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So, I Might Die Soon

to the enlightened mind death is but the next great adventure

There is much worry and anxiety surrounding the medical emergency that has the coronavirus at the root cause of it all.  My opinion is that there is more worry and anxiety than this nasty little bug deserves.  Thus far in the UK about 27,500 people have been tested, at the last count 460 people tested positive, of whom an unfortunate 8 have died.

To put this in perspective the population of the United Kingdom is about 66,870,000 souls, and as a percentage of that 460 is so nearly nothing as to make no difference.  Italy, which seems to be the worst affected European country has a population of 60,480,000 , of which 12,000 have tested positive for the virus and 827 have died, (at the last count).  Again this is a minuscule portion of the total population.

Statistically, and by all the laws of probability, the chances of my dying from the coronavirus would appear to be somewhere between slim and none at all.  Particulary if the various governments and health authorities pull their collective fingers out and do something effective about containing / controlling / curing this illness.  In any event, by all the laws of chance I should be dead already.

Men die for these main reasons;

  1. Heart Diseases
  2. Cancer
  3. Accidents and Unintentional Injuries
  4. Stroke
  5. Lung Diseases
  6. Diabetes
  7. Influenza and Pneumonia, (and add the coronavirus in here)
  8. Suicide
  9. Kidney and Liver Diseases
  10. Alzheimer’s Disease and other forms of Dementia

The story isn’t as simple as that.  Many of these deaths are more or less self inflicted.  Men do lots of bad and stupid things which will lead to an early death.  For example; boozing, drug abuse, eating an unhealthy diet, being filthy dirty and unclean, gambling, obesity, smoking, unsafe sex, and leading a life of crime and violence.  It may well say on the death certificate that some guy died of liver failure, but it probably will not say that said liver failure was brought on by drinking a pint or so of vodka a day, every single day.

I have good reasons to want to live longer and be fitter later in life, accordingly I don’t do any of the bad and stupid things in the list above; (although I have been known to drink far, far too much booze on occasion, I am now utterly sober).

Similarly, your chances of not catching, or catching and surviving the coronavirus will be much better if you don’t do any of the bad and stupid things from the list above.  To survive an illness, first be fit and healthy.  I have always been reasonably fit and I survived double pneumonia, pleurisy, and breaking 5 of my ribs along the way.

Some say that we could all stay at home and not see another soul until the coronavirus scare blows over.  And that only one in 5 people who catch this thing will need medical care.  All I know is that even if I catch this thing the chances are I will only get a mild illness.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

the Tarot Death Card doesn’t really mean what a lot of people think it means

 

simply a sorceress

alcohol and a highly sexual woman is a dangerous mix

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these are the reasons she drinks

these are the reasons she smokes

she’s says she doesn’t do drugs

but I know that she really does

this is the reason she gambles

and is always up on her luck

these are the reasons she fucks

so many young men and boys

treats them like so many toys

I’ve dated many young witches

God! why did I fall for this one?

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

a broomstick, no bra and no panties

 

Stress #8 ~ Not Being Yourself

follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness

Most people, women especially, spend most of their lives being someone else.  They play multiple roles, mostly to please other people.  Deep down they know that they should be who they are and say what they feel, because those who will object don’t matter, and those who really matter will not object.  All the world is a stage and we are but players, and we play the role that seems to fit the situation we are in and pleases the people we are with.

Doing that is incredibly debilitating, causes destructive anxieties, and creates enervating stress deep within your psyche.  To begin with there is always the nagging but unheeded thought; why isn’t the real me good enough for him?  And, you will get so good at playing the wife, partner, girlfriend, mistress, lover….. that you will lose your true self, that you will forget who you are.

To escape from the self-imposed prison of always being someone and something that, when it comes right down to it you aren’t and never were or wanted to be, you must first of all win back your self-confidence and self awareness.  Develop a fuck him, fuck them, fuck the whole world attitude of mind.  Be yourself.

It’s better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for what you are not.  ~  André Gide

Some people are not going to like that.  If you’ve been going to football games / baseball / ice hockey / casinos / to see horse racing and betting on it with your guy just because he likes that, and suddenly you tell him that you hate all that shit, well, he might not be happy.  He will be shocked that his perfect woman suddenly has a mind of her own.

Some women have it much worse than that; their partner may encourage them to drink and use drugs, take them to very shady bars, get them into BDSM, subject them to mental and physical abuse, share them with other men…..  You know something, if that’s you, then stop it now, before he kills you.

Be yourself, don’t take anything from anyone, and never let them take you alive.  ~  Gerard way

It’s good to be you, and it’s hip to be square.

If you have to then get out, escape, leave, find a new home and a new life, and if you must with a much better guy.  However, I would caution you most sincerely, it might be a bad idea to leave one relationship and walk right into another.  What could be worse is to start a new romance while you are still in your dysfunctional relationship.  That’s unless the new man you have found is a very special individual indeed, and encourages you to be you.

About all you can do in life is be who you are.  Some people will love you for you.  Most will love you for what you can do for them. and some won’t like you at all.  ~  Rita Mae Brown.

Some say they will do anything for a quiet life.  And that you cannot change who you have become.  All I know is that you should always be a first rate version of yourself, and not a second rate version of someone else.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

don’t find yourself drinking at a bar

alone and hoping for a date

be it good or bad

Unfuck Your Life

you can start with nothing,
and out of nothing and nowhere, you will find a way

if you sink low enough you could live in a building like this

Although I have been putting them on this blog for ages, I never understood quotations like the one at the top of this page, probably because I didn’t read them properly, and never took the time to think about them carefully enough.  The little bit I thought I understood about self-help, self-development, self-denial, and spirituality I found to be rather twee, overly religious, and happy clappy churchy.  How pretentious of me.

The modern church is producing passionate people with empty heads who love the Jesus they don’t know very well.  ~  Voddie Baucham.

The same dismissive attitude applied if ever I attended a self-help group, but in all honesty I put that down to the fact that I dislike intensely all clubs, groups, associations….. In fact I don’t much like being any place with a bunch of weirdos who have a committee and a ‘chair’ because I very quickly get totally unimpressed.

And yet, I always felt that I was drifting through my dysfunctional life, with just the occasional passage of being; a very cool guy, living a really great life to keep me sane and interested.  I was a mess, and the worst part was that I knew I had it in me to be a far, far better man than I had ever been before.  Some things I had already accomplished, I still have a cool roof over my head living in the garret, I have money in the bank, and generally speaking I’m pretty fit, strong and healthy.  (Admittedly I only just got of hospital, where they said I looked like a bad advertisement for death.)  But, generally, as my school reports and annual reviews at work usually read; He could do better if he tried.

As you’ve sought out my blog, then maybe you think there are some parts of your life that aren’t looking so good either.  And, that you could do a whole lot better if you tried.

The place to start is to stop doing all those things that completely fuck up your life.

  • stop lurching from one disastrous relationship after another
  • stop all that promiscuous casual sex that makes everyone with even an ounce of morality think you’re a cheap slut
  • stop the drunkeness, drug taking, smoking, smoking pot
  • give up the gambling, the impulsive buying of things you don’t need or want, spending and wasting a shit load of money you don’t have
  • stop driving that junker of a car that gets you a ticket every time a cop can be bothered to pull you over
  • stop getting yourself fired, or walking out on jobs you can’t afford to lose
  • stop alienating your family and true friends, just because they might tell you the brutal truth about yourself
  • stop being a total fucked-up jerk

Some say that there is a little good in all of us.  And, that if you dig deep enough you will always find a treasure.  All I know is that when I stopped being a total fucked-up jerk my life suddenly got much better.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

selling yourself and your self-respect isn’t a good way to escape your fucked-up life

 

Stress #7 ~ Anxiety and Depression

if you’re going through hell, keep going

Severe anxiety and depression will blight your life, make you incapable of doing even the simplest things, alter your personality for the worse, give you panic attacks, headaches, breathing problems, digestive problems, heart problems, extreme fatigue, and fill you with a foreboding of doom.  Oh, and most likely your blood pressure will go through the roof.

Go to see your doctor and most likely they will tell you that you are suffering from a mild to moderate state of anxiety and depression, and medicate you with something like Xanax or Prozac, amd maybe Zyprexa.  All of these drugs directly affect the chemistry in your brain ~ when you take them you are not you.  All of these drugs have serious side effects, up to and including making you want to commit suicide.  Unless body, mind, and spirit are all nurtured, full recovery can never take place.  Taking an antidepressant / anti-anxiety drug is just painting over the problem, you need to find the proximate cause of your severe mental illness and find a way of dealing with it.

The potential causes of your anxiety and depression are many and mostly a part of what should be a normal life ~ but even normality can be taken to extremes.  You will probably have recently experienced, or still be suffering, one or more of these shattering events; death of a loved one, or someone you felt you should have loved, a failed relationship, a toxic and dysfunctional relationship, separation, leaving home, divorce, physical illness, a very shitty job, loss of your job, poverty, bullying, fear, taking care of the sick and elderly, worry about getting old and your looks, lack of good sex, spiritual issues…..  and you are most likely addicted to booze, medication, or something like pot and cocaine.  Also, anything and everything bad in your past means you are suffering from stored pain.

Nobody is even remotely interested in your pain.  Your family and friends will proffer fatuous and useless advice.  You must be willing to take full responsibility for your own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.  Especially you must stop hurting yourself with booze, too much medication, drugs, cigarettes, bad food, not eating, and not getting enough sunshine, fresh air, and exercise.  If you don’t take care of yourself you will get sicker, you might die.

Most importantly stop trying to please other people all the time.  You cannot ever change other people, you can only distance yourself from them so they stop hurting you.  You must be the real and true you, and not someone that those around you think you should be.

Some say that you cause all your own problems.  And that you just spend all your time feeling sorry for yourself.  All I know is that you will get much better if you stop listening to all those unhelpful toxic people.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

you can get used to almost anything

except death, but by then nothing matters

Stress #5 ~ Getting Out

that’s why I drink ~ escaping from the real world

Some situations you can find yourself in are uncomfortable, painful, difficult, dangerous, intolerable.  It might be work, family, marriage, living with someone, romance, an affair, a stalker…..  It could be as bad as gaslighting, where you are being psychologically manipulated so much as to doubt your own sanity.  Or you could be verbally and physically abused, bullied, threatened, and deeply hurt.

I myself was once bullied at work by my director, aka the Ginger Bitch, she was a woman and I was a very senior and very successful executive.  It made going in to work at all an immensely stressful thing, it kept me awake at nights, and I started drinking far too much.  Drinking too much is only a temporary escape.  For a while I fantasized about pushing her into traffic on a very busy London road, decided that wasn’t a good plan.  So, I did the only sensible thing I could, and left that job, got myself out of there, escaped.

If you are in an intolerable situation, then the most sensible thing you can do is leave, get out, escape, leave town, change all your numbers and email addresses…..

And this is where it will get heartbreaking for you.  Leaving home is a momentous decision you will shy away from making, put off for as long as possible.  You would rather live in misery than make the irreversible decision to leave your abuser.  Before that you will try all kinds of other ways to escape; booze, drugs, an affair, promiscuity, vacations on your own with all of the aforementioned.

It’s no good, eventually for your own safety and sanity you will have to leave.  Before that you need to prepare;

  • tell nobody of your plans, not family nor friends
  • stash away a lot of cash in a place known only to you
  • if you can find a place, say a storage unit, then stash away clothes, shoes, utensils, and anything else you might need in your new life
  • get a new cell, new email id, new internet provider, new tablet
  • decide where you are going to go, not to your family nor friends because your abuser will find you there ~ a woman’s refuge in another town is good
  • leave home when your abuser is at work, at a bar, with their whore, vanish, disappear, tell no one or your abuser will find you
  • buy a different car, preferably a van, pick up your stuff, and drive, keep to all the traffic laws, drive a long way in an unexpected direction

Sadly it might be more complicated than that.  You may have kids in tow, you might be reported to the police as anything from a missing person to a kidnapper of your own children, you have no job so you might go broke fast, if you tell a relative where you are then your abuser will find you.  Tell nobody, and I mean nobody where you are; send a postcard from another state to tell people that you are safe.

Some say that escaping is easy, it’s found at the bottom of a bottle of booze.  And that things are bound to get better soon.  All I know is that escaping takes bravery, determination, and a shed load of preparation.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

just think how good freedom will feel

Stress #4 ~ Money Trouble

being in control of your finances is a great stress reliever

Next to being in a dysfunctional relationship, money troubles are the commonest cause of severe stress.  Sadly, dysfunctional relationships and money troubles often go together.

There are four sets of reasons that may have caused your money troubles;

  • Misfortune.  This is not your fault,  You may have lost your job, have uninsured medical expenses, your ex may have never paid child maintenance, your water heater may have exploded in a cloud of steam…..
  • Laziness and Stupidity.  You never open your mail, you don’t check your balance when you withdraw cash from the ATM, you can’t be bothered to balance your cheque book, you don’t bother to look for the thriftier items when you go to the supermarket…..
  • Compulsive Spending.  You max out your credit cards and then get another, your favorite pastime is shopping, when you’re stressed you go shopping, you buy shoes you will never wear, you’ve bought a car you can’t afford, you buy stuff you don’t really want, need, or already have…..
  • Addictions.  Maybe this is where things get really, really bad.  You’re a drunk and you spend a fortune on booze in bars and supermarkets.  You’re a drug addict, you’re always jonesing for your drug of choice, and you would do anything to get your next fix, including spending the rent on coke.  You’re a gambler and when you’re in a casino you lose track of time and money.  You’re a sex addict and pay for a fuck or a suck, and you’re addicted to on-line porn and sex-chat…..

So you’re flat broke, have bills to pay, and you are very, very stressed, suicidally so.  So WTF can you do?

  • Stay calm, make yourself a cup of tea, sit down, get a pen and paper and make some notes.
  • Work out exactly how much you owe in outstanding debt, including all your credit cards, parking fines ~ basically write down and add up every single penny you owe.  Depressing isn’t it?
  • Work out exactly how much is the bare minimum amount a month you need to live on, including food, rent, utilities, car repayments, insurance, parking, and petrol, (gas).  Compare that with how much you’ve got coming in, and  if you’ve got less coming in than you will have going out, find something on your list you don’t need to buy.
  • Find the nearest discount grocery store, and resolve to shop nowhere but there in future, and to buy only their cheapest stuff, providing it’s nutritious.
  • Contact your bank, finance, and credit card companies and see if they can help you by deferring or reducing repayments.
  • STOP FUCKING BUYING NON ESSENTIAL STUFF.  If you have to, then cut up all your credit cards.
  • Find a way to recover from your addiction.  If you have to go to a couple of AA, or NA, or GA meetings a day then get your butt down there.  Take part.  STOP doing whatever it is that you’re addicted to; if it’s booze or drugs you may need medical help.

Some say that something good will turn up soon.  And that the Micawber Principle is a load of bullshit anyway.  All I know is that one shouldn’t throw good money down the drain.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

it isn’t this pensioner’s fault that she’s broke

you should have her worries

GILF ~ (warning adult content)

a forty-something who has had a full love life can be fun

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older women are easy

neglected and lonely

an available slut granny

something over forty

high drunk and horny

unfocused and dreamy

looks so hot and dirty

wearing low-cut slutty

shows heavy soft titties

staring at me intensely

she’s extremely friendly

licking her red lips wetly

call fast uber, her money

opens dripping wet pussy

and I do her deep, doggy

she cums hard and loudly

then slut whore hot fanny

and I’m only just twenty

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

some older women are promiscuous

Stress #3 ~ Living with Distress

if you want to conquer the anxiety of life
live in the moment, live in the breath

~

If you are tormented by stress, if distress is making your life a misery, then what is the best way to live with it?  The short answer is don’t.  If the situation you’re in is so stressful it’s making you ill; for example a dysfunctional relationship, or a really shitty job, then just leave, get out take yourself away from the cause of your stress.  If someone else is causing you great distress; for example your ex is stalking you, then do whatever it takes to make them stop, including invoking the full force of the law.  If what you’re doing to yourself is the biggest cause of your stress; for example you are drinking to much, using drugs, gambling, living a promiscuous life…..  the for fucks sake stop.

You may / will need help to stop doing whatever it is you’re doing that’s making you ill with stress ~ start with your doctor, who will want to give you ‘happy pills’ like Prozac. Medication for stress is worse than useless, except as a short-term life preserver.  Most medication your doctor may want to give you for stress will be addictive in it’s own right, and SSRIs like Prozac might make you want to kill yourself.

To live a fairly normal life if you are suffering from severe stress then try some / all of these;

(there isn’t room to fully explain all these here, this is your chance to use your Google skills)

  • Routine.  Have a very solid daily and weekly routine, do the same essential things at the same time every day.  This will take away some of your worries because a lot of the time you can operate on auto-pilot.  Most importantly go to bed at the same time every night, and get up at the same time every morning.
  • Get Enough Good Sleep.  Stress causes sleep problems, and lack of sleep makes you anxious, agitated, impatient, and stressed.  It’s a vicious circle.  You need 6 to 9 hours of good sleep every night.  Don’t use sleep medication, in the long term that’s harmful and addictive.
  • Physical Activity.  Regular physical activity will benefit your physical, mental, and spiritual health.  Fresh air and exercise will alleviate your anxiety, stress, and depression ~ it will also help you to sleep at night.  Try the 10,000 steps a day challenge ~ it helps.
  • Meditation and Mindfulness.  Before you go to bed at night try to meditate for 20 or 30 minutes.  Practicing mindfulness is proven to help relieve stress.
  • Breathing.  There are a lot of controlled breathing / relaxation techniques.  I have something very individual that works for me, kept me alive more than once.
  • Learn Effective Time Management.  If you are constantly running from pillar to post, then no wonder you are stressed.  If you are at everyone else’s beck and call, plagued by interruptions, then no wonder you are stressed.
  • Dietary Supplements.  The chances are you’re not eating well, so the chances are your body is chronically short of vital vitamins and minerals; for example a deficiency of potassium or vitamin K might kill you.

There are innumerable websites that will give you all the information and advice you need on the above topics.

Some say that they’re not really stressed.  And they’re just having a bad day.  All I know is that less stress equals more happiness.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

If you’re in real trouble, sit quietly for a while, empty your mind; and do not do anything stupid.

Stress #2 ~ Dysfunctional Relationships

a healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice yourself

everyone in this picture is part of a toxic relationship

Extreme stress will kill you, but before that it will make you ill, take away your dignity and self-respect, take away your friends, maybe your career, maybe your children, and everything else you care for.  One of the principal causes of stress, especially among women, is to be in a dysfunctional relationship.  I say especially among women because thick-skinned, insensitive men have an uncanny ability to be utterly oblivious to things that are going badly wrong in a relationship, ignore how stressed and distressed their partner is, and if they were aware something isn’t right couldn’t care less about trying to make things better.  Add to that, in many cases it is the guy, and the way he acts, that makes any relationship utterly dysfunctional in the first place.

Dysfunctional and toxic relationships range in severity from; two people just not being in love anymore, and not really getting along, maybe mostly ignoring one another, leading separate lives…..  through mental abuse, verbal abuse…..  and finally severe physical abuse, beatings, rape, and in the end murder.  All of that is incredibly stressful and distressing.

Dysfunctional Relationships do not perform their appropriate function; that is, they do not emotionally support the participants, foster communication between them, appropriately challenge them, or prepare to fortify them for life in the larger world.  ~  Tina B. Tessina Ph.D.

There are 7 key signs of a toxic and dysfunctional relationship;

  1. Tedium.  The partners are bored sick with each other, do nothing together, have the same argument over and over again, never have sex…..
  2. Blaming.  Everything is his / her / your fault, no matter what.
  3. Guilt.  You’re constantly apologising for everything, even things that aren’t your fault at all.  You do it mostly to keep the peace.
  4. Tension.  You are always waiting for the explosion, dreading what he’s going to scream at you about next.
  5. Uncertainty.  Where is he / she, what are they doing, when are they going to get home?  One minute your partner is sweet and kind, the next you can do no right.
  6. Frustration.  Doing even the simplest of things is hugely complicated and time-consuming.  If you try to lead and take charge yo will be attacked, if you are passive you will be attacked for that instead.
  7. Hopelessness.  The dark cloud hanging over your life will never go away, there’s nothing you can do, you are doomed and trapped forever.

I would add to that, a relationship is completely toxic if either or both of the partners indulges in; alcoholism, casual sex, drug abuse, gambling, promiscuity, extreme pornography, on-line dating, prostitutes / prostitution…..  Just how stressful do you want me to get?  If you’re in that kind of a relationship you are slowly dying.

The very sad thing is that toxic and dysfunctional relationships are a multi-generational sickness ~ if your parents were in a toxic relationship, then in all likelihood so are you.

Some say that their relationship is their sanctuary, no matter how toxic it is.  And that he may be an alcoholic but we love each other, really, honestly…..  All I know is that if you are suffering from severe distress all you can do is walk away, and never once look back.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Mental abuse is incredibly stressful

Mental abuse is torture

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