Giving up Booze

alcohol is the world’s most addictive and most dangerous drug

Alcohol kills more people each year than all the other drugs combined ~ world-wide some three-million people a year will die from alcohol related causes.  Cocaine, heroin, marijuana, meth, prescription drugs, tobacco…. all added together don’t kill as many people as booze.  One third of all traffic fatalities involve alcohol.  Booze will cause alcoholic poisoning, malnutrition, strokes, heart attacks, diabetes, cancers, a fatal coma, liver failure, pancreatitis, pneumonia,  multiple organ failure, fatal accidents, suicides…..  And when you end up in the emergency room the doctors and nurses will treat you like shit.

Yet drinking booze is socially acceptable, in fact if you don’t drink most people will think you are rather strange.  And, if you used to be a boozer, and stop, and then go out with your old circle of friends, they will pressure you to take a drink and indulge all of your other addictions.  And these are supposed to be your friends?

If you drink, then over time your drinking will get worse and worse until it kills you.  Before the booze kills you, you will know physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual suffering.

Of all those people who try to stop drinking, only 2.5% will make it to 90 days sober.  Of that 2.5%, only 2.5% will make it to 2 years, that’s 2.5 people out of every 1,000 who will be sober 2 years after they made the decision to stop drinking.  Be one of the 0.25% who succeed.  You have a better chance of success if you get help.

Those who tell themselves that they want to control their drinking, or stop all together, may try some futile and self-destructive strategies;

  • lying to themselves about how much they are drinking ~ denial is dangerous
  • switching from spirits to wine to beer, drinking only organic booze
  • limiting the number of drinks they have ~ that never, ever works
  • resigning their job and moving from where they are to somewhere different ~ this is called doing a geographical
  • religion, counselling, hypnosis, psychotherapy, doctors, taking anti-drinking medication ~ I have seen people on antibuse drink a hell of a lot in a session
  • drinking in different bars where nobody knows them
  • switching to a different addiction; smoking, gambling, unsafe casual sex, using other drugs, stealing, impulsive spending ~ although the chances are that real boozers were doing all those things at the same time they were drinking
  • joining a gym, sports club, walking club, doing yoga, meditation classes…..

None of the above really works because most boozers are liars and cheats.  You will drink again if you don’t do something radically different.  Take a long hard look at yourself and accept that nobody and nothing is responsible for your drinking except you, and what’s going on with you.  And if you are brutally honest with yourself, then you will probably be confused because you have no idea why you drink.  The brutal honesty is good ~ stay with that

Don’t worry about the confusion for now ~ for now, just stay away from that next first drink.  Next, stay away from everywhere you used to drink, and all those toxic false friends you used to drink with. Give up on all your other addictions.  Now find yourself some support; Alcoholics Anonymous, counselling, hypnosis, psychotherapy, doctors, the church, sober friends, YouTube…..

And over the next 90 days find out the truth of why you drink, and deal with that.  In my case I was drinking because I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and now I am dealing with that.

Some say that you are just a worthless alcoholic, and will never think that you are anything else.  And some say that they never want to see you again.  All I know is that everyone has the angel of recovery inside them.


jack collier

single malt scotch was my drug of choice

23 responses

  1. Good post Jack and you are so right about alcohol and how it affects the mind and body,but I would add the caveat that there are people out there that can drink sensibly and moderately but I’m not one of those as you weren’t so for us abstinence is the only tough solution.

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    1. Giving up booze is hard, but sometimes it’s the only solution ~ at least for me I need to stay sober. One fucking day at a time.


  2. What a big step and so glad those reasons no longer exist. You already know you can do it and are doing it every day. Stay strong and remember you are special and needed. ❤️

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    1. Thank you. ❤
      Today I am positive, calm, and together. I control my own life, booze no longer has power over me. Somehow, I have outwitted the devil.
      You are very special to me. ❤ ❤

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      1. I hear you about the devil and I have felt similar before. I am so happy for you and I am so proud of all you have achieved. I know the road wasn’t always easy. ❤️❤️

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        1. Today I am on an upward path.
          I am neither craving a drink nor regretting my past drunkenness.
          Life is good for me, and I hope that I can share my new-found inner peace with you. ❤ ❤ ❤

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          1. I am so happy and proud of you Jack. I know I am not wrong to say of how much it means to you and I am grateful you can see all your wins and accomplishments along the way. You have worked hard and you are blessed with new beginnings. Much much love to you. Always ❤️❤️❤️

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  3. Athena, our shared experiences of drinking for effect.


  4. That’s good that you have the strength to do that. For me it was socialising and I know for others it’s grief.

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    1. For me, booze was only ever a way for me to stop feeling the pain of my out of control emotions. For some, a little booze is cool. For many, a lot of booze makes them very loud, unpleasant, and nasty.
      I’d love to take you out for a drink, but I’d be on sparkling water ~ easy ice. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      1. I think we might have a fair bit in common as that’s one of the reasons why I drink.

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        1. Athena, in that case I feel your pain. Right now, I know enough about me to stay sober, and deal with my emotions and problems without resorting to booze. I would like to talk more. You can email me
          ❤ ❤ ❤

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          1. What you like to talk to me about?

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  5. I don’t drink because of migraines and it is a real eye-opener to understand how much of people’s lives revolve around drinking. For example, when I was on dating sites, the whole thing was difficult without being able to “meet for a drink.” Just having a soda made me seem weird. Men thought I was in AA. On and on. 🙄 Stay strong! ❤️

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    1. Drinking is the social norm, and those who don’t choose to drink are often seen as weird, or religious nuts, or in AA. Yet most drinkers get very stupid and very unattractive very fast. Today I choose not to drink, nor be around boozers either.
      Maybe you were meeting the wrong men. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  6. Those are some sad statistics. My ex is a mean drunk. He use to promise to stop drinking yet does not see a problem with his drinking. Glad you are truly trying to get better. My ex blames all his failures on me.

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    1. It sounds like your ex is the worst kind of drunk ~ mean, in denial, and blaming others.
      His chances of recovery are vanishingly small.
      Sounds like you are well off without him.
      But I care for you. ❤ ❤ ❤


  7. Glad you are dealing with it now! Keep going and stay strong to stay on the course of sobriety. Garfield Hugs💕

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    1. Thank you sweetheart ❤
      Now I know why I was drinking, there is no need for it any more, I can stay sober and nurture my body, mind, and spirit.
      Stay strong and get well. ❤ ❤ ❤

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