Category Archives: Casual Sex

she walked on eggshells

you don’t lie to the person that you love

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skilled liar

she was carnal

and I truly adored her

I never knew the real woman

she walked on eggshells around me

why do I adore a false chimera, an avatar?

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jack collier

jackcollier@talktalk.net

 

and she never tells the truth

 

 

Sexual Infatuation

’tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all

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this is what becomes

ashes to ashes

iron to rust to dust

desperate desires

love to hot lust

strong sexual fires

knowing he must

possess her always

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

perverted sexual possession

disgusts the right-thinking man

Honesty and Discretion

it takes strength and courage to admit the whole truth

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You may be aware that in the last few days I have undergone something of a transformation, and it seems the man I have become has a dedication to truth, honesty, and openness.  That is not necessarily a completely good thing.  Already I have found that there are innumerable situations where complete honesty wouldn’t be appropriate.  If someone is promulgating a web of lies about who and what they really are, it seems to me that it’s better if I ignore all that, keep quiet, and allow them to live their life of sad, dishonest, illusions, and delusions.

Hell, for all of my life I lived as versions of me that were only mostly true.  That was not my fault, maternal neglect can have a negative effect on your whole life.

If someone wants to hide what they did in their past, and never mention the reprehensible things they have done to give the impression that they are someone and something that they are not and never have been, then maybe it’s better that I ignore that too.  After all, if someone is mostly hiding their past, then it means they don’t want others to know about it, including me.

Some people are just beautifully wrapped and packaged boxes full of fucking shit.

In general, if someone is hiding their past it either means they are ashamed of it, or scared of your reaction if they tell you about it.  Hiding or denying your past doesn’t work, because sometime, somewhere, someday, somehow you will come up against someone who knows all about you.  And the chances are they will tell your new and innocent friend just exactly who and what you used to be ~ either by accident or on purpose.

There are lots of reasons people hide or deny their past, or even who they really are right now; alcoholism, criminality, unpaid debts, drug taking, promiscuity, prostitution, sexual deviance, marriage, children…..  But, all of these things are matters of public record, and you can hide none of the above for very long.

I will throw out one piece of advice, don’t lie to me unless you’re absolutely certain I will never find the truth.  And even in the days of my crazy alter-egos of myself, I always found the truth.

Mean and toxic people don’t bother me.  Mean and toxic people who disguise themselves as nice and honest people bother me a lot.  ~  Cindy Cummings Johnson

Some say that everybody lies.  And that if someone is hiding their past, then they must have a damn good reason.  All I know is that liars need a very good memory, and most people have very poor memories.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

every time you tell another lie you handcuff yourself just a little tighter

 

Love Betrayed

it wasn’t her fault it was mine, for believing every word she said

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love is like a dream

honest true and fine

until it becomes a nightmare

suspicion dishonesty betrayal

booze drugs promiscuity

hurt paranoia jealousy

revenge unforgiven pain

sadness to never love again

unless until reconciliation

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

if you’ve ever been betrayed by the one you love, then you know it hurts

 

 

 

Homosexuality

mental health has nothing to do with being gay

If anyone in Western Europe or North America has a problem with homosexuality then it most likely comes down to their own fears and prejudices.  The plain fact is that in most civilised societies homosexuality is now a perfectly acceptable practice, as is lesbianism, bisexuality, or being transsexual.  Some draw the line at men being very camp and wearing makeup, but that’s more a question of taste rather than being bigoted against gay men.  But there are some places where it would be very risky to be openly gay.

In the 50s and 60s the life of a gay man was a secret, in fact homosexuality was illegal in England until 1967 ~ you could go to prison for being actively gay.  The situation was much more complicated in the USA with sodomy being illegal throughout the USA until 1962.  After that various states became more liberal at various times up until 2006 when Missouri repealed it’s. law against homosexual conduct.  Virginia had laws against lewd and lascivious cohabitation until 2013.

But, if you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transsexual there are still whole swathes of the world where to openly show it will get you thrown into jail for a long time; Saudi Arabia, Russia, most of Africa…..

The plain fact is that if you’re not straight keep it strictly in private unless you positively KNOW that where you are fully accepts homosexuality and all the other LGBT / LGBTIQA practices ~ and even then you’re sometimes going to come across the occasional bigot who just likes gay bashing.

Personally, I fully accept homosexuality and bisexuality, but I would prefer that gay men didn’t kiss while I was around.  That doesn’t mean I’d say anything to them, but I’d probably get up and leave wherever I was.  Most straight men, myself included, are more accepting and understanding of lesbianism, but that’s because we tend to bracket it with soft porn.  Reprehensible I know, but most men are hard-wired a certain way, and there’s not much anyone is going to do about that for the rest of this century.

The plain fact is, in civilised societies homosexuality, lesbianism, and bisexuality, are mostly acceptable ~ just don’t frighten the horses.

I’m not gay, I’m mentally ill ~ and that carries an even greater negative stigma than homosexuality.

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.

Beautiful Sad Sex

Beautiful, and yet sisters cannot mend a broken heart

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I am so lucky to have known such a beautiful woman, that held me tight in her heart.

We have been friends for such a long, long time, it meant so much.

Some times I just don’t know anything about love.

I thought we were made for each other.

Maybe it was never meant to last.

Maybe I was wrong to trust.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

always the same that’s all

it’s just a shame,

that’s all

Long-Distance Love Affairs

love knows no time, love knows no distance

Until very recently,  in historical terms in the blink of an eye, you were likely to love and marry someone from your own village / town / county / state, after all these were the  only people you were ever likely to meet.  Then came reliable mail, and I’m talking paper and the mailman here, together with the widespread use of the telephone, and people started to have pen-pals, and fall in love with them.

Fast forward to the late 20th century and we have instant emails, and now video chat, and it becomes perfectly possible to develop a deep and meaningful relationship with someone you have never actually met, who lives a couple of thousand miles away, or on the other side of the world.  Add in blogs, Facebook, Instagram, tumblr, and sundry chat / dating / sex sites and the potential for a long-distance love affair is as good as meeting the boy / girl next door.

But, all you have is electronic, and you can’t actually have sex with an electronic person…..  and I’m  not going into the esoteric and erotic world of remotely controlled sex toys.

How can you actually be friends with someone you have never met, and know only through their blog, and some emails, and online chats?  It turns out that it’s very easy, maybe easier than meeting someone from the office, or in a bar, or a friend of a friend.  To begin with if you meet someone online you are both starting with a clean slate, and there are no interfering family members or other friends to get in the way.  Also, and in my experience, it’s much much easier to be completely honest and open with someone you meet online than it is with someone you meet in any other way.  Perhaps most importantly, for women thinking of being online friends with a guy, he isn’t going to be a stranger expecting first date sex.

The bottom line is, your long-distance friend might just be the best friend you’ve ever had.

However, leaving aside the whole sex thing for now, there are a few downsides in an online long-distance relationship.

  • Time zones.  If you’re in California and he’s in England he is 8 hours ahead of you.
  • Identity.  Are you talking with who you think you are?  Who you think is a cute 30 years old woman in California might be a fat trucker from Detroit.
  • Marital status.  She may say she’s single, or he may say he’s divorced, but both of them could be married with kids.
  • Honesty.  It’s easy to lie if you are 5,000 miles apart, how do you check the truth?
  • Meeting.  That first meeting could be fraught, you will be nervous, it might never happen.  But that is no different from having a blind date.

It’s an on line relationship, so use the internet to your advantage.  Google the object of your affections is a good start.  You know the rest.

Some might say that it’s difficult to have a relationship if you’re a couple of thousand miles apart.  And, how can you have a love affair if you hardly ever see one-another?  All I know is that it happens all the time.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

at least she’s a woman

and not a trucker from Detroit

 

Sex and Love

it’s easy to have sex without love, but hard to have love without sex

Love is either a wonderful thing; the best thing that’s even happened to you ~ or it’s a disaster akin to a psychological disorder such as repeated suicide attempts.  One thing is clear, that when love hits you, it’s like being hit by a runaway freight train.  For good or ill, love will change your life completely.  But then, so will sex.  Aside from a one night stand of casual fucking, sex comes in several forms; desire, lust, infatuation, incest, eroticism, BDSM, fascination, passion, possessiveness, prostitution, pornography…..  None of those has anything to do with real love, and all are momentary, fleeting, temporary.

Sex is the ultimate instant gratification, wanting someone and having casual sex with them will / should make you feel great, but that feeling will never last for long.  Which is why some, especially mature married women, the archetypal MILF, can be very promiscuous.  It’s why some women continually buy lots of new shoes, or use drugs, or post erotic pictures of themselves on the internet, or have a string of affairs ~ they are just jonesing, chasing after that moment of intense pleasure.  It’s why men get addicted to pornography.

If they didn’t have it before, people who indulge in this kind of behaviour will have low self-esteem, lack self-confidence, have no true sense of identity, and most likely drink far too much and use the ‘softer’ drugs.  Seeking this kind of ‘love’ might give you successful moments, but it is no basis for a successful life.  In fact, in the long run, this kind of behaviour will ruin your life.

On the other hand, real and sustainable love can appear unexciting and less cool than fucking a different person every week, but do not be fooled by appearances.  This is what you need to create a truly successful and happy life.  It is what you feel in meaningful relationships ~ those relationships where you truly connect with, accept, and understand both yourself and the object of your affections.  Developing and living in those relationships can be difficult ~ it’s very easy to get fucked by someone you’ve just met in a pub, especially for a woman.  It’s more difficult to live in love for month after month, year after year.  The temptation to walk away from a deep and meaningful relationship is often in the air, but perseverance is richly rewarded.

To have a meaningful, long-term, loving relationship requires one thing that most people can’t or will not do, and that is to be honest.  You need to be honest, open and trusting ~ and not only with your partner, but with yourself too.  I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of people I have met who are truly honest with themselves and with others.  To use a hackneyed quotation ‘Everybody Lies’.

Some say that they are very much in love, but sleep with a different person every week, or more often than that.  And that casual affairs don’t ever count, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.  All I know is that for two people in love the Cosmos is a wonderful place to be.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

this is most likely lust in a pub

followed by casual sex in a car

Money

a wise person has money in their head, not in their heart

I worked in banking and international finance for 30 years, and the most sagacious piece of advice I ever had was given to me by Mr. Williams, the then manager of Midland Bank in Durham City.  He said, ‘Don’t ever be the richest body in the cemetery’.  Contrary to his own advice he probably was ~ but then he had a widow and 3 daughters to think of.  I don’t.

Like everything else, money follows the basic law of nature; if you have some it’s easy to get more.  If you have nothing, then you are fucked.  Bankers will lend money to richer people, and turn away the broken and downtrodden every time.

It’s always within your reach to be rich, but money often costs too much, especially for women.  Strike that, money can cost too much for everyone, including wealthy guys.  Because I was successful I found myself a trophy wife, and she cost me half a small fortune.  But that doesn’t ever matter, any smart person can make money ~ nobody can make a good relationship.

That gives us rule #1 about money.  If you are even moderately attractive then find yourself a moderately wealthy, moderately generous, moderately attractive partner.  Some richer guys will make you feel real cool for a while, and then dump you like garbage.  I know, I’ve done that ~ to my eternal shame.

Given we are not all rich, how can we manage the money we haven’t got?

There are some basic rules about money;

  • Don’t buy on impulse.
  • Don’t max out your credit cards.
  • Do not borrow from family or friends.
  • Never do anything you hate just for money.

I was very guilty of the last one.  Working for a living is doing something you hate just for money.

Some say that money makes the world go around.  And that the fat cats get all the cream.  All I know is that it might be tough at the top, but it’s rotten at the bottom.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

money will buy you any woman you want

 

Monochrome Monday ~ Sexual and Sensual

seduction begins with the pictures you create in her mind

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

some say that there are many sexes

and that you don’t have to choose

all I know is that most people like sex

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