Looking After #1

you can’t pour from an empty glass

Especially in recent weeks, and perhaps for years before that, I have been sick; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Over the Holidays I was so ill it almost killed me.  The proximate cause of my illness was drinking to much, and that also meant that I didn’t eat, nor did I sleep.  It was so bad that a few days ago I hit rock bottom ~ where I didn’t care if I lived or died.

I have recovered from that nadir of my unhappy existence.  Recovered enough that I know I don’t ever want to go there again.  I want to life a different life from where I’ve ever been before, I want to live a better life ~ even though I’m not yet certain what any of that means.

However, I believe I know how I got there; I was looking to other people to create my happiness for me.  Mostly I was looking for a woman to make me happy.  That can never work, putting your happiness in the hands of another is a certain road to misery.  It just means that you don’t live your own life at all.

When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you aren’t saying ‘no’ to yourself.  ~  Paulo Coehio

I’ve been very guilty of saying ‘yes’ when I should have said ‘no’.  Amazingly I know exactly why all that happened to me, maternal neglect can do that to a child, especially if he’s spent the first weeks of his life isolated in an hospital incubator.

What I need to do is to first take good care of myself.  Look after my body, mind, emotions, and spirit before I do anything else.  Put myself first.  Look after #1.

Obviously I’m not yet certain how I’m going to do that, and I’m not going to explore the internet looking for solutions.  From now on everything I do will come from within.

My first thoughts are; stay sober, eat and drink well, take the right supplements, get plenty of fresh air and exercise…..  (fresh air and exercise in the North of England in winter?)  But that just looks after my body.  Mentally, emotionally, and spiritually all I can think of is to give myself time to heal, avoid conflicts, avoid dysfunctional emotional entanglements, stay away from toxic women…..

You can tell me if you think I’m wrong, or if you have better ideas.

Some say that loving yourself is selfish vanity.  And that loving the wrong woman is the most exquisite form of self-destruction.  All I know is that a wound only gets worse if it’s treated with neglect.

~

Ingredients:
1 part vodka
1 part tequila
1 part rum
1 part gin
1 part triple sec
1 1/2 parts sweet and sour mix
1 splash Coca-Cola

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

too much of this stuff will kill you

4 responses

  1. English winters are not for wimps, even further south.

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    1. I was feeling a bit wimpish a few days ago, better now though 💖😎

      Liked by 1 person

  2. I think you are absolutely right!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I’m glad you agree my magical aquatic friend. 😊💖

      Liked by 1 person

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