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Butterfly

just when the caterpillar thought her life was over, she began to fly

This post is inspired by my friend Paula Light and her Thursday prompt; Butterfly.  If you’re not familiar with this French song and very cool singer, then why not take the time now.  If, like me, your French isn’t quite up to understanding all the nuances, then just enjoy the video and warmth of this guy’s voice.

This song is also for a very close friend of mine.

Please listen with the joy of life in your heart.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

you are too beautiful

for any ending to end you

Random Jottings ~ Lies and Deceit

a deceiver will always find one who wishes to be deceived

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the instant gratification of booze is a devious deception

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it is better to be lied to than to become a liar

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seduction is a form of deception

you know she can fool you at any time on any given day

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love never dies a natural death

love is always killed by dishonesty, deception, and distrust

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first appearances are not always deceptions, just mostly

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be careful who you trust

the devil was once an angel

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the worst thing about being lied to

is knowing that you weren’t even worth the truth

Songs on Saturday ~ Billy Joel

we’re only human, we’re supposed to make mistakes

I screw up, I make mistakes, I go down the same wrong road time after time.  But, I pick myself up and try to do better next time.

Last week I fucked-up in a big way, for no better reason than I was hurting after being to the dentist, and this town is in lockdown again.  This song says something about how I feel today.

We don’t have to be always ready to make ourselves blameless and faultless, we can admit that we’re only human.  I can accept myself as human and see that no human being is without flaws ~ me especially so.

I survived all those long lonely days when it seemed I did not have a friend ~ I with friends I know I can survive anything the Cosmos throws at me.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

perhaps the Cosmos doesn’t care when we screw-up

but perhaps my friends do

Fear, Frustration, Stress, Distress

ashes to ashes, iron to rust, rust to dust

suffering, injustice, post-apocalyptic

The world has been suffering from the draconian measures taken by governments and their non-elected officials for some 6 months now ~ all of it in order to deal with a chimera.  The alleged coronavirus, COVID-19 pandemic doesn’t even qualify as a true epidemic because it doesn’t ‘affect many people at the same time’, and yet the powers that be have spread so much in the way of lies, damn lies, false statistics, and Project Fear bullshit propaganda that some among us are really and truly frightened.  Which is sad because this is just an ordinary bug which is killed by soap and water.

Like a good boy, like a model citizen, I self-isolated and went into lockdown when my government told me to on March 23rd this year, and you know what?  I got sick.  The reason I was ill was nothing directly to do with the coronavirus.  I got sick because I was stressed and worried, I wasn’t getting any sunshine, fresh air, and exercise, and my diet had suddenly gone from healthy to crap.  When you have nothing to do all day but watch TV and worry you tend to over-indulge in comfort-eating, junk food, booze, (and if applicable to you cigarettes and drugs).  When you can’t get to the store you also lose all the fresh fruit and vegetables that help to keep you healthy.

Many people also lost their jobs, worried about losing their jobs, or had to think about working from home.  Nobody was allowed to see relatives, friends, or loved ones ~ up to and including people on their deathbeds.

No wonder this country and much of the world was filled with fear, frustration, stress, and distress.  No wonder that so much of the social media was filled with vitriolic, frightened, ill-informed shit.  No wonder America is going to hell in a hand-basket.

And it isn’t going to get any better any time soon.

Along with targeted lockdowns the latest ideas floated here in England are; compulsory flu vaccinations, compulsory coronavirus vaccinations, (when there is one), and the compulsory carrying of ID cards.  What’s more these ID cards would carry details of your health status.

There seem to be two kinds of country in the world today; those descending into totalitarianism, and those descending into anarchy.  And the only people to blame are governments and unelected officials whose sworn duty is to keep us safe.

Some say that COVID-19 is the biggest threat to world health since the Spanish flu epidemic of 1918.  And that we should all wear face masks all the time.  All I know is that if you give into irrational fear you may as well curl up and die.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

inner cities are suffering more than most

Random Jottings ~ Friendship

a friend when you are in need, is a friend indeed

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friendship isn’t a test of endurance

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friendship is not a deal, it’s a state of being

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true friendship asks no questions and tells no lies

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if your lover isn’t your best friend, then it’s just casual sex

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a real friend is like a spring of cool clear water in the desert heat

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he isn’t your friend if he makes you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells

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your best friend is your starlight and your guide when you are lost in the darkness

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

a friend will find you

no matter where you are

 

Sharing Love

love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies

Well, perhaps, but even in the truest of loves between the most compatible of people each of them has their own separate road to walk.  They may walk it together, supporting each other always, and the one may carry the other for a time, but each one wants / should / must have their own choices to make.  It is a truism that you cannot / should not / must not try to live another person’s life for them.

More than that, almost every adult craves their independence, needs their time alone, and wants to be able to make their own mistakes.  The thing about romantic partnerships and love is that the partners should be good friends, perhaps each another’s very best friend.  And the thing about very good friends is that you don’t always want to see them, but you always want to know that they’re there.

No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main….. ~ John Donne

Sharing everything with your partner might sound ideal, and I guess many young lovers strive for that perfect ideal, but there is nothing worse in life than perfection.  Living in your partner’s pocket is claustrophobic, actually living with anyone every minute of every single day, month in and month out, would constitute a cruel and unusual punishment in most legal systems.  But solitary confinement is even worse.

How much you share with your partner, and how much of your partner you share with others is, like all of life, a balancing act.  But I would strongly suggest that sharing absolutely everything isn’t going to work for most people.

Here I can best speak for myself; a real, honest, honourable, steadfast, and true man.  And I need time alone, not fully engaged with anyone or anything other than myself, my innermost thoughts, and the Goddess of my understanding.  Men such as I tend to seek out solitary pastimes ~ I take long meditative walks by the sea.  But from time to time some company is nice.

Most men have very poor conversational skills in comparison to their female partner, so telling her about ‘everything that happened in my day’ is difficult for men.  Similarly, listening to her narrate her day’s events is hard for men.  And trust me on this; some of the things she may have done he will not ever want to know.  Men have very poor empathy in comparison to women.

And then; a man’s feelings, drives, and needs are very different from a woman’s.  He will not ever want to know about your past and the other men in it, and if he does a woman should worry.  The same goes for men in your present life, (coworkers and such).

People who want to know everything about you and live with you 24 / 7 are but one step from spying, stalking, and gaslighting.  Maybe ~ so give each other some space.

(there is a whole other set of meanings about ‘sharing’ in relationships ~ but I’m not going to go there)

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

most women would not want to be chained

not all the time anyway

Random Jottings ~ Strange Love

love can be an intimate connection and a dreadful bond

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love makes you do strange things

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she hears you before you have spoken

answers you before you’ve formed the question

and she loved you before you ever dreamed of her

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and then, in walked the witch

the electric broomstick was bad

her fuck-me stilettos were a bitch

but the pearl choker was just sadistic

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erotic witches aren’t all bad

they just like to behave that way

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

memories of

sex, secrets, sins

lovers, lies, lusts

desires, demands

resentments, regrets 

Random Jottings ~ Jealousy

jealousy is self-inflicted torment

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true jealousy is both love and hate

you can’t have one without the other

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‘I’m not jealous…..’ she averred

right before she totally trashed his Porsche

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jealousy is a symptom of passionate insecurity

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if you get into a passionate long-distance relationship

then expect to get very jealous

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you can’t talk to a jealous woman with a shotgun in her hand

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jealousy isn’t ever about real love it’s really about deep insecurity

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actually, it’s perfectly acceptable to be jealous if your partner is cheating on you

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

real jealousy hurts

and there is never any cure

sometimes staring at the sea helps a bit

Hot Sexy Charming Male

smooth as the handle on a gun, cool as a cucumber

some older women like much younger men

and cheap sex is always cheap

and a slut is always a slut

You might be aware that I just got back to the garret after a short sunshine break in Turkey.  It was good for me, except that being a solitary traveller I had lots of time to indulge in some people watching, and the people I saw were not always the best advertisements for the male species.  Overweight, unfit, beer gut, waddling, loud, interested mostly in booze and sports ~ too unfit to be much turned on by sex.  They were mostly British, Germans, and Turks, but much the same could be said of American guys.

I looked at myself in the mirror.  A long hard look, and I could see myself heading in that direction.  Do I want to be a couch potato, an Archie Bunker, a fat loudmouthed beer-bottle slob?   And Fuck No!

As men get older, as the testosterone leaches out of the bloodstream, as the achievements of our youth are behind us, it’s easy for men to let themselves go to seed.  To watch too much TV, to drive rather than walk, to drink too much, to overfill our plates and gobble our food, to converse in grunts, to lose interest in sex…..  No wonder there are lots of MILF’s and GILF’s out there.  I may not approve, but I understand.  Even James Bond got fat and carried a man-bag.  Wazzock.

Ergo, I went up the mountain and talked with the elephant, and didn’t much like what she told me.  ‘Get your act together…..’

No more beer, no more booze, no more burgers, no more take-outs, less sugar, less salt, more green vegetables, more exercise, more interest in women.

I look out across the sea today, and see the old castle where my ancestors fought.  Saw the priests on the ferry taking the dead home, see their wives glad they’ve gone, see the priests fussing and flapping like a murder of crows wondering if they will get paid.  See the fat men dying without even that honour.  Their ghosts just trudging away, heavy footed.

If I have my way I’ll take a boat back from the river.  I don’t care what it takes, it’s better to be poor, fit, and healthy than be a rich fat man trying to get through the eye of the needle.

Some say that once you get to be forty it’s all downhill to the grave.  And that fat pale men with beer-bellies shouldn’t be with attractive women.  All I know is I’m going to be the great guy with a good body relaxing by the pool, anywhere I want to be, with anyone I want to be with.  And if you don’t want to be there, fuck off and have a nice day.  I ain’t afraid of no Charon

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

don’t pay the ferryman until you must

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Synchronicity

it’s very nice to go wandering, but it’s oh so nice to wander home

Just a few days ago I took myself off to Turkey, to a little seaside town 2,700 miles from the garret.  Only to discover among all that sun and blue Aegean sea, that what I was looking for was deep inside my heart.  I don’t have to go anywhere to know that synchronicity surrounds me.

Look around you, because you are already right where you need to be.

Please listen thoughtfully.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

mr. blue sky

shine down on me

 

 

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