meaning people around, happy to advise us, instruct us, create and impose expectations about how we should think, act, and be.  ‘Don’t date that person, don’t take that job, go to that school, think the way I think, wear a face covering…..’  (Maybe I should have taken some of the dating advice.)

Sometimes taking advice and following instructions makes good sense, but only too often what people want us to do is based on their own experiences, their needs and wants, their desire for self-affirmation ~ not on any understanding of us at all.  I have never been in the least surprised if my best way ahead was to ignore advice, do the exact opposite of what others wanted of me, do something those closest to me thought was crazy.  We walk the warriors path alone.

Ignoring advice often offends some people ~ right now not wear a face covering in public seems to offend a lot of people.  The simple truth is that being true to yourself, going your own way, will always disappoint and offend somebody.  Another truth is that some people are ready to be offended by anything that does’t agree with their own warped and narrow mindset.

Don’t know which one is worse, doing your own thing or just being cool.  ~  Bob Dylan

Some people in your life will be impossible to please; parents, siblings, the wider family, ‘friends’, your current and past partners, teachers, co-workers…..  They will show their disapproval of you, whatever you do.  Fuck them.  If it’s unbearable then just move on, spend much less time in their company, stop sharing your plans, dreams, wants, needs, and intentions with them.  Stop telling them what you’re doing and whatever you’ve done in the past.

Some say; ‘don’t do as I do, do as I say.’  And, ‘you should listen when people tell you what to do.’  All I know is it’s better to make my own mistakes than to repeat the mistakes of others.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

look to the far horizons

What Makes a Man?

a real man makes all women smile
but reserves his very best smile for only one

I believe the nearest Kirk Douglas got to Shakespeare was Spartacus

Shakespeare has a scene in Hamlet where the Danish Lord Polonius expounds to Laertes upon the nature of being a better man than the average spear carrier.  Most may merely remember that in that scene there are a couple of lines that proclaim; clothes make the man.   Which, outwardly is a limited truth.  But there is more to clothes than buying the best and most tasteful apparel your wallet can bear.  For a start an expensive suit still looks like a sack when worn by a slob.  And, many an expensive coat of paint conceals something rotten inside.

True attractiveness, the kind of look that appeals to emotionally intelligent and discerning people, especially to cool and together women, isn’t something a man can just put on and wear.  That kind of attractive, clean-cut, elegant persona comes from within.  It’s who a man is, not only what he wears, that is really attractive to others.

Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.  ~  Andre Gide

Some lucky guys can look great in jeans and a singlet, whereas the rest of us need to try a little harder than that.

I have discovered that there are a few guidelines a man can follow if he wants to succeed when it comes to Shakespeare’s maxim; ‘the clothes maketh the man….’

  • As Polonius says, always buy the very best you can afford.  Most women can spot thrift store purchases, cheaper makes, and remaindered stuff a mile off.  Besides, quality lasts.  You do get what you pay for.
  • Always dress up, rather than dressing down.  If, on dress-down-Friday most guys go to the office in jeans and a T, then make a point of wearing decent trousers and a crisp, freshly laundered shirt.  There is nothing wrong with adding a cool necktie either.  A surprising number of women find a nice shirt and tie pretty hot.
  • Don’t neglect the obvious.  Make certain everything matches, (if you’re colour-blind get help from a friendly female).  Your shoes should be spotless, and your aftershave / cologne / deodorant classy, not overpowering.
  • Be very, very clean ~ both you and everything you’re wearing.
  • Have your own style, but don’t be outlandish, neither try to be too fashionable.  Besides which very fashionable soon goes out of fashion.  As you would expect, my style is very English / preppy.

Some say that clothes make the man.  And that you can spot a slob a mile off, no matter what he’s wearing.  All I know is that to look really good you have to work at it every single day.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

many real men have walked the tracks alone,

and still made an effort to look good

secrets & regrets

no matter how careful you are, your secrets will come to light

~

Secrets

Past Desires

Past Kisses

Past Sins

Past Lovers

Past Lusts

Past Lies

Past Lives

Deep Regrets

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

he smiled at you

like he knew all your secrets

she’s calling on the telephone

how does she always know just when to call?

~

she only calls when she’s lonely

she only calls when she needs me

and every time she calls she cries

she tells me her little love stories

then she tells me her bigger lies

she tells me how fine it could be

she just can’t look into my eyes

so, it’s time I said goodbye

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

she’s lonely again

it’s just her choice of men

June 20th ~ The Summer Solstice

the longest day of the year has special meanings for all spiritual people

This far north, the sun rises today at 04:27, and does not set until 21:45, some 17hrs 17min and 55sec later.  That’s the true day length, but this close to the sea, this far north, it’s fully light here from about 03:30 until 22:42, as a matter of fact it never really gets dark today.  Full Nautical Twilight is a very strange phenomenon.  Of course our clocks are slightly wrong because noon at the Greenwich Meridian today is at 13:01.  That’s politicians and orbital drift for you.

The spiritual significance of the summer solstice lies in embracing the sun and its life-giving power, and if you live as far north as I, then you will know how much better you feel in summer, as opposed to the dank, cold, dark days of winter.  The summer solstice is also a time of new beginnings, and I am fully aware that I need to make and stick to some solstice resolutions.  How much better to make new resolutions in summer as opposed to almost the shortest days of the New Year.

My first resolution, aim, goal is to be physically, emotionally, and mentally stronger, fitter, healthier ~ loss prone to illnesses.

And my second is to be kinder, more supportive, more charitable, more accepting and understanding, friendlier and more loving.

The third and last resolution for this solstice is that indefinable and immeasurable thing; to be a better man.

Some say that the only goal worthy of a man is to be superior.  And that, it doesn’t matter how we treat others, what really matters is how they treat us.  All I know is that I would rather be a very nice guy, living a really great life, than a jerk.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I hope and trust you can enjoy the warm, live-giving sun at this solstice.

Personal Finance 101

neither a borrower nor lender be

The phrase above comes from Shakespeare’s Hamlet, and actually refers to never lend nor borrow from a friend, but I would expand that to include never lending to nor borrowing from a family member, partner, lover, or anyone else for that matter.  Often you will never, ever see a single penny paid back to you.  I would also expend that to say never, ever, ever stand as guarantor for anyone either. Because as guarantor you are jointly end severally liable for the whole debt, plus interest, plus charges ~ up to and including losing your home and everything else you own.

  1. Work out your monthly budget, with hard numbers.  How much do you have coming in, and how much goes out, and on what?  If you have more going out than you have coming in, then stop fucking wasting money on cigarettes, booze, gambling, drugs, vacations, sex, new clothes and shoes you don’t need….  Or get a higher paid honest job.
  2. Only ever borrow for two reason; #1 a mortgage to buy your home  #2 to buy your car, if you must have a car.  (actually student loans to pay for your education sometimes make a third reason)  The only borrowing I have ever had, in my whole life, was a mortgage on my home.
  3. Pay off your debts just as soon as you possibly can, and only take out a loan if that is allowed in the documentation with no penalties.  Don’t ever borrow from anyone other than highly respected, and properly regulated institutions.  If you have never heard of them, don’t touch them with a barge pole.
  4. Never, ever, ever borrow on a credit card, for any reason whatsoever.  Only buy something on your plastic if you can afford to pay for it in hard cash right there and then, and always pay off all your card debt in full every single month.  The interest rates on credit cards are stupidly high.  Anyone who says using a credit card / line of credit to consolidate your borrowing is a crook.
  5. On the other hand, I buy everything on plastic.  I do that for 3 reasons #1 I get good points which I can use to get other things #2 because I pay off my card bills in full every month, I get 1 month’s free credit  #3 if I have a dispute with the seller, then in the UK the card company will, at the end of the day, refund me in full in the seller will not, or cannot.
  6. Save for your retirement, however that works in your country and in your company.  Save as much as you can afford for your retirement.
  7. Never ever trust anyone who tries to sell you any kind of financial product whatsoever.  If it sounds too good to be true, then it is.  If you don’t understand it, then it’s a scam.  Never, ever believe anything you see on the internet ~ especially on YouTube.  Everybody lies sometimes, sales people lie all the time.  Often they believe their own lies, or they’re to badly educated to understand their own products.  (That applies to all sales people.)

We had a mantra when I worked in Banking and Finance in The City of London;  ‘My Word Is My Bond’.  Sadly that no longer applies anywhere.  The world of Savings, Loans, Credit Cards, Banking, Finance, The Stock Markets, Real Estate….. are today full of the ignorant, dishonest, liars, charlatans, confidence tricksters, and crooks.

We had another saying in the City of London caveat emptor; which is Latin for Let the Buyer Beware.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

%d bloggers like this: