Honesty, Openness, and Lies

you create your own life through your thoughts, words, and deeds

at the dawn your lies will haunt you

There is an axiom; ‘everybody lies’, and perhaps it’s true.  Perforce we are forced to lie because of the circumstances we find ourselves in, or perhaps lying has become a habit with us, or it might be that there are some things we just do not want to explain because it will be far too complicated.  We may be completely honest in the things we say, and yet still be a liar because we lie by omission.  We may be having an affair, a fling, or be in trouble, and we just don’t ever talk about it, and that too is lying.

The thing about lying and liars is that they will always get caught out, the axiom; ‘oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive’ is true.. When we lie, however we lie, we are building a house of cards, and we always need to add another couple of cards at the top.  One small lie will, more often than not, grow like topsy into a vast work of fiction that calls for a brilliant memory to keep our true story different from the false back-story we have built.  And there is always someone with a better memory than you.

A liar’s worst enemy is someone with a good memory.  ~  Dodinsky.

The truly honest, honourable, and brave person isn’t afraid to talk about anything and everything.

‘The time has come,’ the walrus said, ‘to talk of many things: Of shoes and ships ~ and sealing wax ~ of cabbages and kings.’  ~  Lewis Carroll

There are things in an English Gentleman’s life that it’s considered impolite to discuss; politics, religion, money….. and women.  Yet in recent times I have had deep discussions about the first three of those topics.  I wouldn’t ever talk of women in particular, but I am more than happy to discuss women in general ~ as if I knew anything at all of women.  When we lie, and when we refuse to talk deeply, honestly, and openly about anything and everything, we diminish ourselves, we reduce the richness of our lives, and we can never consider anyone a true friend.

However sometimes we lie for what seems like a good reason; we lie because we just don’t want to give some people an opportunity to judge and criticise us, we lie because the truth is just too complicated, we lie to avoid hurting someone we otherwise care for, and we lie for the sake of our own safety.

Truth is dangerous…..  But if a truth cannot be spoken, it must at least be known.  Even if you dare not speak the truth to others, never lie to yourself.  ~  Frances Hardinge.

Some say that they never tell a lie.  And some should never tell a lie.  All I know is that I could be the very best, the most believable of all liars, but I choose not to be.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

the eyes are the windows to the soul

and a lie may deceive from the lips

but the truth is always in the eyes

 

 

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