true friends always bring out the best in you
and will always stand by you
beware of women drinking beer in bars
The people I have become ‘friends’ with in the past have had both positive and negative effects on my life. My friends have improved me and brought me down. I have spent too much time with toxic people and some of their habits have rubbed off on me. Things that should have been utterly acceptable to me became almost acceptable for a time. Of course the ideal is for my friends to bring out the best in me, to help me to grow, to stand by me in times of trouble ~ that hasn’t always happened. In fact sometimes it has been the reverse.
In life you will realise there is a purpose in everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you. But most importantly….. some will bring out the best in you. ~ C.S. Lewis
Just recently I have come to accept that a supposedly very close friend used me badly, and brought out the very worst in me.
I actually believe that everyone we meet, we meet for a reason. Sadly, at the time, we seldom know the reasons. Just because I met someone didn’t and shouldn’t have meant that she became and stayed my friend. Perhaps I should be more ready and willing to lose friends and acquaintances who repeatedly caused me pain and distress, took up a great deal of my time and money, offering me little in return.
I do not have to justify why I am moving away from toxic and uncaring friends. I am and was willing to share my concerns and worries with them, but I should never expect anyone to change on my behalf. People are often blind to their own weaknesses and faults, may refuse to accept that they can be in the wrong, and blame me when the friendship got into rocky waters and sank.
Being utterly honest with those around me is important.
It is sad when friendships break up due to time, circumstances, and different wants, needs, and desires. But it’s inevitable that some friendships and love affairs fail. Often it was those sad times that showed me who my true friends are.
Those true and real friendships are the ones I should treasure.
some people have caused me pain
and I have been guilty too