reality is an illusion, albeit a very persistent one
the monsters inside your mind
There are facts, there is useful information, and then there is how we act and react. Your husband / wife cheating on you is a fact, but how you think about that, how you feel about it, how you react to the infidelity is all up to you. The past is filled with facts, but the future is merely an illusion until you create it. Faced with something horrible like your loved one cheating on you people can go one of two ways; #1 spiral down into dark emotions #2 accept it and move on.
Faced with the fact that something real and terrible happened we have choices. We can let it ruin our lives, become a resentful alcoholic, or just curl up and die. Alternatively we can make some positive decisions, such as forgive or get a divorce. But the most positive thing one can do after a disaster in our lives is accept it, make the best of it, think of it as part of life’s rich tapestry, and move on. Your future is merely an illusion until you create it. If you let something fester and create character defects in your personality, then you are ruining your future.
There is a thing called disaster shock, and it’s why people do strange things in strange times. Disaster shock applies just as much to bad news as it does to surviving an earthquake. Disaster shock applies just as much to getting a divorce as it does to being shipwrecked in a hurricane. There are two types of people in this world; the victims and the survivors. It’s an attitude of mind.
After something horrible happens we can either choose to die, or thrive. When I quit my career, got divorced, lost my home, and ended up broke I chose to let the dark side take over my mind. I stopped doing very much of anything except watching TV and drinking. That wasn’t the worst of it. I let negativity and resentment become my way of life, and that was what truly ruined my life for a while.
I am better than that now.
Do not deny the past, nor hide from it. Accept the past and make the best of it.
the monsters in your mind
will kill you more certainly
than the werewolf at the door