Intimate Strangers

some things are socially acceptable, and then again…..

Promiscuous casual sex is morally reprehensible, socially unacceptable, and fucking very dangerous.  Or rather, that is what I believe to be the truth of it.  One reason for this post is a news story concerning a married woman who picked up / was picked up by a stranger in a bar, went back to his place, where she was stabbed twenty times by the drug addict thug, who then tried to cut off her head.  The body was naked.  They’d had sex.

This was by no means an isolated incident of casual sex turning into something very worse.

Picking up a stranger in a bar may be exciting, sexy, erotic, physically satisfying, with a frisson of danger thrown in, but it can also be fucking damaging to your self-respect, health, wealth, sanity, existing relationships, future relationships, social standing…..  You could end up being humiliated, mugged, beaten, raped, passed around, stalked, gaslighted, ghosted, or dead.

Some of the same goes for people you ‘meet’ on social media, dating / sex dating sites, or any of the other myriad ways we can connect via the internet.  Basically you have no idea who these people are, where they’re from, what they’re really like, their history, criminal record, and what the hell they really want from you.  Are they the sex / age / ethnicity they say they are?  If there’s a picture is it of them, and how long ago?  If it’s an intimate picture they are probably not someone any decent person would want to know anyway.

There are labels for women who have casual sex with strangers and post intimate pictures of themselves on the internet ~ all of those labels are extremely derogatory.

Personally, I have three things in my favour when it comes to social media / email / long-distance friends and relationships.  #1 I know my way around blogging.  #2 I am a man.  #3 I am very smart / computer savvy / I was trained to spot liars a mile off.  Not everyone has my advantages, and yet women do engage in intimate relationships with people they only know from what they see on their own computer screens.

Personally, I have never knowingly ‘hit on’ a woman I didn’t know from Eve, picked up a woman in a bar, had first date sex, had multiple partners, been on a sex dating site, had sex with an ex, had sex with anyone much older / younger than me…..  Maybe I am staid and naive, maybe I’m shy, or maybe I have standards, ethics, and morals.

Some say that fucking a stranger is incredibly hot.  And that having multiple sexual partners is where it’s at.  All I know is fucking a stranger has nothing to do with love and a lot to do with instant gratification, or money.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

If you’ve been there with a stranger I don’t want to know

 

 

8 responses

  1. Some of my best male friends I’ve never met or met in person because of meeting them online. Some I’ve been intimate with. I do think about the danger involved, though, and am cautious.

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    1. Good for you. ❤ ❤ 😉
      But then, you are very smart and a great judge of people.
      (Most of the time ❤ )

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      1. gigglesnorted out loud

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  2. What about the responsibility of the men?

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    1. Everything I’ve said applies equally to men ~ but many do not see it that way. ❤

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      1. I agree, but your choice of words seem to only target women.

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        1. Sadly, reality says that the possible adverse consequences of intimacy with a stranger are usually far more serious for women than for men. It’s harsh, but true.

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          1. Absolutely! Couldn’t agree more. However, I would love to see more responsibility assigned to the man and some stigmas removed from the woman. Men CAN control themselves and Women CAN have normal sexual desires.

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