What Makes a Man?

a real man makes all women smile
but reserves his very best smile for only one

I believe the nearest Kirk Douglas got to Shakespeare was Spartacus

Shakespeare has a scene in Hamlet where the Danish Lord Polonius expounds to Laertes upon the nature of being a better man than the average spear carrier.  Most may merely remember that in that scene there are a couple of lines that proclaim; clothes make the man.   Which, outwardly is a limited truth.  But there is more to clothes than buying the best and most tasteful apparel your wallet can bear.  For a start an expensive suit still looks like a sack when worn by a slob.  And, many an expensive coat of paint conceals something rotten inside.

True attractiveness, the kind of look that appeals to emotionally intelligent and discerning people, especially to cool and together women, isn’t something a man can just put on and wear.  That kind of attractive, clean-cut, elegant persona comes from within.  It’s who a man is, not only what he wears, that is really attractive to others.

Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.  ~  Andre Gide

Some lucky guys can look great in jeans and a singlet, whereas the rest of us need to try a little harder than that.

I have discovered that there are a few guidelines a man can follow if he wants to succeed when it comes to Shakespeare’s maxim; ‘the clothes maketh the man….’

  • As Polonius says, always buy the very best you can afford.  Most women can spot thrift store purchases, cheaper makes, and remaindered stuff a mile off.  Besides, quality lasts.  You do get what you pay for.
  • Always dress up, rather than dressing down.  If, on dress-down-Friday most guys go to the office in jeans and a T, then make a point of wearing decent trousers and a crisp, freshly laundered shirt.  There is nothing wrong with adding a cool necktie either.  A surprising number of women find a nice shirt and tie pretty hot.
  • Don’t neglect the obvious.  Make certain everything matches, (if you’re colour-blind get help from a friendly female).  Your shoes should be spotless, and your aftershave / cologne / deodorant classy, not overpowering.
  • Be very, very clean ~ both you and everything you’re wearing.
  • Have your own style, but don’t be outlandish, neither try to be too fashionable.  Besides which very fashionable soon goes out of fashion.  As you would expect, my style is very English / preppy.

Some say that clothes make the man.  And that you can spot a slob a mile off, no matter what he’s wearing.  All I know is that to look really good you have to work at it every single day.


jack collier



many real men have walked the tracks alone,

and still made an effort to look good

5 responses

  1. Clean is the very best. I shop thrift stores cuz I much prefer brands I can find there in good shape instead of box places. However, no matter what a person is wearing, please please be clean!!!

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    1. Dirty guys probably have crap cars, shitty apartments, and perverted minds….. ❤
      Women can shop at thrift stores, you can even shop for guys at thrift stores, just don't let a guy go in there on his own ~ unless he's gay. 😉

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      1. laughing out loud!!!
        I’ll never forget when my friend took her son shopping. He wanted expensive jeans and so she went to a thrift store. He was stunned to see he could get two pairs of already broken in expensive jeans for the same price as one pair!
        Ugh…dirty cars. Some of the cars The Craftsman works on shock me. Some of those cars are cars driven by women! Passenger side ankle deep in debris and the back seats and floors even worse! YUCK!

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        1. A woman’s car is merely an extension of her purse. ❤
          Women a great are shopping at the Goodwill, my friend has bought me some very cool beach-wear at Orange County thrift stores.
          Sons and mothers ~ Jeez ❤

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          1. My bag is full (I don’t have a purse, I have a small backpack). It has everything I might need in it, but it can be difficult to find. My vehicle is much tidier. But, that has a garbage can in it!!

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