some women do wrong just because of the buzz
This Beth Hart song reminds me of a couple of women I used to know very well indeed. They would steal, gamble, drink, and be amorous just for the buzz it gave them. For all I know they still do. There was no harm in any of it.
Women like that are fun.
But you will probably get burned.
at least it’s only wine
this time anyway
gin is worse
I couldn’t let her suffer in a spooky down-market hotel
actually, for her, I could
drunk under the boardwalk, out of the sun
I never wanted t go to Mexico. and while I was in Mexico City I hated it with a passion But I would stop shaving and using deodorant to spend a week in Tijuana with my Californian friend.
I know she would like sitting at the bar, chatting up men.
But the stupid hat on me, maybe not.
I’m an Englishman, a legal alien.
The monster does it better.
my friend drinks, smokes,
hangs out in bars too
let nature decide on your sex-drive
not doctors and drugs
she should make my temperature rise
In the past when I heard of people who stopped taking their medication for schizophrenia, bi-polar disorder, depression, or some other mental issue….. because the drugs made them feel like they; ‘weren’t themselves anymore’ ~ well I used to think they were being stupid.
For the past few days I’ve been taking a drug called Amlodipine to help lower what was my catastrophically high blood pressure, and it worked dramatically quickly ~ which is good. There have been some immediate side-effects ~ which is not so good. I’ve been drowsy, a bit confused and clumsy, my memory is crap. and I’ve got a constant headache. There’s another side effect; no interest whatsoever in sex, total lack of sex-drive, zero libido, and no chance at all of having an erection. I checked, one of the side effects of Amlodipine is to dramatically reduce the production of the male sex-hormone testosterone.
It feels like a very important part of my personality has been removed ~ I don’t feel like myself anymore. I’m not me. And, not only do I feel weird, I don’t like it one little bit.
You might wonder how I know my sex-drive and lustful desires have disappeared, given that I’ve been in lockdown for months, and not had a date in all that time. The strange thing is I knew, and I know that my masculinity has disappeared along with the testosterone which used to flood my body. I’m not interested in women in any sexual way whatsoever, and strong sexual feelings have been with me since adolescence. Some other aspects of maleness have also gone; like I’ve lost my sense of direction ~ I don’t automatically know where North is anymore. Spacial awareness is out of the window, single-mindedness and black and white thinking has gone, and I’m finding it difficult to focus on one task at a time. I’m depressed, tired all the time, and irritable. Even my voice is changing.
Who knew that testosterone does much more to the male body than creating and increasing sexual desire and performance? (I’ve even checked this out by watching some internet porn, and nothing, zip, nada.)
Some women say that men are merely life-support systems for their penis. And that the way to a man’s heart isn’t food, it’s casual sex. All I know is that it’s horrible when a man’s masculinity vanishes.
a great body, fabulous ass, fantastic pose
what effect is that having?
Seascapes and Serenity Lost is available on Amazon
your decisions create your ultimate destiny
some women choose to drink alone
for a while anyhow
make good choices today
so you don’t have regrets tomorrow
change is inevitable, success is optional
life is the sum of all your choices and chances
she did not love you
but you took a chance because your love was true
it turned out that was the wrong choice
the true measure of intelligence is the ability to change
a wise man sometimes changes his mind, a fool never will
there are far better women ahead
than the ones we choose to leave behind
sexual desire is real, genuine, and powerful
you may desire her
but you can’t miss what you’ve never had
although all she desired was casual sex
she decided that she may as well fall in love
man is a creation of desire, not a creation of need
sexual desire and fucking are just biology in action
desire can be bitter, sweet, savoury, salty, and sassy
but never tasteless and boring
desire is a hunger in men, but just an appetite in women
there is but a small distance between the desire to fuck and the need to hurt
the best moments in her life are the desires she can’t ever share with her husband
toxic and malignant relationships are dangerous
doesn’t happen as often as some might desire
Why do so many good people find themselves in a toxic relationship? Is it because we expect people to live up to our own standards? If that’s true then a lot of us are going to be very disappointed a lot of the time. It’s worse than that, some women put themselves in danger by dating / having a relationship with / marrying abusive men. What some women never seem to learn is that men don’t change, what he’s like when you first meet him is what he is always going to be like.
The warning signs that people are not who they say they are include;
- being unreliable, frequently turning up late or not showing up at all
- being evasive about themselves, what they do, where they live, what kind of family they have
- being evasive about their past
- lying, and especially lying by omission
- never being the first to pick up the check in a restaurant or bar
- having a regular bar where they know all the other patrons, talking to everyone in a bar except you
- drinking too much, turning up stoned, being far too interested in sports
- being broke, owing money, trying to borrow money from you
- liking much older / younger friends and potential / actual sexual partners
- being too rough when you have sex, being too interested in porn, being more than just a little kinky, wanting to share you with someone else
The thing is, even if your date / partner / spouse is displaying some or all of these warning signs many men and women close their eyes to these negatives and only see their paramour through rose tinted spectacles. Or worse, some people are very aware of their date’s faults but go on seeing them anyway, with the unrealistic expectation that they will change, if only they are given a chance. Remember that a leopard never changes its spots.
If your gut is telling you that your date’s affection and protestations of love are false, then 99.9% of the time your gut is right, and you are being used and manipulated, Some toxic people will only pretend to love you as much as they can use you, and their fake love will end when the benefits stop.
The biggest signs that you have totally unrealistic expectations of your date / partner / spouse are that they stop being interested in sex with you, and instead get interested in sex with everyone and anyone else. If someone cheats on you then they don’t give a shit about you.
Some say that inside every bad person there is a good person trying to get out. And that if we just give someone a chance they will change for the better. All I know is that all of our expectations of another person are most likely unrealistic.
if your partner becomes amorous at parties, then it’s time for you to walk away
if you don’t feed your dog
don’t be surprised if he’s scrabbling through the trash
younger man with an older women
Forget Maslow’s hierarchy of needs because in this day and age shelter, warmth, water, and food are available to every person living in a western civilisation. What most men want most, what drives almost every man, is the desire for sex, money, and power. Love is something else, and anyone actually searching for love probably has unrealistic expectations of life.
For the average man, the triumvirate of sex, money, and power almost always begins with money. Not that many women want to date / have a fling with / sleep with an average guy who is also flat broke. And, if you’re flat broke it might also mean that you don’t dress well, can’t really afford to hang out in upscale bars, and your car is a junker. Not many women want to have sex in a wreck of a car. So the average guy is caught in a Catch-22 situation, what he really wants to do is hang out in bars and find an inebriated woman to have casual sex with, but before he can do that he needs some significant folding stuff. More than that, power flows from money like water flows downstream, and many women find power an aphrodisiac.
There are but a few ways to get money. One could try gambling, but all gamblers end up dead broke. Stealing it in one way or another is very dangerous ~ all thieves come to a bad end, eventually. More unlikely ways of acquiring a bank-roll are inheriting it, marrying it, becoming a drug dealer, and winning the lottery. Do not hold your breath. The most reliable way to get cash is to work for it ~ that means being very successful in your chosen career, and that means working hard, putting in the hours, and that will keep you out of the bars where you hope to meet an easy lay. The upside to being very successful in your chosen career is that you will also become powerful.
Sex, Money, and Power form a stable equilateral triangle. The average man can’t get a lot of one without also acquiring an abundance of the other two. Or, for the extremely unethical bastard, you could find a plain older woman who happens to have money, marry her, and then entertain yourself by cheating on her, gaslighting her, and stealing from her.
Personally, I happen to know a very cool American woman I can’t meet because of a raft of insurmountable obstacles. But that’s Life for you, and 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.
Of course, 90% of the above also applies to women, (maybe 90%, I’m not a woman so I can’t be certain).
Some say that commitment to just one person is am unachievable dream. And that relationships shouldn’t have rules. All I know is that some people are utterly honest, open, and ethical ~ but most aren’t
a woman sitting at the bar
and drinking alone
is only there for one reason
mystery, sexuality, eroticism, elegance, and the line of beauty
OK maybe one of the most non pc music videos ever. But do I care? Does any man who likes long legs care? Probably not. And Man, I Feel Like A woman takes on a whole other meaning when a cool guy says it.
Shirt and hat could become my favourite look on my favourite girl.
Do ordained women really wear that?
maybe mature is better
there is always room for the chairman of the board
Chances are that I’m already at my destination. so if you are not with me then think about what could have been. BTW I don’t much like Peru.
Some days I rival the king of cool.
Please listen with a smile.
cough, cough, splutter
that’s the way Wright Cyclones always sound