Category Archives: Travel

Scenes on Sunday ~ California Road Trip

the life you have led doesn’t need to be the only life you have

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

sometimes, only a convertible Mustang will do, with a very cute girl riding shotgun

Long-Distance Love Affairs

love knows no time, love knows no distance

Until very recently,  in historical terms in the blink of an eye, you were likely to love and marry someone from your own village / town / county / state, after all these were the  only people you were ever likely to meet.  Then came reliable mail, and I’m talking paper and the mailman here, together with the widespread use of the telephone, and people started to have pen-pals, and fall in love with them.

Fast forward to the late 20th century and we have instant emails, and now video chat, and it becomes perfectly possible to develop a deep and meaningful relationship with someone you have never actually met, who lives a couple of thousand miles away, or on the other side of the world.  Add in blogs, Facebook, Instagram, tumblr, and sundry chat / dating / sex sites and the potential for a long-distance love affair is as good as meeting the boy / girl next door.

But, all you have is electronic, and you can’t actually have sex with an electronic person…..  and I’m  not going into the esoteric and erotic world of remotely controlled sex toys.

How can you actually be friends with someone you have never met, and know only through their blog, and some emails, and online chats?  It turns out that it’s very easy, maybe easier than meeting someone from the office, or in a bar, or a friend of a friend.  To begin with if you meet someone online you are both starting with a clean slate, and there are no interfering family members or other friends to get in the way.  Also, and in my experience, it’s much much easier to be completely honest and open with someone you meet online than it is with someone you meet in any other way.  Perhaps most importantly, for women thinking of being online friends with a guy, he isn’t going to be a stranger expecting first date sex.

The bottom line is, your long-distance friend might just be the best friend you’ve ever had.

However, leaving aside the whole sex thing for now, there are a few downsides in an online long-distance relationship.

  • Time zones.  If you’re in California and he’s in England he is 8 hours ahead of you.
  • Identity.  Are you talking with who you think you are?  Who you think is a cute 30 years old woman in California might be a fat trucker from Detroit.
  • Marital status.  She may say she’s single, or he may say he’s divorced, but both of them could be married with kids.
  • Honesty.  It’s easy to lie if you are 5,000 miles apart, how do you check the truth?
  • Meeting.  That first meeting could be fraught, you will be nervous, it might never happen.  But that is no different from having a blind date.

It’s an on line relationship, so use the internet to your advantage.  Google the object of your affections is a good start.  You know the rest.

Some might say that it’s difficult to have a relationship if you’re a couple of thousand miles apart.  And, how can you have a love affair if you hardly ever see one-another?  All I know is that it happens all the time.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

at least she’s a woman

and not a trucker from Detroit

 

Christmas Fun ~ The Pretenders

Christmas is the day that holds all time together.

For the first time since he died, this morning I had a fond memory of my father, from very long ago.  It seems that Christmas transcends time and distance.

This song is another memory from long ago, something that would be played in my car on the long drive north from London to a little pit village in County Durham.

Please listen thinking of those far away this Christmas.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

for the girl riding shotgun

who will be far away this Christmas

Christmas is a Future Thing

Christmas is forever, not just for one day.

Aside from the whole birth of Jesus Christ thing a couple of thousand years ago, around dawn at some stable in the middle of the desert, why should Christmas Day be different from any other day in the calendar?  Maybe we feel we should be especially nice to people, be more giving and forgiving, be more loving towards ourselves and others?  Perhaps it’s the one day in the year we think of, email, telephone, or visit friends, relatives, or loved ones we haven’t thought of or seen since last Christmas.  Perhaps Christmas Day is the day that our heart breaks all over again.

Some people look forward to Christmas, thinking that the day will bring them the happiness they so want and need.  Trust me, looking for happiness in the future is a short road to misery ~ even believing that you will be happier at Christmas than the unhappiness you’ve suffered for the rest of this year might not be your best ever plan.

One result of trying to find happiness in the future is that we can wish our lives away, believing the future will be better than now.  There are some basic rules; nothing ever changes, the only thing we can change is ourselves, and tomorrow will pretty much be the same as today.

There are some supplementary rules, one of which is that travel over the Christmas holidays is going to be fucking terrible.  Flights will be packed and delayed, trains will be cancelled, and the roads will be full of Sunday drivers who have no idea how to cope if it even so much as rains.  And if it snows…..

My 5th or 6th worst memory of a Christmas is trying to drive the 300 miles from London to Durham, on Christmas Eve, in a blizzard.  That annual journey was one of the reasons I never looked forward with pleasure to Christmas.  It grew so that I dreaded Christmas Eve.

And yet, around midnight, I still searched the night sky, hoping to see the magic of Santa.

Christmas changes everyone and everything.  Christmas changes our memories of the past, our attitudes in the present, and our expectations for the future.  We each of us hope for a brighter Christmas and a better New Year.  So, Hallelujah ~ Noel ~ Be it Heaven or Hell, the Christmas we get we deserve.

Some say that Christmas has become too commercialised.  And there is no such person as Santa Claus, magical or otherwise.  All I know is that I have a friend who leaves a carrot out for his donkey and a glass of tequila for him.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

how will Santa cope when there are moms on the moon?

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Driving Home for Christmas

the weather outside is frightful, but she is so delightful

I well remember those Christmas Eve drives north from my home near London to see family and friends in the cold North East of England.  Not fun at all in some of the cars I owned ~ a Triumph TR6 is not good in the snow.

These days, most younger people have no idea how to drive safely in really bad weather.

Please listen responsibly.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the Triumph TR6

too much power, not enough grip

 

Scenes on Sunday ~ Anywhere But Here

travelling far turns you into a storyteller

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

in a December’s winter I would rather be almost anywhere but here.

Christmas is Cancelled

Scrooge had the right idea ~ Christmas Bah! Humbug!

For the second year in succession my Christmas vacation plans have been cancelled ~ without so much as a ‘bye your leave’.

The thing is, when other people totally fuck up mess up your Christmas holiday plans, they feed you a bunch of guilt assuaging crap in the mistaken belief that you can’t telling the whole truth.

The other thing is, when Christmas vacation plans get suddenly cancelled, it’s pretty difficult to unwind arrangements, and almost impossible to make alternative plans with only 6 weeks or so until it’s time to fly off to somewhere warm and sunny.  At Christmas Time everywhere is booked up months in advance, the airlines are overbooked, and it’s utterly impossible to find a cute travelling companion.

So, come Christmas Eve, I’ll have a box full of gifts for a woman, a suitcase full of great clothes, a wallet full of US$, and no place to go.  Last year I stayed in the garret on my own, except for Marmaduke, and got good and drunk ~ well miserably drunk.  And it looks as though it might be the same this year.  Which is a shame.

The other sad thing is that, along with my holiday plans being cancelled, comes some problems in a treasured relationship.

l, they always said that when things seem to be going well you’ll get a load of shit dumped on your head.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

don’t think Santa is coming this way

Hotel California

staying in cockroach city is OK if you’re with the right woman

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Maybe I was

Scenes on Sunday ~ Travel

travel broadens the mind 

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jackcollier7 @talk talk.ne

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Scenes on Sunday ~ Crete

there is a kind of flame on Crete ~ a colourful soul

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Crete is more of a colour palette

than just a place

of dreams and seascapes

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