There is no such thing as managing time ~ time passes at a constant rate whether you like it or not.
You cannot manage time, but what you can manage is what you do with the time you have available ~ which probably works out at 16 hours each and every single day. Most people need around 8 hours of good quality sleep every night ~ and going to bed and getting a good night’s sleep is the most important thing you should do with your time.
The first thing you need to know about managing what you do with the time you have available is forget just about everything you’ve ever read, heard, listened to, or watched about ‘time management’ because mostly they have been negative and told you why you don’t do things.
What you need to know about getting organised, being effective and efficient, achieving what you want to achieve, making a long-term personal difference, and being healthy and happy is:
- Making doing what you want to do, and doing the things that make you feel happy, healthy, and wealthy, your first priority. First make time to do the things you love. Stop doing what other people expect you to do.
- Make lists. Most ‘time management’ consultants, gurus, motivational speakers will have told you that making lists is counter-productive. That’s fashionable bullshit. For the average person, who is likely quite disorganised, making lists is an important tool, a big step on the path to getting organised.
- Your first priorities, the first things you should write on your very first list, are those things that keep you fit, and healthy, and help you to live longer. These things include; sleeping 8 hours a night, cooking good food and eating slowly for 3 meals a day will take about 2 hours 20 minutes, fresh air and exercise 1 hour, breaks at work 2 x 20 minutes. And you know what? All that will work out at around 12 hours out of your available 24.
- Then there are the things that you should do every week. Work out your finances and check your budget, pay your bills, gas and clean your car, clean your home, do some yard work, do your laundry….. The likelihood is you will do these things at the weekend, when you’re not going to work. Because ~
- Going to work and working all
fuckingday. Say 2 x 30 minutes travelling, and 8 hours working. And that uses up nine hours of your day, and most people have to go to work. It’s all going to take longer if the weather is bad, or you’re feeling like shit because you got good and drunk the night before, or you’re just utterly demotivated. But lets say all that’s 9 hours out of your 24.
- Showering, shaving, doing your hair, getting dressed / changed before and after work, putting your clothes away or in the laundry hamper. If you’re normally clean, tidy, well-groomed and well-dressed that’s probably going to use up an hour a day. If you’re a slut or a slob, then why are you reading this?
Now, write all of that shit down in a list, and please use your own timings and your own must-do activities. However, I will bet that however you customise your own and personal MUST-DO list, it will use up about 22 hours a day. If it doesn’t all add up to at least 20 hours a day, then you’re in denial and deluding yourself.
Those are the things that you HAVE to do to live, thrive, and survive. You cannot not do those things, and they require fuck-all ‘time management’. The only thing that you can possibly do is multi-task; do your personal finances at work, listen to motivational audio during your journey to work, exercise at your desk….. and that multi-tasking needs management. Write a list of all those things that you can do when you’re also doing something else, like being at work.
Now what you have left is between 2 and 4 hours a day ~ and that’s what you can manage. So, write a list of what you really, really want to do, and make time for the things you love.
And that’s time management.
what to do if your plan isn’t working
Life can take us down unexpected and difficult paths.
Through painful experience, I have learned that to be very successful in your life, there are some things we must do. Most of them are difficult, bordering on the impossible, but all of these 10 things listed below are actually achievable.
There are two types of people who will tell that you cannot make a difference in this world; those who are afraid to try, and those who are afraid you will succeed. ~ Ray Goforth.
I firmly believe that these are the most important of the rules we must follow in order to overcome life’s challenges, and ultimately win out:
- Stay Healthy. It’s almost impossible to be successful if you’re often ill, spending time in bed, or in hospital.
- Overcome Addictions. Alcoholism, Drug Addiction, Gambling, Smoking….. to name perhaps the most dangerous of all possible addictions. If you drink too much you will lose almost everything. If you drink and gamble you will lose everything. If you drink, gamble, smoke, and take drugs, you will lose everything, and then you’ll die ~ horribly
- Stay Within the Law. If you get involved with illegal activities, including taking drugs, drink driving, illegal gambling ~ sometime or other you will have a run in with The Police. A criminal record does your chances of living your dream life no good at all.
- Say Goodbye to Toxic People. Toxic relationships will make you unhappy, corrupt your mind and soul, and prevent you from realising how much better things can be.
- Seek Out, and Take, Good Advice. If you’re physically ill see a doctor, if you’re suffering mentally see a counsellor, and if you’re just struggling seek out your closest and wisest friend. Whatever advice you’re given, really take it to heart.
- Do Not Waste Time or Money. Too many people throw their money away without thought. Almost everyone wastes their time on unimportant activities. A fool and his money are soon parted. Time is the most precious resource we have.
- Stay Romantically and Sexually Faithful. Affairs, casual sex, multiple partners, using sex-workers, are all going to waste your time and money. You will get into trouble, and if you’re married, you will be asked for a divorce.
- Keep Learning. Nobody can know everything, but most people don’t even try to improve their mind and knowledge once they finish their formal education. The internet and a million books are out their, and something you learn may just give you the edge you need to become successful.
- Focus On Things You Can Control. God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. And, don’t let me try to change people, because that never works.
- Follow Your Dreams. Dreams are the fuel for your success. Without dreams there can never be any meaningful and lasting success in your life.
Some very smart people can ignore some of these rules, some of the time, and still be successful. But you can’t ignore all of these rules, all of the time, and still have a hope in hell of making a success of your life. And, never worry about failure, just make certain that you pick yourself up and start again.
Marmaduke is a success,
and he loves Bentleys and Jaguars