Faint Heart could never win Fair Lady

This is all an artificial construct, because a very sensual, intelligent, emotionally mature, and very grounded woman can never be attracted by techniques, or schemes, or cunning artifice.  The only person who could ever deceive that woman, or make her date an unsuitable man, or get into a less than ideal relationship is herself.  And, women can be very good at fooling themselves, not that they would ever admit that, (hardly ever anyway).

There are innumerable works out there which will purport to tell a guy how to pick up a woman, how to regularly get casual sex, how to manipulate women, how to fuck them and leave them, and how to use them.  Perhaps the deepest and most thorough treatise on the art of using women is The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida.  I can only stomach this book for a couple of pages at a time.

So, to the truth, and assuming you are not James Bond.  To attract a sensual, intelligent, emotionally mature, and very grounded woman;

Be the very best version of yourself you can possibly be.

• Get healthier and fitter.  Exercise, eat right, get some sun.
• Look as good as you can.  Haircut, manicure, teeth, and manage any facial or other extraneous hair.
• Dress as well as you can ~ appropriately for the place and occasion, but find your own style.  Always dress up, rather than dress down.  Pay attention to your shoes and tie.
• Control your addictions.  Stop smoking, don’t drink much at all, don’t gamble, don’t overeat or eat junk food, and FFS do not use drugs.
• Learn some English good manners.  Almost all American men have appalling manners, but not as bad as Germans, Japanese, and most other Asians or Hispanics.
• Learn how to hold a conversation, and for most men that means learning how to listen to her.
• Read some interesting books, learn some interesting things to talk about ~ most women are very uninterested in sports.  Find out what she is interested in and learn about that.  Have a wide and deep knowledge base, but never ever bore her with what you know.
• Accessorise well. Apartment, car, watch, pen…..
• Learn about money, manage your money well so you can always pick up the tab if you need to, but never ever flash your cash around.

But, most of all, care about her.  If you do not genuinely like her and care about her then you are wasting both of your time.  I’m not talking about love, that should usually only come deep into a relationship.  Caring about someone is different.  She is a person, not a sex object.  If you want a sex object find a hooker or a slut.

Some say there is no such thing as ‘the art of attracting woman’.  And that any woman you can get that’s willing and breathing is the one you want.  All I know is that there is nothing so precious to a man as real and honest friendship with a woman.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Bond makes up his own rules