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Scenes on Sunday ~ Desert Skies

Life is a long journey and the desert is my destination.

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jack collier

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Trust Your Instincts

Begin by connecting with what’s really important.

Well, I’ve just started to work through the Dreambook & Planner I was given as a Christmas gift.  The initial task seems to be that I should identify my core values, my skills and my talents, and sort out what my purpose in life is supposed to be.

That’s a tall order, and not something I could do in a few minutes.  Or, maybe it is something I should do in a few minutes ~ just jotting down my first thoughts.  Sometimes it’s better not to think too hard and ponder too much.  Sometimes if I overthink things I just go around in circles.

I seem to have run in a great circle, and met myself again on the starting line.  ~  Jeanette Winterson.

There is a useful saying; ‘Your first guess is your best guess….’  Or, put it another way; ‘Trust your instincts….’  Instinctive behaviour is the way we act, or react, without having to think about it.  Psychologists talk about fixed action patterns, which are hard-wired into our neural network.  The best example I can think of in humans would be in sports, where such things as a golf swing, or baseball swing, become hard-wired into the brain after much practice.

Instincts in humans are sometimes called gut feelings or intuition, and it’s about ‘knowing’ things without consciously reasoning.

Our brains actually store every experience we have ever had, and that huge library of information is one half of what our gut feelings are based on.  The other half of a ‘gut feeling‘ is emotion.  Add our stored memories to emotion and we get instincts, gut feelings, intuition ~ call it what you will….

Don’t you dare underestimate the power of your own instinct.  ~  Barbara Corcoran.

Instinct and intuition are very powerful, and often the right answer to any question will come from instinct, rather than reason.  Ergo, in the case of my identifying my own core values, my gifts, and my life purpose, I intend to go with my gut feeling, intuition, and instincts.  Of course, after I’ve written down my first guesses, I will go back and spend ages rethinking my answers.

Gut feelings are all very well, but something tells me that reasoning is better.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

 

 

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Food on Friday ~ Christmas Extras

Christmas!!!!

For some it’s heir favourite time of the year ~ others aren’t always so fortunate, so we’ll try hard to make this a happy Christmas for the whole world.

Anyway, back to food for this Christmas.  I’ve no doubt that you’ve got all the main stuff organised ~ the Christmas Dinner I mean.  But what about all those snacks, and breakfasts, and afternoon teas that you’re going to want to provide over this festive season?

What about all those extras?  Well, this Food on Friday might just give you some good ideas.

First this week we have this really cool snowflake pull-apart monkey bread from Tieghan at Half Baked Harvest.  Loaded with butterscotch and cinnamon ~ what a great breakfast, or something extra sweet to have with your afternoon tea!

Snowflake Pull-Apart Monkey Bread

From No Plate Like Home, how about this eggnog quick bread with rum infused glaze?  What a great idea for afternoon tea, or for something to have at parties.  You know what?  I’ll bet this will go down a treat.

Eggnog Quick Bread with Rum Infused Glaze

Next from the archives of Amanda at Chez le Rêve Français we have this Christmas tarted up treacle tart with ginger and pecans.  Jeez!  This looks so rich and tasty~ I love treacle tart!

Tarted Up Treacle Tart with Ginger and Pecans

Now for something that’s a cross between sweet and savory ~ from Elise Bauer at Simply Recipes we have honey hazelnut baked brie.  I really like baked brie, and this recipe looks fabulous with a sweet and sour honey sauce.

Honey Hazelnut Baked Brie

Here’s something sweet and irresistible from Averie Cooks; melt in your mouth toffee.  Averie says it’s perfect for cookie exchanges, or as a hostess gift, or for parties.  This toffee looks good to me.

Melt In Your Mouth Toffee

Well, something no drinks party should be without is a brilliant cheese board.  So Chungah at Damn Delicious offers us some tips on how to create the perfect holiday cheese board.  Looks damn delicious to me.

The Perfect Holiday Cheese Board

And, talking about drinks, Country Living has this brilliant collection of drinks recipes; 30 Christmas cocktails for a holly jolly holiday season.  Among the recipes is this cool white Christmas mojito from Half Baked Harvest.

White Christmas Mojito

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Have a very Happy Christmas

 

 

 

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Dreambook

Feeling a greater sense of meaning and purpose in Life.

An American friend has sent me a most wonderful and thoughtful Christmas gift ~ which I have already opened!

It’s a book; Rituals for Living, Dreambook and Planner.  When I say it’s a book it’s kind of a journal, and diary, and project planner.  The project in this case being My Life.

Stop playing small and start seeing yourself as the magical creator that you are.  You can create anything you want.  We want to help ensure that what you’re creating reflects your highest potential and most authentic self.  ~  thedragontree

It’s about connecting with what’s really important to me; identifying my core values, gifts, and life purpose.

It’s also about developing habits and rituals to help me to realise my dreams.

At heart I am an engineer, I like planning, I need to make plans before starting any new enterprise or project. Well, this is a new project, it’s the rest of my life.  A big project that deserves some big plans.

We firmly believe that if you set out to achieve your goals while remaining steadfast on the necessity of playing, caring for yourself, connecting to family, friends, a higher power, and the natural world ~ you actually amplify your ability to succeed.  ~  thedragontree

I firmly believe that this book, the gift my American friend has sent to me, will help me achieve my fullest potential and realise my dreams.

In part it’s about self-awareness and self-actualisation, and in part it’s about developing habits and rituals which will lead towards the fullest and most congruent realisation of my desires, dreams, and goals.

You know what?  This is a wonderful gift, and I know it was sent to me with love.

One of the benefits of writing this blog is that I can publicly thank my friend for this wonderful Christmas gift.  Oh, and the kind friend concerned also has a blog.  https://therobynbirdsnest.com

There are a couple of websites which sort of go along with this life planner;

http://www.thedragontree.com   and  dreambook.vision

 

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

 

 

 

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Waking Dreams

Listen to the world turning in the stillness of the night.

Night’s end

I’ve been blind

life’s not been kind

living inside my mind

searching, what do I find

a dark soul trapped confined

distressed unkind waking dreams

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

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Mental Breakdown.

My mind is broken and my soul is destroyed.

Today I have been suffering from distress so intense that it’s almost unbearable.

I don’t believe I’m depressed because I have been able to function today, after a fashion.  I have washed, shaved, my clothes are fairly clean, my home is clean, I have cooked and eaten a meal.  However, the anxiety and nameless dread are incredibly severe.

There doesn’t seem any reason to hope, and yet there is every reason to fear.  I am mentally, spiritually, and physically afraid.  I want to run.  I am so afraid that my chest hurts, and there is nothing for me to be afraid of.

I want to be alone.  I have been isolating myself in my garret, and yet I would give almost anything to have a friend to talk with.

I’m a mature man, but fat tears have been rolling down my cheeks.

I’m exhausted, mentally and physically done in.

I feel as though I have nothing left to give.

There is no reason for me to be so acutely distressed.

Looking back I don’t ever remember feeling this bad before.

I’m becoming a lunatic.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

So, don’t be a fake.

The most poisonous people come disguised as friends.

Some say that I’m an egotistical fake, and that all my problems are caused by my own lies and character defects.  All I know is that I’m working very hard to be a better guy.

I took a walk outside early this morning, down by the sea where I usually find solace and serenity.  The snow and wind were in my face, and the seashore was shrouded by a cold mist.  Today there was no tranquility for me.  My soul feels hurt, hungry, and lacking in love for myself.  All I feel is regret and sorrow.  What I could see of the surf was angry and accusatory.

Some would say that I’m a prisoner of my own ego, and that my personal identity is driven by conceit and self-importance.  All I know is that it’s sometimes difficult to get through the next 24 hours, and then the 24 hours after that.

Sometimes I was a fake just to cope with life.  BPD can do that to you.

What I’m trying to say is that I need to get my life in order ~ start to be honest with myself and everybody else, become reliable and trustworthy, stop being hurtful and aggressive at the drop of a hat…  Perhaps then there can be some trust in friendships and I can begin to have real relationships with sensible people.  I need to consider the feelings, needs, desires, wants, and commitments of others.  I need to give more and take less.  I need to change my ways.

It’s OK for me to want what I want, but becoming a fake to get it is abhorrent.

Some say that if nothing changes, then nothing changes.  And, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.  All I know is that this post is the start of something different for me.

All prayers are answered, but sometimes the answer is difficult.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

 

 

 

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Scenes on Sunday ~ Skies

I dream of balance, purity, mystery, spirituality, and serenity.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

 

 

 

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English Weather

Climate is what we expect; weather is what we get.

The English love to talk about the weather; when an Englishman meets a friend or acquaintance they could spend a good hour or so discussing the weather.

The thing is, there are so many topics polite Englishmen almost never talk about; feelings, money, politics, religion, and sex to name just a few taboo topics.

The other thing is; we get so much weather in England.  American tourists in London can never understand that, no matter how sunny and fine a day it is when they leave their hotel, within a hour it will be pouring with rain.

We English also have many, many interesting words and phrases to describe our weather.  Brass Monkeys, Raining Cats and Dogs, A Bit Parky, Chucking It Down, It’s a Scorcher, It’s Just Drizzling, It’s a Bit Damp, Pea Souper, Sea Fret… to quote a few.

English weather is pretty clement, not usually extreme at all.  For us 40 degrees Fahrenheit is bloody cold, and 80 degrees Fahrenheit is bloody hot.  We don’t often get very strong winds, and even though it rains almost all the time, we don’t often get torrential downpours.

Mostly I like the weather in England, at least from April to September / October I like it here.  From October to April it’s bloody awful and everyone in England will have colds, or flu, or even pleurisy.  (I’m just recovering from a bout of pneumonia.)

So, if ever you’re in England, expect to be bored spitless by everyone always talking about the damn weather.

And, by the way, no sensible Englishman believes in Climate Change.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

Scenes on Sunday ~ Monochromatic Utah

People can be lonely under a big Utah sky.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

pictures taken with a Lumix

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