The End Of A Friendship

in life your true friends show themselves, and the others disappear

all things come to an end, even dreams of summer

It’s always sad when a friendship comes to an end, but some friendships last far too long, way past the time that they should been over.  I just ended a friendship that had gone on for years beyond it’s natural life.  I ended it by email, because she didn’t answer my call, perhaps that was bad of me.  But, it needed to be over.

Some things are just not acceptable from a friend, and it is up to us to decide what we will live with, understand, and forgive, and what we won’t.  I decided that a long-term friend had just told me something I just wasn’t prepared to tolerate and accept.  She’s gone back to her old habits and haunts, and I can’t even begin to cope with that.  It was a toxic friendship, ruining my mental health and well-being.

I was getting drunk in an effort to make things OK, and that was never going to be a solution.  Booze just makes things worse, although she will never accept that as far as she is concerned.  So, it’s the end of that friendship ~ and although I’m a little bit sad, it’s better that she’s never going to make me desperately unhappy again.

I’ll try hard to completely forget her, but I won’t spend the rest of my life trying.

It won’t take that long to move on.

I far have better friends now.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies by omission

 

7 responses

  1. Oh, I nominated you for the Sunshine blogger award. Please check it out;
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  2. Hi Jack! I’m really sorry you went through all that. May you have peace and comfort.

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  3. Doors close and others open. Some friends last for years and you can pick things up after no communication. Many do not. Friendships are interesting relationships. It isn’t fair to hurt yourself and your health over one that doesn’t build you up. Eventually, you might be able to forgive, but for now, step back and live. (by the by, forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean reconciliation. That isn’t always a part of it.)

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    1. I should have ended that friendship a long time ago. It was toxic and dysfunctional. It hurt too much.
      Thank you for your kind words Kris. ❤

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  4. I am sorry that you went through the pain. Sometimes moving on is better than sticking to suffer

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    1. There was a lot of pain, over several years. ❤

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