Category Archives: Sex

Random Jottings ~ Mad Scientists

and so he created a woman, who got angry when her batteries ran down
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he was smart, but he could never get a girl

so he made one

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every mad scientist dreams of playing God

the really crazy ones believe they are God

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keep you arms in the time machine at all times

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‘that’s strange perfume…..’ he said

that’s not perfume, it’s formaldehyde…..’ she answered

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they had solved the theory of everything

and after a few bottles of booze they thought it was a good idea to build a time machine

things went downhill after that

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

she must be a scientist

she’s wearing a white coat

Intimate Strangers

some things are socially acceptable, and then again…..

Promiscuous casual sex is morally reprehensible, socially unacceptable, and fucking very dangerous.  Or rather, that is what I believe to be the truth of it.  One reason for this post is a news story concerning a married woman who picked up / was picked up by a stranger in a bar, went back to his place, where she was stabbed twenty times by the drug addict thug, who then tried to cut off her head.  The body was naked.  They’d had sex.

This was by no means an isolated incident of casual sex turning into something very worse.

Picking up a stranger in a bar may be exciting, sexy, erotic, physically satisfying, with a frisson of danger thrown in, but it can also be fucking damaging to your self-respect, health, wealth, sanity, existing relationships, future relationships, social standing…..  You could end up being humiliated, mugged, beaten, raped, passed around, stalked, gaslighted, ghosted, or dead.

Some of the same goes for people you ‘meet’ on social media, dating / sex dating sites, or any of the other myriad ways we can connect via the internet.  Basically you have no idea who these people are, where they’re from, what they’re really like, their history, criminal record, and what the hell they really want from you.  Are they the sex / age / ethnicity they say they are?  If there’s a picture is it of them, and how long ago?  If it’s an intimate picture they are probably not someone any decent person would want to know anyway.

There are labels for women who have casual sex with strangers and post intimate pictures of themselves on the internet ~ all of those labels are extremely derogatory.

Personally, I have three things in my favour when it comes to social media / email / long-distance friends and relationships.  #1 I know my way around blogging.  #2 I am a man.  #3 I am very smart / computer savvy / I was trained to spot liars a mile off.  Not everyone has my advantages, and yet women do engage in intimate relationships with people they only know from what they see on their own computer screens.

Personally, I have never knowingly ‘hit on’ a woman I didn’t know from Eve, picked up a woman in a bar, had first date sex, had multiple partners, been on a sex dating site, had sex with an ex, had sex with anyone much older / younger than me…..  Maybe I am staid and naive, maybe I’m shy, or maybe I have standards, ethics, and morals.

Some say that fucking a stranger is incredibly hot.  And that having multiple sexual partners is where it’s at.  All I know is fucking a stranger has nothing to do with love and a lot to do with instant gratification, or money.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

If you’ve been there with a stranger I don’t want to know

 

 

Random Jottings ~ Friendship

friendship is constant in all things, except when it comes to sex and love

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travelling with a friend needs no destination

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a soft kiss from a friend has a memory all its own

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a close friend is like buying two tickets to adventure

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true friendship nourishes the soul and warms the heart

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he loved her in true friendship, but he desired her in hot lust

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choose your friends wisely, choose your enemies with even more care

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a really bad friend is like having an albatross hanging around your neck

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no real man can ever be ‘just good friends’ with an attractive woman

and what makes a woman attractive is her friendship

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

friends with benefits

basically it’s just regular sex

Run With the Herd

there will be people who confuse your individuality with selfishness

Peer-group pressure is a very powerful thing.  Fitting in, being popular, having lots of friends, agreeing with the majority opinion, is taught to us all from a very early age.  In fact it can be hammered into us at school, where standing out from the crowd and being different can get you seriously bullied.

It’s no different as we grow and move on in life.  In psychology there’s a thing called Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, which describes what the average person strives for.  Only when the most basic needs are met; food, water, shelter….. can one move on towards higher needs, like having friends. As you’d expect it’s more complicated than that, and it’s wrong anyway.

For most people belongingness: to be an accepted and superior member of a group, comes right at the top of the list of the things they want, need, and desire most.  The average adult strives to achieve social approval, to be fashionable, to be superior, to keep up with and surpass their peer group, to accumulate more and better material possessions, and certainly a get a lot of meaningless sex ~ often outside of their principal relationship.  And somewhere there might be the need for love and adulation.

But to be mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy an adult needs to be themselves.  Sometimes it is important to stand out from the herd, especially if you’re fitting in just to play it safe, to avoid being questioned or challenged, to avoid upsetting your peer group, to keep in with your family and your friends…..  If you are going to be true to yourself, if you want to achieve emotional, mental, and spiritual health, then there will be moments in your life when you have to be yourself, no matter what they say.

We each have a unique set of wants, needs, desires, dreams, ambitions, thoughts, and opinions ~ but we often suppress them and get caught up in the herd’s falsehoods instead.  We become people pleasers and drones.

The hard truth is there are a lot of mentally sick people out there today because they strive not to miss out on other how others think they should live, behave, act, and think.  I point to the compulsive wearing of face coverings as my proof.

Nobody needs to wear a face mask outdoors, or when they are alone in their own car, or when riding a bicycle, or when they are alone at home.  I wonder if some people wear a face covering while they are having sex in the missionary position…..

Some say there is safety in numbers.  And that those who disagree are anti-social, selfish, dangerous, should be shouted down and destroyed.  All I know is that I will be myself, no matter what they say.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I am not a number

I am a free man

Monochrome Monday ~ Trim Bodies

half of all Americans are clinically obese  ~ that means they’re fat

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

plenty of fresh air and exercise

not much need for a calorie-controlled diet

Random Jottings ~ Infidelity and Casual Sex

no normally healthy men and women can be ‘just good friends’

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he could tell she was easy

the plunging neckline, short skirt, and no lingerie was a giveaway

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no matter how careful you are, you will always get caught

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the best apology for cheating is changed behaviour,

it never happens

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it takes two people to make a relationship work

but just one promiscuous person to make it fail

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bad marriages don’t cause infidelity

promiscuous infidelity causes bad marriages

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‘I love you…’ she said’

get in the back seat…’ he replied

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

casual sex is never just a one time thing

What is Love?

in true love infinite dreams come alive

Many have said; ‘I love you…’ when what they mean is; ‘I want you, I desire you, I need you…..’ and yet, perhaps is that not also a manifestation of love.  Perhaps wanting, desiring, needing, sexual lust….. are all but facets of love.  Or perhaps not, because one can love a fellow human being without it being sexual or physical.  Sex is not love.

The Ancient Greek philosophers recognised six types of love, and being philosophers they may have been correct.

  1. Eros ~ sexual passion
  2. Philia ~ deep friendship
  3. Ludus ~ playful love
  4. Agape ~ love for everyone
  5. Pragma ~ long lasting love
  6. Philautia ~ love of self

Nothing being perfect, there was later #7 Storge ~ love of the child.

The author Mary McMahon outlined a round dozen different types of love; New Love, Routine Love, Disgusting Love, Infatuation Love, Friend Love, Fake Love, They’re ‘It’ Love, In It To Win It Love, Tragic Love, Parental Love, Unhealthy Love, Old People Love.  As it goes; I will firmly state that none of those is a decent description or explanation of real love.

In high chivalric romance, the most perfect form of love was Courtly Love; which describes the relationship between a Knight Errant and a married noblewoman ~ his unattainable Lady Fair.  This unconsummated passion was thought to be ennobling and righteous. Like most of chivalry there are numerous impossible rules surrounding Courtly Love.

Courtly Love differs immensely from the commonest form of love of them all Unrequited Love.  Which, is just one step away from infatuation and stalking.

At the other end of the scale, and on the other side of the coin is Unconditional Love, which is just as dangerous and one-sided as unrequited love.

According to modern neuroscience there are 10 signs or symptoms of being in love; addiction, obsession, recklessness, lust, focus, heightened memory, eye contact, euphoria, touching, lack of judgement.  Possibly, and who am I to argue with the women in white coats.

For men, I could add another sign when it comes to being in love; loss of interest in other women.  I have no idea if the converse is true for women ~ I suspect not.

All of the above would seem to have elements of truth in them, which would lead one to suspect that love is a very complicated emotion, set of feelings, group of actions, slew of hormones….

I think not.  I firmly believe that true love means one thing, and if you ain’t got it you’re not in love.

True love means wanting your beloved to be safe and  happy, no matter what.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

not courtly love at all

more Lancelot and Guinevere

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Billy Joel

don’t shoot me, I’m only the piano player

Back in the day, when I was young, naive, and innocent, I did have something cool going for me.  I have always had a superior man’s taste in music.  Maybe this isn’t necessarily representative of that.  Although Scenes From An Italian Restaurant is.

Billy Joel’s main claim to fame is that he was one married to the super-model Christie Brinkley.

Please listen without needing a strong drink.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

how lucky was the much younger me that we didn’t get Sports Illustrated in England

and that’s a cheat bikini

 

secrets & regrets

no matter how careful you are, your secrets will come to light

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Secrets

Past Desires

Past Kisses

Past Sins

Past Lovers

Past Lusts

Past Lies

Past Lives

Deep Regrets

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

he smiled at you

like he knew all your secrets

Random Jottings ~ Casual Sex

everybody’s journey is different, but some are on the road to hell

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when you’re young it’s good to be bad

when you’re middle-aged it’s reprehensible

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morality? it’s whatever you think it is, at the time

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never trust a married lover who swears there is no one but you

not all witches are crones, I’ve met one who wears satin lingerie and stiletto heels

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maybe she should have stopped counting when she slept with a boy who was the same age as his number

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if he could go back to the day they met he would turn around and walk away

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

where were you? he asked

in your head, she said

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