Problems Just Don’t Go Away

the only way our problems will go away is if we solve them

Most of us, myself included, tend to ignore problems unless and until they step up and smack us in the face.  If something bothersome, or a bit irritating, or mildly inconveniencing is going on in our lives it is very much easier to close our eyes and ears and ignore it, rather than deal with yet another piece of crap.

So; the check engine light has come on in our car….. and how many people will just ignore that for days or weeks until the next regular service is due?  Or, we are fed up with opening the mail, which is always just bills and junk anyhow, so we stop opening our mail altogether.  Or, in my own case, sometimes I would feel so bad that I would get blind drunk for days and days just to escape the emotional pain, rather than work on the causes of my torment.

I can absolutely guarantee that if there is a problem, no matter how slight, then unless we accept that there’s a problem and do something about it, that problem will grow and grow until a minor issue becomes something fucking extremely serious.  In my own case, my getting drunk and insensible was nothing to do with alcoholism, or liking the party life, it was because I have a very serious mental illness called Borderline Personality Disorder, (BPD).  I’d, (sort of), known that for a few years, and so had my doctors, but did anyone actually do anything about it?  Hell no.  The easiest thing to do was ignore the real problem and get me some easy alcohol counselling instead.  Controlled Drinking is an oxymoron.

About 10% of people suffering from BPD commit suicide, which is about a thousand times higher than the norm across the whole population.  Booze was never my real problem, Borderline Personality Disorder was.

Same with car problems, the easiest thing to do is ignore them and assume they will all get sorted out at the next annual service….. whenever that is.  That check engine light could just be a little electrical fault.  Of course some real problems with your car might leave you stranded on the interstate in the middle of the night.  Or kill you.

If you notice a small problem, or you’re unhappy about something, then you could just ignore it and assume it will go away of its own accord.  And it might.  But it’s more likely that in a while a small problem, that would have been so easy to fix back then, has turned into a very serious issue indeed.

I have learned that there are no shortcuts in life.  That all the bad things that we feel, all the suffering we go though, and all the shit that happens to us are usually not the real problem ~ rather these are merely the symptoms of some deeper and more serious issue.  Unless we put in the hard work, dig deeper until we understand our problems, then every now and again something fucking frightening is going to happen.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

smoking and drinking in a bar alone solves no problems, and neither does casual sex

8 responses

  1. Glad u r understand what is the problem and how to fight back 🙂

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  2. The last piece (kinda in a haiku form) is so true 😏😉

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    1. Hmmmm, I need to think about that. ❤

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      1. 💪💪💪 you can do it 🤘

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  3. So well said, Jack! When we put in the hard work to deal with our problems, we feel incredibly proud and satisfied when we come out on the other side. Cheering you on, my friend. I really enjoy your posts. ❤

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    1. Thank you Penny Berry. ❤
      I know I can be that very cool and self-confident guy, living a really great life ~ if I put in all the hard work.
      And sometimes the work I need to do is fucking hard.
      xXxXx

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