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The Benefits of Exercise

Walking is the best possible exercise.
Habituate yourself to walk very far. ~ Thomas Jefferson

Climbing stairs is even better for you than walking.

Regular exercise is good for your body, mind, emotions, and spirit.  Exercise not only tires you out, which helps you to sleep, it also increases your energy levels during your waking hours.  This increased energy helps your body to fight off illness and chronic diseases, such as type 2 diabetes.  Getting a good night’s sleep is also vital to the health of your body, mind, and spirit.

Physically, frequent exercise helps to regularise your weight ~ inactivity is a major factor in weight gain and obesity.  Your body uses energy in 3 ways; #1 digesting the food you eat; #2 maintaining bodily functions like heartbeat, breathing, and staying upright.  #3 Physical activity, like your exercise of choice, or digging ditches, or chopping firewood.  Dieting is very bad at helping you to lose weight, a reduced calorie intake lowers your metabolic rate, which delays weight loss.  On the other hand, exercise raises your metabolic rate so you use up more calories.

Exercise also helps to build and maintain muscles and bone, because strenuous exercise releases hormones that help your body to absorb amino acids, which will delay muscle wastage in older people.  In older women, regular exercise helps prevent the bone wasting disease osteoporosis.

It has been shown to improve your mood and decrease negative feelings of depression, anxiety and stress, as regular exercise increases the productions of the good hormones serotonin and norepinephrine.  Exercise also promotes the production of endorphins which help to produce positive feelings and reduce the perception of physical and mental pain.

Exercise also helps to maintain and improve brain function; for a start your hippocampus, the bit of the brain that’s vital to memory, will stop shrinking and begin to grow, which increases mental function in older adults.  Regular physical activity also helps to stave off Alzheimer’s and schizophrenia.

Regular exercise means you will look much better, for a start you will begin to lose all that unattractive bloating and belly fat.  Your skin will look better because your body will be producing more antioxidants, and you will have better blood flow which delays skin aging.  Looking better means that you’re more attractive to the opposite sex.  Not only that but being fitter means that your sexual performance will be better, (women will have more and better orgasms if they take a reasonable amount of exercise).

I was in a bureau de change today, talking with the young lady cashier, (teller), about my walking at least 10,000 steps a day.  And she said; ‘is all that walking why you look so young?’

HA!

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

yoga is damn good exercise too

and, I can hold the tree position

HA!

Negative Emotions

Cultivate love within you and negative emotions will disappear.

Negative emotions are so all-pervasive that doctors will now prescribe drugs like Prozac and Valium to patients who are merely feeling mild anxiety.  Really negative emotions, such as; anger, boredom, confusion, despair, disappointment, fear, grief, jealousy, resentment….. are extremely powerful and painful.  Medication, and self-medication such as booze, are no solution whatsoever.  Go down that road and you will become hypersensitive to your feelings, and take more and more of the drugs of your choice in an attempt to medicate them away.

This is just treating the symptoms, and it doesn’t work.  I should know, for many years I had a pot-mess of those negative feelings running through my psyche.  And none of those negative emotions did me any good at all.

So, what takes people back to the doctor, the pharmacy, the drug dealer, and the bar?  Not to mention the casino, the refrigerator, unsuitable relationships, and casual sex.  Escaping painful thoughts and negative emotions drive people to do stupid things, all in an effort to find a pleasure rush that will ameliorate those bad thoughts and terrible feelings.

There is also the thought that just one drink, or one piece of cake, or one small wager wouldn’t hurt at all.  Besides, you’ve been pretty good all week, so one little slip is OK.  Forget that, escaping really negative emotions takes a lot more than just one drink, or one night fucking a stranger.  And the guilt you will feel, (even if you don’t acknowledge that guilt), will make your bad feelings worse.

Your mind will tell you that you might as well give up on losing weight, staying sober, being good, because it’s pointless.  You will never get better, just take another pill and have another drink.

To truly escape those negative emotions and bad feelings you have to find another way.  This might involve a 12-step group, talking therapy, or completely changing your lifestyle ~ more exercise is good.  Try walking 10,000 steps a day.  Mostly, stay away from those people, places and situations that encourage you to do bad things that will only feed your negative emotions.

Some say the way to escape negative emotions is to turn to drink.  And that moving home and finding new friends is the solution.  All I know is that running away never solves anything.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

get out the back Jack

make a new plan Stan

no need to be coy Roy

Building Rapport with Women

a close and harmonious relationship based on acceptance and understanding

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It’s not necessary to build rapport with a woman if all you want to do is have sex with her ~ but it certainly helps.  Just casual sex does not require rapport.  Instead, true rapport is the indefinable process of accepting and understanding one another, and thereby becoming comfortable together.  If you have true rapport with a woman, then she will trust you, follow you, and believe in you.  For this to happen she needs to understand you and be able to rely upon you.  Ergo you have to become consistent, reliable, and dependable.

As it goes, women are more natural at building rapport than are most men ~ they are usually more open, more understanding, and more communicative than the average male.  Women tend to have more empathy and be more interested in relationships, whereas men are usually just interested in sex.

To build rapport with a woman, be someone she actually wants to be around ~ and that doesn’t mean just spending a lot of money on her, (but that often helps).  Avoid being selfish and talking about yourself, instead listen to her and try and learn about her wants, needs, desires, and dreams.  Always remain calm, and speak slowly and softly.  Be warm, accepting, and understanding.  And, never fall into the common male mistake of thinking that you have to educate her about something she has no interest in whatsoever.

In Neuro Linguistic Programming, and other psychological / interpersonal approaches to communication and building rapport, there are a number of techniques that even a geek can learn and use.  These include; mirroring, leading, and pacing.  In all honesty, these are artificial techniques best left to the salesman who wants to up his closure rate.  However, this stuff is powerful, and it does work on women.

The most basic and powerful way to connect with a woman is to listen to her.  Just listen, and don’t interrupt her because she will not like that.  Perhaps the most important thing you can give her is your undivided attention.  And after that; acceptance, respect, and understanding.

Some say that it is impossible to be successful with a woman without building rapport.  And that you need to spend time understanding what she is thinking.  All I know is that sometimes I have to try just that bit harder.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

here’s looking at you kid

Monochrome Monday ~ Corsets

I’m one of those strange beasts who really likes a corset.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

very pretty corset

very, very tiny waist

Anonymous Amour

Sex is all about who has the power to demand love.

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eyes heels stockings legs resume

hair dress shoes lips manicure

taste perfume sexual allure

firmly mysterious amour

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

he gives me away

 

 

28 Days

It is not the length of life that matters, but the depth of life.

What would you do if you knew that you only had one month to live?  Or just one day ~ until noon?

Some say that they would finally say goodbye to all of their friends and family, put their affairs in order, and quietly sit down and wait for the grim reaper to call.

Others say they would tick off as many things on their bucket list as they could.  They forget that wherever they go they take their whole life along with them.

And then there are those facing certain death who retreat into denial with religion and a bottle of booze.

Not that I believe that I am anywhere near the end of days, but I’ve had to seriously accept that my time on this planet is numbered, and the count-down started the day I was conceived.

I get the feeling that I don’t belong here, that everything good is so hard to hear, they’re just not listening.  I’ve walked so far along the warrior’s path that sometimes I aim too high.  I get the feeling that I am among the lucky few who has been able to accept that winter comes eventually.

So, with the assumption that I have 28 Days to Live, how does that change what’s left of my life?

  • Money is worthless.
  • Possessions are useless.
  • Unhappiness is pointless.
  • Stale relationships don’t matter at all.
  • Negativity and judgementalism are a waste of time.

Only people, places, and things I do that bring me immediate happiness, contentment, and serenity deserve any place in what’s left of my life.  Making other people happy may give me vicarious satisfaction, but that matters not one jot.  Nothing lasts forever, people change their minds, and today is just another day.  Living life to the fullest, seizing the day, means that I will only be around those who can fill my life with a kaleidoscope of colour.

My castle is in the clouds, and if others don’t want to go there then they can fuck off and have a nice day without me.

Some men say that she holds their heart in their hands.  And, that if they can’t have her their life can never be complete.  All I know is that it will be all right without her, I will be as strong as I can be.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a man with 28 days to live should perhaps find a woman who has fabulous legs

 

Postcards from Purgatory

She was Purgatory incarnate, promising Heaven and delivering Hell

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every time I go back there is the same as the one before

every journey has me wondering why I desire her more

her hot breath of adoration a mere promise of scorn

Goddess of love incarnate, and yet she is a whore

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

beautiful, mysterious, wild and free

gods and men have enjoyed thee

 

Monochrome Monday ~ Carnal Goddess Incarnate

God may be in the details but the goddess is in the questions.
Once we begin to ask them, there is no turning back.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

who comprehends her sexuality

call her Aphrodite, Hathor, or Venus

she is carnal love incarnate

 

Songs on Saturday ~ Icelandic

In Iceland, there are rocks, glaciers, inedible food, and weird music.

Of Monsters and Men ~ Little Talks.

(Stop the playback after this song, else get the whole album.)

It seems that I have developed a taste for weird music videos.

This isn’t as weird as some I’ve viewed, but it’s out there.

Iceland is the strangest of places, that’s reflected here.

Please listen responsibly, don’t be a real weirdo.

But then, just don’t listen to a word I say.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

steam punk airships are weird too

Gorgeous Eyes

The eyes are the windows to the soul.  ~  Shakespeare.
In what distant deeps or skies
burned the fire of thine eyes

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you have fallen, deep and wide, into her exotic eyes

with promises blue and wide as distant skies

and so you drown, in her lovely lies

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

some women would love to have those eyes

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