Category Archives: Spirituality

The Inner Compass

You will find your true life path when your inner compass is steady.

Each of us has an inner compass deep within our subconscious mind, and this controls and regulates everything we do, each and every hour of every single day.  The snag is, sometimes our inner compass doesn’t point to the moral and ethical equivalent of North, and sometimes our inner compass just spins out of control.

We also have maps, models, and frameworks in our subconsciousness.  And these maps, models, and frameworks allow us to make sense of the world and our family, our partner, our work, and the all the rest of our environment.   These maps, models, and frameworks are what allows us to have any kind of a relationship with others because they help us to make sense of our body, our heart, our mind, and our spirit and intuition.  These maps, models, and frameworks are our inner world.  But, each of our inner maps are likely to be very inaccurate and incomplete, and have such helpful annotations such as; ‘Here Be Monsters’, and ‘Impassable Swamp’.  Our models and frameworks are often completely wrong too.

Our inner compass, and our maps, models and frameworks are most likely to be utterly and totally wrong when we are under intolerable stress, or have suffered from a recent, (or not so very recent), trauma.

Because we are the Captain of our own ship, trying to navigate our way through this complicated, complex, and dangerous sea of life, we need to put our maps, models, and frameworks in order, we need to find a guiding light ~ sometimes we just have to junk our existing picture of the world and life, starting again with clean sheets of paper.  We need to take our authority back to ourselves and ignore or reject all the authority that has been imposed upon us.  The patterns and authority imposed upon us is always negative and self-destructive.

We need to become the very best version of ourselves that we can, and take back our self-belief, self-confidence, and self-will.  We need to rediscover our truth and purpose, and we can never do that if we rely on outdated maps, inaccurate models, and broken frameworks.

In order to restore health and equilibrium to ourselves, to fix our broken compass, and to make new maps, models, and frameworks to help us make sense of the world we need to realise that much of what we are doing and have done falls into the realm of negativity and self-destruction.  In order to rebuild something better we need to junk the old negative ways of thinking and allow new and better into our lives.

This is easy.  This quest to become the best version of you that you can possibly be, the way to becoming the true Captain of your own ship, will just require you to work at it for every waking hour for the rest of your life.  Regaining control of your inner compass, your maps, models, and frameworks will be a never-ending story.

Some say that self-improvement and self-development books, podcasts, videos, conferences, and retreats are a waste of time.  And, some say that there is nothing at all wrong with them and the way the react to the world.  All I know is that the harder and longer I try, the better I become.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

hold true to a better Goddess

hold true to a cleaner and more positive sea

Become a Renaissance Being

The heart and soul of a Renaissance Man is creativity.

Creativity, curiosity, honesty, openness, kindness, understanding ~ these things and honour are what separates a truly superior Renaissance Man from the common herd.  There are a couple of other important attributes a superior man should possess in abundance; confidence and self-control ~ a Renaissance Man does not want, desire, nor need instant gratification to bolster his self-confidence.  The confidence of a Renaissance Man is assured and will brook no criticisms.

part-finished teardrop trailer kit

A superior man is creative and innovative, and creativity means to actually create something, if there is no physical end-product then all you are doing is daydreaming.  Almost everyone can daydream and come up with an idea or two, but few will go on to get those ideas down on paper, make a plan, and go on to create / build / make whatever it is the plan calls for, be it writing a book, creating a work of art, a boat, car, a tiny trailer, a kitchen, bathroom, or even a whole home.  Almost everyone goes no further than having an idea, they never follow through and do something tangible.  They are held back by a lack of confidence in themselves, laziness, fear, and the pressures of coping with a partner, family, friends, and coworkers.  These are excuses, not reasons.

Other reasons for not actually doing something real, for going no further than daydreaming, are; lack of money, time pressures, lack of space, not knowing how to do whatever it is they think they want to do…..  All of these are also just fucking pathetic excuses.  And then there are some other reasons people don’t do creative stuff; they drink too much, smoke too much, smoke pot, do street drugs, take too many unnecessary prescription and over-the-counter medications, gamble, spend too much time looking for cheap sex in bars……

Perhaps to be truly creative you first have to put your life in order.  It’s a fallacy that booze and drugs will help your creativity ~ all those things will do is help you daydream, right up to the point where you pass out.

Creative living and creativity is available to all of us  But how do we energise our creative abilities?

  • Do something, even if it’s just baby steps.  Make a start on your project, even if it’s just writing down your ideas. Get out of your comfort zone.  Pick up whatever tools you need to work on your project, from a hammer, to a brush, to a tablet.
  • Mindfullness.  Be aware of ourselves, be aware of our environment, be in the moment.
  • Fresh air, exercise, sunshine, movement in nature.  Get off your ass and take some physical activity to energise your body.  Most office workers do not move nearly enough during the day, and then they go home, sit on the sofa, and drink some booze in front of the TV.
  • Stop taking yourself too seriously.  Reawaken the inner child.  Be prepared to make mistakes. Be playful.

Some say that serious people don’t have time to waste on being creative.  And, that being mindful is just a ‘new-age’ gimmick.  All I know is that a really cool Renaissance Man creates his own reality.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

get out into nature

seize the day

do every act of your life as though it was the very last act of your life  ~  Marcus Aurelius

January in England and nature is at its lowest ebb of the year.  The ground is hard, the sea is damn cold, everything and everyone seems to be moving in slow motion.

Even I’ve been feeling lethargic this afternoon, and considering doing nothing more productive than dozing while the TV plays in the background.

That just isn’t good enough for me.

You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.  Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land.  There is no other land, there is no life but this.  ~  Henry David Thoreau.

Feeling bored, listless, lethargic, and filled with ennui is just a state of mind, and if I’ve learned anything in recent months is that you can change your mind, even your state of mind.

Instead of dozing, bored in front of the TV, I’m going to go out into the cold and take another walk.  At least that will damn well wake me up.

Some say that boredom the natural state of being for mature guys.  And, that most men don’t have the energy, brains, or motivation to find anything better to do than watch sports on TV.  All I know if that I’m not like most men; I’m a cool guy living a great life.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a desert, a Mustang, who can be bored?

Scenes on Sunday ~ Seascapes

I must go down to the sea again ~ to the lonely sea and the sky

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Santa Monica

The end of the old Route 66

grasp your own future

Dreams do not have deadlines nor commitments…..

Hardly anyone is really in control of their own life.  This is doubly true if you happen to be an ‘average person’, who has a job, mortgage, and normal financial commitments ~ face it you have to turn up for work every day, whether you like it or not.  Add in a family, who undoubtedly will have expectations of you, and your time is not hardly ever your own.  (And, I wasn’t even thinking about the ‘average person’ who is married with children.)

The ‘average person’ can’t really have dreams and desires, unless their dreams and desires happen to fit in with what others expect of you.

Just supposing you want to take a year off, buy an old school bus, turn into a camper van, and see as much of backroads America / Europe, as you possibly can in that year.  What do you think your partner / family / friends / employer / neighbours are going to say about that?

I’ll tell you that the likelihood is that their views and words will range from incredulity to negativity, to downright hostility.  That is if you are an ‘average person’ living a ‘normal life’.  Ergo, to protect yourself you would probably not ever have that kind of empowering dream and desire.

Instead your mind will be filled with things such as; ‘what can I do about my partner / sister / brother…..?’ or ‘how can I afford to pay my bills’, or ‘how can I get a better job?’ or ‘what can I have for lunch / dinner / supper?’

None of us can do anything about our past, except reframe the way we think about it.

Most ‘normal’ and ‘average’ people can do very little about what’s happening to them in the present.  The chances are that, for them, today will be pretty much like yesterday.  If they have to work for a living the chances are that any working day will be exactly like the working day before.  Even their thoughts and conversations will have a mind-numbing repetitious banality.

However, and this is fucking damned important, we can all do something about our futures.

NOBODY has to settle for the status quo.  If there is something or someone in your life that’s sucking the life out of you, then get rid of it / them.  If your marriage is crap / abusive / boring, then get out of it.  If your job is horrible and badly paid, then leave and get another job ~ there’s nothing like being out of work to put a real edge on job hunting.

There is only one problem ~ most people will never leave their ‘comfort zone’.  If that’s you, then it’s time you grew up and grasped your own future with both hands ~ carpe diem.

As for me?  I’m a really cool guy, living a great life.  I can do just about whatever I want, just about whenever I want ~ within my own pretty rigid code of ethics, and the fact that I don’t ever want to get arrested again.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

That van was in Palm Springs

to have loved and lost

Only when it’s almost gone will you know what a gift love is.

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the world carries on without me

but nothing remains the same

yet I’ll go on without you

until the end of days

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

dance until the end of love

Love’s No Friend Of Mine

Love can be the infinite curse of a true heart.

If you believe that you love someone, then there’s no rhyme or reason about the way you think, feel, or behave.  All of your various emotional and happiness chemicals just take over.  Scientists say that there are 4 sets of these; dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and the endorphins which accentuate the effects of everything else.  But, you have to add to that a whole bunch of other mind – brain – body stuff happening when you think you’re in love ~ such as an adrenaline rush every now and again.  Add to that not eating, not sleeping, and drinking too much, and no wonder we get messed up when we believe we are in love, (or we are consumed by desire).

Our own default subconscious personality type also has a big part to play.  For most of my life I suffered from an intense fear of abandonment caused by a serious psychological illness called Borderline Personality Disorder.  This fear of abandonment thing either makes you utterly destroy a relationship you’re in, or hang on to a dysfunctional relationship long past the point you should have called it a day and walked away.

So this deep interest in / deep affection for / sexual desire for a particular person caused me no end of problems, because none of it was real.  Multiply that by several women over time and you can see how a polite and generous Englishman could become seriously screwed up.  And ‘screwed up’ is putting it very mildly.

If I tried I could probably work out how much these false love affairs / relationships / marriage had cost me in time, money and lost opportunities, but being a banker I’ll make a stab at how much ‘being in love’ has cost me in hard cash over the years.  Roughly, to the nearest $100,000 ~ about $2.75 million.  Thinking I was in love, with the wrong woman, has cost me more than most people will earn in a lifetime.

And what did I get in return?  Bad sex.

Ah well, t’was ever thus.  A fool and his money are soon parted.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

you would think I should have learned my lesson by now

Lack of Sleep

to sleep ~ to sleep ~ perchance to dream

Some of us may believe that we suffer from insomnia and resort to taking powerful prescription sleeping pills before bedtime.  Others may believe that they just can’t sleep unless they’ve had a few alcoholic drinks at bedtime.  Some of us may suffer from restlessness, nightmares, night sweats, or night terrors.  And then, some of us just know that we never get a good night’s sleep.

Let me tell you that if you really don’t sleep at all then bad things will happen to you; confusion, hallucinations, lack of concentration, memory loss, mood swings, physical illness, and then you will die.  About 10 or 11 days without any sleep at all will kill you.

Rest and sleep are a vital part of a life that is filled with health, vitality, and well-being ~ and here are some things that will help you to have enough restful sleep;

  • Get some fresh air and exercise during the day.  Try walking 10,000 steps a day, mostly outside.
  • Don’t use social media, for about an hour before bedtime.  Try to leave the day behind you well before you retire for the evening.
  • Don’t eat very much for about an hour before bedtime.
  • Don’t drink too much booze, especially just before you go to bed.  If you are buzzed, then you can forget having a good night’s sleep.
  • Have your bedroom dark, quiet, and fairly cool ~ if you’re sweating at night, either you’ve been drinking or your bedroom is too warm.
  • Don’t let your pet into the bedroom, especially don’t let your pet on your bed.
  • Go to bed at about the same time every night, and get out of bed at about the same time every morning. And, never, ever hit the snooze button on your alarm.

Mostly if you can’t sleep it’s one of 2 things; not enough fresh air and exercise during the day, too much booze.

Or, you could think you’re in love, or you’re worried about something.  If that’s the case, leave those disturbing thoughts and feelings until tomorrow.

Whatever you do, avoid taking sleeping tablets because they will ruin your whole life.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

to relax myself to sleep

I listen to my breathing and imagine gentle waves on a pleasant beach

Health and Well-Being

To enjoy a comfortable and happy life ~ stay fit and healthy.

If you want to live a great life, then you first have to show up.  If you want to live a great life, then first of all you have to drag yourself out of bed at a decent time in the mornings.  If you want to live a great life, then don’t spend your time smoking, getting high, drinking, over-eating, or having casual sex.

That’s unless you think that sleeping late, hanging around in bars, taking drugs, and fucking casual pick-ups constitutes living a great life.  Trust me ~ it doesn’t.  Live down there in the gutter like a slut or bum and you’ll die young and unhappy, and nobody at all will care.

Others may think that their lives are good, even though they spend all their time at home alone on social media, or on sex sites, or watching porn, or ‘enjoying’ other disreputable online activities.  Those people are quite likely to go from one day to another unwashed, unshaven, without putting on a clean change of clothes, hair uncombed, and if they’re a woman without a touch of makeup.  Their place probably looks like a pigsty, and they most likely stink too.

To live a truly great life we first of all have to be fit enough, healthy enough, and mentally alert.

And there are some easy steps to take;

  • Stop using drugs ~ and that includes pot and unnecessary medication, such as sleeping aids.
  • Stop smoking ~ I saw a documentary the other day, and a lot of older people were interviewed, people who had lived in the generation when everyone smoked cigarettes.  Fuck!  They looked horrific, especially the women.  Smoking destroys your looks, your health, and then it kills you.
  • Stop drinking so much ~ you may think you’re intelligent, sensible, and funny after several drinks.  You are deluding yourself.  After a few drinks you’re just embarrassing.
  • Go to bed at a decent time every night, and get up at a decent time in the morning ~ every fucking day.
  • Eat healthy ~ there are a million diet suggestions on the internet, for example try the Mediterranean Diet.
  • Get some fresh air and sunshine ~ just don’t try to be one of the children of the night.
  • Exercise ~ preferably in the fresh air and sunshine.  For example, try walking 10,000 steps a day.  Get out of your fucking car and walk to the store for a change.
  • Learn to meditate ~ yoga, and walking meditation are good.
  • Have some pride in yourself, learn to like and love yourself, and stop lying to yourself and others.

Everything I have written above is true.  I should know, I’ve been to all of those bad places.  Today I am really cool guy, living a great life, and I follow the simple programme I have outlined above.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

always hanging out in the moonlight is just for vampires and fools

Life is an Illusion

There is no such thing as ultimate truth, truth is what we make it.

Why do you think the world is so complicated?  Why are our lives so difficult?  Why do we become addicted, angry, depressed, ill, stressed?  Why do we fall in and out of love?  Why do we love those who don’t love us?

If Einstein and other deep thinkers are to be believed, none of it is real anyway.

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.  ~  Albert Einstein.

Einstein’s words reveal a deeper truth.  Everything we feel, see, hear, touch, and taste is within our own minds.  All of our innermost emotions and all of our truths exist only within our own minds.  Even the deepest emotions such as fear and love are created within us.  We actually have to learn to see and hear.  We have to learn to fear fire, snakes, lions, and abandonment.  We learn to love and we learn to hate somewhere before we are seven years of age, and then we spend the rest of our lives perfecting those emotions, up to the point that they can destroy us.

The deepest feelings we build within ourselves can destroy us, just as Dr. Frankenstein was destroyed by the monster he created.

There is a truism heard within 12-step meetings such as Alcoholics Anonymous;

Most folks are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.  ~  Abraham Lincoln, (allegedly).

Thus it follows that most folks can be just as addicted, angry, depressed, ill, stressed….. as they make up their minds to be.  For sure most people can be just as in love, or not in love as they really want to be.

But, and as Shakespeare said; ‘therein lies the rub’.  Reality is a habit, it’s what we accept, it’s what we’re used to, it’s what works for us right now.  So, if you’re an alcoholic it really is just a habit, albeit one that’s killing you, and something about that habit works for you right now.

Changing a deep-set habit is fucking damn difficult.  In fact your whole life is a set of deep-rooted habits, and changing all those really is fucking difficult.

But I’ve done it.  I changed my whole life and all of my ways of thinking around by believing these few words I said to myself; ‘I am a really cool guy, living a great life.’

If you are prepared to do whatever it takes you can change your whole life, including what is true or false.

Your reality is what you make it

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the value of money is illusory

cash has no real intrinsic value other than that which we give it

 

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