Category Archives: Mental Health

Home Alone

for many, the greatest fear is abandonment

I am pretty certain that over the past couple of months there have been more people living mostly at home, alone and isolated, than ever before.  All of the reasons for people being abandoned at home and alone are related to the COVID-19 virus.  At best they could be working from home, and / or suffering lockdown, quarantine, self isolation.  Many will have lost their jobs, or in the UK have been furloughed, or been unable to work at their business because of the lockdown.  There may be more tragic reasons such as a severe illness or death.

Whatever the reason, being at home alone and isolated from physical social contact, is bad.  It will make people very sick; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  People suffering solitary confinement, (and effectively having to be at home alone is solitary confinement), become depressed and distressed.  They will suffer insomnia, either be unable to eat or eat far too much, they may drink too much, use drugs too much, and feel so exhausted they can’t or don’t want to do anything.  People in that state stop looking after themselves, don’t wash, shower, shave, clean their teeth, or get properly dressed ~ maybe they wear the same dirty stuff day after day.  They may have thoughts of hurting themselves or others, they might go out and kill someone, loot stores, set fire to cars…..

Being at home alone and isolated touches the greatest fear most people have ~ that of abandonment.  It’s a deep childhood fear, an abandoned child will quickly and certainly die, and our innermost psyche remembers that visceral fear.

There are some solutions, but none of them are easy, particularly for someone who has already suffered serious physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual decline.

What we need to do is;

  • Go outside.  And I don’t give a flying fuck what the rules and guidelines and official advice says, we all need to get outside into the fresh air and natural daylight.
  • Get some exercise.  And I don’t care how bad you feel. You’ve got to walk, do yoga, find an exercise routine on YouTube…. but do something to get your muscles and blood moving.
  • Have  strict routine.  Get up at the same reasonable time every fucking day, get clean and dressed, have breakfast, do something positive or your job maybe, have lunch at the same fucking time every day, do something positive then prepare dinner.  Go to bed at the same time every night.
  • Eat healthily, don’t drink, smoke, or indulge your other nasty habits too much.  Take good nutritional supplements.  Especially vitamins B, C and D, along with iron, magnesium, zinc, and a good fish oil.
  • Stay away from depressing news, and keep well away from social media.  Instead reach out to your family and friends.  Telephone, Skype, email, chat, write a fucking blog…..  But don’t be alone, even if you can’t be together.

Some say that lockdown and social distancing are there to keep us safe.  And that they can start living again when all these restrictions are lifted.  All I know is that life is not a dress rehearsal, this is it, make the most of it.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

refuse to be a prisoner

Take Good Care of Yourself

courage is about doing what needs to be done, when it needs doing

It turns out that COVID-19 is a very selective killer virus.  It’s racist, ageist, fattist, and discriminates against those who have cancer, diabetes, or a heart problem.  Doesn’t much like men either.  You are also far more likely to get seriously ill or die if you live in a big city and don’t get much exercise, fresh air, and sunshine.  If you want to sail through a pandemic then you should be younger, fitter, and free from underlying health conditions and addictions.

There is a little evidence that smokers are less affected by the coronavirus than people who do not and have never smoked.  If you’re a smoker don’t congratulate yourself because smoking will kill you faster and more certainly then COVID-19 ever would.  Also, smokers tend to be unfit and have a host of chronic illnesses ~ like heart diseases.  In fact, anyone with any addiction; booze, drugs of any kind, gambling, junk food, casual sex….. is far more likely to die from that addiction than from COVID-19, but this virus could well just push you over the edge.

As an example; working age men are twice as likely to die of COVID-19 than a similar woman.  And, the 70 to 79 age group are 50 times more likely to die from catching the coronavirus than the under 40s.  It’s complicated.

We do not know yet how to account for this.  Socio-economic factors may be an influence…..  There could be hidden genetic factors we do not yet understand.  ~  Professor Karol Sikora.

We can’t alter our age or ethnicity, and it’s hard to change our socio-economic status, or where we live.  But, how long is a piece of string?  There is usually a big difference between someone’s chronological age than their physical age.    Most chronic illnesses are caused by what we do and how we live; alcoholics will routinely suffer from liver and kidney diseases, heart diseases, cancers, and dementia ~ as well as having a strong chance of dying in an accident or committing suicide.  Type 2 diabetes is all about lifestyle…..

So, to have a longer, healthier, and more rewarding life we need to be brave enough to change, have some self-discipline, stop being self-destructive, and just take good care of ourselves; physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

For a start, no matter what else you believe or have been told, get out there and get some fresh air and exercise.  Stop drinking, smoking, hanging around in bars, and eating junk food.

Some say you are just as old as you feel.  And that they’re not really an addict, they just smoke the occasional joint, and like a beer or two.  All I know is that most of us were on the Road to Hell but we can get off any time we like.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a glass of red a few times a week might be good for you

Random Jottings ~ Sucess

start each day badly, and you wave success goodbye

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to be fulfilled, turn work into play

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Expert:  a complete drip under pressure

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never trust an expert who has never done a proper hard day’s work

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emotional intelligence is an essential ingredient of a balanced successful life

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to be successful, to stand out from the crowd, do the exact opposite of what most people are doing

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

getting drunk only turns you into an overnight success in your own eyes

Monochrome Monday ~ Your Dystopian Future

it was a bright sunny day in June, the clocks were striking thirteen

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

some will not survive the dystopian society

Government Bans Sex

thou shalt not commit adultery

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Just as the lockdown begins to be eased in England, the government has come up with an extraordinary new regulation designed to stop people from meeting up to have sex.

No person may participate in a gathering which takes place in a public or private place indoors, and consists of two or more persons.

Sex in a public place is already illegal here, so we can’t even find a deserted beach and have moonlight sex in the surf.  Of course, the stupid six foot ‘social distancing’ rule is already in place, which means you can’t even meet up with your love to kiss, hug, or walk and hold hands.  Add to that the number of people who have been in self isolation / quarantine / shielding, the number of people who haven’t been able to travel any distance to meet their paramour, and you can see that the rule has been ‘no sex please, we’re British’.

Studies show that even among married couples, and people who live together, just about 40% of UK adults have been sexually active during the 10 weeks of lockdown.

Good luck on any of this being popular among the English public.  Good luck with many people taking any notice of these laws / regulations.  But, I would expect our law enforcement agencies to become officious sex police, and self-righteous nasty people to inform on their neighbours who they suspect of having sex.

None of this has stopped our politicians and government officials from ignoring all the rules to carry on their illicit affairs during the strictest part of the lockdown here.  It’s still one law for them and a different set of laws for the rest of us.

I wonder if car sex is still illegal?

And, how have hookers made a living in the past 10 weeks?

 

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

there is always phone sex

Shopping Carts

destructive nihilism is common among mindless youth

Why would anyone go to all the trouble of stealing a shopping cart, wheeling the damn thing a mile or so, and then heaving it into the dock, where it will be forever a menace at low tide?  Some young men aren’t worth the air they breathe.

Just a sample of the idiocy I saw out on my walk today.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

you really have to be as thick as two short planks to do this kind of thing

I am not a number…..

I am a free man

Yesterday I tried to come up with a bucket and to-do list that had 7 important things on it, and I got stuck after 6, which you will see if you look back at that post.  I shouldn’t have been surprised, the number six is in my destiny right now.

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Kipling thought that six was important too;

I keep six honest serving men, (They taught me all I knew);

Their names are What and Why, and When

And How and Where and Who

If you can remember those, then you will never go far wrong when it comes to making any decision, writing anything, or making a success of anything you wish to do.

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There are also 6 healing powers.  The six best doctors are;

Sun, Rest, Exercise, Good Food, Self-Respect, and Friends

But, when it comes to good food, don’t eat too much of it.  Keep well hydrated, and stay away from the booze.

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In fact there are 6 things one should really stay away from;

Alcohol, Casual Sex, Drugs, Over-Eating, Smoking, and Refined Sugar

All of those will kill you eventually, some will just kill you faster than others.

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The number 6 is also a perfect number, congruent number, harmonic divisor number, and has lots to do with weird stuff like Zsigmondy’s Theorem, sphere packing, the kissing number problem, and Graeco-Latin squares.

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Some say we should not worry about material items, including money.  And that worry lowers the effectiveness of your thoughts, dreams, wishes, and prayers.  All I know is that the Angel Number 6 means that our prayers will be answered, although the answer might be ‘no’.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

we each have our own Angel and Goddess

tired and bored with myself

make a new start, get up and get out there, there is naught to fear

I don’t feel pleasure

there is no real pain

waking up is pointless

too much useless leisure

far too much cold rain

the days are countless

thoughts are mindless

nothing to lose nor gain

just isolated loneliness

it’s time to begin again

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

it’s time to laugh again

 

When You Know You’re Ill But Don’t Know Why

today is ideal for those who wish to make it so

to see a fine sunrise would make my day

I know I’m poorly, but I don’t really know why.  Here in England we can only have an on-line of telephone doctor’s appointment, but we have a National Health Service help line, and they play it safe, call them and the chances are they will say you most likely have the coronavirus….. there is no chance of being tested for COVID-19 unless you are a ‘key worker’.

They have told me that I need to self-isolate for another week, which is fine because just going down the 56 steps to the street door is difficult.  Climbing back up again needs to be done in stages because I’m so breathless.

The symptoms I have make no sense, neither do the antibiotics I’ve been given ~ a placebo perhaps.  I believe that the vitamin supplements are doing me more good; A, B, C, D, E, magnesium and zinc, iron, and cod liver oil.  Being isolated and alone is most likely what is wrong with me.  Solitary confinement is a cruel and unusual punishment, and I’ve had about 53 days of that.

I really, really, desperately want to be fit and well again.

Some say that illness is all in the mind.  And that you are just as healthy as you want to be.  All I know is that I’ve had some very bad days since my birthday on March 23rd.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

at least I have a friend to keep me company

Tunes on Tuesday ~ Message In A Bottle

I’ll send an S.O.S. to the world

Alone, trapped, scared of being alone, at least I can walk on the beach.

If you too are trapped, write to me, put your message in a bottle, chuck your message to me into the sea, or a river, or a stream ~ the Cosmos will see that it’s delivered.

Please listen without despair.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

just don’t empty your bottle too quickly

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