Category Archives: Lifestyle

The Unbearable Truth of Love

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Dawn’s painful musing

Losing everything

with one goodbye

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Fresh Air and Exercise

Rest, food, sunshine, fresh air, exercise ~ the pentagram of good health.

 

The weather has finally improved here in the North East of England.  Today it’s 67 degrees and very sunny ~ in the sunshine it’s much warmer than a mere 67 F.  So, it behoves me to get out there in the fresh seaside air and get some much needed exercise.

There is still this urban myth that, for our health, we should all walk at least 10,000 steps a day.  Or it might be that the health benefits of walking 10,000 steps a day now has scientific backing.  It seems that after about 8 weeks of walking 10,000 steps a day one’s blood glucose levels will improve considerably, as will your blood pressure.  For me, 10,000 steps works out at 5 miles, and a few weeks walking that far every day normalises my weight and gets rid of any unsightly belly-fat I might have been carrying over the winter.

For most Americans, walking 5 miles a day might as well be walking around the world and back.  Americans hate getting out of their cars.  The average American only walks 4,000 to 5,000 steps in a whole day, never uses the stairs if there is an elevator, and never stands if there is a chair they can sit in.  No wonder so many Americans are very overweight and susceptible to cardio-vascular problems.  Most American consume far too many calories in a day too ~ often exactly the wrong sort of calories.

Being fit and healthy means that you can live a much better life for much longer ~ which is why I’ve walked 15,000 steps in the sunshine today, (about 7.5 miles).

As well as being good for my physical health, walking a fair distance in the sunshine is good for my mental health.  The vitamin D the sunshine creates supports the health of my immune system, brain, and wider nervous system.  Vitamin D also helps to suppress various cancers.  Conversely, if you don’t get enough vitamin D your teeth and bones will rot away, especially if you are an older woman.

Walking also helps me to meditate, and just now I have a hell of a lot to think about.  I suppose nobody has a perfect relationship, but recently mine seems to raise a lot of issues at the back of my mind.  On the other hand my partner is very cool.

Some say that that lots of fresh air is overrated.  And that they would rather sit indoors and watch TV.  All I know is that days of slow walking make me feel better and help me to live longer.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I will warrant that this lady gets lots of sunshine, fresh air, and exercise

Sleep Well

Tired minds don’t plan well.  Sleep first, plan later.  ~  Walter Reisch

Insomnia

Not getting enough good sleep causes all kinds of problems.  You lose sharpness, your concentration and memory suffers, you get bad tempered and irritable, you gain weight and look terrible.  Really sustained lack of sleep is very serious; it weakens your immune system, leads to heart and circulatory problems, increases your risk of diabetes, kills your sex drive, and if it goes on for long enough it will lead to your early death.

A long lie-in at the weekend doesn’t help either.  That long lie-in is not good sleep, all it will do is give you the equivalent of jet-lag on Monday morning.  Changing your sleeping patterns at the weekend is bad, you should aim to go to bed at the same time every night, and get up at the same time every morning ~ no matter what day of the week it is.

Drinking too much just before bed time will not help you to sleep either ~ you might pass out and be dead to the world for a few hours, but you will wake up disgustingly early, feeling very thirsty, and looking like something the cat dragged in.  It’s best not to touch any booze for an hour or so before you go to bed ~ instead drink some water, water is good for you.

Using your tablet or laptop late at night isn’t good either, the blue light fries your brain and that stops you from having a good sleep.  Playing computer games late at night means that your brain isn’t relaxed when you go to bed, a part of your mind is still concentrating on whatever game you were playing.  Using social media late at night is worse, part of your mind will be racing with what you’ve just learned and said.

If your bedroom is too warm, not dark enough, and not quiet enough, then you will not sleep well either.  You need a dark, cool, quiet, and peaceful environment to sleep well.  If your partner keeps you awake a night; snoring, being restless, or whatever, then one of you should sleep in a different bedroom.

You need between 6 an 8 hours of good sleep every single night of the week.  If you get less than 6 hours sleep then you will be running on adrenaline he following day.

Some say that they don’t need much sleep, they do fine with four or five hours a night.  And that sleep is just for losers.  All I know is that people who don’t get enough sleep look really old.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

eating a narcotic laden apple to get to sleep might just be a bad idea

Shopping

Retail therapy is much cheaper than a psychiatrist.

I must be a strange sort of chap because I like shopping.  Especially I like going shoe shopping with a woman.

So, today I am taking a train-ride to Newcastle upon Tyne to spend the day wandering around the stores.  I’m not looking for anything in particular, but I have the time and I have the money.

At least I’ll get myself a decent cup of coffee.

And chat with the heavily made-up women working on the cosmetics counters.

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jack collier

jackcollier@talktalknet

Monochrome Monday ~ Roads

Some men see the world in terms of black and white ~ I’m one of them.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

what a cool place name

Live Within Your Means

To achieve your goals and dreams you are going to need money.

Back in the day I worked in banking and finance, and I saw first-hand just how much of a mess most people could make of their finances ~ usually due to buying things they couldn’t really afford.  The three main culprits when it came to unaffordable and expensive purchases were; cars, clothes / shoes, and vacations ~ none of which are essential.  (There’s a caveat, in that you may actually need a car and you do need clothes and shoes, but you can buy the cheapest used stuff you can find, rather than flashy and expensive.)

You do not need to be a millionaire, or act like a millionaire, to be successful or feel successful.  Financial wealth is only one indicator of success.  However, you’re going to need money just to live day-to-day, and no successful person has ever ignored their finances.  Conversely, all successful people know how to manage their money and plan their finances.  And rule #1 is Borrowing is Bad, especially if you borrow money you can’t easily pay off.

Financial planning begins with these 4 questions;

  1. How much money do you take home each month?
  2. What are your regular bills; mortgage, utilities, taxes, loan repayments?
  3. How much do you spend each month in the various stores you use; clothes, groceries, gas, booze, cigarettes, etc?
  4. What assets and debts do you have?

If you are in the fortunate position of making more money than you regularly spend, then you should also be able to work out how much you are saving each month.

You need to write all this down, either just pen and paper, or on a spreadsheet.

If you are regularly spending more than you earn, then you are heading for deep shit.

If you are regularly spending more than you earn, then you need to totally cut out some of your expenditure.  Stop buying booze, cigarettes, chocolate, and anything else you may be addicted to; gambling, porn, sex, drugs…..  Always buy the cheapest gas, buy less expensive groceries, stop eating out, stop using the deli to buy your lunchtime sandwiches and make them at home instead…..

Borrowing is Bad.  Some borrowing is worse.  PAY OFF YOUR CREDIT CARDS.  Credit card debt is ruinously expensive.  In this day and age if your paying more than 10% as an annual interest rate on a loan, then stop eating until that debt is paid off.

Some say that they can make money playing online poker.  And, that its good to go to the pub most nights a week.  All I know is that some people end up on the street.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

life on the street is no fun

Scenes on Sunday ~ Utah Skies

In the sky’s vast infinity one’s soul is manifest loneliness.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

pictures taken by

The Girl Riding Shotgun

Building Rapport with Women

a close and harmonious relationship based on acceptance and understanding

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It’s not necessary to build rapport with a woman if all you want to do is have sex with her ~ but it certainly helps.  Just casual sex does not require rapport.  Instead, true rapport is the indefinable process of accepting and understanding one another, and thereby becoming comfortable together.  If you have true rapport with a woman, then she will trust you, follow you, and believe in you.  For this to happen she needs to understand you and be able to rely upon you.  Ergo you have to become consistent, reliable, and dependable.

As it goes, women are more natural at building rapport than are most men ~ they are usually more open, more understanding, and more communicative than the average male.  Women tend to have more empathy and be more interested in relationships, whereas men are usually just interested in sex.

To build rapport with a woman, be someone she actually wants to be around ~ and that doesn’t mean just spending a lot of money on her, (but that often helps).  Avoid being selfish and talking about yourself, instead listen to her and try and learn about her wants, needs, desires, and dreams.  Always remain calm, and speak slowly and softly.  Be warm, accepting, and understanding.  And, never fall into the common male mistake of thinking that you have to educate her about something she has no interest in whatsoever.

In Neuro Linguistic Programming, and other psychological / interpersonal approaches to communication and building rapport, there are a number of techniques that even a geek can learn and use.  These include; mirroring, leading, and pacing.  In all honesty, these are artificial techniques best left to the salesman who wants to up his closure rate.  However, this stuff is powerful, and it does work on women.

The most basic and powerful way to connect with a woman is to listen to her.  Just listen, and don’t interrupt her because she will not like that.  Perhaps the most important thing you can give her is your undivided attention.  And after that; acceptance, respect, and understanding.

Some say that it is impossible to be successful with a woman without building rapport.  And that you need to spend time understanding what she is thinking.  All I know is that sometimes I have to try just that bit harder.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

here’s looking at you kid

Songs on Saturday ~ Sugar Me

You catch more monkeys with sugar than with vinegar.

This song takes me all the way back to my staid and honest younger days.  Sadly, I never did have a misspent youth ~ not even in swinging 70’s London.

Lynsey wrote this song for Peter Noone, and only recorded it herself at the urging of her then boyfriend Dudley Moore.  Back in the day Lynsey was very much part of the swinging London scene ~ minis and all.

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the all-conquering mini cooper

Food on Friday ~ Healthy Summertime

It’s a smile, it’s a kiss, it’s a sip of wine, it’s summertime.

Now that the weather is much better for most of you guys ~ warmer, sunnier, bluer skies ~ it’s perhaps time to think of lighter and healthier summertime dishes, rather than all of those warming soups you were cooking just a few weeks ago.

This week’s dishes all have a seafood angle to them.

First this week we have Chungah at Damn Delicious with these very clean and healthy looking garlic butter shrimp zucchini noodles.  I have to admit that I don’t actually make zucchini noodles, but looking at this recipe I’m beginning to think that I should.

Garlic Butter Shrimp Zucchini Noodles

Now, from Heidi at Foodie Crush we have this very useful post entitled how to make the best grilled salmon.  This isn’t so much a recipe as a method, but I think it’s damn good.

How to Make the Best Grilled Salmon

Elise Bauer at Simply Recipes has a great summertime dish; spicy garlic shrimp with coconut rice.  And, Elise is right, any shrimp dish is best eaten fresh.

Spicy Garlic Shrimp with Coconut Rice

Jessica Merchant at How Sweet Eats has an absolutely delicious-looking crab avocado salad on buttered garlic toast.  So mouth-watering.  So great to serve with drinks.

Crab Avocado Salad on Buttered Garlic Toast

This is interesting from Tiffany at Creme de la Crumb; garlic lime shrimp marinade.  And this is a fast marinade that will be ready for the grill in just 15 minutes.  Lots of cilantro.

Garlic Lime Shrimp Marinade

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

and to drink, not wine

Heather Christo gives us a

vodka fruit punch

 

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