if you don’t feed your dog
don’t be surprised if he’s scrabbling through the trash
younger man with an older women
Forget Maslow’s hierarchy of needs because in this day and age shelter, warmth, water, and food are available to every person living in a western civilisation. What most men want most, what drives almost every man, is the desire for sex, money, and power. Love is something else, and anyone actually searching for love probably has unrealistic expectations of life.
For the average man, the triumvirate of sex, money, and power almost always begins with money. Not that many women want to date / have a fling with / sleep with an average guy who is also flat broke. And, if you’re flat broke it might also mean that you don’t dress well, can’t really afford to hang out in upscale bars, and your car is a junker. Not many women want to have sex in a wreck of a car. So the average guy is caught in a Catch-22 situation, what he really wants to do is hang out in bars and find an inebriated woman to have casual sex with, but before he can do that he needs some significant folding stuff. More than that, power flows from money like water flows downstream, and many women find power an aphrodisiac.
There are but a few ways to get money. One could try gambling, but all gamblers end up dead broke. Stealing it in one way or another is very dangerous ~ all thieves come to a bad end, eventually. More unlikely ways of acquiring a bank-roll are inheriting it, marrying it, becoming a drug dealer, and winning the lottery. Do not hold your breath. The most reliable way to get cash is to work for it ~ that means being very successful in your chosen career, and that means working hard, putting in the hours, and that will keep you out of the bars where you hope to meet an easy lay. The upside to being very successful in your chosen career is that you will also become powerful.
Sex, Money, and Power form a stable equilateral triangle. The average man can’t get a lot of one without also acquiring an abundance of the other two. Or, for the extremely unethical bastard, you could find a plain older woman who happens to have money, marry her, and then entertain yourself by cheating on her, gaslighting her, and stealing from her.
Personally, I happen to know a very cool American woman I can’t meet because of a raft of insurmountable obstacles. But that’s Life for you, and 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.
Of course, 90% of the above also applies to women, (maybe 90%, I’m not a woman so I can’t be certain).
Some say that commitment to just one person is am unachievable dream. And that relationships shouldn’t have rules. All I know is that some people are utterly honest, open, and ethical ~ but most aren’t
a woman sitting at the bar
and drinking alone
is only there for one reason
if you want to prove your love, then give her your credit card
a women who wears a see through dress without lingerie has got balls
a real woman is her man’s personal porn star
‘be mine…..’ he said, ‘your what…..’ she asked
love is whatever you think it is at the time
but first date sex is always just sex
‘OK, let’s go and fully explore my sexuality…..’ she said
he made his excuses and left the bar right after that
there is something about a really sexual woman that frightens most men
some women fake orgasms, but all men fake finances
if you want to prove your love
then give her your car keys
before I talk, I should read a book
You know what? I never really understood that quotation ~ unless it’s about casual sex. If it comes right down to it, I never really understood why the trash culture B52’s were so popular in the 70s and 80s, especially here in England. Unless you happen to like Big Ugly Fat Fuckers. Anyhow, I liked Love Shack back then, and I still do. Perhaps I just like shacks.
Please listen remembering back-roads America.
I also like long road trips.
I wonder if Biden will have much use for the BUFFs
even the thought of her made his heart beat faster
This isn’t a classic Rod Stewart song from the old days, back when I used to go out partying, but it’s damn good, and I like it. (Actually, I never went out partying, I just made that up.)
Perhaps this will bring back tender memories for some of you. I hope so.
This is for a woman I like, admire, and respect.
Please listen to the lyrics.
the kind of car a woman like that should own
Jaguar V12 E-Type
some things are socially acceptable, and then again…..
Promiscuous casual sex is morally reprehensible, socially unacceptable, and
fucking very dangerous. Or rather, that is what I believe to be the truth of it. One reason for this post is a news story concerning a married woman who picked up / was picked up by a stranger in a bar, went back to his place, where she was stabbed twenty times by the drug addict thug, who then tried to cut off her head. The body was naked. They’d had sex.
This was by no means an isolated incident of casual sex turning into something very worse.
Picking up a stranger in a bar may be exciting, sexy, erotic, physically satisfying, with a frisson of danger thrown in, but it can also be fucking damaging to your self-respect, health, wealth, sanity, existing relationships, future relationships, social standing….. You could end up being humiliated, mugged, beaten, raped, passed around, stalked, gaslighted, ghosted, or dead.
Some of the same goes for people you ‘meet’ on social media, dating / sex dating sites, or any of the other myriad ways we can connect via the internet. Basically you have no idea who these people are, where they’re from, what they’re really like, their history, criminal record, and what the hell they really want from you. Are they the sex / age / ethnicity they say they are? If there’s a picture is it of them, and how long ago? If it’s an intimate picture they are probably not someone any decent person would want to know anyway.
There are labels for women who have casual sex with strangers and post intimate pictures of themselves on the internet ~ all of those labels are extremely derogatory.
Personally, I have three things in my favour when it comes to social media / email / long-distance friends and relationships. #1 I know my way around blogging. #2 I am a man. #3 I am very smart / computer savvy / I was trained to spot liars a mile off. Not everyone has my advantages, and yet women do engage in intimate relationships with people they only know from what they see on their own computer screens.
Personally, I have never knowingly ‘hit on’ a woman I didn’t know from Eve, picked up a woman in a bar, had first date sex, had multiple partners, been on a sex dating site, had sex with an ex, had sex with anyone much older / younger than me….. Maybe I am staid and naive, maybe I’m shy, or maybe I have standards, ethics, and morals.
Some say that fucking a stranger is incredibly hot. And that having multiple sexual partners is where it’s at. All I know is fucking a stranger has nothing to do with love and a lot to do with instant gratification, or money.
If you’ve been there with a stranger I don’t want to know
no normally healthy men and women can be ‘just good friends’
he could tell she was easy
the plunging neckline, short skirt, and no lingerie was a giveaway
no matter how careful you are, you will always get caught
the best apology for cheating is changed behaviour,
it never happens
it takes two people to make a relationship work
but just one promiscuous person to make it fail
bad marriages don’t cause infidelity
promiscuous infidelity causes bad marriages
‘I love you…’ she said’
get in the back seat…’ he replied
casual sex is never just a one time thing
in true love infinite dreams come alive
Many have said; ‘I love you…’ when what they mean is; ‘I want you, I desire you, I need you…..’ and yet, perhaps is that not also a manifestation of love. Perhaps wanting, desiring, needing, sexual lust….. are all but facets of love. Or perhaps not, because one can love a fellow human being without it being sexual or physical. Sex is not love.
The Ancient Greek philosophers recognised six types of love, and being philosophers they may have been correct.
- Eros ~ sexual passion
- Philia ~ deep friendship
- Ludus ~ playful love
- Agape ~ love for everyone
- Pragma ~ long lasting love
- Philautia ~ love of self
Nothing being perfect, there was later #7 Storge ~ love of the child.
The author Mary McMahon outlined a round dozen different types of love; New Love, Routine Love, Disgusting Love, Infatuation Love, Friend Love, Fake Love, They’re ‘It’ Love, In It To Win It Love, Tragic Love, Parental Love, Unhealthy Love, Old People Love. As it goes; I will firmly state that none of those is a decent description or explanation of real love.
In high chivalric romance, the most perfect form of love was Courtly Love; which describes the relationship between a Knight Errant and a married noblewoman ~ his unattainable Lady Fair. This unconsummated passion was thought to be ennobling and righteous. Like most of chivalry there are numerous impossible rules surrounding Courtly Love.
Courtly Love differs immensely from the commonest form of love of them all Unrequited Love. Which, is just one step away from infatuation and stalking.
At the other end of the scale, and on the other side of the coin is Unconditional Love, which is just as dangerous and one-sided as unrequited love.
According to modern neuroscience there are 10 signs or symptoms of being in love; addiction, obsession, recklessness, lust, focus, heightened memory, eye contact, euphoria, touching, lack of judgement. Possibly, and who am I to argue with the women in white coats.
For men, I could add another sign when it comes to being in love; loss of interest in other women. I have no idea if the converse is true for women ~ I suspect not.
All of the above would seem to have elements of truth in them, which would lead one to suspect that love is a very complicated emotion, set of feelings, group of actions, slew of hormones….
I think not. I firmly believe that true love means one thing, and if you ain’t got it you’re not in love.
True love means wanting your beloved to be safe and happy, no matter what.
not courtly love at all
more Lancelot and Guinevere
cursed are they who get the love they think they deserve
‘I love you…..’ he said
‘why…..’ she asked’
because I’m bloody stupid…..’
she loved him and he didn’t deserve her
so, eventually he walked away
she didn’t know how lucky she was
she was attractive
she was available
she was loving
she was going to be a complete waste of time and money
car sex is the opposite of true love
love is a drug
but so is sex, alcohol, cocaine, marijuana, opium, viagra…..
Fuck Me! No way, I’m a man and you’re a surprised shade of blue alien
she will never love you
not if you try to force it
hot sexy older women love fast sexy older cars
Maybe a lesser known Dire Straits track, but powerfully evocative of a ‘who gives a fuck’ crazy lifestyle.
For me, Heavy Fuel is diesel, but I don’t think this song is really about trucks., big rigs, 18 wheelers, call them what you will. Or boats either. This song is about booze, drugs, and girls.
Please listen without breaking the speed limit.
And I would never, ever drive a Porsche.
sexy women have always loved a hot car
thou shalt not commit adultery
Just as the lockdown begins to be eased in England, the government has come up with an extraordinary new regulation designed to stop people from meeting up to have sex.
No person may participate in a gathering which takes place in a public or private place indoors, and consists of two or more persons.
Sex in a public place is already illegal here, so we can’t even find a deserted beach and have moonlight sex in the surf. Of course, the stupid six foot ‘social distancing’ rule is already in place, which means you can’t even meet up with your love to kiss, hug, or walk and hold hands. Add to that the number of people who have been in self isolation / quarantine / shielding, the number of people who haven’t been able to travel any distance to meet their paramour, and you can see that the rule has been ‘no sex please, we’re British’.
Studies show that even among married couples, and people who live together, just about 40% of UK adults have been sexually active during the 10 weeks of lockdown.
Good luck on any of this being popular among the English public. Good luck with many people taking any notice of these laws / regulations. But, I would expect our law enforcement agencies to become officious sex police, and self-righteous nasty people to inform on their neighbours who they suspect of having sex.
None of this has stopped our politicians and government officials from ignoring all the rules to carry on their illicit affairs during the strictest part of the lockdown here. It’s still one law for them and a different set of laws for the rest of us.
I wonder if car sex is still illegal?
And, how have hookers made a living in the past 10 weeks?
there is always phone sex