when things get bad it takes everything you’ve got
keep on keeping on
It’s now the 332 day of lockdown, and this morning it took a lot of determination just to get out of bed and get moving. I could say that I wasn’t feeling so good, but that wouldn’t be true, today it’s all in my mind. If you haven’t suffered the agony of strict self-isolation for almost a year, then you don’t know how I was feeling at 04:00 this morning. Kind of lethargic and depressed, with a touch of meaningless thrown in.
As a matter of fact, lockdown is completely meaningless. All this destruction of the very fabric of modern society is doing is to make politicians and health officials feel better about the myriad of public inquiries they are going to face when all this is eventually over.
So, how do I get through this mess?
- set small goals for each day
- if that’s too difficult set small goals for the next hour
- keep as fit and healthy as possible
- eat regular, high quality meals
- stay away from booze, drugs, candy….
- read something challenging every day
What I really want to do is get out of the garret and go somewhere warm and sunny ~ but taking a vacation is illegal here. I want to see my friends, but that’s also illegal here. In fact having any pleasure at all is just about illegal here.
So, I will look of the bright side, and do the best I can.
every door is locked
if you learn self-control, you can master anything
waste in a wasteland
It’s Lent, which is all about abstinence and self-control. There doesn’t seem to be much self-discipline, self-control, or mastering difficult challenges about in the world today. Rather there seems to be a lot of neglect, waste, and self-indulgence. It’s waste of human life in a wasteland.
Addictions such as alcoholism, gambling, smoking, drug-taking, eating disorders, infidelity, and inappropriate casual sex seem to be rife ~ even among our senior politicians and bureaucrats, who are supposed to set an example to we ‘ordinary people in the street’, suffering the miseries of lockdown. I myself have had a drinking problem, but I am pleased to say that I haven’t touched a drop since Christmas. (There are none so self-righteous as a reformed addict.)
I am happy to tell you that I have learned self-discipline, self-control, and how to master difficult challenges. It wasn’t easy, but I am getting there.
All we have to learn is how to say ‘No’, especially to ourselves.
hanging around in bars is not an indication of self-control
nothing great is ever achieved without much enduring
Lent is a time for abstinence, for giving up something that’s important to you. In my case I have given up on something that used to be important, and I will stay away from toxic relationships all through Lent and beyond.
The other two things I am giving up are alcohol and candy. For one thing booze is definitely not good for me, and neither is too much sugar. People who suddenly become sober tend to eat a lot of candy to make up for the sugar they’re not getting in booze. I have been scoffing quite a lot of candy this year.
So the three things I am giving up for Lent, and beyond are:
- Dysfunctional and toxic relationships.
- Alcohol in all its forms. (I have not had an alcoholic drink since Christmas 2020)
- Candy, chocolate, and what we English call sweets.
Instead of all that I am going to work hard at being fitter and healthier.
Please wish me luck.
women who drink to excess are no longer a part of my life.
everyone should be able to do the conga
I like this track, and I like this dance. What more is there to ask?
A touch of Latin Beat.
Fred and Ginger
I hope you all have a wonderful day
a red rose just for you
her dream road trip didn’t turn out so well
don’t ask what your dreams mean
you don’t want to know
nothing happens until we dream it
woman is a creation of dreams and desires
not a creation of wants and needs
she dreamed of finding the perfect lover
and then she bought one
OH GOD! she exclaimed
then she realised it was just a hot wet dream
real life is both a bad dream and a nightmare
the future belongs to women who follow their dreams
people believe their own myths
many women would like this as a daily drive
This is not about where to go to find a real man, this post is all about sorting the good guys from the poseurs, fakes, chancers, and abusers. If you disagree with any of this, then feel free to comment, or even email me.
What do women want? Somebody to provide for them, protect them, take care of them, shower them with gifts, take them to expensive places, buy them expensive clothes, get them a fabulous home and a cool car. A good looking and powerful man to be seen with and to watch over them ~ perhaps even a sugar-daddy type. Maybe not somebody to talk with. If women want a deep and meaningful conversation they will talk with their women friends.
The deep-down basic wants, needs, and desires in a relationship are different between men and women. Men want sex, whereas women crave affection and intimacy. Men want power and domination, women want equality and respect. Women are about nurturing and soft skills, men are by nature unfeeling. Women want a loving and caring relationship, most men don’t even know what that means.
Men are usually not being their true selves when they first meet a woman they are attracted to, especially if it’s a casual meeting in a bar, or a first meeting after chatting on some dating site. Most men will talk too much, exaggerate their good points, minimise the downsides, and outright lie. Most men will gloss over things like; they are already married, divorced with kids, or have been let go from their work. If you get that far they may say things like their good car is in the shop, their place is being redecorated, they forgot to call at the ATM….. There’s a price for that because when the mask slips, a woman may find she is talking with mr boring or the beast.
Signs that a guy is actually worth the time of day is that he wants to know about you ~ without being creepy or an obvious stalker. He will not talk over you. A cool guy will tend to be self-deprecating because he has the self-confidence to be honest and open ~ without puffing himself up like a slimy toad. A man worth talking to will be clean and well dressed, (appropriate to wherever you are). No real man will ever be drunk or high and talk to a woman. And no gentleman will fuck you on a first date, because good guys don’t often date sluts.
a cool guy will always politely and appropriately compliment your appearance
women need and desire to be cherished, understood, loved
men want sex
Men evolved as solitary hunters, and their main contribution to the human race was the ability to hit a moving target so that everybody could eat. Sometimes several men from the same tribe gathered together as a cooperative team so they could kill something bigger so that more people could eat.
Any woman reading that will immediately see where the male fascination with sports comes from. Sports are all about the ability of one man to hit a moving target, often with the help of the other players on his team. Cricket, baseball, football, basketball ~ lady, you name it and it’s the same thing ~ personal responsibility, hand-eye coordination, spacial awareness, calmness under pressure, hitting a moving target, instant gratification, win / lose. And it comes from tens of thousands of years of evolution.
This is one reason why men like to wear uniforms, hats, colours, insignia that indicates their personal competence and membership of a successful team. Teams are not discussion groups, a sports team is really a hunting and killing machine. Every man feels that he is perfectly capable of solving his own problems and does not see any reason to talk about them with anybody else; up to and including you. This is the reason a man will never ask for directions ~ real men do not use in-car satellite navigation because the damn woman keeps on offering advice.
Nowhere in there does it say anything about feelings, discussion, emotion, nurturing, understanding, socialising, and asking for help. Men are not wired to discuss, listen, feel, accept, empathise, or talk just for the sake of talking. Most of the time when a woman really wants her guy to show some empathy and understanding what he will do is offer her a solution. He thinks he is being caring and loving by solving her problems, and she knows he is being uncaring and indifferent, trivialising her feelings by not listening to her.
Actually most good men try to listen to their lady, but what he hears is the blah blah blah of moaning, nagging, complaining, and talking just for the sake of talking.
When men do talk it’s usually in a language women do not easily understand; either because it’s technical or it sounds like monosyllabic grunting.
A woman may dream of and desire a perfect man, but smart women know that ‘perfect man’ is an oxymoron. In many ways her perfect man would be gay, or at least metrosexual ~ and what real woman would want that?
Real men just don’t do non-sexual relationships ~ unless they are prepared to try, try, and try again.
Marmaduke is a male bear
he likes sitting all by himself
thinking about nothing much
strut your stuff down main street
Another part of my morning routine, learning the ultra cool swaggering walk, aka the Travolta Strut. I have this nailed, lots better than some Zebra.
You can tell by the way I use my walk that I’m a woman’s man.
Stayin’ alive ~ more than only just.
don’t try that walk if you’re a woman
it will make you look like a hooker
elvis is in the building
In my fitness and fun programme I’m teaching myself to shuffle dance. It’s a lot harder than young and fit women make it look. I’m also learning a very cool moon-walk. The Travolta strut I can do better than Travolta.
I believe that my latest flame is a great dancer
Tonight we’re gonna make it happen.
After this lockdown is over.
she may need to lose a few pounds