Focus on Things You Can Control

Putting your happiness in the hands of others is a short road to misery

Far too many men beat their brains out trying to change the world so that things are the way they want them to be.  In particular far too many men try to get a particular woman to love them, like them, want them, fuck them ~ and one thing men should learn is that you can never, ever, get a woman to do anything she doesn’t already want to do.  If a particular woman friend of yours is just a friend, then that’s probably what she is always going to be, and the chances of you getting her to be anything else are exactly zero.

Men should stop worrying about things they cannot control.  It’s a total and utter waste of energy, effort, and probably money.  Men should focus their energies, effort, and cash on things they can influence ~ and they should learn what it is they can change, and what they have absolutely no control over.  It’s astonishing how much time guys spend trying to change what they cannot change, and they then waste more time complaining about their woes, probably over a drink or two.

The answer is obvious, guys should simply focus on what is under their control and influence.

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control?  The activity of worrying keeps you immobilised.  ~  Wayne Dyer

Deciding what is, and what is not controllable is difficult.  Harder still when you have strong feelings about what isn’t happening to your liking.  Even harder when a woman is involved.  But, do guys really want to waste their precious time focusing on the wrong things?  Trying to change something, or someone you have no influence over whatsoever is a long downhill road to unhappiness.

The big problem is that to decide what you can and cannot do means first of all taking a long, hard, and honest look at yourself.  Few guys want to go there.  But, if you want to be happy then first of all start with yourself.  If you can’t get a date, stop complaining about it and take a look in the mirror.  Almost every single man on this planet can improve his look, his manners, his conversation, and his charm.

True happiness comes first of all from within.  Change yourself for the better and the world will change around you.

Some say that they just never get a break.  And that if only people would do what I wanted, then I could be happy.  All I know is that I’ve stopped worrying about things I cannot control.

~

jack collier

jackcollier7@talktalk.net

real men have the courage to take a long, hard, and honest look at themselves

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