Category Archives: Casual Sex

Hot Sexy Charming Male

smooth as the handle on a gun, cool as a cucumber

some older women like much younger men

and cheap sex is always cheap

and a slut is always a slut

You might be aware that I just got back to the garret after a short sunshine break in Turkey.  It was good for me, except that being a solitary traveller I had lots of time to indulge in some people watching, and the people I saw were not always the best advertisements for the male species.  Overweight, unfit, beer gut, waddling, loud, interested mostly in booze and sports ~ too unfit to be much turned on by sex.  They were mostly British, Germans, and Turks, but much the same could be said of American guys.

I looked at myself in the mirror.  A long hard look, and I could see myself heading in that direction.  Do I want to be a couch potato, an Archie Bunker, a fat loudmouthed beer-bottle slob?   And Fuck No!

As men get older, as the testosterone leaches out of the bloodstream, as the achievements of our youth are behind us, it’s easy for men to let themselves go to seed.  To watch too much TV, to drive rather than walk, to drink too much, to overfill our plates and gobble our food, to converse in grunts, to lose interest in sex…..  No wonder there are lots of MILF’s and GILF’s out there.  I may not approve, but I understand.  Even James Bond got fat and carried a man-bag.  Wazzock.

Ergo, I went up the mountain and talked with the elephant, and didn’t much like what she told me.  ‘Get your act together…..’

No more beer, no more booze, no more burgers, no more take-outs, less sugar, less salt, more green vegetables, more exercise, more interest in women.

I look out across the sea today, and see the old castle where my ancestors fought.  Saw the priests on the ferry taking the dead home, see their wives glad they’ve gone, see the priests fussing and flapping like a murder of crows wondering if they will get paid.  See the fat men dying without even that honour.  Their ghosts just trudging away, heavy footed.

If I have my way I’ll take a boat back from the river.  I don’t care what it takes, it’s better to be poor, fit, and healthy than be a rich fat man trying to get through the eye of the needle.

Some say that once you get to be forty it’s all downhill to the grave.  And that fat pale men with beer-bellies shouldn’t be with attractive women.  All I know is I’m going to be the great guy with a good body relaxing by the pool, anywhere I want to be, with anyone I want to be with.  And if you don’t want to be there, fuck off and have a nice day.  I ain’t afraid of no Charon

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

don’t pay the ferryman until you must

Random Jottings ~ Trust

he trusted her implicitly,  right until she threw him to the hungry crocodiles

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everybody’s got to trust sombody sometime

of course that’s where it all starts to go wrong

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everyone who says; ‘you can trust me…..’ is a liar

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all women lie, just ask Adam about the apple and the snake

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for some the excitement lies in knowing how far they dare trust

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never ask a woman about her past

because lies of omission are still lies

and the truth will torture you

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never trust a man who professes to be your friend

real friends don’t need to tell you that

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trust doesn’t usually include your partner taking a vacation without you

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I never knew a woman who didn’t want to know how much money I was making

up to, and including, my sainted mother

and all of them wanted proof

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

women who have first date sex are always liars

or sluts, or hookers, or older than their date

or all of the above

Vacation Thoughts ~ Nightlife

at night this place really comes alive

The nightlife here in Oludeniz is crazy.  Live music, laser light shows, karaoke bars, dance bars, cocktail bars, beach bars, sports bars, restaurants of every ilk, tattoo places….

Parties on Pirate Ships, beach parties…

The food is fabulous, the shopping is fantastic, and the people are fun.

Some women were having fun wearing very daring outfits.  The weather is very warm and the booze is very cheap.

Kinda wish you were here with me

Just bring a summer dress, and a bikini, it’s all you’ll need.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

At midnight, in one or two of the bars here, she’d be quite overdressed.

Random Jottings ~ Track and Trace

we shall meet in a secret place where social distancing isn’t known

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in-car satellite navigation isn’t private

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the Police are being taught how to say;

‘Papers Please…..’ in a menacing voice

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who controls the past controls the future

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as far as his recent lovers went, his lips were sealed

ever since he used a pritt stick instead of lip-balm

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‘sorry babes-o, can’t meet for lunch, I’m having my microchip fitted’

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these days, when you book a call girl there’s a hell of a lot of paperwork

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we all leave tracks in the sand

we just never expected that the government would follow them

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

she had no objection to telling them who she’d slept with

but she couldn’t remember all their names

Avoiding Dementia

first it takes your mind, then it takes your life

there are strong links between boozing and dementia

Dementia actually kills four times as many people as all the deaths attributed to COVID-19, even at the height of the supposed pandemic.  And, dementia kills people in a particularly horrible and distressing way.  I am not and have never been worried about the coronavirus, but becoming a shadow of myself through the hell of dementia frightens me, if I ever let myself think about it.

However, dementia is not inevitable, it’s not all down to random chance, it’s not all down to genetics, and it’s not a pestilence inflicted by a malicious God.  Your mind does not have to be blown to dust ~ there are things we can do right now to help ourselves avoid the unimaginable suffering of being locked inside a mind afflicted by Alzheimer’s, or a softening of the brain, or whatever else causes this insanity.

Dementia is not primarily a mental illness, it is physical degradation of the brain.

A hell of a lot of dementia is caused by the lifestyle choices we make.  To reduce your chances of becoming a shell of who you used to be then;

  • get plenty of sunshine, fresh air, and exercise
  • keep mentally and socially active, do not sit in front of the TV or computer screen for hours at a time
  • keep regular hours and get enough good sleep ~ 6 to 8 hours a night
  • do not smoke ~ and if you do give it up, forever
  • do not drink to excess ~ avoid binge drinking
  • do not take drugs, and I mean strong medication as well as street drugs
  • have a good healthy diet; avoiding fat, sugar, wheat and other grains, dairy products, junk food and takeout, and especially high fructose corn syrup
  • do not get avoidable diabetes
  • do not get obese, regularly check your Body Mass Index
  • control your blood pressure and cholesterol
  • avoid hearing loss
  • focus on your general health and well-being; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually ~ especially do all you can to avoid suffering from prolonged clinical depression
  • do not to get sick from social diseases, so avoid; casual sex, using dirty needles, socialising with the dregs of society, drinking in sleazy bars, and taking vacations in disease riddled hell-holes like India
  • do not get a head injury, so wear a helmet when cycling and avoid contact sports such as boxing.  Do not get into bar fights.
  • stay very clean; wash, shower, get in the tub, wear gloves for dirty jobs, wear clean clothes every day, change your bed-linen weekly
  • do not get sent to jail

As it goes, all of the above are things that right-minded, self-disciplined, ethical and sensible people will do as a matter of course.  There are two other things that will help you not to get dementia; be male and die young.

Some say that COVID-19 is the new plague sent by a vengeful deity.  And that dementia only affects the very old.  All I know is that all disease and infirmity is mostly preventable.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

probably heading for dementia

 

Intimate Strangers

some things are socially acceptable, and then again…..

Promiscuous casual sex is morally reprehensible, socially unacceptable, and fucking very dangerous.  Or rather, that is what I believe to be the truth of it.  One reason for this post is a news story concerning a married woman who picked up / was picked up by a stranger in a bar, went back to his place, where she was stabbed twenty times by the drug addict thug, who then tried to cut off her head.  The body was naked.  They’d had sex.

This was by no means an isolated incident of casual sex turning into something very worse.

Picking up a stranger in a bar may be exciting, sexy, erotic, physically satisfying, with a frisson of danger thrown in, but it can also be fucking damaging to your self-respect, health, wealth, sanity, existing relationships, future relationships, social standing…..  You could end up being humiliated, mugged, beaten, raped, passed around, stalked, gaslighted, ghosted, or dead.

Some of the same goes for people you ‘meet’ on social media, dating / sex dating sites, or any of the other myriad ways we can connect via the internet.  Basically you have no idea who these people are, where they’re from, what they’re really like, their history, criminal record, and what the hell they really want from you.  Are they the sex / age / ethnicity they say they are?  If there’s a picture is it of them, and how long ago?  If it’s an intimate picture they are probably not someone any decent person would want to know anyway.

There are labels for women who have casual sex with strangers and post intimate pictures of themselves on the internet ~ all of those labels are extremely derogatory.

Personally, I have three things in my favour when it comes to social media / email / long-distance friends and relationships.  #1 I know my way around blogging.  #2 I am a man.  #3 I am very smart / computer savvy / I was trained to spot liars a mile off.  Not everyone has my advantages, and yet women do engage in intimate relationships with people they only know from what they see on their own computer screens.

Personally, I have never knowingly ‘hit on’ a woman I didn’t know from Eve, picked up a woman in a bar, had first date sex, had multiple partners, been on a sex dating site, had sex with an ex, had sex with anyone much older / younger than me…..  Maybe I am staid and naive, maybe I’m shy, or maybe I have standards, ethics, and morals.

Some say that fucking a stranger is incredibly hot.  And that having multiple sexual partners is where it’s at.  All I know is fucking a stranger has nothing to do with love and a lot to do with instant gratification, or money.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

If you’ve been there with a stranger I don’t want to know

 

 

The Road to Hell

Hell is empty, and all the devils are here

In my entire long and sometimes misspent life I have never seen such destruction and despair, incompetence and ineptitude, lies and chicanery, to match that which is surrounding the COVID-19 virus this weekend.  It’s a Sunday, but don’t even think about trying to go to church for holy service, because you can’t.  Stop complaining about civil liberties, because you don’t have any.  Give up on ever having a job again.  And forget it when it comes anyone actually running the nuts and bolts of your country, because they’re all ‘working from home’.

The whole world seems to be on the road to Hell, herded along by all the devils and demons who are supposed to be suffering in purgatory.  Instead we’re all learning the lesson of suffering here.

Wake up.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

go to heaven for angels

take the road to hell for casual sex

Random Jottings ~ Infidelity and Casual Sex

no normally healthy men and women can be ‘just good friends’

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he could tell she was easy

the plunging neckline, short skirt, and no lingerie was a giveaway

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no matter how careful you are, you will always get caught

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the best apology for cheating is changed behaviour,

it never happens

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it takes two people to make a relationship work

but just one promiscuous person to make it fail

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bad marriages don’t cause infidelity

promiscuous infidelity causes bad marriages

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‘I love you…’ she said’

get in the back seat…’ he replied

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

casual sex is never just a one time thing

What is Love?

in true love infinite dreams come alive

Many have said; ‘I love you…’ when what they mean is; ‘I want you, I desire you, I need you…..’ and yet, perhaps is that not also a manifestation of love.  Perhaps wanting, desiring, needing, sexual lust….. are all but facets of love.  Or perhaps not, because one can love a fellow human being without it being sexual or physical.  Sex is not love.

The Ancient Greek philosophers recognised six types of love, and being philosophers they may have been correct.

  1. Eros ~ sexual passion
  2. Philia ~ deep friendship
  3. Ludus ~ playful love
  4. Agape ~ love for everyone
  5. Pragma ~ long lasting love
  6. Philautia ~ love of self

Nothing being perfect, there was later #7 Storge ~ love of the child.

The author Mary McMahon outlined a round dozen different types of love; New Love, Routine Love, Disgusting Love, Infatuation Love, Friend Love, Fake Love, They’re ‘It’ Love, In It To Win It Love, Tragic Love, Parental Love, Unhealthy Love, Old People Love.  As it goes; I will firmly state that none of those is a decent description or explanation of real love.

In high chivalric romance, the most perfect form of love was Courtly Love; which describes the relationship between a Knight Errant and a married noblewoman ~ his unattainable Lady Fair.  This unconsummated passion was thought to be ennobling and righteous. Like most of chivalry there are numerous impossible rules surrounding Courtly Love.

Courtly Love differs immensely from the commonest form of love of them all Unrequited Love.  Which, is just one step away from infatuation and stalking.

At the other end of the scale, and on the other side of the coin is Unconditional Love, which is just as dangerous and one-sided as unrequited love.

According to modern neuroscience there are 10 signs or symptoms of being in love; addiction, obsession, recklessness, lust, focus, heightened memory, eye contact, euphoria, touching, lack of judgement.  Possibly, and who am I to argue with the women in white coats.

For men, I could add another sign when it comes to being in love; loss of interest in other women.  I have no idea if the converse is true for women ~ I suspect not.

All of the above would seem to have elements of truth in them, which would lead one to suspect that love is a very complicated emotion, set of feelings, group of actions, slew of hormones….

I think not.  I firmly believe that true love means one thing, and if you ain’t got it you’re not in love.

True love means wanting your beloved to be safe and  happy, no matter what.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

not courtly love at all

more Lancelot and Guinevere

Would you like to wish on a star?

some of us would rather howl at the moon

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even Einstein did not understand gravity

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the guiding light is still a million miles away

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Hello Earth, How are you today?

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it’s a dog eat dog world, and you’re a kitten

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I love my dog, every full moon

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cold riveted steel is still iron

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she loved him, once he took his shirt off

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he was younger, he was cool, he was a guy

he owned a car

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jjack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

some women like sexy guys

ALL women like sexy guys

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