a deceiver will always find one who wishes to be deceived
the instant gratification of booze is a devious deception
it is better to be lied to than to become a liar
seduction is a form of deception
you know she can fool you at any time on any given day
love never dies a natural death
love is always killed by dishonesty, deception, and distrust
first appearances are not always deceptions, just mostly
be careful who you trust
the devil was once an angel
the worst thing about being lied to
is knowing that you weren’t even worth the truth
the send of the sea answers all our prayers
In these times of worry, uncertainty, and stress it’s very easy for the negative emotions and bad news to overwhelm our minds ~ our thoughts, emotions, and spirit. All of that dark negativity effects us mentally and physically as stress, and when it gets very bad stress becomes distress.
Severe stress has a lot more symptoms than merely a lot of worry. For a start stress can cause insomnia, and that’s like throwing petrol, (gas), on a fire ~ it just makes it worse. Other symptoms of stress can include low energy, lassitude, fatigue, indecision, anger, aches and pains, chest pains, rapid heartbeat, headaches, loss of sexual desire, heart attacks, strokes, death…. Far too much stress also takes up so much of your reserves that you become more vulnerable to catching whatever other illnesses are out there.
Worrying about the coronavirus will make you more prone to catching the coronavirus.
One of the best ways to combat stress is through simple breathing / relaxation exercises. A simple internet search will find you lots of them https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/uz2255
However, years ago when I was under tremendous stress at work I found something of my own. For most people this exercise is far better than booze, drugs, or smoking too much.
- Close my eyes and imagine that I’m standing on a sunlit beach, I can feel the gentle warmth of the sun.
- The sound of the surf is very calm and slow, flowing in and out again.
- I time my breathing to that slow gentle surf.
- Slowly breathe in, pause, slowly breathe out again.
- And in the sound of my own breathing I hear the surf.
Usually, within a couple of minutes I feel calmer and more relaxed.
Within five minutes that simple breathing exercise drifts into meditation.
If you think you are suffering from the signs of stress, or deeper distress, then just try to slow your breathing and imagine the sounds of the gentle surf.
all things look better in the light of a new day.
we’re only human, we’re supposed to make mistakes
I screw up, I make mistakes, I go down the same wrong road time after time. But, I pick myself up and try to do better next time.
Last week I fucked-up in a big way, for no better reason than I was hurting after being to the dentist, and this town is in lockdown again. This song says something about how I feel today.
We don’t have to be always ready to make ourselves blameless and faultless, we can admit that we’re only human. I can accept myself as human and see that no human being is without flaws ~ me especially so.
I survived all those long lonely days when it seemed I did not have a friend ~ I with friends I know I can survive anything the Cosmos throws at me.
perhaps the Cosmos doesn’t care when we screw-up
but perhaps my friends do
the secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine
exercise hard and vigorously six days a week
when you eat is as important as what you eat
breakfast around 07:30
lunch at one o’clock
and dinner at seven in the evening
don’t ever eat late at night
try not to get into the routine of drinking every night
rise and go to bed at the same time every night and morning
including at weekends and on vacation
get into the habit of walking instead of driving everywhere
aim to walk 10,000 paces a day
every damn day
Italian Style is all about a life of good taste
What cool and elegant person hasn’t admired Italian Style? The homes, the clothes, the shoes, the furniture, the cars, the boats, the food, the wine….. Ferrari, Lamborghini, Versace, Gucci, Giannini, Prada, Ferragamo, Valpolicella, Chianti, Barolo, Pinot Grigo….. I hope that most of you will recognise most of those names and be able to add a few of your own to my list.
I like Italy, I like Italy a lot. But one thing you have to know about Italy and the Italians is that their history was as volatile and complex as they are today, and it wasn’t even a completely unified country until 1918, after the Great War.
Maybe because of this Italian Style, Italian food and wine is very regional, and when we say Italian Food we really mean the Italian food we eat in England, America, Australia, and elsewhere outside of Italy. If you want to know what really great, real Italian food is like then visit Italy. And if you want to know I love Tuscany.
Enough background, first this week we have a Zucchini Lasagna Bolognese with Spicy Basil Breadcrumbs from Jessica at How Sweet Eats.
Zucchini Lasagna Bolognese with Spicy Basil Breadcrumbs
Another zucchini recipe, this one from Tieghan Gerard at Half Baked Harvest; Zucchini Parmesan Chicken Meatballs with Lemon Pasta Carbonara.
Zucchini Parmesan Chicken Meatballs with Lemon Pasta Carbonara
One of my favourite Italian Recipes, best eaten in Tuscany with fresh pasta of course, is Creamy Tuscan Garlic Chicken, this from Alyssia Rivers at The Recipe Critic.
Creamy Tuscan Garlic Chicken
Another collection, from bon apetit; 48 Classic Italian Recipes That Make Us Want To Quit Our Jobs…… And from that I’ve chosen something easy that will use up some of those leftovers cluttering up your refrigerator, a Sausage and Broccolini Rabe Frittata. Easy, tasty, great to take for your lunchroom break.
Sausage and Broccolini Rabe Frittata
Finally for this week, and entirely different kind of collection, from a website called Great Italian Chefs, which has a myriad of regional recipes, I’ve chosen this classic Rigatoni Imbottiti ~ Italian-American it isn’t.
smooth as the handle on a gun, cool as a cucumber
some older women like much younger men
and cheap sex is always cheap
and a slut is always a slut
You might be aware that I just got back to the garret after a short sunshine break in Turkey. It was good for me, except that being a solitary traveller I had lots of time to indulge in some people watching, and the people I saw were not always the best advertisements for the male species. Overweight, unfit, beer gut, waddling, loud, interested mostly in booze and sports ~ too unfit to be much turned on by sex. They were mostly British, Germans, and Turks, but much the same could be said of American guys.
I looked at myself in the mirror. A long hard look, and I could see myself heading in that direction. Do I want to be a couch potato, an Archie Bunker, a fat loudmouthed beer-bottle slob? And Fuck No!
As men get older, as the testosterone leaches out of the bloodstream, as the achievements of our youth are behind us, it’s easy for men to let themselves go to seed. To watch too much TV, to drive rather than walk, to drink too much, to overfill our plates and gobble our food, to converse in grunts, to lose interest in sex….. No wonder there are lots of MILF’s and GILF’s out there. I may not approve, but I understand. Even James Bond got fat and carried a man-bag. Wazzock.
Ergo, I went up the mountain and talked with the elephant, and didn’t much like what she told me. ‘Get your act together…..’
No more beer, no more booze, no more burgers, no more take-outs, less sugar, less salt, more green vegetables, more exercise, more interest in women.
I look out across the sea today, and see the old castle where my ancestors fought. Saw the priests on the ferry taking the dead home, see their wives glad they’ve gone, see the priests fussing and flapping like a murder of crows wondering if they will get paid. See the fat men dying without even that honour. Their ghosts just trudging away, heavy footed.
If I have my way I’ll take a boat back from the river. I don’t care what it takes, it’s better to be poor, fit, and healthy than be a rich fat man trying to get through the eye of the needle.
Some say that once you get to be forty it’s all downhill to the grave. And that fat pale men with beer-bellies shouldn’t be with attractive women. All I know is I’m going to be the great guy with a good body relaxing by the pool, anywhere I want to be, with anyone I want to be with. And if you don’t want to be there, fuck off and have a nice day. I ain’t afraid of no Charon
don’t pay the ferryman until you must
sometimes I sit and think deep thoughts, and sometimes I just sit in the sun
day trips on one of these weird boats are fun
There are endless vacation activities here. Boat trips with swimming out at the islands, boat trips to the mud pools or butterfly valley. Parasailing and parascending behind a speedboat, if you’re brave. Horse riding, jeep safaris, quad biking, scuba diving……
Personally, on this vacation I’m doing none of those things. Fun acrivities are so much more fun if you have a close friend to share them with.
So today, it’s pool time for me.
There’s still the fabulous food.
Who dares gets a brilliant ride
at night this place really comes alive
The nightlife here in Oludeniz is crazy. Live music, laser light shows, karaoke bars, dance bars, cocktail bars, beach bars, sports bars, restaurants of every ilk, tattoo places….
Parties on Pirate Ships, beach parties…
The food is fabulous, the shopping is fantastic, and the people are fun.
Some women were having fun wearing very daring outfits. The weather is very warm and the booze is very cheap.
Kinda wish you were here with me
Just bring a summer dress, and a bikini, it’s all you’ll need.
At midnight, in one or two of the bars here, she’d be quite overdressed.
first it takes your mind, then it takes your life
there are strong links between boozing and dementia
Dementia actually kills four times as many people as all the deaths attributed to COVID-19, even at the height of the supposed pandemic. And, dementia kills people in a particularly horrible and distressing way. I am not and have never been worried about the coronavirus, but becoming a shadow of myself through the hell of dementia frightens me, if I ever let myself think about it.
However, dementia is not inevitable, it’s not all down to random chance, it’s not all down to genetics, and it’s not a pestilence inflicted by a malicious God. Your mind does not have to be blown to dust ~ there are things we can do right now to help ourselves avoid the unimaginable suffering of being locked inside a mind afflicted by Alzheimer’s, or a softening of the brain, or whatever else causes this insanity.
Dementia is not primarily a mental illness, it is physical degradation of the brain.
A hell of a lot of dementia is caused by the lifestyle choices we make. To reduce your chances of becoming a shell of who you used to be then;
- get plenty of sunshine, fresh air, and exercise
- keep mentally and socially active, do not sit in front of the TV or computer screen for hours at a time
- keep regular hours and get enough good sleep ~ 6 to 8 hours a night
- do not smoke ~ and if you do give it up, forever
- do not drink to excess ~ avoid binge drinking
- do not take drugs, and I mean strong medication as well as street drugs
- have a good healthy diet; avoiding fat, sugar, wheat and other grains, dairy products, junk food and takeout, and especially high fructose corn syrup
- do not get avoidable diabetes
- do not get obese, regularly check your Body Mass Index
- control your blood pressure and cholesterol
- avoid hearing loss
- focus on your general health and well-being; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually ~ especially do all you can to avoid suffering from prolonged clinical depression
- do not to get sick from social diseases, so avoid; casual sex, using dirty needles, socialising with the dregs of society, drinking in sleazy bars, and taking vacations in disease riddled hell-holes like India
- do not get a head injury, so wear a helmet when cycling and avoid contact sports such as boxing. Do not get into bar fights.
- stay very clean; wash, shower, get in the tub, wear gloves for dirty jobs, wear clean clothes every day, change your bed-linen weekly
- do not get sent to jail
As it goes, all of the above are things that right-minded, self-disciplined, ethical and sensible people will do as a matter of course. There are two other things that will help you not to get dementia; be male and die young.
Some say that COVID-19 is the new plague sent by a vengeful deity. And that dementia only affects the very old. All I know is that all disease and infirmity is mostly preventable.
probably heading for dementia
some things are socially acceptable, and then again…..
Promiscuous casual sex is morally reprehensible, socially unacceptable, and
fucking very dangerous. Or rather, that is what I believe to be the truth of it. One reason for this post is a news story concerning a married woman who picked up / was picked up by a stranger in a bar, went back to his place, where she was stabbed twenty times by the drug addict thug, who then tried to cut off her head. The body was naked. They’d had sex.
This was by no means an isolated incident of casual sex turning into something very worse.
Picking up a stranger in a bar may be exciting, sexy, erotic, physically satisfying, with a frisson of danger thrown in, but it can also be fucking damaging to your self-respect, health, wealth, sanity, existing relationships, future relationships, social standing….. You could end up being humiliated, mugged, beaten, raped, passed around, stalked, gaslighted, ghosted, or dead.
Some of the same goes for people you ‘meet’ on social media, dating / sex dating sites, or any of the other myriad ways we can connect via the internet. Basically you have no idea who these people are, where they’re from, what they’re really like, their history, criminal record, and what the hell they really want from you. Are they the sex / age / ethnicity they say they are? If there’s a picture is it of them, and how long ago? If it’s an intimate picture they are probably not someone any decent person would want to know anyway.
There are labels for women who have casual sex with strangers and post intimate pictures of themselves on the internet ~ all of those labels are extremely derogatory.
Personally, I have three things in my favour when it comes to social media / email / long-distance friends and relationships. #1 I know my way around blogging. #2 I am a man. #3 I am very smart / computer savvy / I was trained to spot liars a mile off. Not everyone has my advantages, and yet women do engage in intimate relationships with people they only know from what they see on their own computer screens.
Personally, I have never knowingly ‘hit on’ a woman I didn’t know from Eve, picked up a woman in a bar, had first date sex, had multiple partners, been on a sex dating site, had sex with an ex, had sex with anyone much older / younger than me….. Maybe I am staid and naive, maybe I’m shy, or maybe I have standards, ethics, and morals.
Some say that fucking a stranger is incredibly hot. And that having multiple sexual partners is where it’s at. All I know is fucking a stranger has nothing to do with love and a lot to do with instant gratification, or money.
If you’ve been there with a stranger I don’t want to know