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Point of No Return

decide which bridges to cross and which to burn 

flashing your breasts in a restaurant is sexy, brave, and irreversible

Some decisions are just about irrevocable.  When the Roman Legions marched into hostile territory their commanders burned all the bridges behind them ~ to stop the legionnaires from retreating.  Aircraft flying across an ocean will eventually get to a place where they haven’t got enough fuel to go back, the point of no return ~ they can only press on to their destination.  In relationships we say and do things which we can’t ever take back ~ cheating for example, or saying; ‘it’s over…..’  Make a decision like that and there is no going back.  Or like the Roman Legions we have to build a new bridge to try to rekindle a broken romance.

More often than not I’ve seen that final decisions and final words come in the heat of the moment, when emotions are running high, and those are the kind of things that we regret later.  On a long sales trip a man may cheat on his partner, have a one-night-stand with some woman who’s name he can barely remember, and regret it afterwards.  But you can’t undo that kind of thing, we haven’t yet figured out a way to turn back time.  All that guy has left is to decide if he is going to confess to his wife / partner, or risk lying by omission and being found out.  If he confesses he has burned that bridge behind him and can only wait to see what she says and does.

We cannot unmake decisions, we cannot unsay words, and we cannot not do something we have already done.

Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.  ~  Keri Russell

For example, it may seem a small decision to regularly hang out in bars, but eventually people who regularly hang out in bars have sex with some stranger they’ve just met in a bar.  Decisions are like avalanches, one small lump of snow sliding down a hill creates a landslide that ends up burying a town at the bottom of the mountain.  And yet we make small decisions every minute of our lives, and most of them are final and irrevocable.  We get to a point of no return and just can’t ever go back.

Most of the time relationships run on automatic pilot.  There are unspoken rules, ethics, morality, honesty, openness, trust, affection, friendship, and love.  When we decide to do something that breaks those rules then we have burned our bridges behind us, and it’s up to another whether or not we will ever be allowed to rebuild those bridges.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

pulling up your skirt to show your thighs to a room is a point of no return

Monochrome Monday ~ Clouds

grey skies are just clouds passing overhead

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

it’s clouds illusions I recall

Scenes on Sunday ~ Take the Long Road

what can be better than a great road
with a cool girl riding shotgun?

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

where all great road trips come to an end

 

Days of Future’s Past

a shared memory is worth a thousand words

sometimes, silence is golden

Reality is not what we think it is.  People are not who we believe them to be.  Memories are not real, and past only exists in memories.  The future doesn’t yet exist, despite that almost everything we do is directed by what we want the future to be.  And were it not for all that then the present would be very different from the Now we create for ourselves.

Suppose your much loved partner tells you something dark, difficult, and perhaps reprehensible about their past?  The usual reaction, particularly the way men usually react, is to take that thing in your partner’s past and bring it right into the present.  We can get angry and jealous about something that happened before we even knew our supposedly much loved partner.  Retroactive Jealousy is real, powerful, and destructive.  People also get angry with people who hurt their partner in the past, and then because they can’t do anything about that they get angry with their partner instead.  Dragging the past into the present changes the Now, and then most likely goes on to change the future as well.

Conversely we can take our wants, needs, dreams, and desires, which only exist in an infinite number of possible futures, and drag them right into the present to create expectations.  We may have a great relationship with someone, but then we think of the way we want things to be, and create for ourselves a slew of unrealistic expectations.  What we have is what we have.  What we want and desire only exists in the future.  Basing the Now on what might happen in one of an infinite number of possible futures is a recipe for insane unhappiness.

Some ancient cultures believe that the Past, Present, and Future exist and happen all at the same time.  Quantum physics pretty much says that too.  But if we live in the days of future’s past we are going to get very unhappy very quickly.

To avoid being continually angry, jealous, miserable, resentful, and single it’s important to live in the Now.  To do that we have to learn acceptance and understanding.  We have to stop being jealous and judgmental.  We might want to learn about meditation and mindfulness.

Trust me.  I have made every single mistake I’ve talked about above, and then some.

I am very lucky I am not alone and lonely in this Now.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

lonely, unloved, alone

a carnal woman

maybe she was that way because she was sad and lonely

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leaving a carnal, sexual, woman

one battle over, one victory won

the long struggle that will end

one day in honesty and freedom

not for her, not for years to come

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

heading to her favorite bar

to look for a much younger man

Scenes on Sunday ~ Beaches

Beaches are my favourite places

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Random Jottings ~ Sex

if you want to prove your love, then give her your credit card

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a women who wears a see through dress without lingerie has got balls

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a real woman is her man’s personal porn star

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‘be mine…..’ he said, ‘your what…..’ she asked

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love is whatever you think it is at the time

but first date sex is always just sex

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‘OK, let’s go and fully explore my sexuality…..’ she said

he made his excuses and left the bar right after that

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there is something about a really sexual woman that frightens most men

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some women fake orgasms, but all men fake finances

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

if you want to prove your love

then give her your car keys 

 

Random Jottings ~ Femme Fatale

now the party’s over he’s beginning to wonder what went wrong

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a hero is good

a heroine is brilliant

a villain is essential

but a bad woman is erotic

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‘hold me….’ he said

‘hold your what? she asked

eventually she decided he meant his billfold

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he would do anything for her

the trouble was so would a lot of other men

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he would try to forget her

he would spend the rest of his life trying

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he liked women who looked as though they killed men for a living

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

she thought of herself as a black widow

and that some younger men liked to be caught

Monochrome Monday ~ Smoke Gets In Your Eyes

they asked me how I knew, that your love was true

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

smoking is only hot in pictures

although some women think otherwise

Monochrome Monday ~ Cougars

some women, like some wines, age very well

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

mature women can be daring

in a a very elegant way

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