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Leaving On a Bus

I don’t know when I’ll be back to Turkey again

Today is the last day of my vacation in Oludeniz, Turkey ~ which as it goes is a very nice place, thoroughly to be recommended to the more relaxed traveller.

Those of us from the more civilised parts of Europe and North America, (Turkey isn’t in Europe), may occasionally become frustrated / annoyed by the casual attitude of the Turks, and the macho misogynistic ways of Turkish men ~ but it’s not all so very different to the Hispanics I’ve come accross in California.  So, the plumbing is dodgy, the traffic is manic, and wi-fi here only works when it feels like it…..  But, so what.

The weather in the later part of the summer is gorgeous, the genuinely Turkish food is marvellous, and the Mediterranean is a deep calm, shimmering turquoise.  What I will remember most of course are the smells; woodsmoke, cooking, coffee, the sea, Turkish cigarettes, drains, and often very stinky Turks.

Ah, c’est la vie.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

there’s still a lot of parasailing here

I still haven’t done it

Vacation Sunset

red sky at night, sailors’ delight

The sky over this part of Turkey is pretty hazy, which means that sunset is pretty.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

sunset in Arizona is pretty too

Monochrome Monday ~ Smoking Hot

Love is a smoke made up with the fume of sighs.  ~   Shakespeare

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

It takes a certain type of woman to accept a light when she’s only wearing black lingerie

and lots of makeup, and earrings, and probably tall heels

Scenes on Sunday ~ Rock Stacks

he who moves a mountain carries away the small stones first

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

photoshopped, but still cool

 

Wi-Fi on Vacation

relationships are like Wi-Fi, strong while actually connected

These days most people expect to be constantly connected to the whole world via their smartphone or tablet.  There are some who actually have withdrawals if they are out of touch with their real friends and social media contacts for any length of time, and there are those who always have their device clamped to their ear or in front of their eyes 24/7.

This is sometimes a little difficult when on vacation, particularly in some of the more out-of-the-way locations.  In the brochure, your hotel may say it has Wi-Fi, and that may be true ~ but exactly where in the hotel, and how good is the connection?

For example, the hotel I’m in now in Turkey has decent Wi-Fi, if you’re anywhere near the pool or the reception office.  However, there is no connection in my room, and from my room to reception is a climb of 144 steps ~ smegging exhausting if you’re doing that climb 8 or 12 times a day.

So, I am not connected to the internet as often as usual, and I am not in contact with my friends as much as maybe I’d like.

On the other hand while I am enjoying myself on vacation do my ‘friends’ want to waste their time chatting with me, and do I want to waste good holiday time chatting with someone who has better things to do?  As it happens I don’t.

In all honesty we would all be a lot better off if we left our mobile devices switched off all the time we are on our holidays.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

a rental Mustang does not have Wi-Fi

Vacation Hotels

he’s climbing a stairway to heaven

In my time travelling the world on business I stayed in some great hotels, (like The Plaza in Manhattan), some so so hotels, (like The Krazna Polski in Amsterdam), and some truly terrible hotels.  And yet, the hotels and motels I’ve stayed at on vacation come into an entirely surreal category all of their own.

I stayed in a castle in Tuscany one time, in the highest room, in the tallest tower, and that meant carrying my luggage up more than 100 steps to what was, admittedly a very nice suite with a spectacular view.  The porter was at least as old as the castle, there was no way he would make it up that winding staircase carrying my then memsahib’s suitcase.

The Golden Life Heights hotel in Oludeniz, Turkey, has more stairs than that.  From the lowest part of the garden, where my room is, up to reception there are exactly 144 steps / stairs.  Climbing that 8 or 10 times a day gets to be a drag.  As it goes, the room I’m in now is my 2nd here ~ the bathroom in the first offering was flooded, about a half-inch deep over the entire bathroom floor.

Despite my complaints I endured that flooded bathroom for 3 days until an e-mail to the tour company back in the UK got me a better room, with it’s own sun deck and a dry bathroom floor.

If you ever need to complain, don’t bother talking to the monkey, instead find the head organ-grinder.

 

When is comes to a surrealisticly terrible hotel, this one is in a class all of it’s own.

Although the pools are fabulous.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the pools are the best things about this hotel.

Cooling Off

It’s very nice to go travelling, preferably to somewhere the plumbing didn’t leak.

The hotel I’m staying at in Turkey has a couple of really cool pools

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Plus a pool that’s not so cool.  My bathroom floor is still flooded.  Jeez, that’s Johnny Foreigner for you.  I could get hot under the collar about that.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

90+ degrees and sunny

Monochrome Monday ~ Hot Women

a self-confident man is never afraid of an incredibly hot woman

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

all women wear a mask

but usually not there

Scenes on Sunday ~ Another Vacation

tomorrow I fly out to Turkey for a while
it’s a tough life, but someone’s got to do it

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

warm late summer evenings

by the Mediterranean, how cool is that?

Retroactive Jealousy

The past is not the past, it is never done and gone.

male sexual jealousy is a dragon that will devour your very soul

I only just learned of a condition called Retroactive Jealousy, but it seems as though I’ve suffered from this horrible character defect for much of my life.  Now I know that this is a quite common condition that’s also known as retrospective jealousy and retrograde jealousy.

Retroactive Jealousy is having extremely painful thoughts and morbid curiosity over your partner’s / loved one’s past relationships and / or sexual history ~ especially if they went through a very promiscuous phase involving multiple sexual partners or were deeply in love with another or others.

Retroactive Jealousy can lead you to do crazy things; stalk your partner’s social media, check through all their old photographs, post very negative and attacking things about them on your own social media, hire a private detective, park outside their house night after night…..  All jealousy is utterly insane and crazy.

It seems that jealousy commonly arises not only about events and thoughts that happen in the present, but also about the past ~ even the past long before we met our current partner.

Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretense of keeping it alive.  ~  Havelock Ellis

Both men and women can suffer terribly from retroactive jealousy, but from very different causes.  Men get jealous over their perception of their partner’s sexual history, whereas women get jealous about the other women they believe their partner has been in love with in the past.  And, retroactive jealousy only happens in the presence of love.  If you are just having a one-night-stand, casual sex, regular sex hookups, or a meaningless fling, then retroactive jealousy will not raise its ugly head.  It is only when you begin to really love someone that you might suffer from terrible jealousies about their past.

This is utterly counter-intuitive, because we are conditioned to believe that true love is unconditional, and that we should accept, understand, and cherish our loved one, no matter what.  Sadly, this is not how real life works.  The past will always affect our deepest emotions, and more often than not things that our partner has done in the past will tear us apart.

It would be impossible to estimate how much time and energy we invest in trying to fix, change and deny our emotions ~ especially the ones that shake us at our very core, like hurt, jealousy, loneliness, shame, rage, and grief.  ~  Debbie Ford.

Retroactive Jealousy need not plague you forever, as long as you are prepared to change, as long as you are prepared to put in the hard work ~ but that needs to be the topic of another post.

Some say that you should accept your partner’s past, no matter what it is.  And that a competent and self-confident person should be incapable of jealousy in everything.  All I know is that there are only two choices about retroactive jealousy; #1 fully accept and understand your partner’s past, #2 walk away and don’t look back.

Always remember that your jealousy is your problem not your partners ~ so deal with it.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

if your partner has things like this in her past most men will suffer retroactive jealousy

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