it takes courage to be positive and happy when you’re hurting
sometimes we all need a little quiet contemplation
Reading back through my blog I’ve realised that so many of my posts are negative, critical of others, and quite cynical. My only excuse is that in recent years my heart has been hurting and my head has been confused. There is no cure for that unless one wants to change. You can’t stop being negative until you realise that there is another way of looking at life.
Well, there is going to be no more of that. It’s way past time that I looked on the bright side of life.
The world is a wonderful place, filled with dreamy clouds and blue skies if you have the will to search for them. Most people are good, interesting, and kind; and if you come across the other sort, someone truly toxic, then walk away from them, and don’t look back.
Be crazy, be weird, be stupid, be creative, be whatever ~ life is to short to be anything but happy.
I’ll get by with a little help from my friend.
Marmaduke is always happy
friendship is constant in all things, except when it comes to sex and love
travelling with a friend needs no destination
a soft kiss from a friend has a memory all its own
a close friend is like buying two tickets to adventure
true friendship nourishes the soul and warms the heart
he loved her in true friendship, but he desired her in hot lust
choose your friends wisely, choose your enemies with even more care
a really bad friend is like having an albatross hanging around your neck
no real man can ever be ‘just good friends’ with an attractive woman
and what makes a woman attractive is her friendship
friends with benefits
basically it’s just regular sex
friends are the greatest treasure any man could wish for
It seems that I have contracted this horrible virus, and right now I feel like shit. But, with the help and support of my friends I know I will be better soon.
This song is for them.
true friends, now and forever
where you are right now is where you were meant to be
Earlier this week I treated myself to the Beatles album Sgt, Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band, on vinyl of course. This is a brand new pressing re-mastered to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the original release in May 1967. There is something very atmospheric about recreating the days of one’s youth.
Obviously I would have like to have bought an original ‘first pressing,’ and there are a couple for sale; on Amazon yet! But, even I’m not going to pay something like $750 for 12 inches of black vinyl that I would never have dared to play. Ergo this new pressing is a great buy for me.
There are some fab, groovy tracks on this album ~ but I’ve chosen this one because right now it’s very meaningful for me.
Ringo wasn’t a great singer, but then he wasn’t really a great drummer either.
I wonder where I can buy a pair of loon pants?
Or an original Mini Cooper?
Try not to go all 1960’s on me
I HAVE JUST BEEN TOLD THAT THIS SONG IS UNAVAILABLE IN THE USA
a friend knows the songs you keep in your heart
A bolt out of the blue, the flash of lightning inspiration that strikes without warning.
Another album I bought knowing nothing about the singer, or what her music sounded like. Some things are truly serendipitous, they come at you out of the blue.
Synchronicity ~ I have walked on that beach.
Please listen with love in your heart.
every gift from a real friend is a wish for your true happiness
the company you keep dictates the choices that you make
perhaps this man is not a true friend to her
Most of us have all sorts of friends, and in our past we have had all other sorts of friends, depending on how you define a friend. There are twitter and facebook ‘friends,’ those who regularly follow our blog, and some of them may become long distance friends we email, chat with, phone….. Then there are members of our church, neighbours, coworkers, golf / tennis / walking / sports buddies, other members of whatever groups we have joined, drinking buddies, fuck-buddies, and lovers. There are also people we, (more or less), have to closely relate with; parents, other family members, husbands / wives, partners, and children ~ we may or not count any of these as our friend.
And then there are false friends, fake friends, enemies disguised as friends. Just because someone hangs out with you, drinks with you, laughs with you, and has sex with you doesn’t mean they are your friend. People pretend well, everybody lies by omission, people use you for their own ends, and some people will be nice to your face and talk shit about you behind your back. Some people are very good at being fake.
Real friends will bring out the best in you, fake friends will take your very best and use it for their own ends. An evil fake friend will take everything you have and use it to satisfy their own perverted desires.
I firmly believe that everyone we meet, we meet for a reason, but some of these reasons are to teach us a hard lesson, and if we don’t learn and live by those lessons, then we will go on becoming ‘friends’ with toxic people who will teach us those hard lessons over and over again. When you fail a test, life will make you retake it, as many times as you need to learn, accept, and understand those hard lessons.
Be ready and willing to lose, reject, and walk away from toxic friends and dysfunctional relationships. Watch out for people who are;
- mean, unkind, and abusive to you
- belittle you, are jealous of you, will not accept the real you
- are selfish, narcissistic, uncaring of your needs
- have values, opinions, habits and behaviours that make you feel uncomfortable.
- get drunk, use drugs, abuse prescription medication, gamble, cheat, steal, engage in promiscuity with people they pick up in bars
Walk away from those people and all of their friends. Don’t ever try to explain or justify anything, just run far, run fast, and never once look back.
Most of all, remain true to yourself.
Some say that your friends can make or break you. And that some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends and family. All I know is that when you have a true and genuine friend, you don’t deal with the fakes anymore.
nobody you meet in a bar will ever be a true friend to you
a friend in need is a friend indeed
the light at the eye of the storm
When your life turns to dross, when you are there at the eye of the storm and you don’t know which way to turn, that’s when you find out who your true friends are. When you are at your lowest ebb, and you’ve hit rock bottom, a true friend will seek you out and give you whatever help they can, even if it’s the toughest kind of love.
In my life I’ve been lucky enough, or worthy enough, to have found a couple of friends like that. One kept me alive when I had pleurisy, double pneumonia, and five broken ribs ~ and like some very stubborn and stupid men I refused to go into hospital, then this true friend nursed me through my illness. The other has always been there for me through my bad times, when the insanity of Borderline Personality Disorder had me drunk and attacking her verbally and in writing she stuck around for me.
I have also been fortunate to meet some people here, on wordpress, whom I consider true friends.
Anyone can be a friend when times are good, and I had plenty of ‘friends’ when I was the life and soul of the party, making more money than I could spend. But that sort of friend soon disappears when the money tap is turned off, when depression hits, when times are bad ~ and I include an ex in that list of ‘friends’. Maybe I wasn’t always good to my ex, but I did the best I could, and it turned out she couldn’t be a true friend when I was in dire straits.
True friendship, like true love, is perhaps not unconditional, but close to it. I know this much is true; nothing in life is unconditional, if someone treats you bad you are not going to be their friend for long. However, a true friendship is not a bargain nor a contract. A true friend does not put conditions on their friendship. Sadly most relationships are bargains, even if unspoken bargains ~ ‘I’ll do this for you, if you do that for me…..’ I’ll be your friend if you get sober for me….. I’ll be your friend if you shower me with expensive gifts…..
As it goes, marriages are contracts. The whole content of a church wedding is to lay out the terms of the marriage contract. No wonder not many husbands and wives are true friends.
Some say that a friend is someone who will forgive your worst mistakes. And that a friend doesn’t walk out when the going gets tough. All I know is that anything is possible if you have a true friend to support you.
when there is only one set of footsteps in the snow, that’s when your friend carried you