Category Archives: Travel

You’d think a man would know…

’tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all  ~  Alfred Lord Tennyson

There seems to be a problem with a relationship I’m having with a woman who is very important to me.

In the end it has come down to those two perennial issues; money and sex.

But, this relationship was always about just how much money I was prepared to spend ~ and just how little I was prepared to accept in return.  Now it’s about a $25,000 car…..

You’d think a mature man such as I would have seen this from the start ~ truth be told I did, but perhaps I just wasn’t prepared to accept the painful reality it.

You Think A Man Would Know

Perhaps things will turn out well after all.

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jack collier

jackcollier@talktalk.net

 

or maybe Marmaduke and I will hit the road again

Encinitas Pebble Garden

Some things are just such novel and cool ideas.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Marmaduke was so disappointed not to see this magical little garden ~ so perfect for a teddy bear

Scenes on Sunday ~ York

Now is the winter of our discontent
Made glorious summer by this son of York;

These days ancient English City of York is full of bicycles, churches, tourists, and pubs ~ mostly pubs.  And mostly not a  lot of Shakespeare.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalknet

 

unless you are a very attractive American woman, don’t ask to taste a load of different beers before you buy a pint.

Scenes on Sunday ~ Orange County

When you are tired of California you are tired of Life.

Orange County in Southern California is one of my favourite places in the world ~ say right up there alongside Tuscany in Northern Italy.  I’m visiting SoCal next week, but here are some pictures from my last trip there.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Scenes on Sunday ~ Wyoming Wilderness

The clearest way into your mind is through a wilderness.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

all these pictures were taken with a compact Lumix by the girl riding shotgun.

Tiny Teardrop Trailers

Little trailers for big road-trip adventures.

I have this idea to build a tiny ‘teardrop trailer’.  The size of one of these tiny trailers is based on a standard 8′ x 4′ sheet of plywood.  That size sheet is what forms the floor, the walls, and the roof ~ cut and moulded to give whatever pleasing shape you like.  I believe I can build one of these in a little over a week.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/travel/travel_news/article-5262527/Tiny-caravan-doubles-second-home-kitchen.html

There is  tiny trailer called ‘the Droplet’ which has a space-efficient shape.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/travel/travel_news/article-5262527/Tiny-caravan-doubles-second-home-kitchen.html

You can obviously buy a ready-made, off-the-shelf teardrop trailer.

http://www.teardroptrailers.co.uk

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https://www.homedit.com/camper-trailers/

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This is something I want to make as a project before I build a school bus camper.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the fog of uncertainty

Life is an unending struggle at the edge of uncertainty.

Some say that nothing is certain in this life except death and taxes.  And, that we should live in the moment, taking what joy there is to be had.  All I know is that a little certainty sometimes would go a long way.  Worrying about things that may happen is to create pointless pain.

Over the past few days I have been struggling to make sense of a relationship that’s important to me, and my introspection and deliberation hasn’t gone so well.  Either I just do not understand my friend and why she does things, or I do not understand women at all, or both.  It’s probably both.

My friend is taking a trip to England ~ going on a retreat in the Cotswolds with a weird self-improvement group.  Her first trip to England isn’t to visit me, it’s to be with her group.  That doesn’t make me feel good, it makes me feel very second-best.  What my friend is going to do by taking this trip to England to see a bunch of other people hurts me more than just a lot.  Anyhow, I hate groups.  Most small groups revel in their self-righteous and introspective stupidity.

Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.  ~  Martin Luther King.

In general I don’t much like the self-righteous people who join groups, and I don’t like group mentality.  I would not join any group / association / society/ club that would willingly have me as a member.  I firmly believe that groups create a vicious ‘them and us’ mentality, especially closed groups, and I despise that.  It disgusts me.  I firmly believe that groups close off outsiders and that people develop unhealthy relationships within the group.  The whole group ethos sickens me.

In individuals, insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations and epochs, it is the rule.  ~  Friedrich Nietzsche

Groups can and do operate to unhealthy norms.  Group members will continue to conform to norms that are quite harmful rather than healthy, even norms that run counter to society’s accepted standards of behaviour.  Members of small groups can find their behaviour unconsciously regulated in a way which is not good for their physical, mental, and spiritual health due to pluralistic ignorance.

Sex, drugs, and pluralistic ignorance: smart groups do dumb things.  ~  Geoff Cohen

Pluralistic ignorance is a shared delusion common in small groups.  A small group can engage in systematic barbaric, harmful, hurtful, and uncaring behaviour ~ even though the individual members of the group may be good people in their own right.  The members of small groups are amoral within the group, they tend to drink too much, smoke too much, use drugs, and engage in casual sex, all within the group, and those self-destructive behaviours can become the group norm.  I know, I’ve seen it happen.

Sometimes most people in a group will disagree with the group norm, but nobody will ever speak out.  Groupthink is a powerful thing, it’s what creates a mob mentality, a cult mentality, a harmful and poisonous bunch of people.  The list of destructive groups is long and painful.

No one believes, but everyone thinks that everyone believes.  ~  Tricia Wang.

I do not like this situation, I do not like that my friend’s first trip to England is to be with a ‘group’, and it’s making me very unhappy, which is stupid.  Unhappiness should not be endured, it should be cured.

I can do nothing about some things.  I can’t try to stop my friend from being in a group she says is valuable to her self-development.  But I fear that this situation will end badly and painfully.  Yet, I cannot change other people and what they do.  I cannot even change what happens to me.  All I can change is myself.  All I can do is be the best guy I can possibly be; accepting, considerate, kind, reliable, and understanding.  All I can do is be there for my friend.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

written close to midnight on

January 30th 2018

Scenes on Sunday ~ Burning Skies

Sky above me, the earth at my feet, the fire inside.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

all pictures taken by

the girl riding shotgun

using a Panasonic Lumix

 

 

 

Cars in California

The car you drive says a lot about you.

I like cars, but then I like all things engineering and mechanical, up to and including the RMS Queen Mary.

California seems to have a Love / Hate relationship with the internal combustion engine, but there are some great cars out there.

A cool guy should drive a cool car, (if you have to ask; ‘which is a cool car?’ then you aren’t a particularly cool guy).  Any cool woman can drive any car she likes and it will always be very cool.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I think Marmaduke likes a Bentley

Scenes on Sunday ~ Monochrome Utah Skies

The sky is everywhere, it begins at your feet.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

pictures all taken by

the girl riding shotgun

using a Panasonic Lumix

 

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