Category Archives: Casual Sex

Dissilusionment Defined

What becomes of the broken-hearted man.

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land of confusion

desire’s lost illusions

an inevitable conclusion

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

hit the road Jack,

and don’t look back

Drugs and Loose Morals

Immorality is the natural mind-set of all politicians.

Yet another English politician is linked with using the illegal drug cocaine.  This time it’s Boris Johnson, the favourite to become next leader of the conservative party ~ the once natural party of government in the United Kingdom.  This is no surprise as just about every other contender for this top political job is also a proven (past or present) drug user.

Some say that using drugs in the past should not prevent someone from getting on in politics, effectively holding down a top job, and being a success. Some say that smoking pot does not indicate that the stoner is a bad person, a liar lacking in morals.

I disagree.  I contend that anyone who has used cocaine is dishonest, amoral, dishonest, and unethical.  To begin with, if these people have ever entered the USA, they have lied to US customs and immigration. And, I don’t want a proven liar as a potential leader of my country.  But then, all politicians lie all the time, don’t they?

Some say that all drug users are also addicted to other things; alcohol, gambling, infidelity, casual sex….  All I know is that no male politician, business leader, or top public official, has ever been able  to keep his dick in his trousers.  In my experience most men and women who use / have used drugs are also heavy drinkers, gamblers, liars, and not averse to casual sex.  But then, everyone has skeletons in their closet, don’t they?

Some say that the lawlessnes and knife crime on the streets of London can be directly linked to the non-enforcement of the UK’s drug laws by politicians and officials themselves guilty of illegal drugs use.

Some say that there is noting wrong with a dishonest, amoral, sexually promiscuous person leading a country / business / charity / law enforcement agency.  And that using drugs in the past shouldn’t affect someone’s life today.  All I know is that I prefer to know ethical, honest, clean and (mostly) sober people in my life

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Jack Collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

How long before we see this on our streets again?

 

Monochrome Monday ~ Bondage

I want you.  I need you.  I’m addicted to you.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Now is different,

there are no limits

after all, you’re no lady.

Songs on Saturday ~ Substitute

A substitute is only ever second-best.

Some of the time I feel as though I’m a substitute for someone else.  There is no substitute for true friendship or real love.  Sadly, some think alcohol-fueled casual sex is the same thing.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

she’s either getting drunk,

or looking for sex with a substitute for her regular partner,

or both.

Drinking and Drinkers

Booze, the cause of, and the answer to, all of life’s problems.

Long Island Iced Tea

Some people believe that the most reliable way to have fun is to drink to excess.  They believe that to go into a bar, or to go to a party, and not drink at least a half-dozen beers or a whole bottle of wine is incomprehensible.  And for some, wine, beer, and spirits are all the same, the key is the alcohol.  All booze is to be consumed until they feel that buzz, feel like they’re having fun, slurring their words, and knock over a glass.

Go into some bars, particularly airport bars, or any bar in the USA, and you will see women sitting at the bar, usually among a group of men, laughing at risque jokes, watching sports TV, their faces shiny from too much booze.  As predatory as any younger man, of which there will be a lot around any woman.  If anyone’s drinking Long Island Iced Tea, then they really want to get shit-faced.

No pub is without its regulars, who all have their regular spot, and usual ‘friends’who will comment if they miss a session or two.

In airports, railway stations, shopping malls, and strange towns, real drinkers will either know where there is a good bar or make it their priority to find one.  Real boozers will think nothing of striking up an intimate conversation with whomsoever they may find sitting at the bar, and possibly proceed to tell them stuff they wouldn’t ever tell their partner or closest friends.  Sometimes they have no idea where they are when they wake up, maybe in the morning.

Older people tend to do their drinking at home, sitting in their favourite chair, maybe watching something asinine on Netflix, steadily knocking back their preferred tipple until they realise they should go to bed, or they make stupid ‘phone calls, or post sexual stuff online, or just fall asleep / pass out in their chair.

You can always tell a boozer.  They will be overweight with a lot of unsightly belly-fat, they will turn up at work late in the clothes they wore yesterday, their hands may shake in the mornings, probably they are smokers / gamblers / sexually promiscuous, their trash will always be full of empty bottles, and their car will often be found outside their regular pub / bar.

Some women say that they like beer, bikers, and rock music.  And that there’s nothing in their past that they regret.  All I know is that it’s best to avoid that sort of female.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

A real English pub,

where you will never find a nice girl sitting at the bar.

 

Songs on Saturday ~ Piano Man

Booze is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy.

I’m English, but I’ve spent time in bars in most of the major cities in Europe and the United States.  You know that you’re spreading it a little widely when you walk into a bar in say ~ New York, just off Madison Avenue, and the barman knows immediately that you drink a stirred vodka martini, or several.

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I’ve spent far too much time in bars exactly like the one in this song, except there was usually a slightly inebriated woman sitting at the bar trying to get picked up for casual sex.  Sad really.  And the piano man was never as good as Billy Joel.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

I don’t pick up women in bars,

and I don’t have casual sex.

Reinvent Yourself

It’s never to late to be what you might have been.

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Most people would like to change some things about themselves.  They may want to be fitter, to lose weight, to be more successful at work, to be more successful with the opposite sex, or maybe just to lose the terrible feeling of dissatisfaction they constantly suffer from.  Or it might be worse, some people want to lose their Borderline Personality Disorder, or paranoia or schizophrenia…..

One thing is certain, we can never get what we want by trying to change other people, nor by attempting to alter the way the world works.  The only thing we can ever change is ourselves.  But, look at the upside, when we change ourselves the whole world and everyone in it changes around us.

Reinventing ourselves into a better looking, cooler, fitter, more effective, more successful, less disturbed person is an essential process if we want to grow and flourish.

Here’s the hard thing.  To reinvent yourself into the person you really want to be requires some hard choices.  You need to be ready to walk away from aspects of your life in which you may have invested much time, effort, and money; the way you look, the personality you project, your existing career, unsuitable friendships, toxic relationships with the opposite sex, a dead-end marriage, the pub where you get drunk and try to get casual sex with anyone you may meet at the bar…..

Worse than that, you may have to forget and hide some of your past; the alcoholism, drug taking, criminal record, gambling, over-eating, casual sex, heavy smoking…..

Invent yourself and then reinvent yourself….. and reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.  ~  Charles Bukowski.

To reinvent yourself and have a truly successful life, ask yourself these questions;

  • What should I stop doing and thinking?
  • What should I start doing, thinking, and being?
  • What could and should I do less of?
  • What could and should I do more of?
  • What could I do, think, and be differently from who I used to be.

Reinventing yourself can be a difficult and lonely path, and it is not a one-shot deal.  Truly reinventing yourself is an on-going process you will have to work at, every single day.

Some say they already have everything their heart desires.  And there is nothing really wrong with them that a few days sober and clean wouldn’t put right.  All I know is that denial is the greatest block to becoming a better person.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

Somebody here is going to get into trouble

or maybe they both will.

the madness of desire

.….you should stop being so carnal, and learn to say no to men.  ~  Adelaja

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animal anxiety ardour

benefits bitch bitterness

carnal courtesan covet

desire discontent distrust

eagerness ecstacy excitement

feelings fervour fuck

grope grasp grudge

harlot heat hussy

indignation insanity intensity

jaundiced jealousy tight jeans

karma kept kindness

libido love lust

madness mania mistrust

nonsensical nymphet nymphomaniac

obscene orgasmic outrage

paroxysm passion pleasure

rancour risqué romantic

screw sexuality shag slut

tart tolerance tramp

umbrage unhappiness urban-survival

vamp vixen vulgar

wanting whore welcoming

younger men

zeal zest zygote

she has animal demons inside her innocently carnal eyes

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

stroking her leg in public

some carnal women like that

Negative Emotions

Cultivate love within you and negative emotions will disappear.

Negative emotions are so all-pervasive that doctors will now prescribe drugs like Prozac and Valium to patients who are merely feeling mild anxiety.  Really negative emotions, such as; anger, boredom, confusion, despair, disappointment, fear, grief, jealousy, resentment….. are extremely powerful and painful.  Medication, and self-medication such as booze, are no solution whatsoever.  Go down that road and you will become hypersensitive to your feelings, and take more and more of the drugs of your choice in an attempt to medicate them away.

This is just treating the symptoms, and it doesn’t work.  I should know, for many years I had a pot-mess of those negative feelings running through my psyche.  And none of those negative emotions did me any good at all.

So, what takes people back to the doctor, the pharmacy, the drug dealer, and the bar?  Not to mention the casino, the refrigerator, unsuitable relationships, and casual sex.  Escaping painful thoughts and negative emotions drive people to do stupid things, all in an effort to find a pleasure rush that will ameliorate those bad thoughts and terrible feelings.

There is also the thought that just one drink, or one piece of cake, or one small wager wouldn’t hurt at all.  Besides, you’ve been pretty good all week, so one little slip is OK.  Forget that, escaping really negative emotions takes a lot more than just one drink, or one night fucking a stranger.  And the guilt you will feel, (even if you don’t acknowledge that guilt), will make your bad feelings worse.

Your mind will tell you that you might as well give up on losing weight, staying sober, being good, because it’s pointless.  You will never get better, just take another pill and have another drink.

To truly escape those negative emotions and bad feelings you have to find another way.  This might involve a 12-step group, talking therapy, or completely changing your lifestyle ~ more exercise is good.  Try walking 10,000 steps a day.  Mostly, stay away from those people, places and situations that encourage you to do bad things that will only feed your negative emotions.

Some say the way to escape negative emotions is to turn to drink.  And that moving home and finding new friends is the solution.  All I know is that running away never solves anything.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

get out the back Jack

make a new plan Stan

no need to be coy Roy

Monochrome Monday ~ Sexy Guys

There is nothing as dangerous than a man with looks and charm.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

lots of hours in the gym

and more hours in front of a camera

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