nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished~ Lao Tzu
the evening always happens in its own good time
What if all behaviour has a probability of both success and failure? How would we increase the chances of our being successful, and decrease the probability of our failing? Well the first thing we have to do is stop seeing everything in terms of Yes / No, Black / White, Angels / Demons, and instead begin to accept that the world and the people we meet exist in shades of grey. Instead of our totally failing at something, we need to accept the premise that it is possible to be moderately successful.
This goes against everything I believe and live by. I have a personality disorder, and one of the traits of this illness is called Splitting ~ seeing everything in black and white, being completely successful, or a total failure ~ with nothing in between. Everything in me says there should be no shades of grey.
Real life is not like that. You may have a pretty good marriage without it being perfect. Or, you might have a decent job without it being your ideal career. And, you might be reasonably healthy without looking like a Greek God with a hell of an adonis belt. To be more successful we need to accept that life is what it is, and then work
fucking very hard to get more of what we like, want, need, and desire, and less of the things that annoy us, make us angry, depress us, and make us feel like crap.
One way to do the hard work to achieve greater success is to get away from our black and white thinking need to make immediate changes, our need for instant gratification, our need to make things happen Now! Instead we should learn to use patience and time in our favour.
I do things fast. I think fast, I read fast, I solve problems quickly, I jump to conclusions, I am impulsive, I have vicious mood swings, and they happen Fast! This is all part of the borderline personality disorder I suffer from, and I know I need to control this. The wiser man takes his time to think before he acts.
A man who is a master of patience is master of everything else. ~ George Savile
Charging off at the far horizon is all very well ~ it’s exhilarating and exciting. But what if it’s the wrong horizon, what if you’re going in the wrong direction? The wiser man takes time to prepare, to make certain he is ready, to ensure that he’s going in the right direction.
Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe. ~ Abraham Lincoln
When there is time, the wise man uses that time to his best advantage. Only when there is something truly urgent and immediate does a wise man act fast. And, in an emergency all the good stuff he has done in the past, because he was patient enough to always do the very best he could, all that good stuff will come to his aid and strengthen his arm to help him to do the right thing, even when he has to do it fast.
In the long run we shall do more by sometimes doing less. ~ Charles Spurgeon
you just know who is going to win this one