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Giving up Booze

alcohol is the world’s most addictive and most dangerous drug

Alcohol kills more people each year than all the other drugs combined ~ world-wide some three-million people a year will die from alcohol related causes.  Cocaine, heroin, marijuana, meth, prescription drugs, tobacco…. all added together don’t kill as many people as booze.  One third of all traffic fatalities involve alcohol.  Booze will cause alcoholic poisoning, malnutrition, strokes, heart attacks, diabetes, cancers, a fatal coma, liver failure, pancreatitis, pneumonia,  multiple organ failure, fatal accidents, suicides…..  And when you end up in the emergency room the doctors and nurses will treat you like shit.

Yet drinking booze is socially acceptable, in fact if you don’t drink most people will think you are rather strange.  And, if you used to be a boozer, and stop, and then go out with your old circle of friends, they will pressure you to take a drink and indulge all of your other addictions.  And these are supposed to be your friends?

If you drink, then over time your drinking will get worse and worse until it kills you.  Before the booze kills you, you will know physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual suffering.

Of all those people who try to stop drinking, only 2.5% will make it to 90 days sober.  Of that 2.5%, only 2.5% will make it to 2 years, that’s 2.5 people out of every 1,000 who will be sober 2 years after they made the decision to stop drinking.  Be one of the 0.25% who succeed.  You have a better chance of success if you get help.

Those who tell themselves that they want to control their drinking, or stop all together, may try some futile and self-destructive strategies;

  • lying to themselves about how much they are drinking ~ denial is dangerous
  • switching from spirits to wine to beer, drinking only organic booze
  • limiting the number of drinks they have ~ that never, ever works
  • resigning their job and moving from where they are to somewhere different ~ this is called doing a geographical
  • religion, counselling, hypnosis, psychotherapy, doctors, taking anti-drinking medication ~ I have seen people on antibuse drink a hell of a lot in a session
  • drinking in different bars where nobody knows them
  • switching to a different addiction; smoking, gambling, unsafe casual sex, using other drugs, stealing, impulsive spending ~ although the chances are that real boozers were doing all those things at the same time they were drinking
  • joining a gym, sports club, walking club, doing yoga, meditation classes…..

None of the above really works because most boozers are liars and cheats.  You will drink again if you don’t do something radically different.  Take a long hard look at yourself and accept that nobody and nothing is responsible for your drinking except you, and what’s going on with you.  And if you are brutally honest with yourself, then you will probably be confused because you have no idea why you drink.  The brutal honesty is good ~ stay with that

Don’t worry about the confusion for now ~ for now, just stay away from that next first drink.  Next, stay away from everywhere you used to drink, and all those toxic false friends you used to drink with. Give up on all your other addictions.  Now find yourself some support; Alcoholics Anonymous, counselling, hypnosis, psychotherapy, doctors, the church, sober friends, YouTube…..

And over the next 90 days find out the truth of why you drink, and deal with that.  In my case I was drinking because I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and now I am dealing with that.

Some say that you are just a worthless alcoholic, and will never think that you are anything else.  And some say that they never want to see you again.  All I know is that everyone has the angel of recovery inside them.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

single malt scotch was my drug of choice

The Lost Week

Drunkenness is nothing but voluntary madness.  ~  Seneca

There’s a 1945 film noir called The Lost Weekend, starring Ray Milland, which explores the really bad side of drinking far too much.  The lead character literally loses an entire weekend ~ and then tries to kill himself over the things he learns when all the misery and pain start to come back to him.

Alcohol and suicide go together like ham and eggs.

As it goes, any booze at all counts as drinking far too much for me.  I have no tolerance for alcohol whatsoever.  Most people can take a couple of drinks in safety; nothing really bad happens to them.  These days I can’t even smell strong drink without something bad happening to me.

Ignorance is a lot like alcohol: the more you have of it, the less you are able to see its effect on you.  ~  Jay Bylsma.

I took a couple of drinks on April 13th, and didn’t really come around again until April 19th ~ that’s very bad.  I lost a whole week out of my life, and for what?  I don’t even enjoy the best wines anymore

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

dawn’s destructive depression

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dawn breaks in sadness

sullen anger and tears

free me from madness

take away my fears

or leave me in blackness

to end these bitter years

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Sunrise1words and pictures by jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Under The Influence

TOO MUCH BOOZE CAUSES SEVERE PROBLEMS

Most people like to take a drink now and then.  Mankind has been consuming alcohol for thousands of years, and mostly it merely adds to conviviality.  Drink too much of the falling-down water too often and you could create a lot of problems for yourself and others.  How much is too much?  If you have ever done more than one of the following, more than once, then you drink too much.

  • Inappropriate behaviour.  Everything from insulting the boss at the office party to persisting to make very unwanted advances to a girl who has already said no.
  • Throwing up.  Vomiting after too much booze and the wrong sort of food is a common event.
  • Falling down in the street.  There’s a reason alcohol is sometimes called falling-down water.
  • Inappropriate sexual behaviour.  Girls who get drunk sometimes also sleep around ~ most men just want an easy lay.  Lack of money to buy drink makes people date inappropriately, become involved in the sex trade, sleep around, find a sugar daddy or a cougar…
  • Dishonesty.  Hiding booze, stealing booze, lying about how much you have had to drink, denial, lying about where you have been, drinking in secret, protecting your supply, making promises you have no intention of keeping, stealing cash, selling your stuff, selling other people’s stuff, and for studs and women, selling your body.
  • Complaints from family and friends.  The; Don’t you think you’ve had enough?  Ignore this and go on drinking, and you will lose your family and friends.
  • Sexually Transmitted Infections.  A direct result of too many sexual partners is that your chances of contracting everything from thrush to gonorrhea are increased dramatically.
  • Violence.  Drink and violence go hand in hand because booze suppresses the part of the brain that keeps humans under some sort of control.  Get drunk, sleep with the wrong person, and you could end up dead.
  • Weight gain.  In the early stages of drinking too much, one may also eat a lot of junk food and take no exercise.  These things can lead to visceral fat ~ the classic beer belly.
  • Drinking in dingy dives.  The person who drinks to much will eventually stop using smart wine bars and find that they use dingy pubs and scruffy dives instead.  Along with this will go drinking with some very dubious people.  You will have given up your gym membership.  By now you will probably have tried switching from Scotch to light beer, and totally given up on vodka and tequila.
  • Drinking in the morning.  If you take a beer when you get up in the morning, then you have a problem.  If you take a slug of vodka when you get up in the morning, then you have a really serious problem.
  • Insomnia.  We can’t stay awake when we drink, and we can’t sleep when we don’t drink.  We get up in the middle of the night to take a drink.
  • Lack of interest in hobbies and pastimes.  Actually this is not true for the problem drinker has an all-consuming hobby ~ alcohol.
  • Poor personal appearance.  Too busy drinking, and anyhow in the pub we now drink in everyone is unshaven and dressed in scruffy clothes, taking a shower is just too much effort.
  • Serious accidents.  Because booze suppresses that part of the brain which stops us from being reckless and stupid, we do things like take our eyes off the road to fiddle with the radio while driving at 100 miles per hour.
  • Alcoholic poisoning.  This can kill you.
  • Multiple addiction.  Many who drink too much are also addicted to smoking, gambling, casual sex, prescription drugs, street drugs, reckless behaviour.
  • Visits to hospital emergency rooms.  Friday and Saturday nights hospitals are full of the casualties of the drinking war.
  • Serious injury to yourself and others.  Funny how women who drink and drive always seem to hit something vulnerable, like a school bus queue.  Men who drink and drive just kill themselves.
  • Trouble with the police.  Everything from fighting in the street to rolling your car at 100 mph, while as drunk as a Lord.
  • Imprisonment or mandatory attention at a course for problem drinkers / drunk drivers / practitioners of domestic violence.
  • Losing friends and family.  It your loved ones are telling you that you drink to much, eventually you will lose them.
  • Lost time.  Drinking a lot will make you forget what you have been doing.  Drinking far too much will give you very frightening alcoholic blackouts.
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What you do not want ~ an alcoholic pilot

  • Lost jobs.  There is a thing called a functioning alcoholic, these people are rare.  Mostly if you are hungover or drunk on the job you will be unable to do the job, then you will lose your job.
  • Mental illness.  Paranoia, depression, anxiety, dementia.  Self-medicating with booze is a bad idea.  Alcoholic depression is something you do not want, trust me, I know.
  • Self-harm and Suicide.  Alcoholic depression can lead to attempted suicide.  Sometimes attempted suicide leads to death.
  • Heart Disease.  Excess alcohol is directly linked to heart disease and an increased risk of strokes.  This is not something you want to suffer, unless you are in the grip of alcoholic depression.
  • Diabetes.  Visceral Fat is a sign that you are well on the way to type 2 diabetes.  You do not want to get diabetes.  Before it kills you, then you may well lose both legs.
  • Cancer.  Alcohol increases your risk of getting the 7 different types of the Big C.  Excessive alcohol causes cancer of the liver, bowels, breasts, mouth, upper throat, food pipe and the voice box.  You cannot live without your liver.  Alcohol has also been linked to kidney cancer and non-Hogkin lymphoma, but in this case booze reduces the risk of getting the diseases.
  • Big_Liver_Tumor

    A very diseased liver being removed

    Liver Disease.  Too much booze is bad for the liver, everybody know that.  In fact the liver just loves alcohol, and will process booze to the exclusion of everything else, until all the booze is out of your body.  Some symptoms of liver problems are; feeling sick, weight loss, jaundice, swollen ankles and stomach, confusion, vomiting blood, blood in the stool.  The stages of liver disease are; fatty liver, hepatitis, cirrhosis, death.  A diseased liver is not a pretty sight.

  • Alcohol can cause the alcoholic to lose everything in life.  Dignity, health, jobs, marriage, friends, family, money, safety and security, freedom, health, sanity, life itself.

As I said, if you have done more than one of those things more than once you may well have a problem with your drinking.  If you still do not recognise your problem, try taking a questionnaire such as  that offered by Alcoholic’s Anonymous.

There are no soft and easy answers to this.  If you even think you drink too much, or your family and friends say you drink too much, then stop drinking too much before it’s too late.  If you firmly recognise yourself in the comments I made above, then sorry, your only answer is to give up booze.  This is almost impossible.  Try and find some help.  Start with your doctor.  Eventually, if you are a real boozer and do not stop, you will die an early death.  Before that you will lose everything good that life has to offer.  It’s your choice.

 

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