Category Archives: Sex

Inebriated Woman

there’s a reason some women do that sometimes

I really didn’t think

she was always drinking

just usually very drunk

and high on skunk

and I shrank back

from ever thinking

about who she fucked

when she’d been drinking

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

strong drink gets weak women into trouble

Monochrome Monday ~ Hot Women

a self-confident man is never afraid of an incredibly hot woman

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

all women wear a mask

but usually not there

Retroactive Jealousy

The past is not the past, it is never done and gone.

male sexual jealousy is a dragon that will devour your very soul

I only just learned of a condition called Retroactive Jealousy, but it seems as though I’ve suffered from this horrible character defect for much of my life.  Now I know that this is a quite common condition that’s also known as retrospective jealousy and retrograde jealousy.

Retroactive Jealousy is having extremely painful thoughts and morbid curiosity over your partner’s / loved one’s past relationships and / or sexual history ~ especially if they went through a very promiscuous phase involving multiple sexual partners or were deeply in love with another or others.

Retroactive Jealousy can lead you to do crazy things; stalk your partner’s social media, check through all their old photographs, post very negative and attacking things about them on your own social media, hire a private detective, park outside their house night after night…..  All jealousy is utterly insane and crazy.

It seems that jealousy commonly arises not only about events and thoughts that happen in the present, but also about the past ~ even the past long before we met our current partner.

Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretense of keeping it alive.  ~  Havelock Ellis

Both men and women can suffer terribly from retroactive jealousy, but from very different causes.  Men get jealous over their perception of their partner’s sexual history, whereas women get jealous about the other women they believe their partner has been in love with in the past.  And, retroactive jealousy only happens in the presence of love.  If you are just having a one-night-stand, casual sex, regular sex hookups, or a meaningless fling, then retroactive jealousy will not raise its ugly head.  It is only when you begin to really love someone that you might suffer from terrible jealousies about their past.

This is utterly counter-intuitive, because we are conditioned to believe that true love is unconditional, and that we should accept, understand, and cherish our loved one, no matter what.  Sadly, this is not how real life works.  The past will always affect our deepest emotions, and more often than not things that our partner has done in the past will tear us apart.

It would be impossible to estimate how much time and energy we invest in trying to fix, change and deny our emotions ~ especially the ones that shake us at our very core, like hurt, jealousy, loneliness, shame, rage, and grief.  ~  Debbie Ford.

Retroactive Jealousy need not plague you forever, as long as you are prepared to change, as long as you are prepared to put in the hard work ~ but that needs to be the topic of another post.

Some say that you should accept your partner’s past, no matter what it is.  And that a competent and self-confident person should be incapable of jealousy in everything.  All I know is that there are only two choices about retroactive jealousy; #1 fully accept and understand your partner’s past, #2 walk away and don’t look back.

Always remember that your jealousy is your problem not your partners ~ so deal with it.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

if your partner has things like this in her past most men will suffer retroactive jealousy

Honesty and Openness

Trying to make sense of crazy will drive you crazy.

working late again

There is a truism that everybody lies all the time.  People lie the most to those they are closest to, and often tell the honest and open truth to those that don’t matter at all.  The lies might be deliberate untruths, or a lie may be not telling the whole truth.  A lie by omission is still a lie.  Perhaps the biggest and most hurtful lies are when someone you care for just doesn’t tell you anything at all about something important to your relationship.

The biggest lies, the most lies, are about money and sex.  Someone who cheats on a partner is going to need to weave an immense tissue of lies.  Someone who steals, spends their partner’s money, dissembles, deceives, tricks, and seduces will undoubtedly always have been a liar, and will always be a liar ~ especially they will lie to themselves.

Because liars do not just lie to others, and since they also and always lie to themselves, they often don’t understand honour, honesty, and truth .  Trust me I’ve been there, I have compulsively lied to others, told tall tales, lied by omission, and lied to myself.  Maybe that was not my fault.  For years I suffered from a serious and undiagnosed personality disorder, an emotional illness that I found more than ordinarily difficult to cope with.

Being honest and open takes courage.  Finding an acceptable way to tell an uncomfortable truth takes a lot of emotional energy.  Letting someone know the real you by telling the unvarnished truth is not something many are prepared to do.

I appreciate people who tell me the truth in a gentle way, even when it’s tough to say.  ~  Karen Salmansohn.

Even harder than always telling the truth when asked is being open ~ allowing another person into your comfort zone, letting down the barriers you’ve built precisely to stop others from knowing the real you.  Not many are prepared to let anyone else know who they really, really used to be, are now, and their dreams, desires, and wishes for the future.  These are the most personal things imaginable, often difficult and painful to even think about, let alone talk of.  But it’s precisely because these things in our past, present, and future may be difficult, painful, embarrassing, shaming, and outside of societies accepted ethics that we should be prepared to share them openly and honestly with those we care for the most.

Some say that they never tell a lie, and that is always a lie.  And that they never hide the real truth, and that is always untrue. All I know is a a man is never more honest than when he admits himself a liar.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

and some people can’t help themselves

they are compulsive liars and always will be

walk away

Monochrome Monday ~ Sexuality

seduction, sensuality, passion, mutuality, monochromatic erotica

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

expressing an ideal

the human form unreal

in monochromatic erotica

Dishonest Disguise

A real woman will be honest no matter how painful the truth is

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everybody lies

you can see it in her eyes

learn the dark surprise

there’s a deep disguise

but if you’re really wise

you won’t ever despise

her, just accept the prize

the love her lie implies

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

men need to believe a woman’s lies

 

Tits Tuesday ~ Monochrome

Breasts are erotic because they cross the border between motherhood and sexuality.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

maybe this qualifies for Tits Tuesday

or maybe not

Cool Put Downs

Lifting the blinders is always dangerous.

There is a history among men and women of the short put-down, to be said when the bad guy bites the metaphorical dust ~ or when the good guy dumps the bitch.

There is a long, long collection of these, from; beware the ides of march to; look into the eyes of the dragon and despair.  I like;

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

and if you’re dumping a particular kind of an older woman,

there’s always; cooo cooo ca choo

My Aphrodisiac Was She

once we were lovers, but somehow things have changed

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doesn’t take a genius

to know

that it’s all in the past

and you know

it wasn’t supposed to last

but one more throw

of loaded dice wasn’t to suffice

to tell me although

I should never have even asked

if she had felt love’s glow

and the answer was always no

she was just a stimulating aphrodisiac

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jack collier

jackcollier@talktalk.net

 

the aphrodisia

goddess of sexual love

A Mustang in Arizona

No matter what life throws at me, at least I have a cool car.

In Arizona my rental is a Mustang.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

now all I need is a cool girl riding shotgun

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