Category Archives: Psychology

Food on Friday ~ Cauliflower

Cauliflower is nothing but a cabbage with a college education.  ~  Mark Twain

Most will regard the humble cauliflower as a boring side dish ~ at best.  Perhaps something not to put into one’s shopping cart on a regular basis.  But, as I hope these smashing recipes from some great cooks will show you, there are a lot of exciting dishes you can make with this cruciferous vegetable.  Cauliflower is from the same plant family as broccoli, cabbage, kale, and Brussels sprouts and is said to be even better for you, in some ways, than these green vegetables.

First this week we have these cool cauliflower rice carne asada bowls with mango salsa, from Teighan Gerard at Half Baked Harvest.  This whole meal will take you an hour to make, but you can do so much with the leftovers afterwards.  Lunch at work, tacos, burritos, topped with a fried egg…

Cauliflowere Rice Carne Asada Bowls with Mango Salsa

Cauliflower cheese is a classic dish, but this creamy cauliflower gratin from Chungah at Damn Delicious is just a little bit special.  Again this easy dish will take you about an hour, and again this is something that you can reheat in the microwave at work.  Or have with a nice steak for dinner later in the week.

Creamy Cauliflower Gratin

Next, from Andrea at Cooking with a Wallflower there’s this cool dish to think about; zucchini lentil pasta with mashed cauliflower.  Made with mushrooms, squash, and grape tomatoes ~ with a side of creamy mashed cauliflower.  It looks very delicious for a midweek dinner.

Zucchini Lentil Pasta with Mashed Cauliflower

~

Yvette’s Gourmet Kitchen has this brilliant looking recipe for roasted cauliflower with almonds and capers.  I think you can have this dish ready in 30 minutes. It’s vegan if you use a vegetarian substitute for the Parmesan cheese.

Roasted Cauliflower with Almonds and Capers

Here’s something exotically different and up-market from Petra at Food Eat Love; cauliflower soup with beetroot and gin cured salmon.  This dish is something for a really posh dinner party ~or be even posher than that and serve to your house-guests at breakfast.  The dish only takes 10 minutes to prepare, but you have to cure the salmon for 36 hours before that.

Cauliflower Soup with Beetroot and Gin Cured Salmon

A blog-post of cauliflower recipes wouldn’t be anything without a soup.  Ergo from Alanna at the Bojon Gourmet we have cauliflower and yellow split pea soup with turmeric and curried ghee.  Both cauliflower and turmeric are supposed to be very good for you.  This is a great soup to make a lot of, to take to work later, as it will keep for about 5 days in the refrigerator.

Cauliflower and Yellow Split Pea Soup with Turmeric and Curried Ghee

And finally this week we have our list, this time from delish. So, how about 70 crazy creative things to make with cauliflower????  These 70 cool recipes include this loaded grilled cauliflower by Lauren Miyashiro, which should take you about 20 minutes to prepare.

Loaded Grilled Cauliflower

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

cauliflower is easy to grow, even if you only have a small garden, it’s pretty decorative too.

Advertisements

The Pointlessness of Medicinal Marijuana

Banning cannabis just makes it even more desirable.

Some say that using cannabis has medicinal benefits.  And that using a little weed never hurt anyone.  All I know is that regularly using cannabis will put you on a slippery slope to misery, degradation, and death.

The US Food and Drug Administration, (FDA), has not approved marijuana for medicinal use, although a large number of doctors and their patients swear by its effectiveness and positive health benefits.  Which is utterly delusional because a placebo is just about as effective as cannabis when it comes to relieving the worst symptoms of most illnesses.   However, people still take medicinal marijuana to obtain relief from the more unpleasant symptoms of their illness ~ and not just to get high.  However, medicinal marijuana will still give you a rush and get you high.

Cannabis in my view is being deliberately oversold as a medication, deliberately so by people whose primary objective is drug legalisation.  Nations should be cautious and should not be seduced by extravagant and unscientific claims by noisy lobbyists.  ~  David Raynes

This inevitable drug rush is because marijuana’s healing properties come from its high cannabidoil (CBD) content and critical levels of medical terpenes, flavonoids, and tetrahydrocannabinol (THC).  CBD, won’t get you high, but THC certainly will.  Actually, there are more than 100 cannabinoids in marijuana ~ doctors and scientists don’t know what effect some of these potent chemicals have on the human brain and body.

Nevertheless, medicinal marijuana does show some slightly positive effects in treating certain psychological problems, and the pain from illness such as degenerative neurological disorders.  Allegedly, medicinal marijuana helps ease pain, nausea and loss of appetite in people with HIV and cancer, and it just might help people with epilepsy or multiple sclerosis.  It’s the CBD and THC that has these beneficial effects.

What THC does is make your brain release dopamine ~ the pleasure chemical, and to be honest, that’s why everyone uses pot, even the people who take it for ‘medicinal’ reasons.  You will get high if you take cannabis for any reason ~ you will feel more relaxed, happier, and probably sleepy.  You may also have hallucinations, delusions, short term memory loss, paranoia ~ and if you have pneumonia or bronchitis those illnesses will suddenly get a lot worse.

Cannabis does more harm than good, even when taken for medical reasons.  New medical guidelines have been issued in Canada, (where cannabis is legal), warning that the negative effects of the weed far outweigh the minor benefits it has for most illnesses.  The Canadian Family Physician journal states that in the few conditions where cannabis is helpful the effects are only marginally better than a placebo.

This Canadian guidance states that there is little evidence that cannabis could help many patients at all, and that the downsides far exceed the potential benefits.

Marijuana very strong stuff, especially the more potent types grown now, and its effects last a very long time.  You will still be suffering from the after-effects of using pot four weeks later.  Pot is addictive, and it’s also a gateway drug to worse things such as cocaine and heroin.

Marijuana is damaging and dangerous.  If you use marijuana a lot you will probably get one or more serious mental illnesses like schizophrenia, anxiety and depression, memory problems, have difficulty with coordination, distortions in your sense of time and space, and have suicidal thoughts.  Your work, social life, and interpersonal relationships will suffer.  You will do risky and stupid things.  To top it off, marijuana damages unborn babies too.

The real reason anyone uses cannabis is to experience the instant gratification of a THC / Dopamine rush.  Anyone who craves instant gratification is immature and nowhere near being a balanced, grown up, grounded, and together person.  They care little about the future, themselves, or anyone else.  They have no real life outside of feeding their own wants, needs, and desires.  They are unlikely to ever get well until they first learn to cure their own need for instant pleasures.  This applies to anyone who demonstrates little self-control.

If you really want to turn into a Mr. Hyde, then smoke pot.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Screaming in the Night

Sometimes nightmares become terrifying reality.

~

sex and the stranger has left

just another of those bar boys

the Marconi plays downbeat

yellow moon rules the clouds

alone again after midnight

hurts that nobody even cares

that she’s scared filled with fright

soul peopled with dark dreams

her past sins have found the light

all she has are her worst nightmares

and solitary screaming in the night

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

On Offending People.

I you’re not offending someone, you’re not doing your job.

Yesterday evening I started to write a post for today ~ or rather I began 3 different posts, and scrapped all of them.  All three of those posts would have offended some of the people who follow my blog, and some of my close friends, so I junked all of those questionable posts.

I believe in absolute freedom of expression.  Everyone has a right to be offended.  ~  Taslima Nasrin

If you have followed my blog for any length of time you will know that I don’t shy away from offending some people, but the people I’m happy to offend deserve whatever they get, and more.  I have no problem being offensive to Bankers, Politicians, Government Officials ~ and on Monday of this week I was offensive toward the disgusting sex-pests, perverts, paedophiles, and rapists who work for some ‘Big Charities’ such as Oxfam.

I’m not happy to offend the innocent who just happen to do, (or have done), some things I profoundly disagree with. That would be cruel, hurtful,  hypocritical, mendacious, and vicious of me.

I try to practice ‘mindfulness’ every time I encounter a stressful feeling or negative emotion, of I am challenged by my own anger.  Mindfulness grounds me in the present and stops me obsessing about the past.  I can look at my feelings as though I am an uninvolved observer, rather than being at the centre of the maelstrom. That way I can act and react in a balanced and thoughtful way.

So, instead of what I intended to write about, which in each of the three cases would have been stressful, challenging, negative, and emotive ~ I’m going to tell you how I came to the decision that writing about this stuff would have been a bad idea.

These days I try to live a kind, mindful, self-aware, and spiritual existence ~ bringing inner peace and happiness to myself and those around me.  Offending innocent people for no good reason than my own instant gratification is not living an ethical and spiritual existence.

I try to be accepting, understanding, and supportive to those around me.  I do my best to live a mindful life.  I work very hard at walking the warrior’s path to ultimate truth and inner peace.  I profoundly believe  that as I give to the world, so I shall receive in return.

Ergo, publishing a blog which I knew would upset and hurt some people, which would make them think that I was actually attacking them, was not who I am trying to be today.  In any event, I am not perfect within myself.

When you are offended at any person’s fault, turn to yourself and study our own failings.  Then you will forget your anger.  ~  Epictetus

I want to make good changes in my relationships, my behaviours, habits, and routines ~ attacking someone, or a group of people, is neither good nor positive.  So, I decided that I just wasn’t going to do it.

And you know what?  I feel better for not publishing any of those three negative, emotive, and judgmental posts.

The posts I had half written, and then trashed were about Borderline Personality Disorder, casual sex with strangers, and the medicinal use of marijuana.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Charities’ Sex Scandals

Charity compelled is simply a polite word for slavery.

Big Charities, often known as the Third Sector, disgust  and appall me.

Personally, I only ever donate to one charity, and that is my local hospice.  Under no circumstances would I ever donate to ‘Big Charity’ ~ organisations such as the disgraced Oxfam, the RSPB, the RSPCA, Save the Children, Wellcome Trust, World Food Programme, World Vision.

I’m not a fan of giving to charities.  I have a few I support but the overhead and inefficiencies really bother me.  Instead I pay people’s bills and help solve problems.  ~  Mark Cuban

Previously the reason I never gave to charities other than my local hospice was my disgust at how much the bosses of the big charities paid themselves ~ the average, (mean), pay for executives in the top 100 UK charities was £255,000 pounds a year in 2017, ($350,000).  Fourteen of the top 100 charities paid their highest earners more than £300,000 a year ~ and those huge pay deals come straight out of the money that is supposed to go to good causes.  That is obscene.

The highest paid charities bosses in England all work for charitable healthcare trusts, with the top people at the London Clinic, Nuffield Health, and St. Andrews Healthcare all earning over £750,000 a year, ($1,050,000).

It’s even worse in the USA with the boss of the Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center being paid $6,700,003 in 2016.  The boss of the National Rifle Association, (which has charitable status), was paid $1,422,339 in 2016 ~ the NRA like AR-15 assault rifles such as the type used to kill 17 people in a Florida High School recently.

Disproportionate salaries risk bringing charitable organisations and the wider charitable world into disrepute.  ~  William Shawcross, Chairman of the Charity Commission.

And now there is another reason I won’t give to charities other than my local hospice ~ the big aid charities are discovered to be the natural home and hunting ground for sex-pests, perverts, paedophiles and rapists.

From Africa, to the Caribbean, end even in thrift stores in the United Kingdom, there has been a continual flood of disturbing news of sex abuse, some of it of the worst kind imaginable, with under-age girls and boys being forced to trade their bodies for food by aid workers.  Desperate teen prostitutes were paid in rice to have sex with groups of Oxfam workers at drunken orgies in Haiti.  This is far beyond disgusting.

Even the respected Archbishop Desmond Tutu has resigned as an ambassador for Oxfam ~ the worst hit of the sex-scandal charities, for now.

You would think their would be some contrition at the highest levels in Oxfam, but NO there isn’t.  Oxfam still will not release the names of the guilty aid workers.  The disingenuous Mark Goldring, the charity’s chief executive, has said that; ‘the issue had been blown out of all proportion…’ He claimed that critics were ‘gunning’ for the charity.  And, ‘it’s not like we murdered babies in their cots…’  This sanctimonious man sickens me.

All of a sudden we’ve got two former ministers calling for my resignation.  What I felt really clearly is many people haven’t wanted to listen to explanations.  ~  Mark Goldring.

How do you explain away child sex abuse and rape?

The UK government was giving some £32 million of taxpayers money to Oxfam annually ~ this funding has been suspended.  Many right-thinking people think that it should be stopped altogether, permanently.

I will never give a penny-piece to any charity than my cash-poor local hospice.  Unfortunately, the UK Government’s Department for International Development currently squanders £13.4 billion a year on ill-judged funding to organisations like Oxfam and the disgraced UN.  I have no choice in where the government spends the money I pay in taxes.

That too is disgusting.

Nothing to do with any of this makes me feel proud to be British.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Scenes on Sunday ~ Séduction Monochromatique

La mode se démodé, le style monochromatique, jamais.

bas noirs

Bretelles Érotiques

Arrière Mignon

Nudité Couché

Transpiration Sexuelle

Noir Rouge à Lèvres Fumer 

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

                                ~

une garce est la contraire d’une salope,

et elle fume pour la prouver.

So, Guns Don’t Kill People…

Guns make very small men feel very big.

The whole world must know by now that on St. Valentines day a nineteen years old youth called Nicholas Cruz carried out his very own cowardly massacre at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, in Parkland, Florida.  After about 7 minutes of shooting, 17 people lay dead, and 14 others were wounded, some of them critically.

Nicholas Cruz was expelled from that Florida High School for ‘disciplinary reasons’ after ‘getting into trouble’.  It is now said that this cowardly youth is mentally ill, has a history of killing animals, showed off his kills and firearms on social media, and that his mother called the police to their home 39 times to try and ‘talk some sense into him’.

It is also said that the other students were very afraid of Nicholas Cruz and his propensity for violence when he did attend the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, in Parkland, Florida.

So, how was it that Nicholas Cruz was, ‘perfectly legally’, able to buy an AR-15 assault rifle and magazines at Sunrise Tactical Supply, of  7600 Wiles Rd. Coral Springs?  The Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives say that; ‘No laws were violated in the procurement of this weapon’.

Really?  And now 17 people are dead and at least 14 injured, some of them critically.  Because Nicholas Cruz was allowed to legally buy an AR-15 and magazines.

The Colt AR-15 assault rifle is a military weapon of war, and a variant of the US military’s M16 rifle.  Along with the Russian AK-47 (Kalashnikov), the AR-15 is the weapon of choice for terrorists and mass murderers who carry out insane random shootings.  Stephen Paddock used a variant of the AR-15 to kill 58 people in Las Vegas on October 1st 2017.

The AR-15 is a lightweight semi-automatic rifle, either 16, 20, 0r 24 inches in length.  It fires either the US .223 Remington, or 5.56 x 45 mm NATO cartridge, with a probable rate of fire of 90 rounds a minute, and an effective range of 600 yards.   It is said to be a very user-friendly ergonomic weapon.

The gun laws in Florida are very lax.  Florida is a ‘shall issue’ state and will routinely allow ‘concealed carry’ licences for handguns.  You don’t need a permit to buy or carry a rifle or shotgun in Florida, nor do you have to register your weapons.  You can buy as many guns as you like, all at the same time, including assault weapons with large-capacity magazines, and .50 caliber rifles.  All you have to be is 18 years of age, (or a minor must have the permission of their parent or legal guardian), and you can equip yourself to start a reasonably sized war in the State of Florida.

Nicholas Cruz wasn’t old enough to buy a beer, but he was more than old enough to buy a deadly weapon and carry out his own St. Valentine’s Day Massacre.

And Florida is not alone, the most lenient gun laws in the USA are to be found in; Arizona, Alaska, Wyoming, Vermont, Kansas, Kentucky, Mississippi, Utah, and South Carolina.

From England, the gun laws and gun culture in the USA look utterly insane.  The US Constitution’s Second Amendment looks like a throwback to 1765, 1776, and 1783.  The British Redcoats are not going to march down Pennsylvania Avenue anytime soon.  The only time an American President likely to hear the massed bands of the Brigade of Guards play ‘The British Grenadiers’ would be on a State Visit to London.

Keep your Second Amendment and keep your mass shootings.

You are in our thoughts and you have the deepest sympathies of all England

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

 

Learn Self-Discipline

No person is free who is not master of themselves.

Self-discipline and self-control aren’t easy ~ these admirable character traits are not something we are born with, and usually most people don’t really develop self-discipline and self-control until they are well into adulthood.  Some sad people never learn any real self-discipline and self-control at all.  They are doomed to live meaningless, unfulfilled, unhappy, and unenlightened existences.

The exercise of self-discipline and self-control is difficult and complicated, needing willpower, flexibility, and judgement.  To live fully rewarding lives we must continually be completely honest with ourselves, yet at times withhold the whole truth from others.  To be free of disappointment, pain, and suffering we must assume total responsibility for ourselves and our own actions.  It’s no good breaking our abstinence from alcohol or cigarettes just because some other people seem to having a good time smoking and drinking.  That is just giving the power to control our lives to others whose own judgement is very suspect.

We must also have the self-discipline and self-control to reject responsibility that is not truly ours.  I am not my brother’s keeper, nor are you responsible for what your sister does with her life.

True self-discipline and real self-control means being organised and efficient, living wisely, and living in balance and harmony with yourself and the Cosmos.

A key part of this is the ability to delay gratification ~ don’t always stop at the pub on the way home from work, don’t always get angry when questioned, and don’t always eat that last sandwich even when you are not hungry.  Keep an eye on the future, think about what your actions are going to mean tomorrow, next week, next year.  Do you want to be an angry and overweight alcoholic?  Well, by the sound of it that’s where you’ll be heading if you don’t learn some self-discipline and self-control.

Let hunger sharpen your awareness.  Abstain liquor and frivolous recreation, which dull the mind and weaken the body.  ~  Laura Joh Rowland.

It’s all about replacing bad and self-destructive habits with good habits that will enhance your life in the longer term.  Instead of stopping off at the pub on the way home from work, three or four times a week, go to the gym instead.  You won’t get the immediate buzz of getting drunk, but you will get the long-term buzz of being a fitter, healthier, much better person.

Either I’m lucky, or I have a lot of willpower, because I seem to have more than my share of self-discipline and self-control ~ (and even I self-destruct from time to time).  I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I don’t pick up cheap women in bars for meaningless sex.  I’m fit and healthy, I walk at least 5 miles every day, exercise, and I do yoga.  My weight is right where it should be, my blood work is excellent, and my heart is strong.  I don’t go to work at all, and yet I’m wealthy enough to do what I like when I like.

And nobody has ever given me one damn thing. Everything I have I have earned for myself through hard work, self-discipline, and self-control.

The answer is easy.  Stop pissing your life away like a fool, and start really living instead.  Replace your bad and self-destructive habits with good habits that will enhance your life in the longer term.

If I can do it, anyone can.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Quest for Idealism

What I seek is under a spell so only the worthy can find it.

There is a button inside my psyche, its marked Self-Destruct ~ do not press  

I press buttons just to find out what they do, it’s part of who I am.  Sometimes the little things I do create a huge and unholy mess on the scale of the Titanic disaster.  Sometimes I need someone to save me from myself.

There are some things I’m searching for, and failure to make progress in any one of these quests can lead me to pressing the Self-Destruct button ~ usually with painfully disastrous results.  The snag is, the things I’m searching for aren’t easy to find.  But then, nothing worthwhile is ever easy, and sometimes I’m not even certain what it is I am seeking…

A deeper, enhanced, more emotional, more meaningfully spiritual, enlightened reality ~ connected not just to my id, but to my entire body, mind, and soul.

Relationships that are mutually supportive and in harmony, and not always on the verge of self-destruction.  A strong, trusting, loving, liberated, intimate relationship with someone I really care for and who cares for me in return.

Freedom from my black or white, yes / no thinking.  In relationships I have a strong tendency to want it all, or nothing at all.  My ethics, morals, and mores are painfully strict and old-fashioned.

Self without cognitive dissonance, anger, insecurity, intolerance, jealousy, or fear of abandonment.  A self that is enlightened, accepting of all, and understanding of all.

Truth that is not brutal, and is neither self-serving, nor hiding behind lies of omission and half-truths.

A healthy mind in a healthy body.  Continually seeking to improve my physical, mental, psychological, and spiritual fitness.

Patience, acceptance, tolerance, understanding, and a willingness to compromise ~ all of which I have little if any at all.

When you want to hurry something, that means you no longer care about it and want to get on to other things.  ~  Robert M. Pirsig

I do too much, give me an acorn and before you know where you are you will be up to your ass in oak trees.  I fight the alligators instead of remembering that I’m supposed to be draining the swamp.  My dress sense is preppy, rather than relaxed, or trendy, or fashionable.  I tend to give solutions, rather than just quietly listening to the problem.  My desires, emotions, and passions run very strong and very deep.

Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent.  This lenten season I am giving up the right to be a typical self-indulgent male, which includes dealing with some, or all, of the above ~ especially impatience.

Please Do Not Press This Button Again

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

with thanks to my Goddess

Chaos and Terror

Chaos is the Cosmos telling you that you are forever lost.

Turmoil.  Mind like a lost gypsy cab driving through a chaotic concrete jungle.

Dystopia.  Disembarking, it’s so dark and it’s so quiet in the ruins, grey and burned black broken like bad teeth .

Lost.  Then I’m walking on wet cobbled stones, just a bum with threadbare dirty clothes, down at the heel shoes, a body that’s all skin and bones. 

Doom.  The final dark gloom of a Dead Man Walking to nowhere and forever.

Despair.  Now all the good has gone from my life ~ what is joy, what is elation?

Dishonour.  I want you all to know that once I was proud, once I was a man and once I meant something.  But that’s not now.  That’s not now.

Terror.  I need to wake up.  I need to go home.  I need to find friendship again.

Loneliness.  I have no love, only blackness in my heart, my Goddess has gone.

Nightmare.  But, bad memories, just like the seas, live on.

~

 

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

%d bloggers like this: