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Random Jottings ~ Trust

he trusted her implicitly,  right until she threw him to the hungry crocodiles

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everybody’s got to trust sombody sometime

of course that’s where it all starts to go wrong

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everyone who says; ‘you can trust me…..’ is a liar

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all women lie, just ask Adam about the apple and the snake

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for some the excitement lies in knowing how far they dare trust

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never ask a woman about her past

because lies of omission are still lies

and the truth will torture you

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never trust a man who professes to be your friend

real friends don’t need to tell you that

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trust doesn’t usually include your partner taking a vacation without you

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I never knew a woman who didn’t want to know how much money I was making

up to, and including, my sainted mother

and all of them wanted proof

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

women who have first date sex are always liars

or sluts, or hookers, or older than their date

or all of the above

lost love’s journey’s ending

the heart’s darkest wilderness is not a place of this Earth

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I have journeyed far

through Xanadu, Samarkand, Shangri-la, and Elsinore

I traveled not for love alone

but to fulfill my quest, meet my fate, and free my soul

my heart torn apart by ardour

I wandered by the mountains of the moon’s raging river

in darkest passion’s burning fervour

I could take the pain and stand the rain as should warrior

a warrior proud, steadfast, alone forever

I wouldst take you far to Shangri-la, a land of never never

so join me, my princess most proud and fair

be my Lady, my Goddess, Queen of Camelot and Elsinore

to be together, as it ’twere long ago and before

lost love’s journey’s ending, together now and forevermore

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

darkness cannot drive out darkness

only the dawn’s early light can do that

chaos in love

true love finds an oasis of calm in the storm’s chaos

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and where there once was love

now there’s nothing left to say

go down to the water’s edge

cast dreams and prayers away

leave all the hurt and pain unsaid

I was bad, I was blind, I was unkind

all that’s left are memories to forgive

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

there are no rainbows over a black beach

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Insane

when love is not tinged with madness, it is not love

This song could well be the story of my life, given that the roles were reversed.  But these days I’m a very cool guy, living a really great life.  I am already a winner.

Please listen without identifying too much.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

even lunatics fall in love

don’t ask about love

casual sex is the consolation you get when you can’t have love

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‘Darling, may I ask you a question?’

‘Of course, ask me anything…..’

‘Have you ever been really in love?’

‘Like, in love, who with?’

‘Me, for a start…..’

‘Not really, not ever…..’

He took away the keys to her German sports car right after that.

She poisoned his designer coffee.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

never trust a woman who smokes in the bedroom

 

only lonliness

it’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone

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we are distant islands

cast into a tropic sea

lonely barren deserts

there is no us nor we

the miserable mistakes

as we tried to be free

they haunt memories

past’s pathetic debris

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

there is no loneliness like a failed marriage

Dog Eat Dog

it’s a dog eat dog world, and she’s just a kitten

The world can be a dog eat dog, the devil take the hindmost kind of a place.  The world I lived in for most of my career was like that ~ the top dogs in International Finance take few prisoners and think little of the people they step on to get to where they want to be.  So much of life is like that these days.  There is little honour and less trust among cheats, liars, and thieves.

We cannot even say that the dogs and rats, those who lie, cheat, and steal have some kind of character defect or mental illness ~ not unless you say that all politicians, bankers, businessmen, lawyers, millionaires, and billionaires have some kind of mental illness or character defect.  The top dogs in this world knowingly set out to do anything and everything it takes to get what they want.  And what the leaders of the pack want is money, power, influence, adulation, women, sex, and disciples ~ they want instant gratification.

Along they way this kind of man will do some despicable things in the name of competition and success ~ Judas and Brutus were not the first nor the last men to turn betrayal to a fine art.  Usurping and betraying your king is an almost sure-fire way to success ~ although that kind of sweet success often turns to bitter ashes.

When you strike at a king, you must kill him.  ~  Ralph Waldo Emerson.

There’s the rub, when you betray someone, when you cheat, lie, and steal you must succeed at the first attempt, or else beware of the consequences.  There is nothing more dangerous than a wounded beast.  And in our day to day lives there is nothing more dangerous than a wronged wife / husband / partner / friend…..  Revenge may well be a dish that’s best served cold but if he’s a dog or she’s a bitch then their revenge may well be violent and instant, taken in the heat of the moment.

Weak people seek revenge.  Strong people forgive.  Intelligent people ignore.  ~  Einstein

The real top dogs in this world only ever seek revenge if it will give them some advantage other than destroying whomsoever betrayed them.  But a romantic / sexual partner who believes that they have been wronged will almost always try to destroy their ex.  If you don’t think that’s true then just ask anyone who has ever been stalked for weeks / months / years.

If you want to be a top dog, if you want the women, money, power, adulation, and instant gratification then all you need is to be adaptable, intelligent, educated, skilled, well-read, immoral, and unethical ~ depraved, evil, and wicked helps too.  But WTF, I managed it without resorting to most of the negative stuff, but that almost killed me.  A top dog is always a killer ~ metaphorically at least.

Some say dog eat dog, rat eat rat, and that the crocodiles always come out on top.  All I know is that success does not always come to him who waits.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the Gods strike while the iron is hot

True Love Isn’t A Deal

a calm sea never made a skilful sailor

if you survive a toxic relationship you will be stronger for it

Most relationships are deals, they arise out necessity, they arise out of wants, needs, and desires.  In these relationships, be they business related, friendships, sexual, or romantic, each person has needs, demands, requests, and expectations.  They want what they want and they want to give just enough in return to keep the relationship alive ~ if not always healthy.  These relationships are usually one-sided with one person giving much more than they receive in return.  They are about what you can get, and not at all about what you can give.  Some call these transactional relationships ~ and that’s buying and selling.

Most self-help and self-development books, podcasts, and seminars are all about how to win in a one-sided transactional relationship.

In a relationship, no amount of extra effort on your part can make up for the lack of effort on theirs.  ~  John Mark Green.

No wonder so many ‘romantic’ relationships and marriages end on the rocks.

In the average transactional relationship there are conditions around everything ~ it’s all an ‘I’ll do this if you do that…..’  And the weight of each thing that each party brings to the relationship is carefully weighed and measured.

The very sad thing is that many people don’t know any better, because they themselves are the result of this kind of dysfunctional deal making relationship.  The chances are that their parents did exactly the same kind of things that they are doing now.

Each of us has a set of hard-wired programs in our subconscious mind, and these programs dictate how we think, feel, react, and act in any given situation.  Mostly these programs are created within us before we are seven years of age, and guess who inculcates most of this stuff into our innocent subconsciousness ~ our parents.

People who come from dysfunctional families are destined for a dysfunctional life.  ~  Bo Bennet.

The tendency towards living in a dysfunctional / transactional / toxic relationship is a family illness, in the same way that a tendency towards alcoholism, drug abuse, gambling, promiscuity, and violence are family illnesses.  And you know what?  All of the above go together and can be often be found in one or both parties in most toxic relationships.

The other side of the coin to a dysfunctional / transactional / toxic relationship can only come about through both parties giving unconditional affection, acceptance, friendship, support, respect, understanding and love to themselves and each other.  And, my friends, that is very rare indeed.  Some call this a transformational relationship, and if you are lucky enough to be in that kind of situation then you have indeed found your soul-mate.

Some say that they wouldn’t trust their lying partner out of their sight for an instant.  And that their husband / wife is a controlling asshole.  All I know is that a healthy relationship is based on unconditional trust.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

happiness comes in waves

breaking hearts

it’s hard to feel good about yourself when your heart is breaking

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if you want to see me smile

tell me that you love me

even if you have to lie

tell me that you care

even if it isn’t true

please want me

as I want you

desire me

please

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I don’t want a lover anymore

I just need a friend in you

let me go, set me free

simply a sorceress

alcohol and a highly sexual woman is a dangerous mix

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these are the reasons she drinks

these are the reasons she smokes

she’s says she doesn’t do drugs

but I know that she really does

this is the reason she gambles

and is always up on her luck

these are the reasons she fucks

so many young men and boys

treats them like so many toys

I’ve dated many young witches

God! why did I fall for this one?

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a broomstick, no bra and no panties

 

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