be grateful for what you have and stop complaining

The world is full of people longing for change; to live somewhere else, to have a better and different relationship, to have a healthier life, or to finally get out of this fucking lockdown.  The grass is always greener on the other side ~ until you get there and you realise it’s pretty much the same as it was where you just left.  Longing for and dreaming of the next bigger and better thing, being richer, having a ‘nicer’ partner, having a really cool car ~ well that only makes us discontented, unhappy, and restless.

There are a couple of secrets; #1 is to be grateful for what you have  #2 is to make the most of what you have  #3 is to protect what you have. OK, that’s three secrets.

If you take a long hard honest look at your life you will probably discover that you don’t actually need much more than you already have.  Well, OK, women always need more shoes.

Most of us become discontented, unhappy, and restless when we start to compare ourselves with other people.  Your best friend owns a new Jaguar and you’re driving a 10 years old Nissan, and for some perverse reason that makes you unhappy.  Be grateful that you don’t have to walk.  Make the most of that Nissan; keep it clean, have it regularly serviced, use the right grade of gas.  In the meantime your best friend is paying so freaking much for her Jaguar that she uses cheap gas, which will fuck the engine in no time.  Your best friend isn’t protecting what she already has.  And when the Jaguar’s engine expires she will be walking

That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t want to improve ourselves, to work harder, to strive to be ‘better’ ~ we should because that’s part of human nature.  But don’t compare yourself to anyone else, comparisons are invidious.  Life Is Not a Game.  There are no winners and losers.  We are Born, we Live, and we Die.  That’s it.

So live a better life, and being miserable because you can’t move to a 5 bed 4 bathroom home is not living a better life ~ especially as there’s only yourself and your partner to consider.  The kids have left home ~ K.I.S.S.

You first of all have a duty to yourself; your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.  Work on that instead of worrying about a ‘better’ car, vacation, home….  Of course if you are a woman you do always need more shoes.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

it doesn’t like cheap gas