Category Archives: Personal Style

Freedom

’emergencies’ have always been the pretext on which individual liberty has been eroded

the only casual sex allowed is phone sex

Here in England it’s Day 380 of the national coronavirus lockdown, and now that there may be some signs that some of the restrictions may be lifted in the foreseeable future, it is worth remembering just what has been taken away from us.

Just to focus on three of our inalienable rights;

  1. Freedom of Association.  All through this lockdown we have been prohibited from meeting our friends and families.  Two women sharing walk and a cup of coffee were arrested for ‘breaking the spirit of lockdown’.  A lady was arrested just for being outside the care home of her elderly father.  And while the Black Lives Matter ‘protests’ were allowed to go ahead, every other public gathering of more than six people was treated as a riot by our increasingly heavy handed police.  Schools, Universities, and Churches have been closed, as have all other possible meeting places.  Extramarital sex is out of the question unless you are part of the ‘governing elite.’
  2. Freedom of Movement.  We have been told not to to go anywhere unless it was absolutely essential, not to leave home, not to travel more than a dozen miles from home, not to go to work unless you couldn’t possibly work from home….., and our increasingly Gestapo-like police force have happily arrested anyone seemingly breaking the rules.  Airlines have been grounded, Wales and Scotland closed their borders, and do not even think about attempting to travel to the USA.
  3. Freedom of Trade.  Apart from some ‘essential’ food stores and pharmacies, everything has been shut.  Factories have been lying idle because nobody could buy anything they made.  Agriculture has been badly hit because farm workers were told to stay at home, or in the case of ‘foreign casual labourers’  weren’t even allowed into the UK.  And, of course, any business where people could gather together has been closed for the duration.  Forget getting a pint with your mates down the pub.

Some say that losing our freedom was a necessary part of staying safe and protecting the Health Service.  And that those who complained should be gagged.  (Well, there goes Freedom of Speech.)  All I know is that we have all lost more than just our basic liberties to combat a mild ‘flu epidemic.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

all doors have been firmly closed

by order of some power-mad unelected officials

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Lifted

first, find the peace within yourself

Not that anyone would believe it, but The Lighthouse Family are an English band, from Newcastle upon Tyne.  That’s not why I chose this song, it’s because I feel the need to be lifted from the slough of despond I’ve been suffering.

I believe that I’ve driven that road, just out of Death Valley, California.

Probably in a Mustang Convertible.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

sometimes, only a Mustang convertible will do

Mercurial Me

subject to sudden or unpredictable changes of mood

what’s behind you doesn’t matter

There’s another definition of mercurial which is someone who is clever, confident, lively, and quick; the archetypal Type A personality.  Both of the above are pretty accurate descriptions of who I am.  I am also an Ares; passionate, intense, instinctive, aggressive, physical, unpredictable, a black-and-white, here-and-now, straight-line thinker.  You might gather that I don’t like settling for second best.  You might not think that I have a great sense of humour and a wicked laugh.

In the past I used to like things quick and dirty, but that was because I had no inherited wisdom, no role models to look back on, and very little fear of failure.  I learned the hard way that walking  blindly into the swamp to slay a dragon wasn’t always the best way to go about things.  I learned very fast that casual sex is sordid.  Acting on impulse has usually ended in big trouble for me.

I used to have an uncontrollable and sudden temper, which fortunately always passed just as quickly as it came upon me.  These days I’ve learned to count to ten, and then ten again, before letting anger and frustration get the better of me.  (Actually after counting to 20 I’m usually bored with being annoyed.)  However, one hangover from those bad old days is that to this day I never forget and never forgive.

My standards are very high, some would say impossibly so.  I am judgmental, I measure myself harshly and I judge others just as severely.  Perhaps that’s because I am intelligent, dynamic, quick, and confident enough to see the slow mediocrity in others.  Because I am utterly honorable and honest I despise liars, especially those who lie by sly omission.

Why am I telling you this?  Because my birthday was just a couple of days ago, and now we are into my star-sign of Ares it seemed a good moment to remind myself of just who I am.  A man who likes the passionate joy of the chase as much as the conquest.  A man who lives a great life to the fullest, even during this fucking lockdown.  (BTW, I get very upset if a woman ever used the ‘F’ word in public.)

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I know about astronomy

and astral navigation too

Songs on Saturday ~ The Chain

there’s nothing wrong with the car, except that it’s on fire

Back in the great days of motor racing, before it became a procession of ugly electric slot cars, the iconic commentator and pundit on the BBC was a chap called Murray Walker ~ famous for getting it all wrong at the best time.  The music for the opening credits for the Grand Prix show on TV was The Chain by Fleetwood Mac.

This is the short version.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Murray Walker passed away about a year ago. He loved this lotus 72 as driven by Emerson Fittipaldi

 

 

Food on Friday ~ Booze

I used to drink so much vodka that I had a Russian accent

Russian Slut Cocktail

26 ounce bottle of Smirnoff Black Label Vodka

Soda

Mint Leaves

Ice

One Gallon Jug

Pour the vodka into the jug over a couple of handfuls of ice, go into the yard, tear a handful of mint leaves and toss them in the jug, drive to the nearest place that has a soda fountain, fill the jug with whatever soda you like, go home, stir the jug, and drink with not more than a couple of casual friends, (of any sex).  Enjoy.  Repeat for as long as one of you can walk.  What else you do while you’re drinking depends on how much of a Russian Slut you’ve become.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

eventually, you may forget the mint

and the ice

 

I’m Ready

I get knocked down and wrecked, I get up again

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time to get off my knees

things are never as bad as they seem

I’m ready to live my dreams

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the wreck at the end of the road?

or the start of a new journey?

How To Do Anything

first of all stop being a willing victim

if that’s you then perhaps you need to change

The first step in my total makeover plan New Age ~ New Me is giving up alcohol; or to say it a better way Living a Sober Life.  If you misuse and abuse any substance; alcohol, drugs, prescription medication, over the counter medication, sugar, tobacco….. then your life revolves around that and it’s almost impossible to do anything else that matters a damn.  And trust me, if you drink, smoke, or take drugs ~ then whatever you think or believe you are an addict.  The same goes if you gamble, are promiscuous, steal, cheat, lie…..  you are an addict and a victim of your own need for instant gratification.

If you ever want to be better, to become self-aware, self-controlled, self-disciplined, empowered, and truly happy, then first of all you have to give up your addictions.  No that’s not true, first of all you truly have to admit to yourself that you have a problem.  Only when you really believe that you need to give up hanging around in bars, or drinking a bottle of wine at home every night, or smoking a pack of cigarettes a day can you begin to become a better version of yourself.

And giving up isn’t easy.  For years I was a binge-drinker ~ every time I got upset, unhappy, or dissatisfied I would retreat into a bottle of booze to make myself feel better.  It never worked.  And yet I haven’t touched a drop since Christmas last year.

Here’s how did I did that;

  1. I came to believe that booze was ruining my life.
  2. I made a decision to stop drinking alcohol.
  3. I stopped buying and drinking booze.

It was an instant decision followed by instant action; and I believe that it has to be that way.  There has been no help, no 12 step group, no counselors, no complicated programs, no tricks, no searching the internet to find an easy way to be sober, no anything ~ just me and some self-discipline.  It’s easy; decide to stop whatever destructive behaviour gives you instant gratification, and then stop.

Except we know that it isn’t easy at all ~ it’s fucking hard.

But what would I rather become?  A drooling incontinent who lives just for the next drink?  Or a self-aware Renaissance Man who lives a very full and rewarding life?

So, every hour of every day I stay away from that first drink.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the things you think you like the most

are the things that will ruin your life

and then kill you

Having a Better Memory

drinking alcohol is very bad for your brain

beer still gets you drunk, but it also makes you fat

For a lot of people alcohol becomes a crutch to allow them to handle the feelings, situations, and people they encounter in daily life.  Lots of people I know use booze to become more outgoing, manage stress, combat depression, relax, and as an aid to sleep.  However, alcohol isn’t a cure for shyness, stress, depression, anxiety, nor insomnia ~ except in the very short term, and if you only drink in moderation.

Taken in larger quantities, and over longer periods, alcohol does exactly the opposite of the things that you drank for in the first place.  Add to that some worse effects of too much drink; recklessness, loss of morality and ethics, severe anxiety and depression, complete emotional immaturity, using other drugs, promiscuity, criminality ~ and one can see that drinking a lot for very long is a bad idea.

If you drink too much, for even one evening, the alcohol will affect your memory.  Memory loss is a sure and certain effect of too much booze.  You might not remember the night before at all, or only vaguely remember bits of it, and you might not believe it when your friends tell you what you did.  Your brain will even invent false memories just to let you fill in the blanks.

Drinking to excess over long periods means the memory loss becomes permanent, along with nastier things like wet brain and dementia.  Luckily most people die from alcohol related causes long before they lose their mind.  Even better, if you stop drinking the memory loss and cognitive dysfunction will slowly reverse itself as the fog of booze clears and new brain cells grow to replace the ones killed off by alcohol.

I stopped drinking just after Christmas 2020.  Now, instead of being a high-functioning binge-drinker I am becoming a Modern Renaissance Man with a near eidetic memory.

Which would I rather be; a drooling incontinent drunk, or a very cool guy, living a really great life to the fullest?

Alcohol has left the building.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

people do things under the influence

that they would never do sober

Avoiding Insanity During Lockdown

here in England it’s day 353 of complete lockdown
some ways I’ve been able to stay fairly sane

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stay away from booze, especially hard liquor, alcohol never helps anything

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get plenty of rest during the day and 6 to 8 hours of good sleep every night

if you need to, try herbal sleep aids

otherwise avoid street drugs and powerful medication

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eat in a healthy and nutritious way

take high-quality and  appropriate food supplements

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stay active, go outside, fresh air and exercise are important

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anger and resentment against the unfairness is futile

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even if you can’t meet anyone for a conversation

stay connected by phone and the internet

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take enforced self-isolation one day at a time

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personally, I found that prayer helps

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

remember, there is nothing whatsoever you can do except obey the stupid lockdown laws, regulations, and guidelines

 

 

 

 

Emotional Blackmail

most women are very good at emotional blackmail
but a better woman would never go that low

solitary sulking in a bar is also sexual and emotional blackmail

I would aver that any man who has been in a dysfunctional relationship has experienced emotional blackmail at first hand ~ so that’s 100% of mature men.  And if a man is strong enough, or insensitive enough not to give in to being emotionally blackmailed, women will deploy the nuclear option and start crying.  All women can cry on purpose as a way of manipulating a man’s emotions.  Conversely, where and when I was brought up in England real men never cry.

Crying in babies has a real function in that it stimulates loving and protective feelings in adults.  Most of the time an adult woman crying is deliberate emotional blackmail ~ and it works on boyfriends, lovers, partners, and husbands.  Only women and gay men use tears to manipulate others.  Generally women are experts in emotional blackmail, generally real men aren’t.  Generally, the most common emotional blackmailers are family members, close friends, and lovers.

Emotional blackmail is one of the great pastimes of family life.  ~  Mason Cooley

Men are far more often the victims of emotional and sexual blackmail than the villains.  It seems that men will use a well-planned direct approach to get what they want, whereas women prefer blackmail because it avoids direct confrontation.  At its worst emotional blackmail is where a woman who is close to you subtly threatens to punish you, or implies that you will suffer if you don’t comply with their wishes.  That woman will know your most intimate secrets and vulnerabilities.  She will use this personal knowledge to get you to obey her.  Whatever strengths and weaknesses a man has, an unscrupulous woman will use them against him.

A man must never, ever yield to emotional or sexual blackmail, or it will become a lifetime curse.  You can refuse to give in to threats, you can negotiate, and a strong man can just assert himself, but you must always honestly believe that you are in the right.

Some say that emotional blackmailers are childish bullies and should be treated accordingly.  And that women will use the withdrawal of sex as a tool in blackmail.  All I know is that you can’t go on fighting an emotional blackmailer, you can either train them to be better, or walk away.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

this woman is an expert blackmailer

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