to change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions
A friend said; ‘I’ve learned that what I see isn’t always what I’m seeing…..’
Reality is an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~ Einstein
Everything we experience is filtered through our own internal maps, rules, preconceptions, prejudices, mores, ethics, and past experiences. Which is why we can’t always believe what we see, hear, read, and are told by others. An Australian may see a naked black man and just think that he’s a blackfella gone walkabout. Whereas an elderly American woman from Virginia may see a naked black man and be so mortally afraid that she’ll call the police. (I could go on but it get’s rude so use your own imagination….. See what I mean?)
Nothing has meaning until we interpret the experience through the entirety of our subconscious mind and all the shit that’s in there. Every single thing you experience is meaningless in its own right. Only after we have applied all the filters we have learned since before we were even born does a sensory experience actually have any meaning whatsoever.
This is useful, because it means that we don’t have to relearn everything every single time it happens. If you didn’t know what the dawn meant and how it happens you’d get pretty shocked at daybreak. And this is one reason we all live in our comfort zones and tend to avoid genuinely new experiences. The new and unknown can be surprising and scary.
But, this filtering of experiences through the entirety of our unconscious, subconscious, and conscious minds is also bad. It means that we are closed-minded, never open to seeing the other chap’s point of view, and if we do have an unexpected and new experience we tend to dismiss it out of hand. For example, if you believe in catastrophic anthropogenic climate change, then you will never be open to the argument that there isn’t any such thing ~ no matter the evidence.
What this means that we should always question the evidence of our own eyes; what you see isn’t always what you get.
And maybe 1% of the people on this planet would ever be willing to do that because it requires brutal self-honesty. Before you can truly see the world, you first have to truly see yourself.
Some say they won’t get fooled again. And that their point of view is the only point of view worth having. All I know is that she seems to have invisible touches.
the wheels in your mind are in perpetual motion
I was born alone, but I carry the spirit and blood of my ancestors.
I know my name. I know where and when I was born. I firmly believe that I knew who my parents were. I know that in my life I have had money, wealth, property ~ all resulting from working hard in my chosen profession. I don’t know very much about myself at all.
Like many men I have been disappointed and dissatisfied with Life ~ especially in matters of the heart. Like many men I have gone through Life thinking that there should be more, and that I should do better.
Much of these vague feelings of dissatisfaction were a result of my brain and mind not functioning as nature intended as a result of unhealthy stress. Too much bad, unhealthy stress results in reduced Gamma wave activity, reduced mental acuity, pessimism, negativity, fatigue, and ill-health. No wonder many of us have felt disappointed and dissatisfied for much of our lives.
At it’s heart bad, toxic, unhealthy stress is a result of fear. However, now I shall have a fearless engagement with Life that shall be the core condition for satisfaction, high performance, constructive relationships, and greater well-being.
This will take a fundamental change in attitude to rewire my brain and reprogram my subconscious mind until this fearless and confident attitude becomes second nature
This is a very difficult thing to do, requiring a total reexamination of just who the hell and am and just who the hell I want to be. What foundations am I building this new Life upon? What are going to be my building blocks for a strong, solid, and fearless Life?
There are some words; kind, caring, compassionate, polite, gentlemanly, generous, focus, faithfulness, brave, fearless, determined, confident, cool, peaceful….. But perhaps I just need one word which encompasses all of that ~ and ‘good isn’t good enough.
However, I am one small step closer to knowing exactly what needs to be done to unburden myself of the emotional and spiritual obstacles I have been hiding behind. I’m not seeking instant gratification, nor some advantage over others. I am seeking to become a superior man ~ in comparison with what has gone before.
It has taken much hard work to bring me to where I am today, but this is not the moment to rest. There are challenges ahead and I have a strong desire to manifest real and successful change through hard work and dedication to a long-term plan.
Some say that I really don’t know who I am. And that sometimes I just don’t give a fuck. All I know is that I can rebuild myself, better than before. This man can build just about anything.
I made this car
believe in yourself and your own abilities
And some believed that a man could fly.
I believe that each of us has abilities, skills, and talents we have never fully utilised. Some of us we have abilities we aren’t even aware of, either because they have been discouraged from childhood, or they just don’t seem to fit within our comfort zone. Well, perhaps t’s time we found those talents and abilities and allowed them to shine out into the world.
To do that we have to become outgoing, confident, and perhaps show off a little ~ to get noticed in a positive way. Don’t appear arrogant nor over-confident, but neither hide away and ignore what is innately within us.
Pay attention to ways we can possibly progress in our chosen career, or hobbies and pastimes, relationships, aims, desires, goals and dreams.
Probably we will need some help to fully realise our undiscovered abilities, skills, and talents ~ so this may be the time to find a new friend, teacher, collaborator. I my own case it may be that I have some weird psychic skills which have thus far manifested in a small way through Tarot ~ but there’s no way I can find out if I can actually read the cards without a really skilled teacher / collaborator.
And, as it goes, I don’t believe that reading Tarot cards is my true undiscovered ability. I believe there is something far more profound hiding away in my subconsciousness. I’m going to develop a plan to discover whatever hidden abilities I may have. It will undoubtedly mean trying new and interesting things and experiences.
Some say that what you see is what you get. And that they are honest, open, and fully developed as a person. All I know is that I can make things happen just by staying open-minded.
each of us must find their own dawn
it’s 106 miles to Chicago, we’ve got a full tank of gas, it’s dark out, and we’re wearing sunglasses
Not only do I like the movie, I also like Ray Charles, and this song, and the street dancers.
Please listen and dance responsibly.
The Men in Black? I’ve seen Tommy Lee Jones and Will Smith do it better.
if you hit Route 66 in Chicago
eventually you’ll end up here
you never change your life until you step outside of your comfort zone
We all of us have safe routines and habits that almost never change. Most small teddy bears are afraid of the sea. Most people are a little afraid of the new, the strange, and the different.
Every day we go to work, we dress in the same clothes in the same style, we eat the same food. Our circle of friends pretty much never changes. We visit our parents at the weekend, and we spend the rest of each weekend doing almost the same things we did last weekend. We have our favourite seat at the bar in our usual pub, and our favourite type of booze to drink at home.
That picture is intensified if we have a partner, because not only do we live within our own comfort zone, we also feel that we have to live within theirs. Actually, some people do have to live well within their partner’s comfort zone, because to do otherwise would invite dire consequences.
Mostly we do not invite new and different experiences into our lives. Often we judge others harshly for sometimes doing things differently, and for stepping outside what we think is their role in our lives. Often we resent that people we know, our family and friends, for seeking to expand their own horizons, find new opportunities, seek out new experiences, and try to find new friends and lovers.
It’s sort of OK for you to resent it if people you know are trying to find something new in their lives ~ something that doesn’t necessarily involve you. All of us suffer from a fear of abandonment to one extent or another, and resenting someone close to you if they try to find new horizons is merely an unconscious expression of that fear of abandonment. But get over it. Just because your friend is looking for new friends doesn’t mean they are going to leave you behind ~ unless you’ve really pissed them off. Who knows? Your friend’s new friends may become your friends too.
You know what? It’s all about you. Welcome new experiences, visit new places, make new friends, try dressing differently, do something crazy once in a while.
Some say that it’s better to build walls around themselves than to risk getting hurt again. And, that the tried and trusted is safer than looking for something different. All I know is that this month I will do at least one new, different, and crazy thing.
getting in the sea with her would be truly outside of my comfort zone.
sometimes, the good memories are all we have left
don’t run away into the desert
but enjoy your desert adventures
For the past 10 days or so I have been very unwell ~ most days I didn’t eat much, and for a whole week I didn’t eat anything at all. When I could eat I had some soup, if you’re very ill a hearty soup will make you feel better and keep you alive.
I’m sorry I’m still not mentally well enough to write an original post today.
Comfort food is absolutely moving upscale.
Here in England the weather outside my garret is cold, dark, frosty, wet, and very windy. Like a lot of people around here I’ve just got over the flu, and I still feel cold and shivery. What I need to eat most is something hot, nourishing, and comforting ~ like a bowl of home-made soup.
These great soup recipes are mostly easy to make, don’t cost so much, but are absolutely upscale meals you could serve to any guest.
Ergo, first up this week, from Jessica Merchant at How Sweet Eats, we have this silky ginger sweet potato soup. I love the idea of adding fresh ginger to a soup recipe. This recipe is vegan I think.
Silky Ginger Sweet Potato Soup
Another pretty soup, this time from Petra at Food Eat Love; celeriac and cumin soup with watercress. This looks as…
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a friend in need is a friend indeed
Today I am unwell in body, mind, and spirit.
I cannot eat, and I can only drink an electrolyte powder in water.
Getting up out of my chair and doing things is difficult ~ I am so unsteady.
Writing this is more than ordinarily difficult ~ English is making no sense at all.
Also I keep getting everyone’s name wrong. that’s very bad of me.
My sincere apologies to everyone I’ve ever hurt, and everyone I’ve lied to.
I’m glad that I still have some caring friends I can trust.
and good memories to look back upon
These are the places I will be visiting this coming year.
California ~ perhaps take a road trip.
Olu Deniz in Turkey
London ~ again
the issue is,
finding a travelling companion