some words should never have been invented
let’s think about the English Language
I published this list a while ago, but I just had to update it after going back to reading some left-liberal newspaper columnist today. The new words are in an eco-friendly green.
Awe-Inspiringly, Awefulize, Awesome, Bigsie, BIPOC (black, indigenous, and people of color), Cancel Culture, Contact-Tracing, Contactless, COVID-19, Denialism, E-Scooter, Fantoosh, Franger, Influencer, Juneteenth, Lateral-Flow, LGBTQIA+, Life-Coach, Lockdown, LOL, MacGyver, Meghan Markle, Mentionitis, Misgendering, Pride-Month, ROLF, ROTFLMAO, Sad-Fishing, Segway, Shero, Skin Color, Social Distancing, Stonewall, Taking the Knee, Truthiness, Unconscious Bias, Wannabe, WFH, WIP, WTF, Woke, Wokerose, Wuhan, Zoodle
I have no idea what some of the above mean, and honestly, I don’t really want to know. However, in my honest effort to become more accepting, liberal, understanding, and woke I intend to sprinkle these terms among my writing and conversation.
I may not have a clue WTF I’m talking about, but that makes me no different to all the other influencers out there.
I don’t know what that means either
it’s not about being sexy, it’s about being confident
some women like to be quite naughty
and some women are naturally sexy
the combination is very attractive
you know I often stop and think about her
There are good days, there are high days, and holidays. There have been strangers, friends, and lovers. There has been music and silence, joy and pleasure, misery and pain. But above it all there has been the one, and I hope that Life never lets me stop being happy about her.
Even in these dark days there is time to smile.
If I don’t let it all bring me down.
I love the outfits in this video.
warm sun, soft sand
why women desire more shoes and men don’t have a clue
hideous fuck me heels
It’s a funny thing, most men will buy themselves a new pair of shoes for a very special occasion, a new job, a first date, getting married….. Or, if the shoes they habitually wear are so down at heal and scruffy that even spit and polish will no longer make them presentable.
In contrast most women will buy new shoes just because they like them, or to feel better, or because they like shopping, or they’ve bought a new dress / suit and they need shoes and a purse to match. Women will also buy new shoes for a very special occasion, a new job, meeting old friends, vacations, a first date, getting married…..
But then most women like shopping, especially with his credit card, and most men don’t like shopping at all. And most men can’t understand that at all, but then most men don’t have a clue about women.
A woman needs to know but one man to understand all men; whereas a man may know many women and not understand one of them. ~ Helen Rowland
But then, most women know that most men are just a life-support system for their penis.
It’s a fact that women write almost all the books on human relationships, marriage, sex, and love ~ and that 80% of the people who buy these books are women. Perhaps men would understand women better if they made an effort, and yet men don’t even listen when their partner is trying to talk with them. A lot of men equate their wife / partner / girlfriend attempting to have a conversation as nagging. And only women nag. A man may criticise, find fault, complain, and go into ‘problem-solving mode’ ~ but that’s not nagging, that’s just passing on their years of accumulated masculine wisdom.
When women nag, go on and on about something, they firmly believe that their ‘nagging’ shows that they care about their man. She might know she is being irritating, but she can’t help it because she’s a nest-builder, nurse, manager, and mother. And, she knows that she’s telling then truth.
The fact is men and women are very different, right down to the structure of their brains, bodies, emotions, feelings, and instincts. There is no equality of the sexes, which is why women desire more shoes, and men don’t have a clue.
the holy grail?
five inch Jimmy Choos
dance is the joy of movement and the heart of life
When you’re in lockdown exercising at home is about your only choice when it comes to staying fit and healthy. Try following along to this video ~ see if you can get past a couple of minutes……
I like these fun dance videos, they make me smile and encourage me to exercise.
Look out for Dr. Frankenstein and the Monster.
Please listen joyously.
some would say that Ginger was the better dancer
at night this place really comes alive
The nightlife here in Oludeniz is crazy. Live music, laser light shows, karaoke bars, dance bars, cocktail bars, beach bars, sports bars, restaurants of every ilk, tattoo places….
Parties on Pirate Ships, beach parties…
The food is fabulous, the shopping is fantastic, and the people are fun.
Some women were having fun wearing very daring outfits. The weather is very warm and the booze is very cheap.
Kinda wish you were here with me
Just bring a summer dress, and a bikini, it’s all you’ll need.
At midnight, in one or two of the bars here, she’d be quite overdressed.
there will be people who confuse your individuality with selfishness
Peer-group pressure is a very powerful thing. Fitting in, being popular, having lots of friends, agreeing with the majority opinion, is taught to us all from a very early age. In fact it can be hammered into us at school, where standing out from the crowd and being different can get you seriously bullied.
It’s no different as we grow and move on in life. In psychology there’s a thing called Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, which describes what the average person strives for. Only when the most basic needs are met; food, water, shelter….. can one move on towards higher needs, like having friends. As you’d expect it’s more complicated than that, and it’s wrong anyway.
For most people belongingness: to be an accepted and superior member of a group, comes right at the top of the list of the things they want, need, and desire most. The average adult strives to achieve social approval, to be fashionable, to be superior, to keep up with and surpass their peer group, to accumulate more and better material possessions, and certainly a get a lot of meaningless sex ~ often outside of their principal relationship. And somewhere there might be the need for love and adulation.
But to be mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy an adult needs to be themselves. Sometimes it is important to stand out from the herd, especially if you’re fitting in just to play it safe, to avoid being questioned or challenged, to avoid upsetting your peer group, to keep in with your family and your friends….. If you are going to be true to yourself, if you want to achieve emotional, mental, and spiritual health, then there will be moments in your life when you have to be yourself, no matter what they say.
We each have a unique set of wants, needs, desires, dreams, ambitions, thoughts, and opinions ~ but we often suppress them and get caught up in the herd’s falsehoods instead. We become people pleasers and drones.
The hard truth is there are a lot of mentally sick people out there today because they strive not to miss out on other how others think they should live, behave, act, and think. I point to the compulsive wearing of face coverings as my proof.
Nobody needs to wear a face mask outdoors, or when they are alone in their own car, or when riding a bicycle, or when they are alone at home. I wonder if some people wear a face covering while they are having sex in the missionary position…..
Some say there is safety in numbers. And that those who disagree are anti-social, selfish, dangerous, should be shouted down and destroyed. All I know is that I will be myself, no matter what they say.
I am not a number
I am a free man
howay man, wesa gannin doon the toon
Yesterday I went shopping in Newcastle. Not only does the place bring back so many memories, it’s also the best place to go shopping outside of Italy. I always spend far too much there. Here’s a little song to remind me of the toon.
Although Newcastle never really was my home town ~ I was born in a far more ancient and much smaller pit village.
Please listen with a smile.
a real man makes all women smile
but reserves his very best smile for only one
I believe the nearest Kirk Douglas got to Shakespeare was Spartacus
Shakespeare has a scene in Hamlet where the Danish Lord Polonius expounds to Laertes upon the nature of being a better man than the average spear carrier. Most may merely remember that in that scene there are a couple of lines that proclaim; clothes make the man. Which, outwardly is a limited truth. But there is more to clothes than buying the best and most tasteful apparel your wallet can bear. For a start an expensive suit still looks like a sack when worn by a slob. And, many an expensive coat of paint conceals something rotten inside.
True attractiveness, the kind of look that appeals to emotionally intelligent and discerning people, especially to cool and together women, isn’t something a man can just put on and wear. That kind of attractive, clean-cut, elegant persona comes from within. It’s who a man is, not only what he wears, that is really attractive to others.
Be faithful to that which exists within yourself. ~ Andre Gide
Some lucky guys can look great in jeans and a singlet, whereas the rest of us need to try a little harder than that.
I have discovered that there are a few guidelines a man can follow if he wants to succeed when it comes to Shakespeare’s maxim; ‘the clothes maketh the man….’
- As Polonius says, always buy the very best you can afford. Most women can spot thrift store purchases, cheaper makes, and remaindered stuff a mile off. Besides, quality lasts. You do get what you pay for.
- Always dress up, rather than dressing down. If, on dress-down-Friday most guys go to the office in jeans and a T, then make a point of wearing decent trousers and a crisp, freshly laundered shirt. There is nothing wrong with adding a cool necktie either. A surprising number of women find a nice shirt and tie pretty hot.
- Don’t neglect the obvious. Make certain everything matches, (if you’re colour-blind get help from a friendly female). Your shoes should be spotless, and your aftershave / cologne / deodorant classy, not overpowering.
- Be very, very clean ~ both you and everything you’re wearing.
- Have your own style, but don’t be outlandish, neither try to be too fashionable. Besides which very fashionable soon goes out of fashion. As you would expect, my style is very English / preppy.
Some say that clothes make the man. And that you can spot a slob a mile off, no matter what he’s wearing. All I know is that to look really good you have to work at it every single day.
many real men have walked the tracks alone,
and still made an effort to look good
Faint Heart could never win Fair Lady
This is all an artificial construct, because a very sensual, intelligent, emotionally mature, and very grounded woman can never be attracted by techniques, or schemes, or cunning artifice. The only person who could ever deceive that woman, or make her date an unsuitable man, or get into a less than ideal relationship is herself. And, women can be very good at fooling themselves, not that they would ever admit that, (hardly ever anyway).
There are innumerable works out there which will purport to tell a guy how to pick up a woman, how to regularly get casual sex, how to manipulate women, how to fuck them and leave them, and how to use them. Perhaps the deepest and most thorough treatise on the art of using women is The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida. I can only stomach this book for a couple of pages at a time.
So, to the truth, and assuming you are not James Bond. To attract a sensual, intelligent, emotionally mature, and very grounded woman;
Be the very best version of yourself you can possibly be.
- Get healthier and fitter. Exercise, eat right, get some sun.
- Look as good as you can. Haircut, manicure, teeth, and manage any facial or other extraneous hair.
- Dress as well as you can ~ appropriately for the place and occasion, but find your own style. Always dress up, rather than dress down. Pay attention to your shoes and tie.
- Control your addictions. Stop smoking, don’t drink much at all, don’t gamble, don’t overeat or eat junk food, and FFS do not use drugs.
- Learn some English good manners. Almost all American men have appalling manners, but not as bad as Germans, Japanese, and most other Asians or Hispanics.
- Learn how to hold a conversation, and for most men that means learning how to listen to her.
- Read some interesting books, learn some interesting things to talk about ~ most women are very uninterested in sports. Find out what she is interested in and learn about that. Have a wide and deep knowledge base, but never ever bore her with what you know.
- Accessorise well. Apartment, car, watch, pen…..
- Learn about money, manage your money well so you can always pick up the tab if you need to, but never ever flash your cash around.
But, most of all, care about her. If you do not genuinely like her and care about her then you are wasting both of your time. I’m not talking about love, that should usually only come deep into a relationship. Caring about someone is different. She is a person, not a sex object. If you want a sex object find a hooker or a slut.
Some say there is no such thing as ‘the art of attracting woman’. And that any woman you can get that’s willing and breathing is the one you want. All I know is that there is nothing so precious to a man as real and honest friendship with a woman.
Bond makes up his own rules