all journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware
It has often struck me that a lot of people go through life blissfully unaware of the mysteries, adventures, and excitement going on all around them. Most people seem to live the same day, the same week, the same month, over and over again. They get up at more or less the same time every weekday, spend too long over exactly the same morning routine, travel the same way to work, and arrive late all the time. They lunch with the same people at the same places, leave work at the same time every evening, and do the same things between work and home that they did on the same day last week. And, their actual working day is most likely stultifyingly tedious. They even take vacations and attend conferences and retreats with the same people they did last year.
That isn’t living, that’s barely existing. What’s worse is that these bored and boring people will get sick a lot, suffer from mental illnesses like depression, and die before their allotted time.
Some people attempt to break away from the mind-numbing drudgery of their pointless lives through booze, drugs, gambling, petty crime, or casual sex. Personally, I tried a couple of those self-destructive diversions ~ before I knew better and began to concentrate on becoming a real man, a superior man to that which I was before.
The better person, the superior man, needs to be self-aware, self-controlled, self-disciplined, and self-confident. In addition, to fulfill our true potential, we need to become aware of just what is going on around us. We need to open our eyes and take notice of the world. Especially we need to understand what’s going on with the people we meet. If you are genuinely interested in someone they are far more likely to be friendly to you, and perhaps become your friend, than if you hardly give them a second glance.
I have no sympathy for guys who bemoan the fact that they can’t seem to meet girls, inevitably it’s for two reasons. #1 they walk around with their eyes wide closed, taking no interest at all in the female of the species, except to ogle them. #2 they never look at themselves critically in a mirror, taking no interest in themselves.
A real man, the better man, knows exactly what’s going on around him; from how every woman and more interesting guy he knows is feeling today, to what’s important in the news, to the impact and impression he is creating with everyone he meets. A better man always has his eyes and ears open.
Being self-aware, being aware of the people around you, knowing just what is going on in your world, is an important step on the road to self-confidence. With self-confidence comes the ability to change your life from the grey drudgery you currently inhabit, to the bright, sunlit uplands of excitement, adventure, and really cool things.
Some say that it’s better to travel hopefully than to arrive. And that it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey. All I know is that seeing things change for the better is awesome.
some women have very nice eyes, both wide open and closed wide shut