The sea rewards those men who have love in their heart.
Marmaduke likes the beach too
When you stop expecting people to be perfect,
then you can like them for who they are.
Believing our expectations causes pain because the expectations often clash with reality ~ with life as it really is, and the future as it is meant to be. The expectation could be as simple as; I wish I didn’t have to go to the store today’ or the expectation could be powerful, such as ‘after all this I expect her to have sex with me’. It could be an utterly impossible desire, such as wanting her to exercise hard to have a better body.
Whatever the disconnect is, any time we believe a thought that says Life should be different from the way it is now, then we will really suffer. Every single time.
Have an expectation that isn’t completely under your own control, an expectation that says; ‘he / she should be different, Life should be different’, and you will get badly hurt. Take life as it is, live in the moment, and don’t ever try to change another person, and most likely you won’t be hurt ~ or not so badly. Even you cannot control the cosmos.
Some of the time we cannot even control our own thoughts, which have a tendency to drift off into fantastical flights of fancy, building castles in the clouds. Most of the time we can’t control our own bodies; we get sick, we gain weight, we start looking older….. What will happen will happen whether we like it or not ~ sometimes it’s best to pretend to like what’s happening, even if you secretly hate it. Remember the adage ‘fake it to make it’.
If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. ~ Maya Angelou.
Never focus so hard on what you want that you ignore what you already have. Never believe that you can change a woman, because you can’t. And, if you can’t live with what you have, then just walk away. You certainly can never change her past.
Some say that men are quick to leave a relationship. And that they almost always return. All I know is that if you leave her, you should never, ever look back.
never date an alcoholic woman
it will not end well
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, and try again.
This song says something important to me right now.
You cannot change anyone, unless they want to change.
some men think that there’s more than one way to fix a woman
Where there is true love there is joy in life.
once you had sunshine
once you had true love
desire always and ever
and then came the rain
the ways of love can be cruel
There is always a great recipe for tonight’s dinner.
This week’s recipes are all about making a good midweek dinner, but just as importantly every dish described here is also going to be great to take to work the following day. And, you know that it’s always better to take your lunch into work, rather than buy something at a deli or pay a small fortune to eat out at a restaurant.
So, try some of these and enjoy.
Tieghan Gerard at Half Baked Harvest gives us something interesting and colourful with her weeknight saucy pineapple bbq chicken bowls. As well as being perfect for any night of the week, this recipe is also perfect to take to work for lunch.
Weeknight Saucy Pineapple BBQ Chicken Bowls
Andrea at Cooking with a Wallflower has this really cool recipe for spinach bacon quiche ~ and this is a hell of a lot easier to make than you might think. This delicious looking quiche would be great for a midweek dinner with some salad, or to take to work for brunch / lunch.
Spinach Bacon Quiche
Another quiche, (they are so great to take to work for lunch), this time an easy quiche Lorraine from Heidi at Foodie Crush. This recipe will be great for breakfast, brunch, lunch, or even a midweek dinner. Also from Heidi 14 days of healthy breakfast recipe ideas.
Easy Quiche Lorraine
Believe it or not, this grilled Thai pork tenderloin with soba noodle salad, is also an easy midweek meal. At least Jessica Merchant at How Sweet Eats says it is. The leftovers would be utterly brilliant to take to work for lunch, eaten cold, (or reserve the tenderloin and heat that in the microwave).
Grilled Thai Pork Tenderloin with Soba Noodle Salad
Tiffany at Creme de la Crumb has this super recipe for one pan Spanish chicken and rice, a bold and zesty dish you can make in a half-an-hour. Tiffany calls one of her ingredients coriander, which you may know better as cilantro.
One Pan Spanish Chicken and Rice
Our collection this week is from Carrie Havranek at Simply recipes who has 6 easy Vietnamese recipes you can totally make at home. My favourite for a midweek dinner and something great to take to work for lunch is this Char Siu Chicken, which would be perfect with rice and /or salad.
Char Siu Chicken
a post from Foodie Crush
Before you can learn something new, you have to end what used to be.
I have learned to love the desert.
At least half of what you know is outdated in today’s world. Most of your past experiences have created insecurities, jealousies, and resentments in your subconscious mind. It is easy to feel inhibited and illiterate with the constant pressure to learn, unlearn, and relearn ~ to accept, approve and understand. Our entire life has created us as we are, and yet who we are right now probably isn’t working so well.
Learning new things isn’t difficult for most of us ~ each of us has our own way of learning as we explore new situations, new processes, new challenges, and new relationships. The real problem begins when we have to unlearn something first. We can become so fixated on what we already know, on past experiences, that it can be hard to let go of the old to let in the new. If your old partner cheated on you, then it’s going to be difficult to trust any woman / man you date in the future.
Every day you will be challenged to unlearn what you think you know about women / men, or how you expect them to behave, or whether you can trust or not.
Unlearning is a way of making space for newer, fresher experiences, information, and knowledge. Unlearing is like deleting files on your laptop, or repainting your apartment, or dumping your partner ~ it’s stripping away the old and unwanted before you can add something better. The problem is that when something has worked in the past, we have a tendency to assume that it will keep working in the future. This is not true.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~ Albert Einstein.
The most successful people are ready to question what they know, who they know, and why they do what they do. The really successful man / woman is open to contradictions and failure ~ always ready to learn something new.
Some say that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. And that a leopard can never change its spots. All I know is that a successful man realises that the experience will always be different from his expectations.
some dogs learn new tricks
The unbearable pain of loving a woman who does not love you.
hot heavy deep urgent
steaming locomotive breath
passions spent and now resting
she just gives it away
to whomsoever wants her
casual sex is what she desires
A liar will never be believed, even when she speaks the truth.
Everybody lies. Lies are the oil that lubricates the grinding wheels of interpersonal relationships. Most people don’t always want to be told the unvarnished truth, especially by their partner ~ for example being told that you look terrible hurts, even if it is the truth. In a 10-minute conversation the average American will tell two or three lies ~ basically people lie a lot.
There are different kinds of lies, some are small and immaterial, and some are huge, outrageous, and evil. However a lie is still a lie, even if it’s justified as a well-intentioned white lie, or it’s a lie of omission where we just don’t say anything at all about something important.
Some lies are actually criminal fraud. For example;
- lies about your qualifications and work experience on your CV
- Plagiarism, piracy, and passing-off
- creating false paperwork to obtain a loan, drivers licence, passport, etc.
- using false information to complete official forms, for example health insurance
It seems that many people are happy to live with lies like this, telling themselves that it’s just a clever way to beat the system. Do or say whatever you like, but if you go down this road your life will be a fake. And, at some point you may get into serious trouble. As an example, a contract of insurance is a contract uberrimae fidei, (of utmost good faith), if you don’t tell the whole truth on an insurance document the whole thing is null and void. Your insurance company can refuse your claims, and reclaim any past claims you have made.
If you do lie and cheat, just be ready for the consequences because eventually you will be caught out. Your fantastic house of cards will just fall apart. The thing about lying is that you can never know with certainty the risk of being discovered or the severity of the consequences. Lie in a relationship and you’ll probably get dumped. Lie in a marriage and you will probably get divorced.
Some say that there’s a fool born every minute. And that women make the best liars. All I know is that some truths are best left unsaid.
lovers often lie to each other
and to their husbands and wives
Dawn’s painful musing
with one goodbye
Rest, food, sunshine, fresh air, exercise ~ the pentagram of good health.
The weather has finally improved here in the North East of England. Today it’s 67 degrees and very sunny ~ in the sunshine it’s much warmer than a mere 67 F. So, it behoves me to get out there in the fresh seaside air and get some much needed exercise.
There is still this urban myth that, for our health, we should all walk at least 10,000 steps a day. Or it might be that the health benefits of walking 10,000 steps a day now has scientific backing. It seems that after about 8 weeks of walking 10,000 steps a day one’s blood glucose levels will improve considerably, as will your blood pressure. For me, 10,000 steps works out at 5 miles, and a few weeks walking that far every day normalises my weight and gets rid of any unsightly belly-fat I might have been carrying over the winter.
For most Americans, walking 5 miles a day might as well be walking around the world and back. Americans hate getting out of their cars. The average American only walks 4,000 to 5,000 steps in a whole day, never uses the stairs if there is an elevator, and never stands if there is a chair they can sit in. No wonder so many Americans are very overweight and susceptible to cardio-vascular problems. Most American consume far too many calories in a day too ~ often exactly the wrong sort of calories.
Being fit and healthy means that you can live a much better life for much longer ~ which is why I’ve walked 15,000 steps in the sunshine today, (about 7.5 miles).
As well as being good for my physical health, walking a fair distance in the sunshine is good for my mental health. The vitamin D the sunshine creates supports the health of my immune system, brain, and wider nervous system. Vitamin D also helps to suppress various cancers. Conversely, if you don’t get enough vitamin D your teeth and bones will rot away, especially if you are an older woman.
Walking also helps me to meditate, and just now I have a hell of a lot to think about. I suppose nobody has a perfect relationship, but recently mine seems to raise a lot of issues at the back of my mind. On the other hand my partner is very cool.
Some say that that lots of fresh air is overrated. And that they would rather sit indoors and watch TV. All I know is that days of slow walking make me feel better and help me to live longer.
I will warrant that this lady gets lots of sunshine, fresh air, and exercise