Rules of Attraction

nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people

nice guys sometimes fall for a vixen

If we assume that you’re not the hottest, sexiest, fittest man or woman on the planet, then how do you attract a date, build a relationship, or find a partner?  Some guys and girls, despite their best efforts, have a lot of trouble attracting others.

Attraction is a very complex biological and psychological process, and it all happens in a few seconds.  Within 30 seconds or so of meeting someone you will know if you are attracted to them or not, and so will they, and you will both know is there is any chemistry between the pair of you.  Some relationships do develop over time, but that calls for two remarkable people.

Girls will be more attractive to men if they smile, whereas guys should hold off with that meaningless grin ~ save it for when you really have something to smile about.  Women are attracted to serious, thoughtful, alpha males, and alpha males don’t wear an inane grin.

Sadly, your body type is the most important thing about you when it comes to your attractiveness to the other sex.  Women prefer taller men with with a hunter body type, broad shoulders, deep chest, and slim hips.  A beer belly is a huge turn off for most women.  Men are conditioned to prefer women with a slimmer waist and obvious curves.  Women who are 20 pounds overweight will find it much harder to attract another, than will a slimmer girl.  This is good news for women, because all they need to do to make themselves much more attractive is to lose weight, (but wearing tall heels makes a woman look as though she’s slimmer, and most men find stiletto heels very sexy.)  It’s very bad news for men, because it’s almost impossible for a guy to become taller.  However men should always stand tall, don’t ever slouch or become round-shouldered, keep a straight back, pull that gut in, and clench your butt cheeks ~ and you might just look a bit taller.

You might think that you are in control when it comes to attraction, desire, lust, love ~ but you’re not.  It’s your subconsciousness that’s running things when it comes to the opposite sex, and your subconscious is as primitive and powerful as a mountain gorilla.  Unless you work hard at it, then attraction is just hormones and the automatic subconscious rules and programs that control your behaviour 95% of the time.

The basics of attraction are; smell good, look as good as you possibly can, (wear something red), don’t be needy, be interested and interesting, and if there’s no chemistry after a couple of minutes then perhaps just walk away and find someone else.

Some say that your attractiveness to the opposite sex is all about looks.  And that you can’t turn a needy jerk into James Bond.  All I know is that if there’s no instant desire, then it’s probably never going to happen.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

 

women look much slimmer and a lot sexier in stiletto heels

2 responses

  1. For every rule there is an exception. There is much to be said for confidence…. how one carries themselves and feels about themself.

    My husband is 5’6″ tall with a very slender, athletic build. He carries himself with the confidence of a man 10′ tall. He does not fit the standard mold of what the majority of women are attracted to, yet he gets quite a lot of attention from the ladies.

    I, on the other hand, am 5’8″ tall and Rubanesque. I do not in any way shape or form hit the markers of what men are supposed to find attractive, yet I get hit on and sexual attention in every scenario I walk into…. even with my husband standing at my side. I’m extremely confident in my body and my looks. I dress well all the time. I’m outgoing and quick to smile.

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    1. You are absolutely correct ~ self-confidence goes a very long way. Self-awareness and self-control also seem to be an attractant when looking for a companion. ❤

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