Category Archives: Mental Health

Rethinking Life

without struggle success has no value

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Here in England normal life has been on hold for 438 days.  With varying degrees of severity we have been prohibited from doing most things that make life worth living; from meeting family and friends, to going to any and all places of business, entertainment, and worship, and even following our chosen trade or profession.  Face it ~ most of us have been locked down at home, suffering that most terrible of punishments; imprisonment and solitary confinement.

And personally, not much good has come from that.  On the upside I haven’t been sick with the coronavirus.  On the downside the list of bad and really bad things is long, pathetic, disturbing, injurious to my health, and life-threatening.  All in all, I would say that the policy of shutting down the entire country for over a year is the worst thing supposedly civilised and ‘liberal’ governments have done since 1914.

The worst of it is that I haven’t lifted myself above the morass, the slough of despond, and done something useful with my time.  I haven’t had a robust programme to improve my physical, mental, and spiritual health and fitness.  I haven’t written a book, taken up a new course of study, or routinely practiced something like meditation, tai chi, yoga, or even moon-walking.  Basically I’ve felt sorry for myself, put on weight, got myself a prison pallor, and spent lots of time aimlessly staring at the TV.  Some of the time I drank too much.  I was utterly unmotivated.

BUT, now that there is a light at the end of the Stygian lockdown tunnel, I feel the need to get a hold of my life and make it better than it was before all this fucking coronavirus crap began.  So what to do?  Big, meaningful changes take a hell of a lot of effort.

Step One.  Cut out all the bad things I’ve been doing just to fill in the empty hours.

Step Two.  Get out of the garret into the fresh air and sunshine, lose the prison pallor, get some exercise.  Yesterday I walked 8 miles, and meditative walking is really good for the body and soul.

Step Three.  Make a plan, some lists, some aims, goals, targets, dreams and desires.  Use all the skills and techniques I’ve learned about project planning and start a project to make myself and my life better than ever it was before.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

travel and adventure are on the agenda

Scenes on Sunday ~ Women with a Past

a woman with a past is still someone’s future

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the past was not always pleasant

sometimes it’s best forgotten

Scenes on Sunday ~ Travels In My Past

against all odds, I was there, with or without her

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notice the teddy bear

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalknet

somewhere in Northern Italy

some time ago

Songs on Saturday ~ The Traveling Wilburys

the end of the line is just another stop

If you have ever struggled, if you’ve ever though that life was just too difficult, if you’ve ever felt that you just couldn’t go on, then this song may resonate with you.

I’ve been to the end of the line, and you know what?  There was always another train leaving from just across the platform.

Please listen with more than a little hope.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

sometimes it really is the end of the line

Songs on Saturday ~ Coldplay

grant me the strength to make it through today

Depending on who you are and what you’ve done in life, then ‘higher power’ may be a significant concept for you ~ or not.  In any event, I like this Coldplay track.  But then, I used to think that I was a very cool guy, living a really great life.

As if any truly self-confident guy would ever say anything like that, much less believe in it.

Please listen thoughtfully.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Aphrodite, a reflection of my chosen higher power, a goddess of my understanding

Food on Friday ~ Rosemary

redolent of Mediterranean mists and sea-dew

Rosemary grows wild on the shores of the Mediterranean, and is widely cultivated in the more temperate areas of Europe and North America.  This glossy shrub can be seen in decorative borders, kitchen gardens, herb gardens, and physic gardens, wherein medicinal plants are grown.

In Greek mythology rosemary is said to have been draped around the otherwise naked figure of Aphrodite when she came out of the sea.  A more Christian legend is that the Virgin Mary draped her blue cloak over a white rosemary bush while she was resting on her way to Bethlehem and the flowers turned blue.  The shrub was henceforth called ‘the Rose of Mary’.

Most decent cooks are familiar with this herb as an addition to meat dishes, lamb in particular.  However, it can be used judiciously as a seasoning to a wide variety of recipes; soups, casseroles, salads, and stews.  Use rosemary with chicken and other poultry, game (especially as its strong flavour enhances the strong flavours of game dishes), lamb, pork, beef steak, and fish, especially oily fish.  It also adds flavour to otherwise bland grains, mushrooms, peas, potatoes, and greens, (especially good with spinach).

If you a drop of strong drink, then perhaps try this rosemary pomegranate grilled meyer-lemon sparkler.  But beware, it’s much stronger than it looks.  For some reason rosemary adds a lot to the taste of pomegranate juice.

Rosemary also goes very well with gin, try putting a sprig of the herb into a fresh bottle and letting it stand for a week or so.

A rosemary gin fizz is a very refreshing, if potent drink.

Rosemary tea is easy to make and is said to have a host of health benefits, try sweetening it with Manuka honey.

The main active ingredients in this herb are tannin and saponin. (There is also a little thujone, which is the active ingredient in wormwood, used to produce real absinthe.) Technically this adds up to rosemary being good for the immune system, blood circulation, reducing cancer forming free radicals, as an aid to digestion, enhancing memory and concentration, (especially after a stroke), staving off eye problems, and staving off aging of one’s brain, (dementia).

Rosemary can have a beneficial psychoactive effect, it will not get you very high, but it will make you feel both relaxed and alert, at one in the same time.  As a sleep aid it can give you wild dreams.  (Actually rosemary is a very mild ‘legal high’.)

Rosemary is best gathered in spring and summer, but as an evergreen it can be collected fresh at any time of the year.  It dries very well.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the flowers are very much favoured by bees

if you don’t know me by now

misunderstandings and rejections

Following on from this morning’s post Rejection in Relationships, I thought I’d let you listen to this song by Simply Red.  It says a lot about what it feels like to be rejected inside a relationship / marriage.  It hurts, a lot.

If you find yourself listening to this kind of song

then I’m guessing you’re not happy

and it’s time to move on

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

sometimes, it’s time to walk away

Rejection in Relationships

a healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down

misery is never acceptable

Who here has never been dumped?  I have, more than once, and it hurts.  However, I firmly believe that what hurts worse than being rejected and dumped is being rejected by your spouse or partner while the relationship goes on between you.  You are still mostly living together, but that’s the most you can say of it.  You may even be having sex, but it’s lacking in intimacy and is nothing more than satisfying some animal lust.  Bad sex is worse than no sex at all, and in a toxic relationship sex is all about power.

Everything in the world is about sex except sex.  Sex is about power.  ~  Oscar Wilde

Some signs of being rejected inside a relationship are that you avoid being together, you hardly ever talk and when you do there is no real communication, communication descends into arguments, recriminations, and raised voices, you don’t trust your partner at all, one of you drinks far too much, and the chances are that you are being cheated on.  Anyhow, if your partner is rejecting you then you already know.  Being rejected can hurt for a while, being rejected inside a relationship makes you miserable forever, or until you find the courage to walk out.

If you don’t trust your partner / spouse, if you don’t let them anywhere near your money, if you go to counseling alone or to a 12 step group, if you are being mentally, psychologically or physically abused, if you feel like a doormat, if you are always walking on eggshells ~ then it’s time to have an escape plan.  The thing is that, anyone who can subject someone they profess to care for to the misery of rejection is themselves a deeply damaged person.  In psychology Anti-Social has some very specific meanings, it describes someone who has no conscience, no empathy, no sense of right and wrong, no guilt.  Anti-Social people are promiscuous, often abuse alcohol and drugs, they cheat and steal, are narcissistic, and often they will break the law; things like petty theft or driving under the influence.  Someone who will reject their partner or spouse is deeply Anti-Social.

And beware because simple rejection can escalate into Gaslighting, a form of extreme psychological abuse.  If you suffer from anxiety, depression, question your own sanity ~ then you are being gaslighted.  If that is you, and you sometimes fear for your own safety, or even your own life, then it’s not time to walk away, it’s time to run.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

feeling like a prisoner is never acceptable

Mindfulness

we must live in the present and not dwell on the past

Arise early to enjoy the dawn.

Live with intention.

Walk to the edge.

Listen hard.

Practice mindfulness and wellness.

Live with no regrets of the past.

Do what you love and not what others want.

Live as if today is all there is.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Dream spiritually

Take time to smell the flowers

Leadership

a real leader does not court popularity and consensus

In May 1940 Winston Churchill was not popular within the government, he was seen as a rebel within parliament, and not that many of the ordinary ‘men in the street’ even knew who he was.  Yet Churchill knew something that even his own king wasn’t prepared to admit; Hitler and the Nazi party were the very personification of evil.  There could never be a negotiated peace with Hitler’s hellish regime.  England would have to go on and on fighting Germany, even though there seemed very little prospect of victory.  Eventually, through sheer vision, oratory, and force of personality W.S. Churchill carried the government, parliament, the people of the United Kingdom and the World with him to victory over the evil empires of Germany and Japan.

But then, Churchill was a true leader.

The men at the top of the United Kingdom and the United States; Boris Johnson and Joe Biden, are not leaders.  They are mere mouthpieces for their cabinets and special advisors, with one eye on public opinion and the other on whatever populist cause is making the headline news.

Boris is in thrall to his squeeze Carrie Symonds and her far-left extreme green views.  The man who once said that wind farms ‘couldn’t pull the skin off a rice pudding’ has now committed Britain to a legally binding target of reducing carbon emissions by 78% of 1990 levels by 2035.  You can tell how insane this is because Greenpeace have described it as the ‘boldest move by any world leader…..’  Boris has also caved in on everything the nutty academics from Oxford University have told him to do when it comes to the coronavirus and lockdown.  The man isn’t even a paper tiger.

A God without wrath, without intimidation, without punishment, without Hell?  It would be a paper tiger, a teddy bear!  ~  Bangambiki Habyarimana

Come June Boris Johnson will be schmoozing with Joe Biden, another green freak who is expected to announce swinging carbon cuts for the USA at the UN Climate Change Conference in November, or maybe at the G7 summit in June.  Good luck trying to drive across your state in a Tesla, and forget central air in your home.  (Just check how much the price of gas has risen since Joe took office.)  President Joe also showed himself to be at best a geriatric fool when he commented on the trial Of Derek Chauvin while the jury was still out.  But then Joe’s history with the KKK shows that he knows all about racism.

We would have to go a long way to find a real leader today ~ unless we consider Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, who leads only by example.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the Queen has lead the country and the Commonwealth for almost 70 years

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