Being Popular

being known by a lot of people is not the same as being liked

very well known, and very unpopular with some

Little did I think that eventually this blog would have had 200,000 hits.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think that’s a lot for a blog written by a bloke.  Especially considering the eclectic mix of stuff I write about, and how controversial / opinionated / difficult the topics I choose can be.  It would appear that I can be prone to lecture at times.

Looking around at WordPress it seems to me that blogs written by women attract a far wider readership than my efforts, and that they receive far more comments than my posts do.  It could be that’s just my perception, but I don’t think so.  And, I can think of several good reasons why both women and men comment more on a blog written by a female than they would on a blog written by someone who is an obvious guy.

But, just because this blog has now had 200,000 hits doesn’t necessarily mean that either it or I am popular.  Maybe it only means that I’ve been around a long time.  The oldest post still on here is dated 17 November 2013 ~ since then there have been another 1,924 posts that still exist, and 10,311 comments.  (Along the way a fair amount of crap posts have been trashed.)  So I may neither be popular, nor well-liked ~ just old.

I could court popularity, or write a blog specifically designed to attract the greatest number of followers, the highest number of hits, the most likes, and a constant stream of comments ~ but I’d have to decide why the fuck I was doing that.  Getting lots of attention would flatter my ego, but not necessarily in a good way.  To me, courting popularity is one short step away from promiscuity, and I have very mixed feelings about that.  I’d far rather be true to myself, think and believe what feels right and proper, write what I want to write, say what I need to say honourably, honestly, and openly.

Anyway, sorry if I disabuse you, but mostly I write this blog for myself.

In real life, in the past, I have courted popularity, because back then my self-esteem was lower than a snake’s belly.  I firmly believed I needed the positive affirmation of others to feel worth anything.  How sad was that?

Some say that popular people are better people.  And that if you’re not popular then you’re nobody.  All I know is that popularity is not the same as quality.


jack collier

Marmaduke is very popular

he’s a very cool bear


20 responses

  1. 💋💋💋😉😘 your a sweetheart…sweetheart!! 💋

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    1. At least I’m popular with you, 🌹

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  2. Awww thanks Jack ❤ melt my heart ❤ i adore you Jack ❤ think the world of you …kisses 💋💋

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    1. That’s very hot. 😉 You’re very hot Angel. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  3. I love you Jack ❤ just the way you are love angel 😇

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    1. Angel I adore, admire, and respect you. ❤
      Besides, you're incredibly attractive. 😉

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  4. “All I know is that popularity is not the same as quality.” Brilliant thought and so true. Some of the most popular kids in school and adults in the workplace are some of the worst people. Better to have a few real friends than several substandard acquaintances.

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    1. You are so right Mermaid ❤
      I know that this blog could be much more popular if I wrote what people were hungry to read, rather than writing what I think is true, real, and meaningful. 🙂

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  5. Popularity is not the same as quality….
    We are past that… If ever we may have even been there. I write for myself. It makes me happy.

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    1. Good for you Sweetheart. ❤ 😉

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  6. Good thoughts… btw, it’s a thing among younger folks – how to become popular quickly 🙂 I do understand why there’s such a buzz about it tho 🙂 it gives them more opportunities to sell /make living. But most important as u said – they feel appreciated & loved 🙂 even if it’s often fake

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    1. Becoming popular quickly sounds like eating a take out, it’s OK every once in a while, but you wouldn’t want to live on it. I know there are lots of famous people who are mostly famous for being famous, and I don’t even know their names. I would far rather be true friends with just a few, rather than being a fake popular with the many.
      Thank you for your kind and insightful thoughts. ❤ ❤

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      1. Have nothing to add! Agreed 👋👌

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  7. Terrific post! Congratulations upon having reached this blogging milestone! 💗🎉🎆

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    1. Thanks Jan, I appreciate that ❤

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  8. I hope you’re not looking for the positive affirmation of others to feel worth anything…people can be very mean…especially when they envy you 🤪
    Be happy! Popularity indeed is not quality! 😉

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    1. Thank you Ribabna ❤ 😉
      In the past I had such low self-esteem, that without others telling me I was a great guy I felt worthless. Often those situations ended badly. Right now I know that all I need to be is myself, and perhaps try to be a little better today than I was yesterday.
      And I'm happy, I'm damned happy. ❤

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      1. That’s the most important thing 😉 Be happy 😃

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        1. It isn’t easy to be happy when you feel that nobody likes you. But right now, today, if someone doesn’t like me, then it’s their loss, not mine. ❤

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